FRIENDS!So happy to be back with you. I&apos;ve realized that I really need to take a LOT of breaks this year and I&apos;m going to have to roll with it because it&apos;s doing the body good. In this episode I just want to talk about the "shoulda, coulda, woulda" -- why we use it, how we can start working on our past, handling it, making peace with it, and using it to move forward. Take a listen. Let me know what you think? Agree or disagree?----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings.If you&apos;re looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

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Letting go of the Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda in your life

Hey, friends, hey!I can&apos;t believe April is almost over! 2021 is flying! I am so excited to connect with you all again and I hope you&apos;re doing the best you can with where you are. The other week, I received a Q&A from someone who listens to the show about staying sober? Although the question was very straightforward, it hit me differently and I immediately went into the subtext.  My Cancerian spidey senses were tingling. For some of you that have been listening for a while, you may already know where I&apos;m going to go but I hope you still join me during this storytime hour because I had to get this off my spirit today!Take a listen. Let me know what you think? Agree or disagree?----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings.If you&apos;re looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Q&A: What if I can't stay sober?

Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeya friends!!!I am joined on the show by Jimmy. He is a native New Yorker, born and raised in the Bronx, a former lean addict who used cooking and painting to heal and recover from addiction. He&apos;s also my partner in crime -- so I&apos;m happy he&apos;s joining us. In this episode, we talk about:Jimmy&apos;s childhood and how the abuse he suffered impacted his actions and sense of selfWhy he got into cooking and what he&apos;s learnedBlack men and how they&apos;re perceived when it comes to abuse and recoveryHow he came to "own" his story and why he considers the culinary world a group of misfitsWhat caused him to pick up painting, what he hopes to do with it and what he&apos;s learned about himself in the processThere was so much courage and wisdom in his story. I wish I could have shared it all but it would have been a LONG episode but I plan to release the unedited version one day soon! ----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings.If you&apos;re looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Interview: How Cooking and Painting became the key to Jimmy's healing and recovery

GREETINGS, FRIENDS!Happy to be back. Had to take an unexpected pause because of mental health and self-care but I am so excited to be back with you all. Also, happy that SPRING is basically here!In this episode, I&apos;m talking about labels in recovery. Someone asked me who is newly sober-curious if it was okay to use that label for themselves since they&apos;re really just exploring and not sure about commitment yet.I found this thought interesting (well the label aspect) and I took it to the pod! Also, if you&apos;re curious about what I told them, it&apos;s right at the start of the show. Let&apos;s dive on in, shall we??!!! Also, do you feel labels are helpful or harmful? ----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings.If you&apos;re looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Let's talk about labels in Recovery

Hey, friends, hey!I got a Q&A from someone who listens to the show about my stance, view, thoughts on balancing being in recovery without having to be defined by it? And this can apply to whether you call yourself in recovery, sober, etc -- your word choice is well...your choice. This will be another short and sweet one and my first in 2021! WHAT?! Anyway, this question was interesting to me because of some of the changes that I&apos;m going through.My two cents is that you should be the one to define yourself. Whatever feels good to you (cue: Yoga with Adriene -- I love her). I think we get into our heads with what to label ourselves, how it comes across, how out there do we have to be -- when it&apos;s not about that. It&apos;s about changing our lives, growing for the positive, and if you want it to be what defines you? Great. If you want it to define you right now because you don&apos;t feel shame about it? Groovy. If you&apos;d rather not and keep it personal, right on.We have to do what serves us best in this life.  I have grown so much since starting this show, while I love what I&apos;m doing and who I have met as my recovery or sobriety has grown stronger, I&apos;ve decided that I want to start amplifying other voices and talk about other topics of interest within the recovery community. Will this show talk about recovery or addiction on some level? Yes, but as I grow -- the show will morph a bit. I hope you stay on this wild ride with me.Take a listen. Let me know what you think? Agree or disagree?----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings.If you&apos;re looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Q&A: Do you have to define yourself by your recovery?

Friends, friends, friends....we made it!!!I can&apos;t believe it&apos;s the end of the damn year! But it&apos;s here. I swear, it feels like yesterday we were ringing in 2020 and positioning ourselves to start this new decade with a BANG.But hey, life had other plans for us, and HERE WE ARE. I typically like to use the last days of the year to look at how my year was and what I plan to prioritize in the upcoming year. Friends, there was a lot this year. To be candid -- once COVID and quarantine hit, I got hit with a bad case of depression, and the death of my friend/mentor rocked me more on top of that. This year, it was about humility. And giving myself the grace to be depressed and not giving myself guilt over it. And man, it was hard, but I got there. In this episode, I want to talk about some of the nuggets that I landed on to usher me into 2021. Lacey and Nik from the Sober Company podcast also joined me to chop it up about 2020 too. I like to consider it a conversational inventory, which I encourage you to either do on your own OR gather some friends and dive deep into what this year really meant to you. We discussed:The clusterfu*k of 2020 overallWhat we learned about our recoveryWhat we learned about ourselvesWhat we accepted about ourselves Diversity + Inclusion in the sober communityOur plans for our podcasts!I hope you enjoy this episode. It&apos;s more conversational in most, but I wanted it to be a lil&apos; loose as we head into the unknown of 2021. ----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings.If you&apos;re looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions, feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

