Louise O’Reilly is a Warrwa-Noongar Aboriginal woman based in Boorloo (Perth, Western Australia) on Wadjuk Country. Through her experiences with identity and personal journey of self-discovery, she realized society wasn't always accepting of her identity, community, or culture. Louise provides online courses to stimulate harmonious & inclusive change in the world where every global citizen can say I'm #FreeToBeMe. That’s the big picture goal. For now, she is focused on cultural diversity & inclusion of Aboriginal people and culture. She is a freelance writer for Amnesty International Australia and a radio host for an Aboriginal women's self-empowerment program called Yorgas Yarning (women talking) on 100.9fm Noongar Radio. She is a committee member for the Danjoo Koorliny (Walking Together) Aboriginal-led 10yr visionary reconciliation/conciliation plan for Boorloo (Perth) which is hosted by the University of Western Australia's Social Impact Unit. Louise also runs her own personal business, The Ascension Personal Development Academy  If you will let her, Louise will show you how to use your words to create inclusion and how to make it ripple out into the world. The difference between diversity and inclusivity The importance to create a safe space for all to belong Why the subconscious guilt of white privilege stops us from reaching out in order to dissolve racism. The foundations of inclusive  language Why our intention to learn outweighs the fear of offending Why Acknowledgement of Country should be embraced and honored. And the importance of having privilege. Connect with Louise Here: Email louiseoreilly.shieldandconch@gmail.com Website www.louiseoreilly.com.au Instagram https://www.instagram.com/louise.oreilly.shieldandconch/ Twitter https://twitter.com/LouiseOReilly Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here: Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  Twitter (Ashleigh) @nerdypioneer Facebook @goodgielsdontpod IG @goodgirlsdontpod   

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#41 Good Girls Don't Talk About Racism in Australia

Hummingbird House is Queensland's only Children's Hospice. We provide a home away from home for children and their families with a life-limiting condition. We care for children from birth to aged 18 and support families with short break stays crisis and symptom management care, end of life and after death care. Andrea is a Paediatric Palliative Care Nurse Practitioner. Andrea is a UK trained children's nurse, Andrea moved to Australia with her young family 13 years ago. She has extensive nursing experience caring for children, working in the Emergency Department, General paediatric wards, oncology and now in paediatric palliative care. Why as a society there's more fear around death than previous generations The financial accessibility of accessing the services of a children's hospice Do other cultures cope with death better than we do? Why we don’t get over grieving but need to learn to grow around grief instead. The importance of community and inclusivity when it comes to death, especially the death of a child. How there is no right or wrong way to grieve the loss of a child The child-friendly language around dying children How do we normalise death, especially in conversation with our kids? Connect with Hummingbird House: Email andrea.coe@hummingbirdhouse.wmq.org.au Website www.hummingbirdhouse.wmq.org.au http://hummingbirdhouse.org.au/home/ Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Instagram/Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod 

#40 Good Girls Don't Talk About Child Death

After our own Ashleigh Rae successfully charged a man with sexual violence, she shares with us what happens when it comes to sentencing and what it means for the victim and the offender. Please note that the conversation refers to Victorian legislation around sex offending and the specifics do not represent the legislation and regulations of other states and territories. Here’s what we spoke about; The difference between a plea hearing and a sentencing hearing. Why does the register exist and what does it mean for the perpetrator, the victim & the community? How children can be placed on the sex offenders registry. What’s restorative justice and should it be compulsory? Should the Sex Offenders Registry be made public? The importance of educating ourselves and our children of the criminal implications of innocent ‘sexting’, and how easily young teens can get themselves and their girlfriends/boyfriends and peers into serious trouble. 

#39 Good Girls Don't Talk About Sex Offenders

In Australia, up to one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. 103,000 Australian families are impacted each year. And yet, for many, it remains a silent trauma. Miscarriage is a taboo topic affecting 282 Aussie women a day that can cause long-lasting grief and mental health problems. Why are we not talking about this? So we want to start a conversation about it and create an episode dedicated to allowing women to share their stories around miscarriage. We want to stop the silence and start sharing. Join us and an array of courageous women as we share our stories around Miscarriage. Join us today as we honor the stories of Verity, Bess, and Sandi. Contact Verity and Ashleigh: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com FB/IG: @goodgirlsdontpod 

