It’s my birthday week - I&apos;m 48 - and I thought I’d share five big birthday thoughts for you. This episode is a bit sweary so one for your earphones if you have little ones around.So what&apos;s this episode really about?Life is RIDICULOUS - and we are constantly making this up.We are in this super interesting time of trying to identify ourselves - all of us yelling at each other: THIS IS ME. THIS IS NOT ME. Each of us is a miracle – I take a deep dive into why this is, including the fact that the odds any of us exist at all is so infinitesimally small as to be miraculous.BECOMING looks different to all of us. And we can have many lives (for me this includes the life when I’m a mother of five living in Wales, a pagan lesbian living at Salmon Creek Farm in California, or a lonely violin playing heiress living in the Barbican!).Why I feel like we are living in the apocalypse. And all is well.Why you should listenIt’s fun to step back and take an eagle-eyed view of life! This can also be super helpful for our self-doubt if it gets tangled up in the minutiae of daily life.Links:Alan Watts videoThe odds of you existing at all.You can quote me on that!“Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.” – Alan Watts“If you are resilient, let yourself fall apart. If you are controlling, practice surrender. If you are a perfectionist, be as imperfect as you can. If you are a dreamy unfinished-get something done. If you are locked in regret, forgive yourself. If you feel like you are constantly seeking the answer, practice tuning into your own intuitive responses. If you are super attached to your identities, play with alternative fantasy realities.” – Sas PetherickLike what you hear? Why not help me reach more ears (and give my self-belief a boost) with a 5-star rating?

Courage & Spice: the podcast for humans with Self-doubt

Big Birthday Thoughts

Hello folks if you aren’t following Keri Jarvis on Instagram then what are you even doing here?! Keri is an audacious feminist, a socialist, a speaker and leader of courses and business masterminds and a self belief coach. But more importantly, she a coach who is hear to answer, ‘who do you think you are?’We have just spent the last six months together in the Self Belief Business Academy and Keri is infectious in the best way, I just know you are going to love our conversation!So what is this episode really about?The feminist awakening that happens when you become a mother.How women that don’t become mothers embark on that feminist journey.Looking at 90’s music and Gen.X movies with a feminist lens and what comes up with that!Moving away from self care mode into community care and how helping others without being paid is a middle finger to capitalism.What to do with your anger now you&apos;re no longer a teenager.Why you should listen:When you care for your community and when you show up for others who have a more marginalised identity than you, but even if they don’t, its helps those people but it ultimately helps you too.Links:The Descent of Man - Grayson Perry What White People Can Do Next: From Allyship to Coalition - Emma Dabiri You can quote me on that!“ The way that patriarchy, capitalism and white supremacy work is that it doesn’t work for men either.” - Sas Petherick“ Taking time away from paid productivity to doing nice things for other people, is in itself a finger to capitalism.” Keri JarvisLike what you hear? Why not help me reach more ears (and give my self-belief a boost) with a 5-star rating?

Being Audacious with Keri Jarvis

Perfectionism is a protective belief that if you were perfect you will be safe. That&apos;s the bottom line. It can be any area of your life. It is also one of the most subtle and sophisticated forms of self-doubt. In this episode, we are going to talk about what perfectionism actually is in relation to self-doubt, but also a little bit about how this shows up for you, particularly in that protective self-doubt, the way we try to keep ourselves safe and hold ourselves back. I’m also going to talk about what it means to let go of perfectionism, kinda juicy don’t you think? So what’s this episode really about? What are these sneaky protective perfectionist beliefs and how do you know you have them? How staying in possibility protects us from success. The cycle feeds the self-doubt stories we tell ourselves. How perfectionism shows up in four different forms of protection. Why you should listen This episode is especially for those who identify with being a perfectionist, but it’s also for those of you who seem pretty ok with your perfectionist tendencies! And if you are a fellow practitioner – I invite you to noodle on what it means to you to be ‘a good coach’ and just see what pops up that might be related to perfectionism – about who you have to be, what you are not allowed to feel, what is required of you on social media, from clients, how much income you should be making, the qualifications and training you need. Links The four distinct types of ProtectorYou can quote me on that!“Self-doubt is all or nothing. This or that. Always or never. No one or everyone. It&apos;s absolute.” - Sas Petherick. "Perfectionism makes it impossible to appreciate what you have right now. Who you are right now. What you are capable of right now.” - Sas Petherick.Like what you hear?  Why not help me reach more ears (and give my self-belief a boost) with a 5-star rating?

