It can be so exciting when the ex or that guy you were talking to comes back around, saying how he's been thinking of you and missing you.  But as soon as you start talking about yourself and what's new in your life, he's bored. Or he starts talking about this other girl he's talking to, or all these problems in his life. As much as he said he's changed, these are very clear signals that things are still the same. In this episode, I talk about exactly what to look out for to see if this guy has really changed or if it's the same old Gumball Guy, and exactly what to say to get rid of him for good. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger  

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What If He Comes Back?

In this episode, we're diving deep into some questions you guys asked me on Instagram. I'm sharing my take on open relationships and polygamy, can exes be friends, and what to do about dating burn out. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Q&A: Can Exes Be Friends?

This is the episode for you if you're sick of waiting around for the guy to text you back, or to actually take initiative and ask you out, but you're hesitant to actually cut him loose. This episode is inspired by one of the girls in the community who DMed me a revelation she had where she finally raised her standards and stopped settling. Now, she feels liberated in dating. This episode is designed to show you what your dating life and relationships can look like when you raise your standards and draw those boundaries! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Leveling Up and Raising Your Standards

I used to put up with all the red flags. I'd let things slide because I didn't have the belief that I'd ever actually find a guy...since I'm tall, opinionated and financially successful.  This scarcity mindset hugely backfired! It kept me stuck in the cycle of dating Gumball Guys for years. The ironic thing is, all the things about myself that I was trying to hide, are the things my partner now loves the most. This episode is to give you rapid fire the top things to look out for to know if you're dating or talking to a Gumball Guy, and to also remind you how important it is to BELIEVE. Believe that you are worthy, believe that there IS the perfect guy out there for you, and that you don't have to settle. We also have a brand new workbook available to give you the full breakdown of all the different flavors of Gumball Guys and the red flags to look out for. Get it on the first page at gumballlove.com! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

How to Filter like a Freak

Teenagers these days face unprecedented challenges when it comes to dating and relationships. No other generation before them was raised in the world of social media (and now, social distancing). With "we're just hanging out" and other no-labeling strangeness normalized, it can be hard to know if this guy you've been texting is really into YOU or just using you.  In this episode, I'm breaking down how teens specifically can notice the patterns of Gumball Guys so they can break out of the cycle and save themselves a lot of hurt and heartbreak in the future. So if you are a teenager, or you have one in your life who needs to hear this, please listen and share! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Navigating Love and Gumball Guys for Teens

You have to stop shaming and judging yourself for staying with the wrong guy, even though you see the red flags now. Period! In this episode we answer the question...why do we feel so dumb for staying with a Gumball Guy or having done so in the past? You are NOT dumb, and it doesn't help you in any way to think so. This episode will give you the mindset makeover you need to break out of the blame and shame game, and get on the path towards healing. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Stop Beating Yourself Up Over Mistakes

Kristina Persson is a Dating & Relationship Coach who specializes in helping millennial women manifest happy relationships, WITHOUT having to spend hours on dating apps. On the Gumball Love Podcast, Kristina and Melissa chat about what they often see millennial women doing wrong in dating that is keeping them from finding true, lasting love. They discuss masculine and feminine energy and how it plays a role in dating, why the thought "I don't need a man, I'm an independent woman" is actually not so healthy, how to balance being a sensual woman with holding off on sex in the beginning stages of dating, and more. Connect with Kristina 22K Followers on Tik Tok: @cantgetatextback Instagram: @cantgetatextback Dream Girl Dating Academy Waitlist: https://colossal-hustler-8039.ck.page/79ecb0381f Manifest Your Dream Guy ASAP Free workbook: https://colossal-hustler-8039.ck.page/73eab0babf  Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

What Millennial Dating is Missing with Dating Coach Kristina Persson

After going through a traumatic relationship, divorce, or breakup, it can be really hard to keep having hope that things will get better and everything will work out in the end. How do we not lose hope after getting beat down? When we have a physical injury, it's clear that we need to take rest and heal. However, when it's an emotional wound, somehow there's this expectation to "move on quickly" and "bounce back."  As we know, it's not that simple. And there are some key things we need to understand before we're truly able to move on and break free. In this podcast episode, I talk about what steps you need to take after a traumatic breakup in order to heal and not lose hope. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Feeling Hopeless After Divorce: How to Move Forward

With the Delta variant on the rise, it's been highly requested to do another episode on online dating and how to navigate it, so I'll be answering some of your questions! Online dating can be so overwhelming with endless options of people. A lot of times, we go into it when we're not ready, which can make things even worse.  Not to mention, we're inundated with zero to low effort guys sending nothing but 'how r u' or 'nice smile'.  But don't worry, in this episode I'm breaking down: What questions to ask yourself before going into online dating so you can be crystal clear about what you're looking for How to filter out the low effort guys and focus your attention on high quality men so you don't waste your time Getting your mindset right and your life in order before online dating so that you feel fully confident and ready to dive in Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

