After a long extended hiatus…. WE ARE BACK!  Yes… we know… we’ve been just a tad M.I.A. but we are back, and we’ll let you know what has been going on, and where we’ve been!  But now as Chicago and the country opens back up, its time to get back on the horse and be here for your entertainment!  Its time baby!     Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

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30. Where the hell have we been????

At Age 7, Benny Mathew immigrated to the US from India.  He grew up in a predominantly Sicilian neighborhood in the suburbs of Chicago, poor, chubby, and racially confused.  Later in life, it took watching his aunt, a real female role model, pass away from cancer, to see that he wasn’t living up to his own potential.  He ended a marriage that did not bring him joy anymore, moved to Chicago, and joined the ranks of the single life.     We talk to Benny about this change and so much more (Including why Covid is the new Herpes!) on this week’s episode of Behind the BJ.     Find Benny on Instagram @bmathew7, on Facebook @Banny Mathew, LinkedIn @ Benny Mathew, Youtube: @Orion3Chicago   Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

29. Covid is the New Herpes… with Benny Mathew

This week we welcome guest Nick Sautter to the studio.  Nick is a championship power lifter, a published scientist, an all around good guy and he is new to Chicago, single and trying to mingle!  Our first guest of 2021 will get into some of the gore details of his experience dating on the apps in the Covid world.  He teaches Jason the phrase “meet cute” and shares some truly crazy stories of just trying to find his perfect match!  You’re going to want to listen in on this one, but be prepared to laugh and to have your jaw drop on several occasions!    Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

28. If I see a Tit, I could see a Clit… With Nick Sautter

We are BACK!  After breaking for the Holidays and some other things… Brandye & Jason are back, and so excited to catch you all up on what’s been going on for the past few weeks.  We’ll catch everyone up on what’s been going on and where we’ve been.  We talk about our NYE celebrations to say “Bye Bitch” to 2020, and of course get into our 2021 resolutions.   Now we want to hear what YOUR resolutions are, and what fun / sexy times your New Years Eve brought you!   Find us on Peloton @MrJay187 @BrandyeVP   Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

27. New Year, Same old F**king ME!

Butt Glue is a thing guys!  On this week’s episode, Comedienne, Personal Trainer, Ping Ponger, and perennial Beauty pageant first runner up, Gina Melchiorri discusses her experiences both on and off the Miss Illinois stage (including butt glue)!  The hilarious Gina takes us through her own relationship, and how championship ping pong brought her love.  And don’t forget… #WheresTheQueso?   Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

26. And your first runner up is… with Gina Melchiorri

After months of trying, Brandye and Jason finally have had the opportunity to speak to Todd Siddons, network marketing guru, motivational speaker, and, just like Jason, die hard Philadelphia Eagles fan!  As our first gay guest, Todd will talk to us about what his coming out experience was like, and just some of his storied relationships.     Find Todd at www.toddsiddons.com, on Instagram @Todd.siddons and on Facebook at Todd Siddons.    Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

25. Coming Out On Top with Todd Siddons

In this week’s episode, Brandye and Jason interview the founder of the non profit organization Adulting 1101, Arthur Donovan to talk about another ugly side of Covid life.  Arthur discuses how the pressures of quarantine exposed some of the real issues that existed between he and his now ex-fiancee, and how all of this transpired while being forced to quarantine away from the outside world.     We will also look at life after death (of a relationship), and find out if Instagram is the new Tinder… All this and more… listen now!   Find Arthur and his organization at www.adulting1101.org and on Instagram @adulting1101   Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

24. A Relationship Casualty of Covid with Arthur Donovan

Brandye and Jason welcome relationship expert, author, and founder of zensensa.com, (and fellow red head) Thomas Westenholz on the show (All the way from London!) this week.  Thomas discusses some of the keys to a mature love and mature intimacy including Thomas’s 3 steps to intimacy & love.  Next, we discuss the 4 attachment styles and the 5 love languages and how understanding these can help you relate better with your partner.     Find Thomas on www.zensensa.com and on Instagram @zen_sensa    Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

23. Building Mature Love and Intimacy with Thomas Westenholz

This week we welcome Carlie S. to the studio to take us through her ups and downs of dating during a global pandemic.  Tune in to hear about how Carlie manages to get guys to fall in love after a first date and how that plays out when boundaries haven’t been fully established!  These are the realities of dating during Covid … enjoy!   Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

22. The Trials and Tribulations of Dating During Covid with Carlie S.

What happens when a global pandemic pushes you to leave your big New York City apartment to escape to a more livable suburb?  Well, if you’re our guest this week, you move in with your…. EX!     In this week’s episode we interview Kirby S about her time over the past 3 months living with her ex boyfriend.  Did the quarantine lifestyle cause sparks to fly, or did it just reassure both of them that they truly are better off as friends?   Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

21. Shackin’ up with the Ex with Kirby B.

We are back!  Yes, we know… you’ve missed us, and we missed you too!  We took the month of July off, but we are back now.  This week we keep things pretty light and give everyone a quick recap of what has kept us busy the past month.  We’re sorry that we left you for a few weeks, but the entertainment will pick right back up from here!   Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

20. And We’re Back!

What an episode we have for you this week!  We are interviewing Nathan, a friend of ours who has led a crazy life that included a years long battle with drugs and alcohol. We talk to Nate about his battle and his long road to recovery, along with a slew of other fun and interesting stories he has in his arsenal - both dating and generally.  This one will get you laughing, but we dive into some tough material too… definitely NSFW!

19. Sex Drugs & Rock n’ Roll with Nathan Iz

This week Jason and Brandye welcome another exciting guest onto the podcast!  Donna Chin lives in LA where she finds herself immersed in the inner circles of the rich and sometimes famous.   She discusses with us the LA dating scene, what it was like going on a date with her childhood celebrity crush, and struggling with her latest romantic challenges - dating a man who is less than available and coming to terms with the fact that he just won’t choose only her.     Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

18. Ending the Love Triangle with Donna Chin

Our world is in turmoil.  Between the stresses of the Covid-19 pandemic and, even more so, the current events that have once again highlighted the racial divide in this country and around the world, it is impossible to be neutral in our political stands these days.  Politically, this country has become completely polarized.  In this episode, we take a look at how this can play out in relationships.  Can you date someone who with different political leanings than yourself?  Do you want to be able to?  If you do love someone who leans toward the other side of the aisle, how can you find healthy ways to make that relationship work?  We’ll explore this and more in this week’s new episode of Behind the BJ.     Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

17. When Love and Politics Don’t Mix

We welcome another wonderful guest into our studio for this week’s fun episode!  As you may tell from the title, our main topic revolves around how to deal with the pressure that family and some friends can place on us to settle down and have a family, even when so many other things in our lives are going so well.  Our favorite Chicago educator and socialite from across the pond joins us to chat about this.  While here, we also find out what brought Danielle to Chicago, our mutual love of our city, differences between dating Brits and Americans, the importance of and changing stigma around going to therapy, and a few other fun things.     Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ.com 

16. Mom, It’s okay if I’m still single! Feat. Danielle S. AKA British D.

Let’s go Behind the BJ, with Brandye and Jason, as we discuss trying to date in a world where right swipes tend to dictate who ends up in our bed. We’ll listen to each other’s crazy dating stories and analyze from the other gender’s perspective. We’ll dive into everything from swiping left and right to taking things to that next level, plus everything in between. The New York Times (definitely did not) called us the best possible dating podcast you could listen to. And a number of our friends say “This is a MUST LISTEN for anyone and everyone - whether you’re single looking for advice or dating and need a reminder that the grass isn’t always greener”.

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