Can you heal from abuse?  What do I do after leaving my narcissist? What does a healthy relationship look like? These concerns cross the minds of over 20 people every minute; over 28,800 people every day.  And the sad fact is, we still don’t talk about it enough.  Healing from Emotional Abuse isn’t a bandaid situation.  But it doesn’t have to be a five year process either. Millions of other survivors around the worlds entire lives have been impacted by their narcissist.  Yours doesn’t have to.  To show you how to live a free, confident and peaceful life, your host and Founder of the Healing From Emotional Abuse Philosophy, Marissa F. Cohen.   Overcoming narcissism and healing from emotional abuse are so important to your mental health and to living a life of freedom, confidence and peace.  Today, I want to discuss What Makes a good relationship.  Everybody has different expectations for what they want in a partner, and what makes up a good relationship, but there are four areas in which a relationship needs to be solid in order for it to be considered a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship needs to have communication, trust, respect and emotional support to succeed. 1. Communication Communication skills come in two forms, verbal communication and nonverbal communication. Verbal communication, is the way we speak to each other.  Do we speak to each other with encouraging words, love, respect, and kindness? Verbal communication is how we get to know each other.  Our likes and dislikes, the things that makes us tick. It’s how we argue and fight, set and learn boundaries. It’s the quickest and most efficient way to learn about each other. Nonverbal communication is body language and facial expressions.  Being observant to how your partner responds to your words and your behaviors. The things that make them smile or cry.  The ways in which their body moves in reaction to things. You learn a lot about a persons psychology by watching how they move, when they move, and communicating motions of love, acceptance and comfort. When there are barriers in communication, or situations in which we are miscommunicating or  communicating improperly, it causes discomfort and resistance.  It pushes our partner away.  And that’s a large contributor to toxic relationships.  2. Trust In toxic relationships, we are taught to not trust anyone aside from our narcissist, including ourselves.  A healthy relationship is built on trust.  Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and that includes a feeling of security, loyalty and commitment.  In toxic relationships, narcissists will lie, cheat and gaslight us, making us feel crazy and instilling us with self-doubt.  That shaky and unstable lack of trust does a lot of damage to the relationship.  In a healthy relationship, you feel secure and that it’s stable and there is a solid foundation of commitment and loyalty.  You aren’t worried that your toxic partner is cheating on you and lying about it.  You’re not worried that there is somebody else or that you need to hold on tighter to keep them around.  Your partner trusts you, and you trust them, and there’s a mutual feeling of comfort and security.3. Respect Respect is arguably the most important aspect of a healthy relationship.  Respect is showing somebody that you care, that you are valid, and that you are loved. When you respect someone, you hold them in high regard, and their opinion and interests matter to you.  You can respect someones opinion, even if you disagree.  You can respect someones boundaries, especially when you’ve experienced a narcissist, someone respecting your boundaries is really important.  You can respect someones space and wishes.  All of these amount to a very healthy balance of power, and a healthy relationship. 4. Emotional Support Humans are social creatures, which means that we require emotional support.  We have our logical side and our emotional side.  Even if one over-powers the other, we are all still motivated by emotion.  That’s why we love sentimental things, and watching movies.  They spark some sort of emotion, whether it be adrenaline, happiness, sadness, fear, etc. When we, as survivors are having bad days, or episodes or just feeling bad, we need someone to give us the emotional support that we require.  If that means that they just listen to you vent, or comfort you, or bring your favorite food, then that’s enough.  And it works both ways.  A healthy relationship is one where the playing field is equal, and both partners feel supported emotionally.  Hey! If you enjoyed this podcast, you have to check out www.MarissaFayeCohen.com/Private-Coaching. Marissa would love to develop a made-for-you healing plan to heal from emotional abuse. She does all the work, and you just show up. 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Healing From Emotional Abuse: What Makes A Good Relationship

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Healing From Emotional Abuse: How To Let Go Of A Narcissist: with Megan Olsen

