delightyourmarriage.com/minvite Why not have the best Christmas & New Years you've ever had with your wife!? Join Masculinity Reclaimed! On this audio you'll hear a graduate who says, he's "cheap cheap cheap." But of this course... "what's more valuable than a peaceful loving marriage? It's priceless".  Looking forward to having you on the inside!  Everything closes down tonight: 11:59pmEST delightyourmarriage.com/minvite

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Masculinity Reclaimed (the program these gents took to transform their lives, by God's grace) has opened enrollment and it all closes down this Monday, October 18, 2021 11:59pm EST delightyourmarriage.com/minvite -- How frequently have you heard of marriages "on the rocks" or getting divorced? And how frequently are you hearing of marriages transformed and healed and better than when they were dating! (In just 3 months!?!?!?!)   HERE!   God is doing it HERE!    I want your faith to be inspired and encouraged and for you to feel true HOPE that if it can happen for him and him and him and him and him and him and him... It could happen for you! (And these are ONLY the men from the program who are brave enough to have their face and voice out on the internet for all to hear/see!) It's a movement and we have the largest turn out we've ever had in the free Men's Masterclass! And men are joining Masculinity Reclaimed left and right.    Now is your time -- you owe it to yourself to find out if this is where God would want you in this season.   Find out all the details: delightyourmarriage.com/minvite   (If you have a friend who needs hope, send them this podcast, you may be the only one who helps him see that things could really be different if he was just willing to step up. Thank you 

309-Rapid-Fire Intimacy Transformations, Part 2

If you're looking for hope that your marriage or intimacy could change, you've found it.  These are rapid-fire stories of how these men's marriages literally transformed in simply 3 months.  Here are these guys saying in rapid-fire interviews: "Now, it's better than when we were dating" "She initiated 5x in a week" and she didn't know he was doing the program. "Our emotional connection is so much better than it was...she's softening" "Our intimacy is night and day different"    If it can happen for them, why not you? I bet you'll hear your own story in theirs.   The Masculinity Reclaimed program is what they did and now God has transformed intimacy for their marriages! Listen in to hear hope and encouragement!   Join the Masculinity Reclaimed program before it all closes down 11:59pmEST on Monday Oct 18, 2021 delightyourmarriage.com   Blessings, Belah   PS - Once you go through MR, I'd like to add your testimonial to the list---it's pretty long at this point, but I want yours too :) Why not have the most amazing Christmas and New Year you've ever had! If you start now, that'll be a reality! Join us -- delightyourmarriage.com

308-When YOU Lead... Rapid Fire Intimacy Transformations

delightyourmarriage.com/minvite   If you join within the first day, you can get the fast-action bonus Team Strategy Session with Belah!   Hope to see you on the inside! Belah

Enrollment Opened! Here's what Masculinity Reclaimed is about

delightym.com Join us!  Some gents have met together to go through the material carefully after each class (like a Bible Study!). Some men have moved their vacation schedules! Some men asked if they should take off work to make sure they can be a part.  Our team does an amazing job of making this a fantastic experience for the attendees -- very interactive with quizzes, points, prizes and most of all an opportunity to gain the perspective and tools that could change your marriage forever! Join us, Oct 11, 12 & 13 delightym.com

Just started: Men's Masterclass Oct 11, 12 & 13!

