This is Part 2 of our conversation with Lt. Col. Dave Grossman. If you missed the first half, check out Ep 69 before listening to this episode. In this second of two episodes with him, he shared some life hacks he's learned in his career including attacking the epidemic of sleep deprivation and simple solutions to complex problems. Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is a retired US Army Ranger, paratrooper, former Westpoint psychology professor, owns five patents, has authored 12 books and his accolades go on and on. Learn more about our guest at Killology.com. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog Edited by Taylor Schroll (Taylorschroll.com/editing) 

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Ep 70: Life Hacks w/Lt. Col. Dave Grossman

Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is a retired US Army Ranger, paratrooper, former Westpoint psychology professor, owns five patents, has authored 12 books and his accolades go on and on.  In this first of two episodes with him, he discussed the sheepdog mentality and protecting those we love here in the present and doing all we can to protect their future.  Learn more about our guest at Killology.com. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog Edited by Taylor Schroll (Taylorschroll.com/editing) 

Ep 69: Sheepdog Mentality w/Lt. Col. Dave Grossman

Drowning in the depths of depression and sadness, burning with anger, and chained down by alcoholism, Jonathan Hickory couldn’t do anymore. After the loss of his father as a young boy, facing countless horrific death scenes in the line of duty, and the death of his son, Jonathan faced the threat of losing his job as a police officer, the loss of his wife and daughter, and contemplating suicide.  In this episode Jonathan Hickory shared his story of struggling with Officer PTSD and alcoholism and resilience.  Learn more about it in his book Break Every Chain. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog Edited by Taylor Schroll (Taylorschroll.com/editing) 

Ep 68: Jonathan Hickory: Break Every Chain

  Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with Kim Williamson, owner of First Responder Family Wellness Center, mental health professional, and fellow LEO wife, to talk about personal PTSI (PTSD), secondary traumatic stress, the impact on Officer involved incidents on the spouse, and the practice of resilience for law enforcement officers, first responders, and their families. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 67: First Responder Family Resilience with Kim Williamson

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings on Dr. Amy Fortney Parks to discuss the impact that this pandemic is having on our children and the anxieties that go along with that. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” The Three Phases of Psychological Response to Crisis: Emergency, Regression, and Recovery Amy’s Contact Info: Text “WISEHELP” to 66866  www.thewisefamily.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 66 - Dr. Amy Fortney Parks: Understanding and Moving Through Stress as a Family

- Feeling black and blue is about feeling a little beat up over the last week.  It's also about supporting issues related to race and supporting the law enforcement community. We can do both.  In this episode, Cyndi addresses how our brain is being impacted and our flight and fight engaged, supporting officers and their spouses, education, empathy, and self-care.   - https://proudpolicewife.com/ - https://www.embracerace.org/resources/26-childrens-books-to-support-conversations-on-race - https://booksforlittles.com/racial-diversity/ - https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/1-D3-NDhKgMsQT4bmqMyM-Y-lPf9Z3E0OELKKL2vKGhs/mobilebasic?usp=gmail - https://changingtheculturefr.com/get-educated-about-black-live-matter/ 

Black and Blue

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, and her Darling Husband celebrated 20 years of marriage and wanted to share their first responder relationship tips they have learned over the years. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Top 10 Tips: 1. Be Adaptable 2. Habits and Reactions 3. Boundaries are Important 4. Enjoy Your Time Off 5. State What You Need 6. Stand In Each Other’s Shoes 7. What You See May Not Be What’s Going On 8.Take Ownership of Your Actions and Ask For Forgiveness 9. Be Willing to Have Difficult Conversations 10. It’s Okay If They’re Not Okay “Eggshells and Living Big” Podcast: https://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-63-eggshells-and-living-big “Divorce Myth” Podcast: https://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-60-the-divorce-myth My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 65: Top 10 From The Last 20

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about the effects this pandemic is having on our minds, bodies, and relationships with our first responders. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Brene Brown- brenebrown.com Aspects of Brain Reactions: Fight or Flight, Grief, Cognitive Dissidence, and Past Trauma Bessel Van de Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/ The Body Keeps Score Book - https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 7 Aspects of Trauma – Lack of Predictability, Immobility, Loss of Connection, Numbing, Loss of Sense of Time and Sequence, Loss of Safety, and Loss of Sense of Purpose Solutions – Schedule/Routine, Plan Events, Move Your Body, Make a Dream Board, Play, Connection, Choose Mindfulness Over Numbing, Make Time for Privacy, Physical Touch, Be kind and Gentle Previous Podcasts about Breathing: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-57-yoga-for-first-responders http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-58-responding-with-resilience-kate-pieper My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 64: It's Okay To Not Be Okay

 *Bonus Podcast* In this episode of Blue Line Lifestyle, host Kelli Lowe and three of her First Responder Spouse sisters: Rebecca, Cyndi, and Allison have a Conversation of Unity, sharing tips for spouses and to help families move forward during this trying time as the world deals with the trauma of COVID-19 (Coronavirus 19). 

