Alba is an extraordinary woman. She has survived childhood sexual abuse, rape, and domestic violence, and now supports other women who have experienced trauma or abuse. She is courageous and open and willing to talk about subjects and experiences that are often kept hidden. Hearing her share about her journey from trauma to healing is incredibly inspiring.    In this episode, Alba and I discuss: Surviving molestation and rape. Facing traumatic triggers, memories, shame, guilt, and flashbacks. The over-sexualization and exploitation of children. Recognizing red flags or warnings.   Key Takeaways: You don’t have to keep running away from your trauma triggers. When you find someone worthy, surrender, and start living again. Realizing you can take time, regroup, and keep going, you aren’t stuck in one place. Accepting and moving into positive and reciprocal relationships when you are ready for them. Realization of the struggle you are living through and that you have the power to change it.    "Float, catch your breath, then keep swimming." —  Alba Soto   Connect with Alba Soto: Facebook: Alba Cordero Soto Instagram: @albasototlc Website: Alba Soto TLC.com      CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin   

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027- INTERVIEW: Healing From Trauma with Alba Soto  

Sheena has been teaching 20 years, ten of which have been dedicated to self defense. With loads of hands on experience with violence and defending herself and others from violence her expertise is undeniable.  Certified as an Instructor in Krav Maga, Striking and MMA, Firearms, Grappling and more, Sheena owner and Lead Instructor of Krav Maga Salem in Oregon where they also teach Muay Thai, Catch Wrestling, Knife Fighting, Kali and more.      In this episode, Sheena Williams and I discuss: Utilizing martial arts to subdue combative people in a hospital facility.  Learning to engage against violent threats but to meet the people with dignity and respect.  De-escalation in various situations, in yourself and in others. Integrative Defense Strategies by Todd Fossey.   Key Takeaways: When thinking about edged weapons, don’t just think knives, box cutters, or traditional edged weapons, think outside of the box. Adapt your language to de-escalate the situation rather than put the situation/person into crisis mode again. Meet the person at the situation and mental state they are in, not where you feel they should be. Most defense situations while carrying a firearm happen within 6 feet. Utilize the training for that situation.      "I, and I alone, am responsible for my happiness." —  Sheena Williams     Connect with Sheena Williams: Website: kravsalem.com     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin   

054- INTERVIEW: Women and Safety with Sheena Williams 

Babita Spinelli is a psychotherapist and certified coach who works with people who are experiencing significant life transitions and couples looking to improve or rebuild their relationships and survivors of trauma and abuse. One of her key areas of focus is on narcissism and how to deal with people who are narcissists. She received the 29 Teen New York psychotherapist award. She's also a lawyer, and she used to work on Wall Street.  In this episode, Babita and I discuss: Setting boundaries so that you can recognize when people are taking space in your life when they shouldn’t be. Setting relationship boundaries by making the space of a sacred couple.  The pressures surrounding getting into and being in a relationship. The narcissism spectrum, the roots of narcissism, and the lack of empathy.   Key Takeaways: If you are in a relationship with a narcissist you need to give yourself permission to leave.  Use an utilize your village to help you leave and to help you stay safe. Use fear as your friend, understand the dangers of breaking up with a narcissist, the cost of taking action, and the cost of not taking action.   Moving forward after a narcissistic relationship, apply what you have learned, realize what you want and need in your next relationship, and ultimately to trust yourself.    "There is an inner voice that is indicating something isn’t right. Notice what you are feeling around the individual you are dating." —  Babita Spinelli   Mentioned: Will I Ever Be Good Enough   Connect with Babita Spinelli:   Instagram: @babitaspinelli   Facebook: Opening the Doors Psychotherapy Website: Opening Doors Psychotherapy   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin   

