When you think of sex education, what springs to mind? I bet a mildly awkward class with a mildly uncomfortable teacher talking about periods, where babies come from, and possibly putting a condom on a wooden penis. Does that sound about right?We often think sex education is for kids, but the sex ed we get as kids from parents and schools is lacking, so we get a lot of our info from friends and media. It is rare that we get realistic sex education and even rarer to get queer sex education as kids or teens. On this episode, I talk to Eva Bloom, sex educator extraordinaire, about sex ed for adults: why we need it, why it’s important, and why queering things up is beneficial for everyone.Sex Ed! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out!Check out Eva's upcoming course that starts October 26!: Fuck the Patriarchy, Fuck Yourself Find Eva on YouTube, Instagram, and Tik Tok as What's My Body Doing?Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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Sex Education: Not Just for Kids

This is the 3rd episode in a 3-part series on monogamy and nonmonogamy. In this episode I will explain consensual nonmonogamy (CNM), which can be broadly defined as any type of relationship where people are having sexual, romantic, or intimate relationships with more than one person. As a researcher, educator, and practitioner of CNM, I am used to thinking about and talking about it all the time, so to get some perspective, I brought in my monogamous podcast collaborator, Matt Tunnacliffe to ask questions from a somewhat confused monogamist.Consensual Non-monogamy! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out!Links from this episodeAmerican Psychological Association, Division 44 Committee on Consensual Nonmonogamy The Ethical SlutScript for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance and co-hosting by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Questions from a Confused Monogamist

Canada and the U.S. (and many other societies) are completely obsessed with monogamy. And by obsessed, I mean, they structure their entire social and legal systems around the assumption of monogamous relationships. In this episode, part 2 in the series about monogamy and nonmonogamy, we delve in the the "why" behind the monogamy preference. Is it biology? Is it culture? Listen now to find out!Monogamy! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out! Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

41 - Why are You So Obsessed with Monogamy?

One of my areas of research is monogamy and nonmonogamy. One of the questions I have been interested in since early on is how do we define monogamy? I started with monogamous and nonmonogamous voles. But it turns out, the monogamous voles aren't even sexually monogamous. Are any animals monogamous? What about humans? What about you? How do you define monogamy? Do people in your life define it the same way? Have you ever had a detailed conversation about what monogamy means to you? This and many more questions in this episode of Do We Know Things? Monogamy, what do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out!Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

40 - What is Monogamy?

Whew. It's summer. It's hot. I'm tired!Do We Know Things? is taking a break, but will be back on Aug 30 with the first episode in a 3-part series on monogamy and nonmonogamy. In this mini-episode, I have some g-spot updates and a question for listeners! Also, if you are looking for a new research-y podcast, I highly recommend my new fave Maintenance Phase podcast: Wellness & weight loss, debunked & decoded.Find the script for this episode with notes and references at https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodes Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/ Script assistance by Matt TunnacliffeHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

August Break - Mini-Episode

When I say the word femininity, what comes to mind? What words would you use to describe femininity? Do you think things associated with femininity are less important or valid than things associated with masculinity? Have you ever thought about it before? On this episode of Do We Know Things, I interview Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin, a femme researcher known for her work on Femme Theory and her work on femmephobia, which identifies the ways society devalues and regulates femininity. I will tell my story of understanding my own internalized femmephobia and how I learned to rethink femininity. Dr. Hoskin will share knowledge and research on these topics to explain how femmephobia infiltrates our daily lives and why it is important to understand and challenge our biases about femininity.Femininity! What do we know? Do We Know Things? Let's find out!Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin's WebsiteFemme_Research on Instagram Links mentioned in this episodeHousework from Free to Be You and MeNellie McClung Heritage minute https://www.historicacanada.ca/content/heritage-minutes/nellie-mcclungScript for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

39 – Rethinking Femininity: Understanding Femmephobia

You likely have heard of the Grafenberg spot, or G-spot, as it is more commonly known. The G-spot has had some pretty good PR since it was named in the 1980s, and it has really become a household name. But what if I told you, there is actually no such thing! A combination of misunderstanding the bodies of people with vulvas and the continued influence of Freudian ideas about orgasms has led to a bit of an obsession about the G-spot. On this episode of Do We Know Things?, I will explore the history of the G-spot, explain why it’s not a thing, and tell you about my own G-spot phobia. Anatomy! What do we know? Do We Know Things? Let's find out!Links mentioned in this episodeCosmo https://www.cosmopolitan.com/interactive/a32037401/g-spot-not-real/ Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

38 - The G-spot is Not a Spot

One bit of sex advice I have seen floating around the internet, particularly on Instagram, is that it takes cisgender women 20 minutes to get fully aroused. This is presented as a contrast to cisgender men, who are, I guess, faster than that? I never see any man-stats presented, but it is implied that men need to slow down to ensure their female partner gets to her fully aroused state. In this episode, I dive into the research to see how long it takes to get aroused. I realize the questions doesn't really make sense, and I give some steamy sex tips of my own. Arousal! What do we know? Do We Know Things? Let's find out!Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

37 - Time to Get Aroused?