End of Year Recap with Sober Company

Hey, friends, hey!I got a Q&A from someone who listens to the show about my stance, view, thoughts on NA drinks when it comes to recovery.This episode will be short and sweet but net/net is that I decided that like most things in recovery (and how I see it), it depends on you. HOWEVER, I didn't touch NA drinks until after my first year! Trust, my social life was sho nuff interesting.  Why? Because your girl is QUEEN of not handling sh*t and I would have just used that as my crutch as a way to feel "normal" and not address my stuff. When in reality, life as I knew it then, had changed. Which, in hindsight, is okay but it sure as hell didn't feel like it then. Take a listen. Let me know what you think? Agree or disagree? ----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings.If you're looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Q&A: What's your stance on NA Drinks in Recovery?

Dropping the first of many bonus episodes, y'all! Today, I want to discuss self-compassion because I think it is definitely beneficial for this holiday season and your life overall.How do you look at or frame self-compassion? Utilizing self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend or childGetting sober had me stumbling and falling into figuring out who I was. I had no clue, I talked to myself poorly and it showed up in all my relationships (friends, family, romantic or otherwise). It was nuts. So, I wanted to talk about my journey (that is still going on). In this episode, I will talk about:Family history and how it shaped me and my drinkingThings I would do when I was dishonoring myselfTiny steps that started me down the road of reclaiming me and what I'm feeling Admitting that at times, this process may be lonely but that's okay! Stay the course.Ways you can start incorporating the threads of self-compassion into your own life Things that I talked about during this episode:The book that I'm talking about: Self Compassion -  The Proven Power of Being Yourself by Kristen Neff. (If you have Kindle Unlimited, it's now free.99 on there!)Podcast Interview with Kristen Neff on Therapy for Black GirlsKristen Neff's website----------Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings. If you're looking for a black therapist or resources, check this out!And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com  Podpage: Getting Your Sh*t TogetherSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Bonus Episode: Self Compassion Deep Dive

Hey everyone, in this episode I interviewed the lovely and unapologetic Laura Cathcart Robbins of the podcast, The Only One in The Room."I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and it gave me a fresh perspective because similar to her, I had my addiction really take hold later in my life. In this episode, we will discuss:Being the "only one" in the room! How being a black woman in predominately white spaces led to keeping up appearances and utilizing alcohol as a way to numb ourselves and escapeMotherhood! Pre and post addiction and how Laura learned to put herself first and why it was detrimental for her recovery.How her life evolved after rehab and what she does daily to keep balance and perspective with herself and loved ones. Why she was called to pen the HuffPo article about Hunter Biden&apos;s struggle with addiction during the electionPlans for her podcast, her writing, and her world!I learned a lot from her grace and humility. I hope you will too. Please make sure to follow her on social and check out some more of her writing on HuffPo here. About Laura:Laura Cathcart Robbins is a freelance culture writer and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room, living in Studio City, California.  She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School’s nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Her recent articles in the Huffington Post on the subjects of race, recovery, and divorce have garnered her worldwide acclaim. She is a 2018 LA Moth StorySlam winner and currently sits on the advisory board for the San Diego Writer’s Festival and the Outliers HQ podcast Festival.  Laura is also a founding member of Moving Forewords, the first national memoirist collective of its kind. Find out more about her on her website, or you can look for her on Facebook, on Instagram, and follow her on Twitter. https://theonlyonepod.com-----------------------There are simple things to use as a foundation for your recovery and are for those who are sober curious, new to recovery, or have been going at it for a long time. Nothing wrong with revisiting those blocks as we continue to work on our lives.Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings. And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.comSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Interview: Recovering Yourself & Redefining Motherhood with Laura Cathcart Robbins

Hey friends!I can&apos;t believe we&apos;re already at the bulk of the holiday season. Where did the year go? 2020 has been SUCH a special time.However, even with that --, we need to make sure to check in with ourselves, especially with the holidays on the way. In this episode, I discuss some things to take into account and some simple tips to utilize as you work through the holiday season. Whether you are kicking it at home, with friends, or solo. There are simple things to use as a foundation for your recovery and are for those who are sober curious, new to recovery or have been going at it for a long time. Nothing wrong with revisiting those blocks as we continue to work on our lives.Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings. And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.comSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Let's talk about Recovering the Holidays