053- INTERVIEW: Narcissism with Babita Spinelli  

Beverly Baker is an amazing badass woman who is a martial artist and self-defense coach. She is the founder of the Metropolitan Finishing School, which is not the place to go if you are looking to learn how to serve tea correctly, it is where you want to go if you want to learn how to keep yourself safe in urban environments.    In this episode, Beverly Baker and I discuss: Distance management: where distance is your best friend.Avoidance, situational proximity, what’s normal for the context of your situation. Circling around behind someone while pretending like you are looking at something else. Tactics for keeping an eye people. Pieing the corner: don’t hug corners, have an open field of vision. Street dodging: utilize the reflections on the windows around you, how are the people around you reacting, turn, and look nonchalantly. Play spot the bad guy, take in your environment and someone who may be standing out When visiting a new city know what you want to do, where you want to go, and what the top crimes for the area are.  Be aware of how people are intersecting with you. They can use charm, discount boundaries, teaming “we”, and/or loan sharking.    Key Takeaways: Preparing for and dealing with the situations that you will encounter. It’s all about what makes sense at the moment you are in and what scenario you are in.  Prepare ahead by knowing what bags you will be carrying and practice how you will carry and store them in the different locations you will be visiting. When visiting a new city decide what do I want to do, where do I want to go, and what are the top crimes for the area.  Feel free to lie and deflect questions back toward the unknown person who is asking about you.    "The largest threats that women face are from people they know."  —  Beverly Baker         Mentioned: Feminist City by Leslie Kern       Widen the Window by Elizabeth A Stanley Ph.D. & Besser van der Kolk M.D.      Visual Intelligence by Amy Herman   Connect with Beverly Baker: Website: https://www.metrofinishschool.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/metropolitanfinishingschool/     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin  

052- INTERVIEW: Safety and Self-Defense in the Urban Environment with Beverly Baker  

Danny Burde is the founder of Iron Crew Athletics. He has bachelor's degrees in both psychology and kinesiology. He's a CrossFit level two coach, and was a head coach at NorCal CrossFit (akaNCfit) before he started Iron Crew Athletics. He's been immersed in fitness since he was 12 years old and has an immense passion for helping other people. Danny specializes in helping people find sustainable exercise and nutrition plans and his vision is a world where everyone stays in shape and eats healthy forever. A former police officer who used to respond to domestic violence calls, he’s also waiting to serve his sentence after being convicted of felony domestic violence.   In this episode, Danny and I discuss: Being a police officer and dealing with domestic violence incidents. The cycle of abuse as well as abuse in emotional, psychological, and physical ways. How police officers are trained to handle conflict resolution. Domestic violence: happens to everyone. It doesn’t pick a sex or body type.   Key Takeaways: Danny’s favorite self-care practice is exercising.  Danny’s advice to men in their 20’s is to realize that you are young, don’t give in to the pressure of being in a rush to start your life.   "This incident, this moment in time, does not define who you are."  —  Danny Burde   Connect with Danny Burde: Website: Iron Crew Athletics Instagram: Danny_Burde Youtube: Iron Crew Athletics LinkedIn: Danny Burde Podcast: Iron Crew Podcast Episode on Domestic Violence     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

051- INTERVIEW: Insights into Domestic Violence – A Conversation With Danny Burde 

Mila Johansson is a professional director, playwright, and writer. She's the author of 22 plays and musicals that circle the globe, along with two teaching manuals, 101 Theater games, and 50 scenes to go. Mila also teaches social media screenwriting, creative writing, herbology, and Public Speaking at a local Adult Education School. She has just published a book about her famous suffragette grandmother, Jesse Haber Butler, just in time for the hundredth anniversary of women getting the right to vote which is in August of 2020. The book is called From Cowgirl to Congress. Mila lives on her organic citrus ranch in Northern California with her husband, for dogs and a cat. She says that every woman in the United States today owes their voting rights to her grandmother Jessie, and to the others who fought so bravely for women's suffrage. In this episode, Mila and I discuss: Women’s suffrage and the life of women before they had won the right to vote. The fights and lobbying to Washington during the suffrage movement. The variety of fights that Jesse made against the unfair treatment of people.  Jessie, her friends, and her husband’s stories during the fight for equal rights.     Key Takeaways: Mila’s favorite self-care practice is eating organically, eating fresh food, utilizing her skills as a certified herbalist, and walking. Mila’s advice to women in their 20’s is to pay attention more and study history more.  Mila’s best advice for women to develop their own personal power and courage is to recognize that you've always had the power. You have it, assume it today. There's nothing to stop you except yourself.    "Don't wait for the right moment." —  Mila Johanson   Connect with Mila Johanson: Website: MilaJohanson.com YouTube: Mila Johnason   Book: From Cowgirl to Congress   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin   