#38 Good Girls Don't Talk About Miscarriage

In a  society that dictates a strict definition of what masculinity is and demands rigid expectations upon how men and women should conform to binary gender roles, the struggle to inform others that non-binary people exist is real. Nic Lawrance takes the time to chat to us about their incredible experience of living as non-binary person, growing up without the language to express their identity and journey of acceptance from family and peers, finding that safe space to explore and express gender identity, and some of the present perils fraught in the legal system discriminating against gender diverse people. Nic Lawrance is a brilliant and powerful non-binary burlesque performer. Nic has performed at Fringe Festival and throughout Perth, Western Australia blending ideas of the feminine and masculine, challenging the norms of what is traditionally acceptable or expected of masc presenting humans.  Normalize the idea of asking for pronouns,like you would ask someone's name Reclaiming the word ‘Queer’. What happens when ‘males’ don’t fit into the “mans club”. Medical gate-keeping that prevents people from ever being able to own their identity. The dangers of identifying oneself as non binary to organisations and institutions when you’re filling out forms. The difference between sexuality and gender. Why all humans, even men should be able to feel pretty. The legal implication and limits of identifying as non binary gender And why inter-sectional feminism is crucial to the freedom of all minority groups. We loved Nic’s vulnerability, their wisdom and generosity as Nic shares their heartfelt stories and experience of fighting for one’s true identity. If you’ve ever felt confused about the conversation of gender fluidity, what the hell it all means and why we should even be talking about it, or even how to move forward in your own gender identity this episode is for you.  

#37 Good Girls Aren't Non-Binary

Co-host Ashleigh Rae shares her experience of seeking justice after being raped as a child. It's a deep conversation and not for the faint hearted. We discuss her compassion for the offenders family, the obstacles and support through-out the process of seeking justice and the complexity of emotions around obtaining accountability and justice.  We discussed; The reactions and responses from loved ones. The rights of survivors and offenders of sexual violence. The sensitivity and insensitivity of professionals involved. What it feels like to confront the offender with an impact statement. We questioned the appropriateness of current sentencing / legal consequences. And how the justice system needs to change to serve both the survivor and the offender in a holistic manner. Its a conversation that all men and women should listen to, because there is so much we can learn as a society to not only know how to support those affected by sexual violence but to also understand the necessity of educating all men and women in order to prevent sexual violence. Contact Verity and Ashleigh: Facebook/Instagram: @goodgirlsdontpod Email: goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

#36 Good Girls Don't Get Raped

Soo...what happens when your sex life is dead? We know how it goes: find the man, get married, have the kids, and that's the end of your sex life. But what if that isn't how it has to be? What if we could have a deeply intimate sex life with our spouse, and toe-curling orgasms to-boot?  We were curious if such a thing was possible, so we sat down with one of Australia's most qualified Sexologists, Isiah McKimmie. But she isn't just a Sexologist. She's also a Couples Therapist, a Sex Therapist, and a Tantra Teacher - so she knows her stuff when it comes to intimacy which means, we put our burning questions to her about how to resuscitate a dead sex life, including:  What happens when your sex life is deader than Tutenkamun? What are the first steps in re-igniting the intimacy and passion in your relationship? Why does sex become transactional? Why sex is the socially acceptable way for men to ask for intimacy Why do we need to reconsider having sex during a pandemic - surely it's the perfect time for more romps?  Yup. Lots of sticky, gritty questions.  Lots of juicy, tantalizing answers.  Connect with Isiah: Email info@isiah-mckimmie.com Website https://www.isiah-mckimmie.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/isiahmckimmie.sexologist/ Connect with Ashleigh and Verity  Facebook/Instagram @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

#35 Good Girls Don't Have Sex

Mental health care is a crisis in Australia, affecting 1 in 4 Australians at some point in their lives - so what does our mental health care system look like, and what’s it like to experience a mental health condition in Australia?  On this episode of Good Girls Don’t Ashleigh shares her story and experiences of navigating the convoluted system that works to devalue and deny the experiences of people with mental illness, including the dramatic impact of trauma.  We chatted about:  How easily mental health conditions can go undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, or mistreated for a long time. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is the 3rd most commonly diagnosed mental health issue. So why don’t we hear about it? What’s the difference between PTSD and C-PTSD? Why does Trauma get swept under the rug or get ‘forgotten’ about psychologically? What happens when Doctors behave badly? The impact of medication on mental health but also the emotional and physical impacts. The stigmas attached to mental health, especially borderline personality disorder, bipolar, and schizophrenia. Why mental health isn’t always appropriately funded by the government. The hardships of actually being able to access mental health care. Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Facebook and Instagram @goodgirlsdontpod Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com  