**DISCLAIMER:  In this episode, we will be talking about sexual assault and abuse. If those topics are triggering for you, please proceed cautiously.  **Hey everyone, in this episode I interviewed a soul spirit of mine (it seems), the lovely and very self-aware Robyn Clegg-Gibson of the IG account @encounterswithmen.I am so happy that she decided to be on the show and thankful she was so open and honest about her life and where she is now and how she plans to evolve the work on her IG feed.In this episode, we will discuss:Traumatic backgrounds and how things you are taught can manifest if you&apos;re not aware or actively working on healingHow @encounterswithmen came to be and why Robyn strives to have an inclusive and intersectional communityWhat we do in order to keep self-aware and work through our sh*t in order to keep healingAnd how recovery is not just synonymous with drugs+alcoholThis episode is longer than most and I cut a fair bit but wanted to provide as many nuggets as possible to those who are unpacking their stuff and healing as a result. You are not alone.If you or someone you know is battling sexual assault or trauma, I urge you to seek help here.Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings. And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.comSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Interview: Recovering & Healing from Trauma with Robyn Clegg-Gibson

I can&apos;t believe it&apos;s October! It&apos;s National Mental Awareness month, so I want to focus on that as much as possible. As someone with depression, I like to be as transparent as I can be with all the things, especially as I started to navigate my life in recovery.Today&apos;s episode is on learning to identify whether you are restless and triggered! Yes, to some (including myself), I often confused one with the other because of how I thought it shown up in my body. But friends, friends, friends -- when I started to learn myself and actively started to work on what I needed, only then was I able to see the differences.In my opinion, restless = more interpersonal (something that is happening within you that unsettles you in some way). In contrast, being triggered is usually when something from the outside impacts you that causes you to go on HIGH ALERT in some way. Let&apos;s dive in, shall we? I will go over both, how it shows up for me and things I do NOW to circumvent the HELL out of it. Always a WIP, y&apos;all. Always.Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Are you Restless or Triggered? How to deal with both!

What&apos;s in this episode?Today&apos;s episode Kristen Feemster joins us on the podcast to talk about ways to protect yourself in non-diverse recovery groups and how to keep putting you first!In this episode we talk about:How a lack of diversity can impact black and brown people in recovery Things to look into in order to grow your own sober network/communityLack of diversity in recovery places and how that can unintentionally alienate people of color that want to get (and remain) clean Why Recovery Retention plans are beneficial and why everyone should create one that works for themAnd as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.comSign up for my mailing list!Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Interview: Safety in Recovery in non-Diverse Spaces with Kristen Feemster

Hey, y&apos;all, hey! Welcome to Season 3!!!!This month, the episodes are going to highlight National Recovery Month. For those who may not have heard about it, this is a month where we highlight the strength and courage pertaining to sobriety.Today, we&apos;re going to tackle conditional statements!Those pesky if/then lies we tell ourselves to keep ourselves stuck in familiar patterns.I&apos;ve used them for years, still do and I have to be aware when I see myself going down a familiar path to double-check if I&apos;m trying to put a conditional clause all up and through this piece. ----- And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really.   If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.comSign up for my mailing list!Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Conditional Statements & Recovery

Hey friends! Received a two similar questions so decided to combine and answer for this week&apos;s episode.Should I get sober for other people?You know me, I will always say -- there is no hard and fast rules for anything in life. There are always outliers but for my personal viewpoint. I will say NOPE. Sobriety and recovery should always be a choice for you.Can you listen to others? Of course. Can they inform your decision? Why not! But it&apos;s up to you to decide to pull that trigger and change your life.It will impact you the most, you need to understand your why and while others can be a motivation -- if you don&apos;t come to want to be sober -- it is so quick to back slide. (Speak from personal experience here.)But I&apos;m trying to save my relationship?! I get that too. If someone matters to us, we want to keep them in our lives. However, changing yourself for someone else&apos;s benefit may open you up to bitterness and resentment, if you don&apos;t get the reaction you want. Manipulation can come into play HARDCORE here too.Also, feelings may change, once you&apos;re in recovery. You&apos;re going to be rediscovering who you are, what you need versus what you want and you may outgrow people (whether you planned on it or not). Some relationships can weather this, others don&apos;t. So, you can&apos;t go into recovery with the notion that it&apos;s the one thing that will save your relationship.You can only save you. You need to keep that in mind and hope for the best with the rest. Gotta question for me? I&apos;m always up to answer. Email, Tweet or DM me and I&apos;ll work to always provide the best answer possible!-----And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.comSign up for my mailing list!Support the show (https://ko-fi.com/gettingyourishtogether)

Q&A: Should I get sober for other people?

There is beauty in your chaos and even more in your acceptance of it. They say the 20s are for finding yourself but what about those of us that missed that memo? WTF, right? Don't worry, I have you all the way covered. Each Thursday, join Cynthia, a Brooklynite in her 30s as she adjusts to being sober (it's a thing), while navigating this crazy thing called life...one day at a time.

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