Letting Go of Perfectionism

In this episode, I&apos;m talking with Ellie Swift, Marketing and Mindset coach, who is also my business coach. We&apos;ve been working together for almost a year and in that time my business has completely changed. I was really ready for things to shift when we started working together and I would never have believed it would look the way it does today! Ellie is a triple threat of strategy, marketing and mindset, all wrapped up in the perkiest form a human can have, I&apos;m sure you will love her as much as I do!So what&apos;s this episode really about? There is no formula or secret to business, don&apos;t chase the secret, it&apos;s a waste of time!Implement a strategy, focus on your marketing, honour your mindset. that is the key to running a successful business. Taking the driving seat as the CEO - owning what you do and how you do it as a business owner. Why you should listen. Letting go of what you think you should be doing in your business, what was expected of you growing up and instead go with what your heart and gut tell you - then making things happen from that place. Links:Follow Ellie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elliehswift/You can quote me on that:" I wish women understood just how powerful they are when they connect back to themselves and their self-belief." - Ellie Swift" There has to be value in what you do, people need to want to walk with you. We get so used to &apos;polishing the turd&apos; we forget what is the unique reason and way we are doing this thing." - Sas Petherick. Like what you hear? Why not help me reach more ears (and give my self-belief a boost) with a 5-star rating?

You Can't Polish a Turd with Ellie Swift

Welcome back! If you enjoy a bit of ‘behind the scenes’ details, I’m sharing what we’ve been up to over the Summer: a brand new website, a bespoke learning platform, sorting out our back-end systems, new team members – its been a fun time.I share the three key questions I’ve been asking to help guide our approach to shorter and more focused work weeks. Plus: if you are looking for some simple ways to get momentum for the new school terms, this episode is a must listen. I’m sharing three tiny ways to begin to change how you approach your day: at home, at work and in your business.Summer Reading List:All Families are Psychotic, Douglas CouplandAssembly, Natasha BrownAtomic Habits, James ClearBlack Rabbit Hall, Eve ChaseCircus of Wonders, Elizabeth MacnealDaisy Jones and the Six, Taylor Jenkins ReidFull Automated Luxury Communism, Aaron BastaniGreat Circle, Maggie ShipsteadGreenwood, Michael ChristieLight Perpetual, Francis SpuffordLuckenbooth, Jenni FaganMalibu Rising, Taylor Jenkins Reid Miss Benson’s Beetle, Rachel JoyceNoone is talking about this, Patricia LockwoodThe House on Fripp IslandThe Lamplighters, Emma StonexThe Lucky Escape, Laura Jane WilliamsThe Weekend, Charlotte WoodThreadneedle, Cari ThomasPodcasts:Comfort Eating, Grace DentEzra Klien PodcastPump up your Pod, Bamby MediaSmartless, Jason Bateman, Will Arnett and Shaun HayesTell me something true, Laura McKowenTele!BritanniaNever Have I EverNine Perfect StrangersMare of EasttownTed LassoWhite Lotus

That Back to School Feeling!

What happens when a self-confessed over-functioner decides to take the summer off? Well in my case, a shit tonne of discomfort. In this episode I wanted to share what happened after I realised I was edging close to burn-out and that I needed more than just a week off. What it has been like to create two whole months of much reduced working hours. How it has felt to stop doing things, to let people down and to delay some projects. I hope you see this as a massive permission slip to let yourself off the hook of the productivity merry-go-round.After this episode, Courage and Spice will be taking the summer off and we&apos;ll be back in September!

It's Safe to Rest

So fun to be in conversation with Rae McDaniel! Rae is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor,  a Gender and Certified Sex Therapist and Coach who works with folks feeling anxious and lost about a transition they’re experiencing in sex, gender, sexual identity, or relationships.  Having been raised by travelling puppeteer missionaries, Rae also has the most incredible story of becoming who they are.Rae and I talk about the immense agency, freedom, pleasure and play that is possible when we begin to explore our identities. This is a rich and hopeful conversation. Enjoy :)Find out more:Connect with Rae: Practical AudacityJoin Rae’s Genderfck programRae on the gram: @practicalaudacity

The Courage to Become Yourself with Rae McDaniel

Thinking in binaries – it&apos;s this or it’s that, I’m a success or a failure; emotions, entire food groups, people are either good or bad – is a massive part of how our self-doubt holds us back.The sneaky thing is that all or nothing thinking can feel necessary and legitimate! But it is always an illusion of safety.In this eisode we explore how all or nothing thinking might be showing up for you, depending on how your protective self-doubt is organised. More:Episode 63 Self-doubt Drama (introduction to the Four Faces of the Protector framework)(link to https://courageandspice.buzzsprout.com/1673158/7917325-self-doubt-drama-part-1)Book a Velocity Session to get coached on your all or nothing thinking(link to https://www.saspetherick.com/match/)