050- INTERVIEW: A Badass Out of History with Mila Johanson  

Karen Heise is an emergency preparedness coach and firearms instructor. She leads two shooting chapters of The Well-Armed Woman and has multiple instructor certifications. She and her husband have a business where they help individuals and families become better prepared for emergency situations, covering all aspects of emergency preparedness including firearms training and maintenance.    In this episode, Caren and I discuss: Getting exposure to firearms, firearm education, and situational awareness levels. The Well Armed Woman (TWAW) a group of women who meet monthly and practice, learn and grow as shooters. All levels from newbies to experienced competition shooters. Listening to your intuition, recognizing and sensing that something bad is about to happen, and not ignoring it. Conditioning yourself to recognize danger and how to prepare for handling danger when it is imminent.    Key Takeaways: Caren’s advice to women in their 20’s is to just go after what you want. And if you fall down, get back up again. Also know there's a special someone out there for everyone. Get out there, do it and give it your best shot, but be cautious at the same time. Don't be naive, try to educate yourself on how the world works so that you don't follow into some of the common pitfalls that many young women do. Caren’s advice to find your own power and courage is to find your voice, your calm, and learn how to be okay with not reacting.    "These ladies are not only self-protection like-minded and second amendment like-minded, but they're just cool and kind ladies."  —  Caren Heise   Connect with Caren Heise: Website: TWAWshootingchapters.org Email: prepandmakeready@gmail.com     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin   