Can you heal from abuse?  What do I do after leaving my narcissist? What does a healthy relationship look like? These concerns cross the minds of over 20 people every minute; over 28,800 people every day.  And the sad fact is, we still don’t talk about it enough.  Healing from Emotional Abuse isn’t a bandaid situation.  But it doesn’t have to be a five year process either. Millions of other survivors around the worlds entire lives have been impacted by their narcissist.  Yours doesn’t have to.  To show you how to live a free, confident and peaceful life, your host and Founder of the Healing From Emotional Abuse Philosophy, Marissa F. Cohen.  Overcoming narcissism and healing from emotional abuse are so important to your mental health and to living a life of freedom, confidence and peace.  Today, I want to highlight Signs of a Toxic Relationship.  It is important to be able to recognize red flags, so that we can safely avoid toxic people.  There are 11 signs of a toxic relationship.  Learn how to recognize them so you are prepared and know how to avoid toxic people. Narcissistic Deflection (Deflection)What does deflection mean? It’s diverting a conversation, topic or blame to someone else, usually the survivor.  It is playing mind games with the survivor to make them feel crazy or that they are to blame for the outcome of the narcissists behavior. Are Narcissists Loyal? (Poor Commitment)The short answer is no.  That doesn’t guarantee that your partner is cheating on you, but loyalty is also keeping promises and appointments.  Narcissists and toxic partners are notorious for leaving survivors waiting around for them, and lying. This alone makes them unreliable and undependable.  If your partner is lying to you, or dodging plans, or making you wait for them with no response or courtesy call, they aren’t being loyal, or dependable. My Partner Doesn’t Respect My Boundaries (Disrespect) Narcissists and toxic people don’t like being told no.  I mean, nobody does, but narcs especially aren’t fond of boundaries, because it limits their control.  So, in order to maintain control they will continue to disrespect and push your boundaries, and most often, blame it on you for not being clear; or apologize, but then continue to push the boundary until you give in. Some relationships can drain you, especially when the toxic person is in constant, nonstop contact, has impossible expectations or is in constant fear of gossip about them. It’s unproductive and exhausting to have to entertain these conversations. Communication and respect are two huge and important characteristics of a healthy relationship. If your partner isn’t respecting you, your wishes or your body, that’s a huge sign of a toxic relationship. Are Narcissists Spiteful? (Spiteful/Vengeful) If your partner uses words and actions as a means of revenge, they are the definition of a toxic person.   Narcissists tend to be very jealous, and also very spiteful.  They detest when other people have what they want, and that can translate to economic or career goals, material objects, people and attention.  They will often seek revenge against someone when they feel threatened, by either verbally, emotionally or physically attacking the survivor.  A healthy partnership should be building each other up, encouraging and motivating each other to be and do their best.  And if that is not the case, then your partner is a narcissist. Healthy Give and Take Relationships (Inequality) A major sign of a toxic relationship is when you have a partner who asks for help and advice but never has the time to support you. They want your attention, your help, your money, your time, but don’t reciprocate the sentiment when you need it.  The relationship revolves around them and their needs, always. How To Know If Your Relationship Is Healthy (Using Your Information Against You) In a healthy relationship, your partner will support you and not take advantage of the information they have from you. A toxic partner will use the information you’ve given them to manipulate you into doing what they want.  They will use your past or your weaknesses against you, to make you feel guilt, shame or submission to gain control. They may use personal information to demean you in front of others, or use it to manipulate you into doing what they want. This is a clear sign of a toxic relationship that you should get out of.  My Partner Doesn’t Like My Family or Friends (Isolation) Narcissists and Toxic People don’t like competition, and they don’t like it when people influence their survivors. They want to keep their partner exactly where they want them, with no outside perspectives.  If your partner is constantly bashing your friends and family members, and trying to monopolize your time, this is a big indication of an unhealthy relationship.  Lack of Integrity in Relationships (Actions Don’t Match Their “Values”) When what they say doesn’t align with their actions, that is a red flag. Narcissists know how to say all the right things, but they do nothing to back up what they say. In fact, they usually contradict themselves, and confuse survivors.  We know they know the right thing to do, but they choose to do the opposite.  It's all toxic behavior and mind games. Lack of Trust in A Relationship (Defensiveness) A general rule of thumb is, someone with a guilty conscious get’s defensive, and usually accuses the victim of the crime or behavior the narcissist is committing.  So, if your partner is accusing you of cheating or demanding that they cannot trust you, chances are, they are doing what they’re accusing you of.  And that lack of trust is an indicator of trying to isolate you from your friends and family.   10. My Partner Tries to Control Me (Controlling / Manipulation) I’ve already mentioned a few ways that narcissists and toxic partners use to control you. By controlling your time and attention, and isolating you from family and friends.  But there are also other ways that they use.  For example, making comments about your body to limit or control your eating habits.  By not-so-politely recommending you eat less or eat more in order to … fill in the blank.  They also will comment, recommend or control the clothing you’re allowed to wear, especially around people of the gender or sex you’re interested in, even if that person isn’t someone you’re interested in. If your partner, in an unhealthy and unwanted way, is monitoring your eating habits, spending habits, spiritual habits, and free-will, they are toxic, and this is a toxic relationship.  11. Narcissistic Jealousy (Jealous) The last red flag of a toxic relationship is someone who is perpetually pulling you down or holding you back from achieving your personal or professional goals. It’s healthy to have “the challenger” who pokes holes in your assumptions and makes you aware of the risks to protect you and help you gain clarity, but when this turns into perpetual negativity, it’s a toxic relationship.  You want to be with someone who encourages and motivates you.  Not someone who is jealous of your aspirations and keeps you feeling unaccomplished and unmotivated.   If any of these behaviors are things that you’re experiencing with your partner, please get help.  All of these are toxic behaviors, that will keep you feeling stuck and isolated until you take control back and leave.  I am here to help in any way I can.  Feel free to reach out to me via my website: www.MarissaFayeCohen.com or by email at me@MarissaFayeCohen.com.  I also have a Free Safety Planning Guide on my website at www.MarissaFayeCohen.com/Free-resources .  Cutting out a toxic partner is difficult, but necessary. Narcissists push boundaries and things will just get worse. Reach out to me for support.  I’m happy to help.    Schedule a Personal Call with Marissa Hey! If you enjoyed this article, you have to check out www.MarissaFayeCohen.com/Private-Coaching.  Marissa would love to develop a made-for-you healing plan to heal from emotional abuse. She does all the work, and you just show up. Stop feeling stuck, alone, and hurt, and live a free, confident, and peaceful life.  Don’t forget to subscribe to the Healing From Emotional Abuse podcast, and follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/marissafcohen, and instagram @Marissa.Faye.Cohen. 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Healing From Emotional Abuse: Signs of A Toxic Relationship