#34 Good Girls Don't Talk About Mental Health

Sometimes, out in the wild, we find ourselves in front of a microphone on someone elses podcast and they're kind enough to roll with it and see what happens. Today, Verity is interviewed by Margie McCumstie from The Wedding Wombat... In this special Valentine’s Day edition, we meet Verity Mansfield, Relationship Coach and extraordinary woman with a powerful message about love, sex, romance and marriage. We talk about how to make your relationship juicy and your marriage even juicier! 8 years ago Verity found herself collapsed on the bottom of the shower floor, hoping the noise of the thundering water would drown out her gut-wrenching hysterical sobbing, so her kids wouldn’t hear her fall apart. She didn’t feel broken. She felt destroyed. Her marriage was falling apart. The kids were not getting the best of their mother. Her workplace was sucking the life out of her. She felt disappointed, disconnected and dead inside. Something had to give or Verity0 was going to explode. So she hit the ‘red’ button. You know the one they say only to hit in an emergency? Verity walked out of her marriage, out of an international fashion career and without looking back plunged into the darkness of the unknown with two toddlers, a mortgage and $136 cash. In that moment, Verity broke the “good girls rules” and chose a life of integrity and authenticity.  With the wisdom of hindsight and a successful career as a Relationship Coach, Verity shares from a real place to inspire everyone listening in this episode to enjoy juicy relationships- with yourself, with others and whether you choose marriage… or not.

IN THE WILD: I'll Say I Do When I'm Me and You're You with Margie McCumstie from The Wedding Wombat

While we take a moment to catch our breath and re-organize the universe, we've partnered with the good folks from the podcast, Gertie's Law to bring you an incredible episode on how the Supreme Court of Victoria changed women's ability to access abortion safely:  Fifty years ago, the Menhennitt Ruling was an example of judge-made law and it determined the legality of abortion in Victoria. In this episode of Gertie's Law, we find out why it was left to the Supreme Court, and not the parliament, to decide on such a controversial social issue. Hear from judges and people directly affected by the 1969 ruling. It's a brilliant piece of audio wizardry that showcases the bravery of the Doctors who put themselves at risk for women to have access to birth control and the fascinating details of how it all went down in the Supreme Court of Victoria.  We hope you love and enjoy it as much as Ashleigh has, and binge their entire series. Listen to the whole series here: Gertie's Law Podcast You can also check out Jennifer Zeven and Jay Crisp Crow's new podcast Untamed Shrews right here!

Bonus: How the Supreme Court Changed Abortion Laws in Victoria

As women, we’re designed to have babies. Even if we don’t want them our bodies are ensuring they remind us every month, for every year for over a 40yr span that we’re baby-makers. Granted there are women who have ZERO interest in having kids and that's absolutely their right to choose. But what happens and what does it REALLY feel like to know that you do not even have a choice? What happens when we desperately want a child but our body just won’t allow it? Today Marie Louise shares her personal journey with us of her experience of being infertile and navigating marriage, divorce, dating and just the everyday existence of being female and infertile in a patriarchal world. How do you reconcile with your body when you feel it’s betrayed you? Befriending your (un)friendly monthly reminder that your body was meant to be designed to have babies. Why being infertile makes us feel like less of a woman. How do you date knowing you might crush his dreams of having a family? How can the rest of us childbearing women be more sensitive and understanding towards women who can’t bear children? And most importantly how does a woman move on with the acceptance of never being able to do what her body is biologically designed to do, heal from that acceptance and build a life that brings her unlimited joy, love and happiness? Well, tune in because Marie Louise is about to tell us! Who is Marie-Louise, Anyway? Marie-Louise Pawsey knows first-hand the hurt and trauma of being Infertile and Single. Since realizing that she wasn’t living her life as fully as she could be, she made the tough decision to sever ties with hope, and start living a more ‘flirtile’ life. For 3 years she’s mentored women and men in dating, and how to get into and maintain lasting romantic relationships. She’s most active on her Youtube channel where she publishes her tried and tested, unique and controversial views and guidelines to dating. Now, she’s supporting Single, Infertile women who are ready to give up the dream and start living the amazing life they can carve for themselves! When they’re ready to strut into their new life, free of shame, negative and the self-doubt which has caused them to deny themselves happiness, Marie-Louise is here to give them a place where they belong, and help them get the prince! These women are invited to join at facebook.com/groups/FlirtileForLife where they can feel nurtured and understood. Connect with Marie Louise Here facebook.com/LifeStylinDatingCoach Connect with Ashleigh and Verity Here Email goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com Facebook @goodgirlsdontpod Help us Make Good Girls Don't Podcast the Best it Can Be http://bit.ly/ggdpodsurvey