049- INTERVIEW: Women and Firearms with Caren Heise  

#500 Rising is a movement that stands on the strong shoulders of the women who have come before us. Our first mission is to train female instructors in essential self-defense, and to support them as they reach out to their communities and networks to make a difference in the stubborn statistics of violence against women. It was founded by Tammy Yard McCracken. The first instructor training was recently held in Minneapolis, MN, and today’s roundtable discussion features many of those who participated and who were certified as the first officially endorsed #500Rising instructors. Tammy Yard McKracken is owner of Kore Self-Defense & Krav Maga and a globally certified expert level Krav Maga instructor. She is the third woman ever to earn an expert rank with Krav Maga Global (KMG) in North America. She is also one of the instructors for Violence Dynamics. Allison DiRienzo Allison is co-founder of Wolf Dog Marketing, a full service digital design agency, an Executive Team member of the #500Rising and Violence Dynamics organizations, a Board Member on She's Local and the Metrowest Conference for Women, and is a kickboxing instructor. She lives and trains martial arts in the greater Boston area with her husband and two giant wolf dogs. Kasey Keckeisen is a police officer in Minnesota and is an executive officer on the force’s tactical team. He has been training in martial arts for more than 25+ years and holds 6th degree black belts in Judo, Jujitsu, and Aikido and a black belt in Taiho Jutsu. Kasey is one of the founders of Violence Dynamics. Liisa Carter is a civilian follower of Violence Dynamics and a participant of the 500 Rising training. Sheena Williams experience is working in private security working hand in hand with law enforcement in an ER setting. She has since opened her own self-defense school and has been working there for 8+ years where she utilizes her skills in martial arts that she has been practicing for nearly a decade.  Tia Keck along with her husband owns the Rock Hill Martial Arts gym. Tia is also an advocate of training for women to help them be safer not just feel safer.   Kelly Sayre is the owner of Diamond Arrow Group where the training includes situational awareness, pre threat indicators, reading body language, while also making and reinforcing your boundaries.  Amy Stewart Cooper is from Boise, Idaho, and has been training in martial arts for 8-10 years. She has been teaching women’s self-defense for a year and going to self-defense seminars for 3 years. Maggy Rae (Emme) is a self-defense trainer who spent 14 years in the corrections field and was also an officer for 7 years. She believes it is OK to have the fighter mindset and still be feminine. Lisa Abbott  is the owner of Subtle Warrior Self-Defense in northeastern Nevada and she spends her time traveling to teach at self-defense seminars. In this episode, the Guests and I discuss: The #500Rising movement and the recent Foundations Training for the first group of #500Rising instructors What prevents women from attending a self-defense course? Why have Women’s-only as opposed to mixed-gender self-defense and training courses? Benefits and positive challenges within the 500 Rising Training. The advice and corresponding resources to improve self and familial protection abilities.    Key Takeaways: Being understanding and making the training and self-defense environment comfortable for women that have been in negative and triggering past scenarios. Distinguishing between the actions of being responsible for and responsible to a person.   Utilizing teach-backs in training. While intimidating, it is also a useful teaching tool for constructive feedback, and to help you improve as an instructor and coach. Trust your instinct and intuition that you can defend yourself.      "Trust your intuition, always. When you get that feeling that something’s not quite right, listen to it." —  Amy Stewart Cooper   Mentioned: Be your Own Body Guard Training by Coach Blauer   Connect with Tammy Yard McKracken: Email: tym@koreselfdefense.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/tammyyardmccracken/, www.facebook.com/KoreKraveMaga Instagram: www.instagram.com/tammyyardmccracken Connect with Alison DiRienzo: Website:  https://wolfdogmarketing.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wolfdogmarketing/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/wolfdogmktg/    Connect with Kasey Keckeisen: Website: http://violencedynamics.com/   Connect with Sheena Williams: IG: https://www.instagram.com/kravmagasalem/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCN0wzV6Kf5jXVTpvB6iMx-g Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KravMagaSalem Website: https://kravsalem.com/    Connect with Tia Keck: Website:  https://www.facebook.com/rockhillmartialarts/   Connect with Kelly Sayre: Website: https://thediamondarrowgroup.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thediamondarrowgroup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheDiamondArrowGroup/   Connect with Amy Stewart Cooper: Instagram: @streetshieldselfdefense Blogger: streetshieldselfdefense@blogspot.com You Tube: Street Shield Self-Defense   Connect with Maggy (Emme): Instagram:   @mheald10 Facebook: Maggy Rae   Connect with Lisa Abbott: Facebook: www.facebook.com/SubtleWarriorSelfDefense Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/subtlewarriorselfdefense/ Website: https://subtlewarriorselfdefense.com/     CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin   

048- Roundtable: #500 Rising Training  

Caterina Rando is a best selling author, sought after speaker, and an extraordinary women’s business mentor who passionately serves women leaders on a mission. Her over 25 years of educating and empowering audiences and groups makes her truly masterful at providing a ton of value. She shows women how to be loud and proud about the value they bring in order to serve more people and make their businesses thrive. She’s a published author with books including Learn to Think Differently which was released in more than 13 countries and multiple languages. A Women’s Guide to Starting a Giving Circle, and her latest book  The ABC’s of Public Speaking which quickly hit number one in 4 Amazon Best Seller categories. Caterina is an absolute powerhouse and probably one of the most joyous uplifting people you can meet.        In this episode, Caterina and I discuss: Shifting your self-perception mindset, dealing with setbacks, life obstacles, and managing disappointment. Not isolating yourself. Build a community or be a part of a community that supports you. Make an effort to consciously connect and only to take and accept feedback from trusted sources and to trust yourself.  Not letting typical expectations and things hold you back. Embracing the fear, not worryng about what other people think, and letting go of thoughts of perfection. Creating Giving Circles: providing education and support and improving the lives of girls and women around the world.    Key Takeaways: Caterina’s favorite self-care practice is in the power of action. Getting up and making things happen instead of wallowing and making the conscious decision to be positive in life. Caterina’s advice for women in their 20’s is that everything is going to work out, stop worrying so much.  Caterina’s view on developing your own personal power and courage is to feel the fear and do it anyway. Navigate through fear by taking action. Action is the antidote to fear. Be proactive vs reactive when it’s something you want to do but are afraid to.     "I want every woman to know that she matters, she has massive value to bring, that her voice matters." —  Caterina Rando   Book Mentioned: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers    Connect with Caterina Rando: Thriving Women in Business Center San Francisco Podcast: Expand Your Fempire With Caterina Rando Facebook: Caterina Rando               Thriving Women in Business Website: CaterinaRando.com Books: Learn to Power Think           The Women’s Giving Circle Guide              ABC Speaking   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin   

