We’re baaaaaaccccccckkk! If anything could bring us out of the grimness that is 2021 and back to the mics, it has to be Netflix’s new “dating show”, “Sexy Beasts.” We watch all six episodes so you NEVER have to. Moral to the Story: This is a Sophie's Choice of dating for thin, fit, hot people. You may have chosen the hot Beaver, but what if the hot Manatee was even hotter?! Besides trying to survive this hell scape, what have we been up to since September? Mallory is becoming a gaming diva on Twitch. Help grow her community! Like, subscribe, watch, and share with your friends. Tamu has a new podcast called, "When the Bill Comes Due" with her friend Aaron. Give it a listen! After you've listened to this episode! 

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Episode 47: Sexy Beasts

 Let's face it, it has been a pretty crap week for women. Mallory and Tamu talk about the travesty that was the indictment of the police officer who shot through Breonna Taylor's walls, but not for shooting her. They also touch on a little tiny news story about women on the verge of losing all of their reproductive rights with the new conservative Supreme Court. No biggie, right?! Moral to the Story: *sigh* History is repeating itself people, we have to come together and fight as one.   

Episode 46: Daily Mental Breakdowns

 Mallory and Tamu were joined by Hannah and SooJin of the Antiracist Parenting Podcast in the first of what we can hope are many conversations about what Antiracism is, how to related to individuals who might not be "there" and how it is possible for us all to move about the world as Antiracist humans. Moral to the Story: The meaning of Sankofa - "You must reach back to reclaim that which is lost in order to move forward." So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed History is important. If you do nothing, you are being passively racist. What about white folks? Racism dehumanizes white folks, once they realizing they are losing their humanity, they will stop dehumanizing BIPOC. On cancel culture: some things need to be cancelled. Itis a step forward towards accountability. How to deal with loved ones who might see things differently: live life where your values align. To be in relation with people whose values don't align can be done up to a point. Being intentional and deliberate in what you are doing is the key to managing through complex relationships. Learn More... LISTEN: Antiracist Parenting Podcast. READ: Soojin's book - From Orphan to Adoptee: U.S. Empires and Genealogies of Korean Adoption WRITE: Ode to George - This anthology seeks to collect the individual experiences that people have had at George Perry Floyd’s Memorial Site in order to memorialize the collective grieving and mourning experienced by this space. This book of collected essays, poems, and visual art seeks to preserve not only our collective grief but also our collective healing together as a community.  

Episode 45: This is Not Antiracism Woodstock with Antiracist Parenting Podcast

 This week, well, really two weeks ago, Tamu and Mallory discussed Black America's unrequited love affair with the rest of America. Mallory was also having a tough time dealing with the world that week; Jacob Blake's shooting left her feeling hopeless. While Tamu was dismayed and truly disgusted by the naturalization stunt the RNC decided to portray on TV, hope was on the horizon because Doc Rivers made her dad decide register to vote for the first time in his life. Moral to the Story: If Tamu's dad is pissed off enough to vote, we all should be pissed off enough to vote! So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: Katy Perry & Orlando Bloom's new baby, Daisy Dove. The shooting of Jacob Blake. White Supremacy's newest teen murderer. Mistaken suicide rioting in Minneapolis. All Hail Sports: WNBA, NBA, MLB, NHL and Naomi Osaka boycotting for Black Lives Matter. Tone deaf Jared. Blacks and their unrequited love of America: As Doc Rivers eloquently stated, " It's amazing why we keep loving this country and this country does not love us back." The unmitigated gall of Daniel Cameron, Kentucky's Attorney General, preening for the cameras at the RNC and using Breonna's name as a talking point instead of bringing justice to Breonna. 

Episode 44: An Unrequited Love Affair with America

This week Tamu and Mallory discuss the aftermath of Mallory's Saturday night "The Postman" live Tweet event and her bringing this terrible, yet timely film back to life. Tamu wrestles with work microaggressions and coming to terms with not making excuses for feeling how she feels about racism. In Kentucky, the cops who murdered Breonna Taylor probably had a BBQ instead of prison food--AGAIN! Moral to the Story: Believe Black women. Support Black women. Protect Black Women. Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: Megan Thee Stallion protecting the man who shot her while he throws her under the bus. Iowa's land hurricane, a.k.a., derecho and the time Tamu and Mallory think they were caught in one. Bidets: get one for COVID Wave 2 Bad at Love has a theory: Racism would still exist if your wiped everyone's memory like Men in Black. Special Shout-outs: New Podcast - Antiracist Parenting Podcast: Our dear friend and social justice book club creator, Hannah, who was our guest on Episode 32: Justice Flowers with a Side of Ranch now has her very own podcast. Please listen to Antiracist Parenting Podcast. Hannah and her co-host SooJin are parents who are deeply committed to raising antiracist children and want to build a community that will help parents gain confidence in raising a generation of antiracist kids by talking with kids about race, racism, white supremacy, and what it means to be an antiracist. Want more information? Check out their website. Congratulations to Tiffany from Abroad In Education: Tiffany, creator and host of the podcast, (A)broad in Education and special guest on our series of travel episodes (Episodes 30 & 31) is doing big things with her doctoral thesis and just won a game-changing fellowship! Glad you are still with us, Kelli!: Fan of the show Kelli, survived a near-death experience on Lake Michigan. So glad you and your daughter are okay.    