All or Nothing Thinking

Two Listener Letters for you today on what to do when you are feeling disappointed in other people. Our first letter is from Joanne who writes one of the funniest letters I’ve received – about her sister-in-law who won’t get a Covid vaccine. And another letter from a trainee coach who is feeling disappointed and disillusioned by her teacher and is wondering if the whole coaching industry is a pyramid scheme.We talk about how this is always an opportunity for being in choice and for getting clear on what’s ok and not ok for us.If you have a self-doubty challenge or dilemma or a question you’d like me to weigh in on, please do email all the things to hello@saspetherick.com

I'm So Disappointed in You

For all you self-employed folks out there, who feel a bit confused, hesitant, and maybe a bit anxious about legal compliance, this episode is for you.Ingrid Fernandez of Dec + Dash Legal Consulting joins us to chat about all things legal for your business. Ingrid is a lawyer, parent, small business owner – she aces! She knows how hard it can be to wear all the hats and be all the things when you are self-employed. Ingrid has an amazing ability to make the law simple, accessible and easy to understand.https://www.instagram.com/decanddash_ingrid/

Business Boundaries with Ingrid Fernandez

This week we are opening up the mailbag for a couple of Listener Letters about self-doubt and social media. Shannon is getting stuck in comparison and Mariki is feeling uncomfortable with her constant checking habit.If you find your self-doubt is activated by social media (in other words if you have a human brain) then this episode is for you. We talk about what might be going on underneath these protective beliefs and behaviours and some practical steps for Shannon, Mariki (and you) to take. More info:Love notes to your clients from Kelly Diels: www.kellydiels.com + @kelly.dielsIf you have a dilemma, challenge or a self-doubty situation that is troubling you I want to help. Write to me – sas@saspetherick.com - and I’ll create a podcast episode especially for you. 

Self-Doubt & Social Media

Self-belief Coaching is about understanding the root causes of the doubts, worries, and fears that hold you back.  We explore the very good reasons why they are showing up and how you can take care of yourself while you try new ways of living more bravely.We are about to launch Self-belief Coach Match which is an awesome new matchmaking service for you to work with experienced practitioners.  These are experienced coaches that I have personally trained in the Self-belief Coaching Academy. They all bring their own flavour of magic to this work!Today’s episode is about working with a coach – the three signs for how you know you are ready and the outcomes you can expect.

3 signs you are ready for Self-belief Coaching

How do you organise your time? If you are constantly overwhelmed and this leads to procrastination or scattered results, I can HEAVILY relate. In today’s episode I’m sharing how I have reclaimed my time, and found a way to do deep work – where I am able to complete what’s in front on me without getting distracted. I share the way I organise my week as well as what I no longer do, and how this has created a lot more focus, finishing things(!) and fulfilment.References:Stacey Boheman – Cognitive LoadSelf-belief Coach Match – a matchmaking service to find an experienced and qualified practitioner that I have personally trained.  Available in May!

Deep Work

Angela Browne has been a teacher, Headteacher and Executive Leader for the last twenty years, she’s set up a free school, and in recent years become a TEDx speaker, author, coach and consultant. Alongside her consultancy for organisations who want to get their diversity, equity and inclusion strategy right. She is a transformational coach for women she calls luminaries – successful women who are ready for more nurturing and compassion so they can influence and impact the world.We talk about Angela’s experience of difficult workplaces where we are not permitted to show emotion, let alone bring our full humanity. She shares her experience of choosing to lead from a full heart.Angela’s wisdom is a great listen for anyone who has tried to survive in a difficult organisation.References:Angela Browne: Website | emailSelf-belief Coach Match – a matchmaking service to find an experienced and qualified practitioner that I have personally trained.  Available in May!

The Courage to Lead in Difficult Workplaces with Angela Browne

Do you overthink as if it were an Olympic sport and you are actually in training for medal contention? Do you find yourself replaying conversations hours or even days afterwards? Are you prone to never deciding? This episode is for you my friend!Overthinking is a massive time and energy sucker but the good news is overthinking is a habit. And like all habits, it can be unlearned with some practice.So in this episode we’ll explore what overthinking actually is, what causes it, and then walk through some practical exercises you can experiment with to stop overthinking so much.Submit your Listener Letter - write in – sas@saspetherick.com - tell me everything! Just let me know if you want to be anonymous.Self-belief Coach Match – a matchmaking service to find an experienced and qualified practitioner that I have personally trained.  Available in May!

Overthinking Olympics

If self-doubt is holding you back in your relationships, career, creativity or your business, Courage & Spice is especially for you. You’ll find inspiring conversations about all things self-doubt - including real-life stories and research-led approaches to help you navigate through it. I’m Sas Petherick and my work is all about helping you cultivate self-belief - my Master's research was a deep study into the phenomenological experience of self-doubt - I’m absolutely fascinated by it. More goodness for you: www.saspetherick.com

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