047- INTERVIEW: Taking Action with Caterina Rando  

In this episode, Cynthia discusses: Playing the positive or negative “what if” game. The “what if” game as a useful tool in preparing for unknown and potential dangers. Mental Blueprints: Imagining scenarios and possible solutions to those scenarios Not dwelling on the negative “What ifs.” Key Takeaways: Create a “mental blueprint” or programming for your brain that helps you to react more quickly and work through the fight, flight, or freeze modes. You freeze when you have no blueprint. Work through “What ifs” that you are most likely to encounter or deal with in multiple situations and all the variables that may occur. Playing “what if” is a beneficial way to prepare for things, instead of thinking about all the things that could go wrong. Let the “what if” game guide you and help you address concerns and questions you may have.   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

046- Playing The “What If” Game

Chris Nichols is the President and Executive Director of The Medicine Horse Project, which is a non-profit organization dedicated to the rescue of abused, abandoned, neglected, or displaced horses. She is certified in horse inspired growth healing and facilitates programs for veterans, women's empowerment, and at risk youth with her method of discovering resiliency through horsemanship. Chris also offers horsemanship workshops and clinics helping equestrians develop deeper connection and partnership with their horses.   In this episode, Chris and I discuss: How humans and horses work together to learn and heal one another in a safe space. Dealing with and moving past fear through acknowledgement, vulnerability and building a network of support. Women’s empowerment and education through horsemanship activities to build trust, confidence, leadership and personal strength.  Fear now as opposed to an anticipated fear. Meeting basic needs of both humans and horses: safety, nourishment, play and sex/ intimacy.    Key Takeaways: Chris’s favorite self care practice being with the horses and getting to spend undemanding time with them. To spend time in their world and become a part of the herd. Chris’s advice for women is to make yourself a priority. To live and plan your life for you. If you don’t take care of yourself you can’t be your best self for you or anyone else. Have the courage to step back – it’s critical for your own self health. Follow 1 WIG (Wildly Important Goal) You can’t do 10 things well – do one in a wildly important way. Chris’s advice to develop their own personal power and courage comes to the basic 4 needs of humans and animals. Safety, nourishment, play and sex/intimacy. Defining what makes you safe and what actions you are taking to fulfill those things to build confidence, power and to chase your passion so all aspects of your life are fulfilling.   "It takes courage to step back, push yourself back from the complicated table and take a moment for yourself." —  Chris Nichols   Organization Mentioned: Lifesavers Wild Horse Rescue Book Mentioned: Move Closer Stay Longer by Dr. Stephanie Burns  Retreat Mentioned: Wild Horse Empowerment Journey For Women   Connect with Chris Nichols: Facebook: The Medicine Horse Project Website: MedicineHorseProject.org Instagram: @themedicinehorseproject  Donate: The Medicine Horse Project   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin

045- INTERVIEW: Horse-inspired Growth and Healing with Chris Nichols  

Jackie is a Triple Certified Coach in Enneagram, life coaching, and neuro linguistic programming. She lives in the greater New York City area and she works with individuals and companies to create sustainability and to reach goals through self awareness and emotional intelligence. Jackie helps people understand the who, what, and why they are at their core. She is the CEO and founder of Table for Nine Coaching and the host of Table for Nine Podcast. Jackie has also healed from her own experience with abuse and has worked with survivors of human trafficking.   In this episode, Jackie and I discuss: The consequences of your mindset. Repressed memories: how the brain can hide memories and bring them to the surface later. Self discovery as part of the healing process. Giving yourself trust and forgiveness. Use of the Enneagram model. Neuro linguistic programming. Develop self awareness, ask yourself “why” repeatedly to get to the core issue.  Tips to recognize sex trafficing. Somatic experiencing: when trauma and abuse take up reside in your body until you deal with the trauma and can heal completely. Self awareness and fear. Why am I afraid? Is it fear or is it an actual risk to my well being?   Key Takeaways: Jackie’s favorite self care tip is to get up and get dressed for the day even while working from home. Now that she is more confident in herself and her business, she likes to get up and get half dressed. Professional on top, sweats on the bottom. Jackie’s advice for women is to develop their concept of boundaries. You don’t need to feel obligated to everyone and everything. Have and set your boundaries, say them out loud, and stick to them. Jackie believes that for women to develop their own personal power and courage they need to start saying no and sticking to their no. Your no has power, keep your power, don’t people please.   "Get yourself in the habit of boundaries as early as you can and in every area of life. Don’t just have them in one area, have them everywhere." —  Jackie Coban   Connect with Jackie Coban: Website: Tablefor9Coaching.com  Instagram: @tablefor9coaching  Podcast: Tablefor9   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin    

027- INTERVIEW: Self Awareness with Jackie Coban  

Dr. Emee Estacio is the author of the best selling Psychology in Your Life series of books and world renowned expert in community health and applied social psychology.   In this episode, Emee and I discuss: The importance of mindset in setting goals, having grit, powering through and making your goals a reality. Managing our emotions and balancing our feelings. Dealing with imposter syndrome (feelings of self-doubt, incompetence, and hiding imperfections that make you feel like a fraud). Understanding that healing can begin when you acknowledge that you are human and that we all need help sometimes. Fear and its positive role in human existence. Self-publishing your book one step at a time.   Key Takeaways: Emee’s favorite self care practice is using the TLC technique to explore her inner critic message, understand where it is coming from, and move forward. Is it true, is it logical, is it constructive?  Emee’s advice for young women is to not be too hard on yourself and don’t compare yourself to others. Emee’s advice for capturing your own personal power and courage is to embrace yourself. Understand that you are not perfect, and when you embrace yourself warts and all, you can embrace yourself for the badass that you are.   "Your self doubt, this feeling of incompetence, all this fear that you might be experiencing. Always remember that you have a message that’s worth sharing. That there are people out there who’s lives will be transformed because you have written your story." —  Emee Estacio   Connect with Emee Estacio: Facebook: Self Publishing Made Simple Website: Self Publishing Made Simple  Books: Change Your Life for Good Imposter Syndrome Remedy Fear is Not My Enemy   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin    

