Upheaval is coming - whether the old boys' club likes it or not - the old system is crashing down - and those who previously had no rights, no education, no visibility... suddenly have a voice #incels #trolls #patriarchy #change #veganism #climatechange

BFO LIFE SKILLS

BroFlakes & White Nonsense

if i see you be super aggressive on the road - screaming rage and demanding to be let through and get to the "destination" first - I will assume you're not only just as aggressive and inconsiderate in LIFE - but that you're like that in bed eg - how people drive, how people play games - is a clue to other red flags

are bad drivers just as awful in bed?

 the things I've learned the hard way about - gaslighting - red flags - walking on eggshells - blame & justification - the way the victim tries to rescue - the delusion that loving them will heal them and why you don't help them by trying to appease them (this was a triggering topic for me to speak about - sorry that i struggled and rambled)

the ways abusers show their red flags

ARMELLE ON anzac day

magic circle

Bottling up pain never ends well - for your body, or your relationships And often we assume others have the same values as us - and get angry when they don't But..... underneath the anger.. it is usually pain - or a painful belief #LoveLanguages #narcissism #boundaries 

Givers setting boundaries - bc takers do not

brain integration and muscle testing techniques as an alternative to chemically restore harmonious levels of dopamine and serotonin Rich Roll & AJ podcast - https://www.richroll.com/podcast/chef-aj-363/ fen phen wiki page - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fenfluramine/phentermine #fenphen #dopamine #gluten #foodaddiction 

balancing your dopamine & food addiction

how can we unlearn the pattern of rescuer and why it starts - 

rescuer and abuser and survival

what happens when the earth energy is intense - we have to adjust - some people go into resilience and try to push through it some go into shutdown and overwhelm - and can spiral into addiction Whenever a loved one feels that something is "too hard" to deal with - it means that it has to be dealt with another way or by another person eg - if they deal with their anger by shoving it down with cigarettes and whiskey - it will come out in disease if you deal with your financial problems by ignoring them - then your partner or your bank will have to deal with it This is also a time of shift in awareness for those who have played "rescuer" Just like the old paradigm of the "abuser" is no longer infallible - the "rescuer" is no longer viable.. either 

let go or be dragged

sorry - the volume is super loud - def turn it down all of our stories are bullshit at their core - esp if they hurt us - reflect and reframe and it will change and heal old triggers

change the story and change the past

Steven's mission to empower, not enable - and teach others to save themselves

intro to SV - BE the lighthouse, not the battery

some people have a problem for every solution - and, other than avoid them completely - can you use them to create arguments and resolve your own issue as you defend yourself from their negativity?!?

Joy crushers

how we react to the meanings we create and attach to our memories

reframing trauma and the stories that trigger us

things i had to learn the hard way so you don't have to Photo: Ruthson Zimmerman on Unsplash

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BFO LIFE SKILLS

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