Ben and Kami share the beliefs that keep them from sharing their story and the cost of remaining silent. They share about what they learned in therapy and the impact of sharing their story on their podcast and what you can do to share yours.   Quote: “There’s a difference between wanting to be looked at and wanting to be seen. When you are looked at, your eyes can be closed. You suck energy, you steal the spotlight. When you are seen, your eyes must be open, and you are seeing and recognizing your witness. You accept energy and you generate energy. You create light. One is exhibitionism, the other is connection. Not everybody wants to be looked at. Everybody wants to be seen.” ― Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking; or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help   LINKS Amanda Palmer's TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMj_P_6H69g   Kami's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kamicrawford  FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O  SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 5/12/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

Everyone Belongs

19. BE SEEN - The Benefits of Sharing Our Story

Ben and Kami talk about the impact the coronavirus has had on their travels to the Appalachian Trail and the dangers of separation and judgment that happen when we reduce people and how that can be overcome.    FB Discussion Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates)  https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts:  https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel):  https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations  https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether   paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 3/24/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

18. Saving our Humanity during a Pandemic: COVID-19

Ben and Kami talk about what it meant to believe that Jesus had to die for our sins and how this belief started to unravel and what changes it created in their life including how it led to no rules, being vegetarian, and no longer spanking.    LINKS  Things Hidden by Richard Rohr  https://amzn.to/33b7LcC   Liturgists Podcast - Are those people the problem? Peter Rollins Interview  http://bit.ly/39KkENb   Everything Belongs by Ricard Rohr  https://amzn.to/2VLIEeX   The Wisdom Jesus by Cynthia Bourgeault   https://amzn.to/33cgLyd  FB Discussion Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether   paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 3/10/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

17. Being married and no longer believing in monogamy

Ben and Kami talk about what it meant to believe that Jesus had to die for our sins and how this belief started to unravel and what changes it created in their life including how it led to no rules, being vegetarian, and no longer spanking.    LINKS  Things Hidden by Richard Rohr  https://www.amazon.com/dp/0867166592/?ref=exp_fightfortogether_dp_vv_d   Liturgists Podcast - Are those people the problem? Peter Rollins Interview https://theliturgists.com/podcast/2020/2/20/are-those-people-the-problem   Everything Belongs by Ricard Rohr https://amzn.to/2VLIEeX   The Wisdom Jesus by Cynthia Bourgeault  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1590305809/?ref=exp_fightfortogether_dp_vv_d   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 3/2/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

16. Did Jesus die for our sins?

In Season 2 Ben and Kami share what they currently believe. This episode is about what they believe about the Bible starting with how they were raised, what started their transition and how they see this ancient that book that was so important in their lives.    LINKS Things Hidden by Richard Rohr https://www.amazon.com/dp/0867166592/?ref=exp_fightfortogether_dp_vv_d   Richard Rohr on the Bible for Normal People http://bit.ly/3ca6GWA   Peter Rollins interviews Rob Bell https://luminary.link/DupDKvN8m4   Sabbath as Resistance by Walter Brueggemann https://www.amazon.com/dp/0664263291/?ref=exp_fightfortogether_dp_vv_d   Robert Alter's Hebrew Scripture Translation http://bit.ly/3ca6GWA   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O  SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether   paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 2/24/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

15. How our view of the Bible has changed

Ben and Kami talk about their most embarrassing moments and beliefs from their past. They share 7 things that help them to accept past realities and how it affects our children and others who are still in that same place.   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O  SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations  https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether   paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 1/20/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

14. Accepting our most Embarrassing Moments

Ben and Kami share the story of how the two-star review was deleted and what they have learned from the experience. They talk about the difficulty of sharing their story, knowing that it makes family members and old friends look bad. They also answer the questions from a listener:  - What would it take to forgive your abusers?  - How can they make it right?  - Is reconciliation an option?   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O  SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations  https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether   paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 1/13/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

13. Is Reconciliation Possible with your abusers?

Ben and Kami share their first 2-star review that accuses them of fudging their story, waging war against family and church and all sorts of exaggeration. They share some background of the reviewer, why they think the review was written, and some behind the scenes of why we started our podcast. We also share the most valuable tool that you can use to fight oppressive systems.   @churchclarity  https://www.instagram.com/churchclarity  Trauma and Recovery https://amzn.to/37N3DR0   The Drama of the Gifted Child  https://amzn.to/35AFZ8W   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O  SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether  Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!  https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether   paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 1/6/2020 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

