It all began with a kiss. A simple gesture of togetherness. The crowned Queen and the hooded Catsuit. The darkness overwhelming me, looking to be brought into the light.

Dating Kinky

GUEST POST: The Pain of Healing

"All the red flags were there and she just didn't see them."

GUEST POST: The Effects of NRE & Misinterpretations

It's so common, it's a meme. A feminine-presenting person joins a dating site, and suddenly hot dogs are thrown at them. Offer after offer pours in. It's just magic. And it's totally FREE!

The hot dogs keep coming...

There are so many reasons I don't give blow jobs. I was thinking about it this morning, and thought I'd write them out, like a top ten.

Why I don't give blow jobs - a top 10 list

Team ME: personal accountability and taking responsibility. Team WE: community responsibility for the safety of it's members. For me, it's team ME.

Are you team ME or team WE?

Emotions in my mind are simply feedback. They are not good or bad. They simply are.

Can emotions be wrong?

ANYTHING can matter to someone. Nothing matters to everyone.

What CAN matter: anything. What must matter: nothing.

Lies. I can't begin to say in one podcast everything I have to say about lies. They are both fascinating and abhorrent to me.

Lies, Damned Lies And Consent

Some say, "The worst they can do is say no." They're wrong, IMO.

"The worst they can do is say no."

Do you want a relationship where you can just do what you want? Is it possible?

Let them do what they wanna...

Everyone who attended a party or called them friends is assumed to have been part of the cover up. Because, "Well, of COURSE they knew..." Sure. OF COURSE.

Of COURSE they knew... 

In one ancient Greek myth, Zeus and Hera argue about whether men or women enjoy sex more. They ask the prophet Tiresias, whom Hera had once transformed into a woman, to settle the debate. He answers, “if sexual pleasure were divided into ten parts, only one part would go to the man, and and nine parts to the woman.”

I Do NOT Have The Libido Of A Man!

I was dating to reach a specific OUTCOME. I was trying hard to project my best image. Every date was a chance to perform and win (or lose).

If dating feels like drudgery, I have some suggestions.

I act as if someone is trustworthy until they give me proof they are not. But I don't really TRUST them.

"I trust until they show me they can't be trusted."

A ‘cast about love, sex, romance, and kink.

hubhopper

Dating Kinky

hubhopper