[RE-BROADCAST] Good Girls Don't Accept Infertility

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Sometimes it's the small things we deny ourselves that have the biggest ripples throughout our lives. At least, that's what happened for our guest this week, Shilpa Agarwal, when she kept denying herself the permission and freedom to go for a simple jog.  We sat down with Shilpa to talk about what it means to be worthy, to be enough - and the hard, painful things that get in the way of our embodying it. The truths this powerful speaks ripple out across all the parts of our lives from professional to the intimate.  Who is Shilpa, Anyway? Shilpa is a book-writing coach who helps coaches, consultants, and spiritual/wellness practitioners, to write a book so they can share their story, make an impact and create the business of their dreams with ease and confidence. Shilpa used to live a life of people-pleasing, hyper-vigilance, and constantly feeling 'not good enough’. Until one day, she took back her power, decided to own her worth and share her story so she could help many others out there do the same. Thus #Enoughness was born, which is now also a book in the making. Born and brought up in India, she now lives in Adelaide, Australia with her husband and their little Miss 3! When she is not telling stories of Enoughness, you'll find her listening to one, reading, writing or sipping chai - masala chai! Connect with Shilpa here: Email: SHILPA@WANTSOLUTION.COM Website: www.wantsolutionthebook.com Instagram: shilpabookcoach Twitter: shilpaagarwal22 Free Gift for Our Listeners! Snap up a 60 minute 1:1 session with Shilpa FREE to map out your book here: bit.ly/BookBizBlueprint Connect with Ashleigh and Verity here: Email goodgirlsdont@gmail.com Facebook: @goodgirlsdontpod 

[RE-BROADCAST] Good Girls Don't Know They're Enough

Sometimes, we venture onto other people's podcasts and they're kind enough not to kick us off their platform immediately.  This week's bonus episode comes courtesy of Claire Riley from the Recovering Perfectionists Podcast.   On this episode you'll hear Verity being interviewed by Claire about Breaking the Good Girl Rules: - Growing up she was obsessed with her body 'not being perfect' - Body image and conforming to what society refers to as 'beautiful' - What beauty is for us? - Understanding your truths. Knowing your absolute, core, top 5 values - the things that you can't live without or we will lose our sense of self, sense of integrity and sense of who we are. - Knowing your core values will allow you to express yourself without caring about what norm/society will think about you and what you wear, etc. - She wants to be an inspiration to her girls to break good girl rules Join The Recovering Perfectionists BIO Verity Mansfield is a transformational coach, mentor and self-love advocate. She is the founder of A Beautiful Truth, which supports women holistically to acknowledge the true beauty within, through coaching, on-line programs, and workshops.   With 20 years of exploring the concepts of beauty (including the international fashion industry), self-love and self-transformation, her own life experiences have enabled her to teach other women how to embrace their strengths and live life on their own terms. Verity Mansfield works in assisting other women through their own journey of self-love and empowerment as they awaken to their own fulfillment. She firmly believes in working towards creating generations of empowered women, to create real change and real beauty in the world.

IN THE WILD: Verity Breaks the Good Girl Rules on The Recovering Perfectionist Podcast by Claire Riley

Weekly Bonus Time!  Rebels and Comrades, gather round because it's time for another bonus episode. This week we're thrilled to bring an episode of The Online Therapy Podcast hosted by Renee McDonalds on the topic of Curiosity, with guest Richard Hill (father of Jess Hill, author of See What You Made Me Do).  The Online Therapy Podcast provides information to practitioners and clients about providing therapy online, the latest technology, people who can support your practice and we help you on how to find the right therapist for you through the internet and online. Connect with Renee Here: www.aott.com.au www.reneemcdonald.com

BONUS Curiosity with Richard Hill, The Online Therapy Podcast by Renee McDonald

This is the podcast where we smash those rules we've been taught to follow both as men and women, burn the darn rule book. We'll tackle the big issues, the issues nobody wants to talk about and we'll be fiercely feminist about it. This podcast is about inspiration, education, compassion and being the change we need in the world. This podcast is for the trail blazers, freedom fighters and soul igniters - get ready Australia, feminism is here! Hosted by Verity Mansfield from Verity Mansfield Coaching and Mentoring and Ashleigh Rae from Ear Woke Media. Contact Ashleigh and Verity goodgirlsdontpod@gmail.com

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