043- INTERVIEW: Mindset, Fear, and Telling Your Story with Emee Estacio  

Joell is the founder of the Square Peg Foundation. She has been an equestrian since childhood and has participated in many different disciplines including racing, polo, hunting, jumping, 3 day eventing, and reining. She has worked professionally in many facets of the equestrian industry, special events, breaking and training of young horses in addition to teaching. She has taught hundreds of students to ride. She is a registered behavioral technician and she has always been passionate about changing the way people teach. She’s an advocate for alternative education and has been published nationally in equestrian publications regarding a gentler and more creative approach to teaching students and training horses. Since she started working with developmentally challenged children, Joell has been developing a unique teaching method which resonates. Her philosophy of Inspire, Guide, Challenge, and her sensitive style of instruction have helped hundreds of students to achieve important goals. In this episode, Joell and I discuss: Introducing Square Peg students to the polo world of discipline and focus, helping them feel confident, empowered, bigger, stronger, and faster.  Advocacy for education: utilizing different learning styles, and learning outside the classroom through exploration and movement.  Square Pegs birth story: A reputation as a riding teacher with patience and teaching tough to teach students, utilizing horses that were seen as “not useful” anymore. Utilizing the “Horse Boy Method.” to cultivate and connect the students with the beautiful parts of themselves and to create a physical environment without as many sensory triggers issues as possible.  Horses respond to sensory responses and have a high level of connection. Horses will communicate with you. You just need to listen and know them.   Key Takeaways: Joell’s favorite self care practice is riding horses because it kindles her passion and brings her satisfaction.  Joell’s best advice for young women is to be open to and be on the lookout for mentors and teachers. Be aware that they don’t always come in the form you think they should. Fail your way to success, don't dwell on screw ups; it's a waste of energy.   Joell believes women can develop their own power and courage by starting with intention. Journal, meditate, create a vision board, and have quiet focused time. Use your own talents and calling to do something with conviction and to bring joy and comfort to the world and others.   "Square Peg is where everybody fits" —  Joell Dunlap   Connect with Joell:   Twitter: @SquarePegRanch Facebook: Square Peg Foundation Website: Square Peg Foundation.Org Email: joell@squarepegfoundation.org  Instagram: @squarepegranch   Book Mentioned: A Damn Fine Hand by Joell Dunlap   CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin            Show notes by Podcastologist: Kristen Braun   Audio Production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You’re the expert. Your Podcast will prove it.  

042- INTERVIEW: “What makes us different is what makes us special” with Joell Dunlap  

Katie Toliao Hurd is a member of Blauer Tactical Systems’ Mobile Training Team, a first degree Black Belt in Krav Maga and the Program Manager of Krav Maga at Combat Sports Academy (CSA) in Dublin, CA. She held a spot on the 2009 U.S. National Muaythai team that competed at IFMA, the Muaythai World Championships in Bangkok, Thailand. Katie is also a member of the Krav Maga Alliance Training Team, an MTAA Champion, a KMA Force Instructor, and was voted the Krav Maga Alliance 2017 'Instructor of the Year'.   In this episode, Katie and I discuss: The importance of giving yourself grace and not pressuring yourself to be 100% all the time, and how that can open you up to more authentic experiences. Training with impact reduction gear to more closely recreate possible scenarios in order to learn how to respond effectively when there is an actual threat. The importance of marrying your verbal skills with your non-verbal skills and how the right mindset can help you de-escalate a situation, or help you adapt when it doesn’t. Overcoming the negatives narratives women tell themselves to take charge of your own personal safety and find your inner badass.   Key Takeaways: Give yourself permission to have a bad day or not have it all figured out, you may be surprised by what opens up. The right mindset, confidence, and calm in tense situations can go a long way to de-escalating and avoiding violence. If you can de-escalate, you should de-escalate. If you can walk away, you should walk away. You don’t have to be a top athlete – anyone can be a person who can live safer, and protect themselves if they have to.   "There's something on this primal DNA deep level that makes us protectors. Maybe you haven't been able to connect with that part of yourself yet, but that's inside every single woman I've ever met. So (don’t allow) your narrative about who you are and what you're capable of prevent you from seeking out more education and skills and training and let yourself tap into that." —  Katie Toliao Hurd   Connect with Katie Toliao Hurd:   Instagram: Katie Toliao Hurd (@katiesmashhurd)  Email: kt.hurd@outlook.com    CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA: If you'd like to chat with Cynthia, sign up for your Personal Safety Preparedness Consultation with her today! Remember to subscribe to "Born to Be A Badass" so that you don't miss a single episode, and join us in the "Born to Be A Badass Collective" group on Facebook. While you're at it, won't you take a moment to write a short review and rate our show? It would be greatly appreciated! If you work in the self-defense world, are a survivor, a healer or otherwise BADASS woman and you would like to be interviewed by Cynthia, reach out at cynthia@jolicoeur.com To learn more about previous guests, listen to past episodes, and get to know your host, go to Apple Podcasts or here. Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Linkedin and check out my website    

041- INTERVIEW: Tapping Into Your Primal Badass with Katie Toliao Hurd 

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