Episode 43: Never-Ending Battles

In a week of taking the good with the bad, the bad sort of won out for Tamu & Mallory. With the Congress taking a vacation in the middle of the pandemic and leaving millions questioning whether they can keep a roof over their heads and feed themselves and families, the crushing battle for the vote landing in the lap of the US Postal Service and the rebirth of birtherism; it is a wonder they made it to Friday with some semblance of sanity. At least they share a theme song with Kamala Harris and QVC. Moral to the Story: Your vote means something! Let's do what needs to be done and get to voting early. Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: Good Humor stops having racism bring the kids to the trucks. They teamed up with Rza of Wu Tang Clan for a reboot of the Good Humor ice cream truck jingle. Mallory is becoming the Bob Ross of watercolors. Mallory goes down a rabbit hole with the 1997 Kevin Costner film, The Postman.  Tamu reads a poem. 

Episode 42: These Letters Mean Something

This week, Tamu & Mallory are joined by special guest, Aaron (gusband of Tamu) to discuss WTF is going on in the world and how we are coping with it. Moral to the Story: You know what is not ok? Traumatizing children! Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: The soundtrack to Tamu's 20s, Mary J. Blige's My Life is 25 WAP Forever First Lady is sad just like us: Michelle Obama's depression confession Party like it's your last, cause it might be: Underground Covid parties  

Episode 41: I'm Just Gonna Ride My Bike Now

This week, Tamu and Mallory continue to be confounded by life as we know it. Tamu learns that it is okay to allow herself space and permission to grieve, be angry, be joyful, be sad during this time of dramatic shifts in culture. Mallory, who is reeling from making her leg 13mm longer, really wants to be Scottish. Also, enjoy the 5 minutes of laughter that hearkens back to a simpler time in 2019. Moral to the Story: Sometimes, take a moment and turn your underwear around. Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other fun Topics Discussed: Red-headed gene Black-fisted gene The doctor who hasn't used soap in five years. Jim Crow of the North: Yes, folks, Minnesota is racist as hell. Ambergris: the scent of a woman Bidets Mallory's "cheeky" underwear that really wasn't a reverse thong. 

Episode 40: Cheeky Devil

This week, the healing continues! Tamu and Mallory discuss the insanity that is the world we live in and try to figure out what's wrong with kids (and grown-ass adults) these days. Mallory also explains what HIPAA is so folks can stop using it incorrectly when defending their "right" not to wear a mask. Moral to the Story: In less than 100 days, you have a choice to make, go out and make the right one. VOTE! Second Moral to the Story: Wear a G-damn mask! Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor! Other Fun Topics Discussed: The younger set (and older set) and their desire for pleasure over health and empathy for others. Autocratic police states are the new norm. Person. Woman. Man. Camera. TV. Yes, Kanye is problematic, but let's be mindful about mental health. The new Netflix show: Indian Matchmaking AOC is not here for the bullshit. 

Episode 39: Five Words

This week in current events discussions, Tamu and Mallory talk Covid-19 and insanity of not wearing masks. Moral to the Story: The fabric of America is so worn, it is see-through! Second Moral to the Story: Wear a G-damn mask! Very Special Moral tot he Story: Arrest the police officer who murdered Breonna Taylor! One Fun Thing During This Abysmal Time: Mallory details the SECOND time she was hit on in her building. DONATE! DONATE! DONATE! Minneapolis is getting its ONLY Black-owned bookstore (ain't that some sh!t?). Please Check out Black Garnet Books and donate to their Go Fund Me they are soooo close to their goal.

Episode 38: My Heart Belongs to Rona

 The ladies admit they are not okay and just getting by these days. They continue their conversation about how they have been impacted by the exposure of America's dirty not-so-secret history of white supremacy and systemic racism. Also Mallory got asked on a date in these Covid times! Moral to the Story: BLACK TRANS LIVES MATTER! Bonus Moral to the Story: ARREST THE COPS WHO KILLED BREONNA TAYLOR!   One Fun Thing: Back when we were just trying to survive Covid isolation, Tamu and Mallory were invited to record a quarantine YouTube episode with The Meme-ing of it All podcast. It was a lot of fun. The ladies introduced the Meme-ing crew to all sorts of interesting dildos from Bad Dragon. Check it out if you need a 25 minute break from the heaviness of the world. Don't Forget: DONATE, DONATE, DONATE! Reclaim the Block has a Google doc listing Minneapolis/St.Paul organizations you can donate to. The Strategist has a comprehensive list of organizations that you can support based on your interests. Donate locally to ensure funds get where they are most needed. 