Healing From Emotional Abuse: Wrestling Speaking Out: With The Bob Culture Podcast and Daisy Deville

Can you heal from abuse?  What do I do after leaving my narcissist? What does a healthy relationship look like? These concerns cross the minds of over 20 people every minute; over 28,800 people every day.  And the sad fact is, we still don’t talk about it enough.  Healing from Emotional Abuse isn’t a bandaid situation.  But it doesn’t have to be a five year process either. Millions of other survivors around the worlds entires lives have been impacted by their narcissist.  Yours doesn’t have to.  To show you how to live a free, confident and peaceful life, your host and Founder of the Healing From Emotional Abuse Philosophy, Marissa F. Cohen. Happy New Year! And welcome to the totally refreshed and revitalized, Healing From Emotional Abuse!  Overcoming narcissism and healing from emotional abuse are so important to your mental health and to living a life of freedom, confidence and peace.  First, what is a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship can range across various types of relationships, to include romantic, platonic and familial.  Toxic relationships are generally recognized as romantic relationships, but these are not the only ones.  You can also have toxic friendships and toxic familial relationships.  “Toxic” means that the person is controlling, manipulative, abusive and narcissistic.  Someone who is harmful or damaging to you physically, emotionally, verbally, or sexually. What makes a toxic relationship is a person who uses tactics like gaslighting and manipulation to make you feel insecure, belittled, demeaned and upset.  A toxic person wants you to feel as uncomfortable as possible so they can maintain control over you, your friendships and relationships and your surroundings.  Toxic people, toxic friends and toxic partners do whatever they have to, to isolate you from other people who might have influence over you.  They make it difficult for you to trust anyone else, including yourself.  They work to make you feel alone, so they are the only people that you rely on.  They teach you how to damage yourself emotionally and damage outside relationships, giving them full power over you. What does a toxic relationship look like? Like I said, toxic relationships come in different packages, and they play mind games so you don’t see it.For example, a friend who is overly clingy, doesn’t like it when you spend time with other people, or makes you feel guilty for spending time with other people.  Manipulates you into spending time with them.  They might even go as far as to pretend to be suicidal or upset to get you to spend time with them. They are exhausting, but you feel like you’re the only person that they can count on or trust, usually because they tell you that as a means to manipulate you.  Being around them doesn’t make you feel good.  They are energy draining, but you are the person that they depend on. Do you have a friend that does this to you?  Think about the people you hang out with.  Do you feel refreshed and alive when you’re with them, or do you feel drained and exhausted?  They might be toxic. An example of a toxic family member is someone who was raised being forced to meet unrealistic expectations.  Toxic parents will generally force their children to cook, clean, do laundry and handle situations that you are not mentally or physically capable of. Sometimes, these chores and activities would interfere with school work or sleep.  Toxic parents also force their children to provide emotional support to them, as if they were the parent, and the parents were the children.  A lot of times, toxic parents will harshly criticize their children, as opposed to constructively redirecting behavior, or having the punishment match the crime.  The punishments would be outrageous in comparison to the behavior or action that was committed.  They are always right, and will harshly judge other people that you bring into your life, in order to maintain control over your surrounding and influence.  And, children of toxic parents will feel that their needs aren’t being met.  That can mean not being hugged or shown love and affection.  It can be not providing the necessities like food, clean clothes and education. And it could be not setting or creating boundaries, which in turn, influences the way the child interacts and creates boundaries in future relationships. Outside of the immediate family, toxic people can be in the extended family.  Aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins.  These toxic people will be more likely to use passive aggressive narcissism to make you look and feel bad in front of other family members.  They will usually compare you to other family members who aren’t comparable to you.  They’ll get jealous and try and compete with you, regardless of age gap or difference in personality.  They overreact to things you do or say, creating a toxic situation and uncomfortable family environment.  They are the people that will always play the victim. If they start and argument or a scene, somehow, they’ll make it seem and feel like it’s your fault. Like it’s something you did to create the problem.  They will always be right, no matter what and will often use ultimatums in order to secure their control around you.  They might use other family members to hold against you.  For example, if you have a toxic aunt, she could use her children as pawns to influence you to behave a certain way or do something for her, or you won’t get to spend time with your cousins. Do you ever feel drained leaving a family event?  Why? Think of the people in the room.  Who is it that makes you feel insecure, or always seems to have a problem with you?  They might be toxic. Toxic partners are awful.  We as humans are so drawn to connection and love that we can overlook a lot of abusive and narcissistic behavior because we want to be loved.  Toxic partners use the love you have for them against you.  They use it to create distance between you and other people, including friends and family.  They use it to make you feel guilty for making them upset, even when it really isn’t your fault.  And they use it to keep control of you.  They show it in a lot of ways, some more covert than others. Sometimes, it’ll be in the form of being clingy and over-affectionate.  Other times it will be gaslighting you, and telling you that their anger and issues were caused by something you did or said.  They will instill you with self-doubt and demean what you say, in an effort to keep you where they want you. And they will continue to push boundaries and isolate you until you leave, or worse. So let’s get you to a safe and healthy place. Last, how to get out of a toxic relationship. Leaving is the most dangerous part of being with toxic people. They don’t like when we take away their control, so be prepared for backlash and a lot of negative energy and verbal attacks, unfortunately.  Parents and partners especially can be really mean when you’re trying to leave.  They will reaffirm how much you need them, that you’ll come crawling back.  That they need you and you’re letting them down.  And it can waiver from loving and apologetic to hatred and nastiness really quickly.  The point is to keep you confused and coming back.  Be strong, and know that these are all just mind games. If you are feeling unsafe and need help figuring out a safe way to leave, follow this link for a safety planning guide.  Leaving is the strongest and boldest thing you can do for yourself, but it is also the most vulnerable.  The best way to leave any toxic situations is to leave with a plan.  Make arrangements, find a place to stay, whether it be a shelter, with someone you know, or your own place.  Be sneaky.  Don’t let them know you’re planning to leave because there will most likely be backlash.  With toxic friends, the best thing to do is start limiting time with them. Start setting boundaries.  They will try even harder to get you over there, but be prepared.  If they are the type of person who feigns suicide when you aren’t available, then know that a call to the police for a wellness check is a way to stop that kind of behavior.  If they are suicidal, the police will bring them for a psychological evaluation and keep them safe.  If they aren’t, and are using that as a way to draw you back in, it will show them that you’re not falling for it anymore.Have a plan.  Be ready for the backlash, and most importantly, trust your instincts.  Although you’ve probably learned to doubt yourself, I’m telling you to trust yourself on this one.  Leaving a toxic person behind is the best way to start your own healing. Hey! If you enjoyed this podcast, you have to check out www.MarissaFayeCohen.com/Private-Coaching.  Marissa would love to develop a made-for-you healing plan to heal from emotional abuse. She does all the work, and you just show up. 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Healing From Emotional Abuse: How To Get Out of Toxic Relationships