COVID + Anxiety = Blue Line Lifestyle Special: A Conversation of Unity Between LEOW Sisters - Allison, Kelli, Cyndi, and Rebecca

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses how to get rid of the feeling of walking on eggshells in your relationship while applying the idea of living BIG. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Ellen Kirschman - https://ellenkirschman.com/ Cooper’s Colors: https://www.bsr-inc.com/awareness-color-code-chart/ Cooper’s Colors Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell Brene Brown Rising Strong: https://www.amazon.com/Rising-Strong-Ability-Transforms-Parent/dp/081298580X Brene Brown Quote: “What boundaries do I need to set and follow to work and act from a place of integrity, so that I extend the greatest generosity when it comes to interpreting others intentions and actions?” Living BIG: Boundaries, Integrity, Generosity or Generous explanation Sponge Story Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 63: Eggshells and Living BIG

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings on one of her friends, Dr. Jodie Elder, to discuss different attachment styles and how that impacts our connection with our spouses. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Reactions to Attachment Threats: Criticism and Withdraw Attachment Styles: Dismissive, Pre-Occupied, and Fearful Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ How to Move Towards Secure Attachment: Manage Your Own Stuff and Perception of Our Partner Jodie’s Handout: https://www.dropbox.com/s/aljt01jzka94i3u/Dr.%20Jodie%20Elder%20Attachment%20and%20Connection.pdf?dl=0 Jodie’s Contact Info: Jodie_elder@hotmail.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 62: How the Heck Does Attachment Style Impact Connection?

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with her Darling Husband and chats about his 5 takeaways from Dr. Gilmartin’s Book Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Kevin Gilmartin’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 Darling Husband’s 5 Takeaways: The Job, The Whole Job, and Nothing but The Job. 2. Dealing with Hypervigilance. 3. The Burn Out. 4. What Officers Actually Control. 5. Police Work Isn’t 24/7. My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 61: My Husband Finally Read Gilmartin and The Lightbulb Came On

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, does the research to myth bust the divorce rate among law enforcement couples and hopes to give some peace of mind. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” First Responder Mental Health Conference: https://www.backingthebluedenton.com/ Podcast Episode with That Peer Support Couple: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-46-that-peer-support-couple Podcast Episode with Dr. Stephanie Conn: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-47-the-importance-of-resilience Stephanie Conn’s Book - https://www.amazon.com/Increasing-Resilience-Police-Emergency-Personnel/dp/1138643688 Jeff Shannon Police One: https://www.policeone.com/off-duty/articles/p1-first-person-the-myths-and-realities-of-cops-and-divorce-GjJKRRC3Pzzi8H0W/ Factors of Divorce Rate Trending Down: couples waiting to get married and co-habitation without nuptials Shawn McCoy and Michael Aamodt Study: https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/A-Comparison-of-Law-Enforcement-Divorce-Rates-with-McCoy-Aamodt/499077004f2e743a7c7d88237a8eb51a7684077d My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en         LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 60: The Divorce Myth

 Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with fellow law enforcement officer wife and author, Rachel Dolcine, to discuss her book Love Behind the Blue Line and her experience being married to an officer. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Rachel’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Behind-Blue-Line-Stories/dp/1945464968 Freddie Gray: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Freddie_Gray IACP: https://www.theiacpconference.org/ Sponge Story Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell Rachel’s Contact Info: Instagram - @racheljspeaks                       @love_behind_blue_line Facebook - @rachelspeaks Website – http://www.compasscts.com/ My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en         LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 59: Rachel Dolcine - Love Behind the Blue Line

 -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, chats with her colleague and fellow first responder supporter, Kate Pieper – LMFT, about how to become a resilient individual and couple in the first responder community. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        CISM - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_incident_stress_management -        EMDR - https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ -        CHP - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/California_Highway_Patrol -        CDAA - https://www.cdaa.org/ -        Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Gilmartin - https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 -        ROP - https://www.coastlinerop.net/course-fire-science.asp -        Eric Greitens’ Book- https://www.amazon.com/Resilience-Hard-Won-Wisdom-Living-Better/dp/0544705262 -        Resiliency Techniques: Gratitude, Meditation, and Community -        Brendon Burchard’s Book - https://www.amazon.com/High-Performance-Habits-Brendon-Burchard-ebook/dp/B072N6MQ5V/ref=sr_1_2?crid=NMP2C9RLOU53&keywords=brendon+burchard+books&qid=1573587311&s=digital-text&sprefix=brendon+burchard%2Cdigital-text%2C303&sr=1-2 -        Tactical Breathing - http://onresilience.com/2011/06/02/tactical-breathing-can-stop-stress-on-the-spot/ -        Kate’s Website: https://www.katepieperlmft.com/ -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

Episode 58 - Responding with Resilience: Kate Pieper

Are you in a relationship with a first responder or a law enforcement officer? Hey! I know what that is like! Code4Couples provides support and helpful information to keep your relationship safe and Code 4. I am Cyndi Doyle, a licensed professional counselor as well as a law enforcement officer wife, and I want to share my experiences and my therapeutic background as well as bringing in great guests in hopes to help keep relationships for our hometown heroes safe. We will be talking relationship issues, law-enforcement culture, mental health, and other related topics!. It’s a tough relationship to be in but I hope this podcast will be a good resource for you and your first responder or LEO to use in order to make things Code 4.

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