Episode 37: Floundering

Tamu and Mallory have a conversation about the devastating and change-making events that have rocked their Twin Cities of Minneapolis & St. Paul, the nation, and the world in the past three weeks. Moral to the Story: BLACK LIVES MATTER! DONATE, DONATE, DONATE! Reclaim the Block has a Google doc listing Minneapolis/St.Paul organizations you can donate to. The Strategist has a comprehensive list of organizations that you can support based on your interests. Donate locally to ensure funds get where they are most needed. Be an ALLY: Check out Justice in June. It offers three learning plans for anyone hoping to spend the month taking a step to “becoming an active ally to the black community.” Choose how much time you have per day — 10, 25 or 45 minutes — and the learning plan tells you what media to consume. Watch Ibram X. Kendi discuss How to Be an Antiracist. Watch Dr. Robin DiAngelo discuss White Fragility. Watch Franchesca Ramsey's 5 Tips for Being an Ally.  

Episode 36: The Long & Bitter but Beautiful Struggle

In our final episode of the season, we recap Tamu's European trip which was chocked full of cobblestone, hills and steps! Moral to the Story: We only go around this Earth once. Treat yo'self. Don't cheap out on your vacations. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: Justin Timberlake's recent "poor lack of judgement" sparked this week's question - Would you let your man hold another woman's hand? The consensus was, "I guess". Tamu got Prik in Amsterdam. Sometimes being a tourist can be fun. Tamu's Tourist Suggestions: London - London Eye with drinks package; if you are lucky, you will see a proposal! Edinburgh - Scotch Whisky Experience; ride in a whisky barrel and learn from a ghost how whisky is made and then drink some! Paris: L'Atelier des Lumieres; immerse yourself in the art of Vincent Van Gogh (until Jan 5, 2020). No one gives you the topical terrain information about cities when you are reading a travel blog. Tamu's Travel Pro Tip: Scotland has inclines and steps. So does London. Racism Abroad: In Amsterdam, people dress in full blackface as a Santa's helper friend, Black Pete. Shout out to Tiffany from Abroad in Education: Wigs did make a difference. Shout out to my new Scottish friends Liam and James! Tamu's Foodie Suggestions: London: Cotton's Restaurant(Caribbean), Jamaican Patty Co.(Jamaican Style Patties), Ping Pong (Chinese Dim Sum). Paris: Frenchie Bar a Vins (French Wine Bar and Food). Edinburgh: Maison Bleue (French, North African, Scottish). That time we left a bar in Paris without paying. Tamu's Travel Pro Tip: Wear comfortable shoes and clothes. Our bizarre Outlander discussion. The benefits of living minimally. In praise of WhatsApp: keeps family close and friendships fresh. #WePodcastLikeThis: Hannah's (Check out Ep. 32 to learn more about Hannah and her Social Justice Book Club) talented kids made the earrings we are wearing for a fundraiser. Thank you: To all of our old and new listener friends, we are so very grateful for your support. We wish you all a very safe and happy holiday season! See you next year for Season 3!  

Episode 35: Advice from a "World" Traveler

Join Tamu and Mallory as they recount their very first times. Moral to the Story: Have that sex test results convo before diving into the festivities. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Tamu and Mallory were both late bloomers. We are conditioned via pop culture to believe you should be between ages 15 - 18 when you loose your virginity. Old men are gross and disgusting. Mallory planned her first time and went for it with gusto and actually enjoyed herself. Tamu's planned first time was with Phil and was supposed to be in Atlantic City. Tamu's REAL first time was still with Phil on Mother's Day on the floor of his parents' house. B@L Concept: The Reluctant Virgin There is a lot of planning and prep involved in anal sex.  

Flutter: Making It Through The Wilderness

  This week Tamu & Mallory discuss 36 Questions to Love and how their answering these questions over wine in 2015 laid the foundation for their friendship. Moral to the Story: You can use these questions to develop a foundation regardless of relationship. Other Fun Topics Discussed: Get to Know Us: Have you used scents to try an attract people? Perfumes are bad for you. Tamu loved original Dolce & Gabanna Scent trails - that time on the jetway when someone farted. Chemical smells gives Mallory a migraine. #WePodcastLikeThis The Key to 36 Questions: Be open-minded. 4 minutes of looking into someone's eyes in silence it too much for Tamu. For our true crime friends: you may be able to detect sociopathy and psychopathy with these questions. These questions can be a good way to gauge someone's open-mindedness. There is a potential for us to to make compromises even with these questions because we see what we want to see. Tamu wonders if these questions would have worked with Wights 1 and 2 and determines, probably not. Follow your intuition. It is OK to be alone. Make good climatic choices. Try these 36 questions on a speed date. Idris Elba 

Episode 34: 36 Questions to Idris Elba

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