Hey Everyone.  My name is Marissa Faye Cohen, my website is MarissaFayeCohen.com, and I wanted to introduce myself before we start on this journey together.  For the past 11 years, I have worked closely with thousands of survivors of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, sexual assault and harassment around the world of all sexualities and genders.  I’ve published three best selling books The Breaking Through the Silence Series, and Healing From Emotional Abuse: the Three Keys for Overcoming Narcissism, all about how to heal from abuse. In these works, I use my 11 years of research and personal life experience to share my philosophy to overcoming narcissism, in order to help other survivors feel relatable, find healthy relationships, and boost confidence. That has become my life mission.  To help as many survivors heal from their emotional abuse as possible.  Between my books, the Breaking Through the Silence series, coaching programs and my Healing From Emotional Abuse Philosophy, I have created a system to help anyone suffering heal from emotional abuse. On this podcast, the goal is to answer the questions and concerns that survivors have in terms of overcoming and healing from their abuse.  Can you heal from abuse? Narcissist definition.  Is my partner a narcissist? Healing from narcissistic abuse. Steps to healing from abuse.  Confidence Exercises. Confidence.  Self Love. and Self Esteem. Healthy Relationships. What are toxic relationships? And much more. I know that what you’re feeling right now is difficult, disheartening and it feels like the pain will never go away.  But it will. I have worked with over a thousand survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse, and created a philosophy to legitimately healing from emotional abuse. And it can and will help you overcome your narcissism, and live a free, confident and peaceful life. Right now, imagine that you’re standing on a cliff, and across a deep deep canyon, is the happiest version of yourself.  You see yourself smiling, surrounded by healthy relationships and good friendships. You see yourself having fun, and laughing.  What are you doing? I have built the bridge to get you from here, where you’re standing now, to the other side.  All you have to do it let me guide you across the bridge. If you’re ready to feel free raise your fist and say YES! If you’re ready to wear confidence, raise your fist and say YES!  If you’re ready to live peacefully without fear, raise your fist and say YES! Awesome!  You’re ready to start Healing From Emotional Abuse Your abuse doesn’t define you.  It’s the steps you take to heal that will determine the rest of your life.

Healing From Emotional Abuse: How To Start Healing

Healing From Emotional Abuse: My Father is a Narcissist: with Todd Boczkowski

Healing From Emotional Abuse: Women's Health and Wellness: with September Burton

Recently, especially during quarantine, a lot of champions have been trapped in their homes with their abusers. And although they don't feel safe or happy, they are afraid to leave due to backlash from their religious establishment. I wanted to unpack that, so I invited my friend Pastor Dave, a Southern Baptist Pastor to speak on behalf of his opinions and how he manages abuse within his congregation.Thank you for listening, and supporting Champions of Abuse! To become a Partner of Breaking  Through Our Silence, and support future development and guests on the show, visit: https://www.patreon.com/BreakingthroughoursilenceCheck out our awesome BTOS Merch!  Rep the brand and let other Champions know that you Believe & Support them! https://www.teepublic.com/user/breaking-through-our-silenceFor more episodes of Breaking Through Our Silence, the podcast, visit: https://marissafayecohen.podbean.com/Also streaming on : Stitcher, Youtube, Spotify, iTunes Podcasts, Google Podcasts, iHeartRadio, & Hubhopper!If you have an anonymous question that you want me to address on an episode of Breaking Through Our Silence,  please submit it here :  https://marissafayecohen.tumblr.com/askFollow me on Social Media :facebook.com/marissafcohenBreaking Through Our Silence FB Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/3235213043163748/Insta : @Marissa.faye.cohenTwitter : @MarissaFCohenFor More Information About my Programs, Courses and Coaching, visit my Website: www.marissafayecohen.comProduced by : Brian Morelli Like, Rate, and Subscribe to Breaking Through Our Silence wherever you listen to get the newest episodes and updates!