If you have heard of oxytocin before, you have probably heard about it as “the love hormone” or “the cuddle hormone.” Oxytocin has other nicknames too. It’s called the morality molecule, the hug hormone, and although it is less catchy, I like to point out, it’s also the racism hormone. Those are just a few of the things oxytocin has been implicated in. But how can one hormone do all of those things?Oxytocin! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out!Links mentioned in the show:Have you experienced a menstrual cycle change after your COVID vaccine. Participate in a study by Dr. Kate Clancy hereJust Says In Mice on Twitter: https://twitter.com/justsaysinmice Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Music and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

36 - Oxytocin: What's Love Got to Do With It?

Most people with a period think that menstrual cycles sync up with people we spend a lot of time with, whether it is friends, coworkers or roommates. This phenomenon is called menstrual synchrony. But is it a real thing or is it just a coincidence? What do you think? Tune in to this episode to find out what the research says. Menstrual cycles! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out! Links mentioned in the show: Have you experienced a menstrual cycle change after your COVID vaccine. Participate in a study by Dr. Kate Clancy here Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Find the script for this episode on our website: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesMusic and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

35 - Do Menstrual Cycles Sync?

Do you know the laws about sex work? Do you know the difference between the "Nordic" model, decriminalization, and legalization of sex work? What about the difference between sex work and sex trafficking? When talking to my partner Jeremy, it dawned on me that not everyone follows sex work laws as closely as I do, so we thought we should make an episode about Canadian sex work laws through the ages. We cover sex work laws from the 1700s up to the current confusing laws that really need to be fixed. Sex work! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out!Hosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Find the script for this episode on our website: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesMusic and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

34 - Sex Work and the Law

These days, talk of consent and consent education is increasingly common. I would argue that it is the most important part of school-based sex education, even though it is still not explicitly included as part of some provinces’ curricula. Of course, it’s one thing to tell people that they need to get consent about sexual activity, but having conversations about sex is hard! Kids and adults often don’t know how to have conversations about sex, or they are afraid that asking for consent just sets them up for rejection.In this second episode in the 3-part series on sexual assault, I interview Karen BK Chan, an emotional intelligence, diversity, and sexuality educator from Toronto. BK talks about learning to feel our feelings, developing strategies to deal with rejection, and guilt resiliency. Everyone needs to hear what BK has to say! Find BK at http://www.fluidexchange.org/Consent and rejection! What do we know? Do we know things? Let's find out!Check out BK's video, Jam https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgd3m-x46JUWant more of this? Take BK's online course on Emotional Intelligence http://www.fluidexchange.org/eicourse.htmlDownload the script at https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodes/15-consent-rejectionHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educatorMusic and editing Jeremy Dahl www.palebluedot.caScript assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe.Thank to Julia Kaufmann for transcribing the interview with BK Chan. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

April Break - Consent and Rejection with BK Chan (Re-release)

Sex toys, while once highly taboo, have been increasing in popularity and visibility over the last two decades. While most people don’t necessarily talk openly about their sex toys, advertising, websites, and brick and mortar stores selling high quality sex toys are much more visible than they used to be. But did you know that the sex toy industry is completely unregulated? My guest on today’s podcast, Sarah Brynn Holliday is a sex toy safety expert. Sarah will share info on how to know which sex toys are safe, where to buy toys from, and what might work for you if you are looking for your first sex toy. Find Sarah on the internet:Website https://formidablefemme.com/ Twitter: @SarahBHollInstagram @formidablefemmeOther links mentioned in the show:This is Fine: A Podcast about Stress, Burnout, and ResilienceDangerous Lilly Toxic Toys info http://dangerouslilly.com/toxictoys/ Jo-Ellen Notte Superhero Sex Shops https://www.redheadbedhead.com/superhero-sex-shop-map/Script for this episode: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesHosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Find the script for this episode on our website: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesMusic and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

33 - Sex Toys & Safety

This week we're going to revisit my most controversial episode, where I investigated if it's necessary to pee after sex! We'll be back in two weeks with our regularly scheduled programming!Hosted by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton, psychology professor and sex educator.Find the script for this episode on our website: https://www.doweknowthings.com/episodesMusic and editing Jeremy Dahl https://www.palebluedot.ca/Script assistance by Matt Tunnacliffe See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

March Break - To Pee or Not to Pee Revisited

For this episode, I am flipping things a bit and playing an episode of the Succeed Under Stress podcast where I was interviewed by my friend, clinical psychologist, and podcast host Dr. Jonathan Horowitz. We talked about stress and sex with a focus on how COVID affects our sex lives. Tune in to hear me unscripted and offering sex tips during times of COVID. Hosted by Dr. Jonathan HorowitzGuest Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sex, Stress, and COVID - Crossover episode with Succeed Under Stress podcast

I’m Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton. By day, I’m a sex researcher and psychology professor who teaches about sex. In this podcast I explore the things we think we know about sex by delving into the research surrounding common beliefs about sex and relationships. I want to know how we know what we know.If you are a sex geek like me or if you just want to know things, subscribe to listen to me question everything you thought you knew about sex!Sex and Relationships! What do we know? Do we know things? Let’s find out!Music and production by Jeremy Dahl at palebluedot

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