12. Waging War with Family [our first 2-star review]

Ben and Kami answer questions about how they survived when Ben was being accused of narcissism and pride. Kami talks about having a submissive personality and Ben gets accused of being the patriarchy. Both of us talk about Ben's personality and why he was a target of this spiritual community.   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether   paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 12/30/2019 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

11. How our Marriage Survived the attack

Ben and Kami talk about being a part of a cult and 8 things you can use to determine if you are in a cult. We also talk about what kind of people are in cults. HINT: it's not what you think.   Thought Reform and the Psychology: 8 traits of a cult http://bit.ly/34QHRu0  FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT   IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 12/23/2019 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

10. Being in a CULT [our story]

Ben and Kami answer more questions about their family shunning, spiritual ex-communication, and losing multiple businesses.  Questions they answer:  - Were your forced out of the biz for spiritual reasons?  - Did Colin over find out about the $11,000 that Ben stole?   - How many/percentage of individuals/families who have shunned you are either employed by Epipheo, in Family Teams or members of Crossroads Church?   - Do you think you should mix money and family/friends, money and religion?  - What does a healthy community look like moving forward? - Were there early warning signs you ignored?   - Do you have regrets about your fanatical years or investing so much in the community?  - How did you get through the loneliness of losing so many people?  - Have you forgiven those that have wronged you and learned to trust again?  - Do you feel that the apology letter served its purpose?  - What’s it like hanging out with friends who give money to family that has hurt you?  - Are you concerned about backlash? - Do you think Jeremy just wanted control and power?  - How did people find you to be mentored and/or discipled?  - Why would Jeremy ask you to “submit” ?   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/   We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!  https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 12/9/2019 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

9. Biz, friends, regret, & Submission [Q&A]

Trauma and Recovery by Dr. Judith Herman  https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465061710/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_wEa8DbB2D6MBP   @adaptableme in IG  https://www.instagram.com/p/B52ue1ThPL5/  Wisdom Jesus by Cynthia Bourgeault   https://www.amazon.com/dp/1590305809/?cv_ct_id=amzn1.idea.34GPBQFBZGJKJ&cv_ct_pg=storefront&cv_ct_wn=aip-storefront&ref=exp_cov_fightfortogether_dp_vv_d  FB Discussion Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/  We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY   YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs  APPLE Podcasts:  https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4   FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether   Product/book recommendations  https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether   Thank you for supporting our work!   https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether  Venmo - @fightfortogether   CONNECT    IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs   RECORDED 12/9/2019 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

8. Spiritual Abuse, Kids, & Therapy [Q&A]

Ben and Kami tell the story of going to therapy with family members, getting contacted by lawyers to sell the Christian family biz, their plans to move to Israel, and getting bible verses about Ben deceiving gullible women so he must be shunned by the family.   FB Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/969775533380492/  We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4  FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether  Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether  Thank you for supporting our work!  https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether Venmo - @fightfortogether  CONNECT   IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs  RECORDED 12/2/2019 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

7. Being Shunned by Family

Ben and Kami share about the 5 accusations made against them by church leaders, the impact of counseling, how they canceled every event and leadership role in their community, the apology letter they wrote, and how it was received. They finish with a cliffhanger story of Ben hearing from his friend at a coffee shop that he's being cut out permanently.  We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4 FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether Thank you for supporting our work!  https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether Venmo - @fightfortogether CONNECT   IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs RECORDED --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

6. THE END OF COMMUNITY: ACCUSATIONS & an APOLOGY

Ben and Kami talk about submission and spiritual authority. They talk about the meeting where Ben got ambushed and started the hardest 2 years of their life, what it looks like to get accused of pride and be required to take 2 weeks off work by church leaders.  We also share how ideas of spiritual submission hurt them and how Ben made the worst business decision of his life.  Part 5 of OUR STORY We're writing a book (get updates) https://goo.gl/wfaEaY YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/everyonebelongs APPLE Podcasts: https://apple.co/2NMMq1O SPOTIFY: https://spoti.fi/32iqgK4 FFT (our family channel): https://www.youtube.com/c/FightforTogether Product/book recommendations https://www.amazon.com/shop/fightfortogether Thank you for supporting our work!  https://www.patreon.com/fightfortogether  paypal.me/fightfortogether Venmo - @fightfortogether CONNECT   IG: https://www.instagram.com/everyone.belongs/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/Everyone-Belongs RECORDED 11/19/19 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/everyonebelongs/message

5. Spiritual Authority GONE WRONG - WHY WE STARTED THERAPY

A podcast that discusses moving beyond tribes and systems to a love that’s big enough for all of us.

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Everyone Belongs

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