This Monday -- Oct 11 is when the Men's Masterclass begins -- sign up delightym.com and please send it to your friend who may need this. --Now to the show!-- I think all the wives will want their husbands to listen to this one.    Because I have the good fortune of working with men every (work) day and hearing their unfiltered thoughts about intimacy... I can help you understand why your wife often rejects you.   One of the major truths is that it's SCARY to initiate sex with your wife.    So, you probably do...   But in general, it's a half-invested way, in hopes that her rejection won't feel so painful. Because from experience it has been rejected, even your best attempts.   Fast forward to today.    Now, because a husband's attempt at enticing his wife to make love is so "inadequate" for fear of rejection. (Jfyi "inadequate" was the thesaurus's replacement for "lame" :) ) For this reason, the wife naturally would reject it.   But what if we took the fear out of this exchange entirely? And your enticing her towards intimacy was filling for her and could even be successful!?   AND you're not full of fear.   Is that even possible? I think with these insights, you will be well on your way. to invite a wife--who is never in the mood--  to be in the mood!   -- Jfyi, I go a lot deeper in all of this in a systematized and even templated way in one of the bonus courses, "Romantic Initiating: Start the way she craves". It's part of the Masculinity Reclaimed program.  If you sign up for the men's masterclass you'll find out all of the details. Join the free Men's Masterclass starting Oct 11 -- sign up ASAP delightym.com  We all have someone who needs help in their marriage, I would be honored and I encourage you to have the courage to send them this way! delightym.com 

308-How to Get Her In the Mood (& Turn Her On)

He does not know it will cost him his life.   Sounds like a horror movie -- where the killer is waiting in the woods without the person knowing. But the person should never have come into the haunted house in the first place -- if only he knew it would cost him his life. (Isn't that how those horror movies go? I don't actually know, I don't watch them.)   But, my hope is that this episode would grab you at your core.    I hope it does.    Our society says the absolute opposite of this about sexual sin.   It's so sad and so awful the way sex outside of marriage is touted in our society as "normal" and even "healthy".   Oh but it grieves God. And it destroys a man's soul.    "He does not know it will cost him his life". Prov 7:23   So I want to ring the bell. I want to yell in the streets -- you don't know the danger. You can't see the wreckage, but it is happening whether you see it or not.    So, much of Proverbs warns against the temptation of the wrong way of sex (and so many other places explicitly as well as embedded in stories of men who made these mistakes themselves).   It is a powerful warning.  I hope and pray this episode shakes you from your slumber. And puts the fear of God in you so you no longer see yourself as a victim but as one who "does not even go near her corner".   Sexual sin should NOT be trifled with. You know what sexual sin is for you (is it in reality or fantasy... all of that is the sin we are talking about.)  May you see the see evil and hide yourself, "But the naive proceed, and pay the penalty" Prv 22:3 That it might not cost you your life.   Blessings, Belah   PS - Join the free Men's Masterclass: Passionize Your Marriage (even if you're the only one doing the work!) starting Oct 11 PPS - If you know your friend needs this material, invite them to the masterclass send him to delightym.com 

307-He does not know it will cost him his life

Men's Masterclass Oct 11, 12 & 13! It's free but register ASAP

Get inspired and encouraged by Nick's story. It's amazing! They were miserable. He had plenty of ministry and church background. He certainly tried his best! They had 5-kids, including a brand new baby. But he and she had resigned themselves to misery. He didn't even want his kids to get married because it was so painful for both of them. But in 6 weeks it all turned around, by God's grace!   Why do I share this and other stories of God's transformation? 1 - Because you need faith that YOUR marriage can change.  2 - You can get specific insights that Nick changed and why his wife transformed.  3 - And to convince you that you need to take the free Masterclass coming up in October 11, 12 & 13.   delightym.com can get you straight to the Free Men's Masterclass sign up. (It's easier to type than delightyourmarriage.com but both will get you to the registration page!)   (To help spread the word about DYM--even internationally to countries where evangelizing carries the death penalty (not an exaggeration!)--leave a 5-star iTunes review, here's how: delightym.com/itunes )   Love,  Belah   PS - Be sure to join us on the FREE Men's Masterclass - delightym.com Oct 11, 12 & 13

306-"Resigned Myself to Misery" to "Happiest We've Ever Been." Nick's Transformation Story