Episode 53 : David Gilleland - Southern Baptists Against Domestic Violence

Get Your FREE COPY of  my book, 3 Signs of A Toxic Relationship, Now...   Can you heal from abuse?  What do I do after leaving my narcissist? What does a healthy relationship look like? These concerns cross the minds of over 20 people every minute; over 28,800 people every day.  And the sad fact is, we still don’t talk about it enough.  Healing from Emotional Abuse isn’t a bandaid situation.  But it doesn’t have to take years either. The lives of millions of other survivors around the worlds have been impacted by their narcissist.  Yours doesn’t have to.  To show you how to live a free, confident and peaceful life, your host and Founder of the Healing From Emotional Abuse Philosophy, Marissa F. Cohen.   Be A Good Advocate     Hello, Hello and Welcome back to Healing From Emotional Abuse!  Being a champion and overcoming our abuse is only a part of our journey.  We are a community, and should be the best champions that we can be for ourselves, but also, the most empowering advocates that we can be for someone else. Today, let’s talk about the 3 best ways to be an empowering and supportive advocate for the champions in your life.   First and foremost, you have to learn to listen.  We are inherently healers, and we all want to help.  And that’s an incredible gift that we have as humans.   We just want to help people.  But sometimes, the best way to help is to just listen. Being an active listener to someone who is trying to unknot the mess that narcissists and narcissism leave behind can be more helpful than actually solving their problems.    Sometimes, champions just need to vent to someone that wants to listen.  They don’t want advice, they just want to be heard and validated.  And that’s okay, and it’s normal.  It’s up to us as their advocate to be supportive and give them the control of that situation.   So, listen.  Listen, and validate.  Tell them that you believe them, and what happened isn’t their fault.  Encourage them to speak, and trust you, and feel comfortable and brave for speaking their truth.  Being the person a champion confides in, is big responsibility, but also a huge honor.    The second piece of advice for you is, meet them where they are.  I don’t mean physically, I mean emotionally.  The best way to make them feel comfortable is to match their tone.  If they are being quiet and calm, you should also remain quiet and calm.  If you get hyper and they are being quiet and calm when they speak, it will most likely make them want to shut down and not talk about it again.  The first time I tried to talk about my rape, I was in my college student government office with who of my colleagues.  We were alone, and I brought up that my boyfriend and I had had sex for the first time, but I really didn’t want to.  And I didn’t feel good.  And both of them, in support of me, flew off the handle and became loud and explosive in tone and in mannerisms.  They told me that what happened wasn’t right and it shouldn’t be like that.  But all I could hear were loud noises and yelling.  So, I retracted everything I said and didn’t talk about it again for 6 months.    Looking back, had that moment been handled differently, and I seriously don’t blame them for anything because they didn’t know, the healing process would have been much different for me.    Bottom line of advice number 2, meet them where they are.  Observe their mannerisms, tone and body language, and mirror that.  It will make them feel more comfortable talking to you. The third piece of advice I have for you is to Ask for consent. It doesn’t matter what your relationship to the champion is.  It could be family, best friend forever, professional help.  Always ask for consent for everything during the conversation.  When someone is abused or assaulted, their control is taken away.  Our job is to give them the confidence in themselves to be able to make the decisions in situations.  If I’m working with somebody in person, I don’t touch them in any way unless I ask.  “Can I hug you?  Can I put my hand on your shoulder?  Would you be comfortable if I held your hand?”   And if I’m on the phone and they are talking to me, I ask, “Would you prefer I listen or would you like me to give you some advice?  It’s up to you.  Is it okay if I make a comment here?”  If they’re talking to you about their experience, you’re obviously a person they trust.  This isn’t something that people are generally open about.  And for that, you should feel great honor.  I just want the situation to feel as safe and secure for everyone involved as possible.  And to do that, they have to remain in control of the conversation.   It might feel like a lot of pressure to keep these three things in mind.  Don’t be nervous.  If you accidentally slip and start giving advice, just stop yourself and ask if that’s something they want.  All of this is human nature.  We want to help.  We want to hug.  We want to coddle.  But the very best thing you could possibly do is giving them the control back.   Thank you so much for being a phenomenal and informed advocate, and helping this community rise up and overcome narcissism.   If you enjoyed this podcast, you have to check out www.MarissaFayeCohen.com/Private-Coaching. Marissa would love to develop a made-for-you healing plan to heal from emotional abuse. She does all the work, and you just show up. Stop feeling stuck, alone, and hurt, and live a free, confident, and peaceful life.  Don’t forget to subscribe to the Healing From Emotional Abuse podcast, and follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/marissafcohen, and instagram @Marissa.Faye.Cohen. 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