Our society today so often wants to ignore God's design and essentially forget the fear of the Lord. But, he made men and women in His image and those uniquenesses are incredible! Physiological, psychological, emotional, and sexual...UNIQUE. Each of our uniquenesses is God's glory revealed. It's our opportunity to search out His glory through each other.  And it makes sense that the enemy wants to undermine God's design in every way that he can. One way is pretending that we're the same.  Why is this bad? Well, husbands assume their wives are intentionally hurting them because she is "withholding" love (in the unique way he receives it), thus grounds for unfaithfulness/divorce/all manner of destruction. And wives assume their husbands are intentionally hurting them because he is "withholding" love (in the unique way she receives it), thus grounds for unfaithfulness/divorce/all manner of destruction. But if we start with the perspective: My spouse, my "ezer kə·neḡ·dōw" (from Gen 2:18), is WILDLY different than me because God made him/her that way. They desire, love, enjoy, crave completely different things than I do---let me discover what those things are! In sum: assume you are completely different than your spouse and that you can learn how to love them the way they receive love.  "Making love" rather than having sex is a vital piece. Listen in to learn more. I'm praying and rooting for you in this! Blessings, Belah PS - Men: your free masterclass is right around the corner starting October 11 (don't miss it, add it to your calendar!) and sign up delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass

305-Fear God and Remember to "Make Love"

Pastor Nathan's wife had abuse/trauma growing up that severely inhibited her sexual desire and affection with him.  They were good people and she wanted to love him well, but couldn't because of her past.  And her libido was SO low.  Pastor Nathan went through the Masculinity Reclaimed program and his wife transformed before his eyes. (She didn't do a program). His favorite moment was when he said after a very passionate experience and he said "thank you"--she responded "well, it was because I wanted it so badly"! -- Pastor Todd & Donna had a great marriage. (Donna joined him for this interview!) They come from a long line of pastors and are very busy doing a lot for others.  And it was really good -- but intimacy was physically painful for Donna and she also had low drive. Pastor Todd joined the MR program (almost by accident) and he felt like he didn't belong there because everyone seemed to have it much worse.  And he felt that her physical pain wasn't because of him at all.  But, he took a step of faith and signed up. She didn't do a program. BUT... through the program SHE started initiating way more than ever and she didn't even notice. She started enjoying it more and their marriage has flourished! He has a Masters in Family Life Ministry said in an email to me: "My wife and I have been to and led MANY Christian marriage conferences and retreats and Bible studies and have watched many marriage videos and read many books and I have done pre-marriage counseling with couples in my role as a pastor and camp director, but I have never experienced anything as comprehensive and effective as Masculinity Reclaimed!" --- Excited for you to hear these two mens' stories, as professionals in the field God has used MR to help their own marriages and I am SO honored, humbled and grateful. Blessings, Belah PS - If you want to see what MR is all about and get some fantastic free training, sign up for the Free Men's Masterclass coming up next month: October 11, 2021 ( delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass ) 

304-No Desire Due to Abuse, But Now "I Just Want It So Bad!" Testimonials with Two Pastors

This is the next part of Communication Secrets and I think it's an important addendum.    We talk about what to do when you're disappointed with your spouse.    When you want them to change.    When you feel they were irresponsible.   I have two examples for you:  1 - When a friend was irresponsible and God brought conviction even when He kept me from saying anything. 2 - When I was irresponsible (I know---unbelievable!) and God brought conviction even when my husband didn't say anything.   I hope this brings you encouragement, direction, and skills as you attempt to live God's way in your marriage.   Love,  Belah   PS - The free Masterclass is coming up soon (for a limited time) and I encourage you to sign up ASAP so you don't miss it! delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass PPS - I'm excited to invite you to an "Intimacy Secrets Summit" that I was honored to be a part of. A superstar cast of intimacy experts that I would encourage you to get a seat with! Coming up next week!

303-Communication Secrets - Part 2

So much stress revolves around communication. I've been there! My husband and I have miscommunications everyday. Today, for example, I was telling him about a sore in my mouth and he was sure I was talking about Europe.  That is silly and allowed for laughter. But what about when someone is lost and just hoping for the other to quickly look up directions. Or when you're in a stressful situation and one of you is incomprehensible (to you).  Well, I want to invite you to reframe what good communication is.  I want to invite you to consider what really matters in communication with your spouse.  I try to debunk some unhelpful cliches: "Your spouse should be your best friend", or "You have to be compatible with someone to be happy", or "If you don't connect on common interests, you'll die a miserable, lonely, painful death.” Alright, that last one isn't a cliche I've heard! (but maybe have felt?) Let's get some fun back in our lives and let miscommunication be the fodder!   Blessings, Belah PS If you need immediate help in your marriage and you've seen some changes from podcasts so far, now is the time to let that inertia grow into long term transformation with training and tailored support. So if that's what you need, get on the phone with a Clarity Advisor and they'll see if we are the right fit for your situation: delightyourmarriage.com/cc

302-Communication Secrets

Two brothers were at the playground the other day.  I was talking to their mom. This happens to be a beautiful playground with a huge fountain and amazing monkey bars, places to run, sand, swings, ride-on toys, and loads of other kids to play with.  But guess what these two did? They fought over the same circular "stool" to stand on! The mom and I laughed. With everything available for them to do, THAT is what they had to fight about. Then I think about God.  We get into squabbles with our spouses. Over... Who told the story most correctly, who knows the quickest way to the store, what they really meant by that phrase, whether or not they're late, who squishes the toothpaste out correctly... Oh... Higher than the heavens are above the earth are His thoughts higher than our thoughts, are His ways higher than our ways. God have mercy! May we get it right...get into God's will for us.  That starts with the fear of the Lord. The fear of the Lord puts our lives, habits, tiny things we do, and ways of being into the perspective of eternity. I talk about how vital it is to get into the Word in order to see things correctly. We can have absolute faith in the Word when we pursue people who are atheists. The discipline is called "Apologetics" and I encourage you to pursue it to bolster your faith and then get on with what God wants you to do in this world. ...And let me tell you it doesn't include squabbles about toothpaste (or other things that are at that level of small, childish thinking.) Listen in for perspective shifts and encouragement.   Blessings,   Belah PS - Go to delightyourmarriage.com/cc to have a Clarity Call with a Clarity Advisor to get help for your marriage right away!

301-Fear God and Forget the Toothpaste

I really do mean this title.  I keep seeing miracles, but when people don't recognize God's working in their lives... it may not continue.  It seems that sometimes people can get so fixed in a mindset of misery that when God does a miracle, they can think it was just a fluke and go back to their same ways of thinking.  The problem with that is, when your wife does something out of the ordinary and you don't thank God for it and have a grateful heart about it, she thinks it didn't matter to you and doesn't do that, or anything more, again. Or, if your husband finally does some movement in the direction you've desperately prayed for him to go, but you don't believe it's really real, he decides it doesn't really matter to you so he decides he won't do that (very vulnerable) thing again. We have to recognize God's miracle, let go of the past, trust His hand in our lives and live like He has done the work.  Ten lepers were healed. Jesus didn't call it faith that they were healed. He called it faith when the one leper came back and praised God for the healing. I don't think it was that they weren't grateful. I think they doubted the miracle. Maybe it was a fluke. Maybe it would have happened anyway. Maybe it won't last.  And the problem is, from the story, Jesus only said, "Your faith has made you well," to the one who praised God for the miracle.  Sadly, I don't know if those other 9 got to keep their miracle...  I encourage you to recognize God's hand in your life. Call it a miracle. Praise God for it and witness Him continuing to work in your life.    Blessings, Belah PS - If you need immediate help in your marriage, sign up for a Clarity Call where a Clarity Advisor (trained by me and a graduate from DYM programs themselves) will help discern if we can help and what the right next step would be! delightyourmarriage.com/cc

300-Recognize God's Hand in Your Marriage...Or Else

Hi! I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage! Join us, as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and marriage experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice, and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive! Check out www.delightyourmarriage.com for your free gift!

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