How to Filter Out the Wrong Men When Dating Online

You're having a fun night on a date, or maybe a night out, and it's come to that moment when you're wondering whether you should go back to his place or have him come back to yours for sex or not. While I can't make this decision for you and would never try to, I do want to give you a few questions to ask yourself before making the decision and to really think about.  We'll also talk about the real reason why guys ghost after sex-- it's often not having anything to do with you, and everything to do with them. If you're interested to book a 1-1 coaching session with me, check the links below! Please subscribe and share this podcast with your friends❤️ Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

When Should You Have Sex with Him?

Enter the search term "dating advice" on Google or Youtube and you're bound to come across listicles or videos with titles like "10 Things You're Doing that are Turning Men Off" or "The Number One Mistake Women Make in Dating". From this day forward, I want you to STOP consuming content like this. It's crap!! 1. You're never gonna find the holy grail of "what men want" because all men are DIFFERENT just like all women are different 2. This type of advice does not teach you how to have a deep, intimate relationship..it teaches you how to catch the attention of shallow men 3. The pick up artists who sell this advice never speak from personal experience and are almost never in successful, healthy relationships themselves.  Forget it all!! In this episode, I break down how to discern the crap advice from the credible advice that actually helps you find true, committed love. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

What Men Want: Why Most Dating Advice is Crap

When we've dated Gumball Guys in the past, often it's daunting and scary to get back into dating because we've been burned before. We're a bit jaded and skeptical that all guys are jerks. Well, hindsight is always 20/20, but we can try some things during the dating stage to test the waters and see if he's really ready for love and commitment.  Junk "dating advice" will give you a lot of short-term strategies for getting a Gumball Guy. Well, ya got him..and now you wish you never met him. This episode is about LONG-TERM..how to actually find the right guy for you, who will be someone you can lean on in tough times, a teammate to take on life together. Tune in to this episode to find out what type of inner work you should be doing to see if you are ready for love, as well as what you should be looking out for in a guy to see if he has the capacity to love as well. Resources Mentioned How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Does He Have the Capacity to Love?

In this special interview, I'm interviewing my podcast manager of two years, Dana Drahos! Dana ditched corporate America life in July 2018 for the adventure of a lifetime, moving abroad to Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon), Vietnam. She started out teaching English, and over the past three years has gone on a wild ride of finding her passion, starting her own podcast Creators in Saigon, healing from childhood trauma, and discovering herself. She has just gotten certified as a Holistic Nutritionist and Health Coach and is dedicated to helping women overcome their PMS symptoms like bad cramps, heavy bleeding, acne, migraines, mood swings, etc. through nutrition and lifestyle changes (yes, it's possible!). In this episode, we interview Dana to talk about: What events lead up to her decision to actually quit her job and move to Vietnam Why she chose Vietnam and what steps she took to get there What it was like when she first got there Her path from teaching, to starting her own podcast, to producing podcasts for clients (like Melissa), and now moving into helping women balance their hormones through nutrition Her tips for the first steps women can take to reducing their PMS symptoms Some of her Gumball Guy experiences and how working on Gumball Love for the past two years has personally helped her This episode is for you If you're: Struggling to find what you're passionate about Hating your job but too scared to leave Have always wanted to live abroad Struggling with PMS symptoms (heavy bleeding, mood swings, bad cramps, acne, migraines, etc.) Feel free to message Dana if this story has inspired you or if you have any more questions for her. She also shares a lot about health and wellness in her Instagram stories! Resources Mentioned MyFlo app for period symptom tracking (search for it in your app store) Get in Touch with Dana Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dana.drahos Email: dana@danadrahos.com Podcast: Creators in Saigon Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

How a Small Town Girl found her Passion in Saigon, Vietnam with Dana Drahos, Women's Nutritionist

How do you know if you are "ready for love"? The depiction of love and romance in Hollywood movies certainly sets the wrong expectations for us around what healthy love, dating and relationships look like. After many years of dating and relationships, learning from the mistakes, and finally meeting the love of my life at age 43, I share how I knew I was ready for love, and what signs you can look out for in your own life. Resources Mentioned How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

What Does it Mean to be Ready for Love?

This is a quick episode where I wanted to talk about a new concept I heard from Dr. Caroline Leaf about thoughts, and how to stop the pattern of negative thinking and sleepless nights filled with anxious thoughts! I share with you a helpful exercise that she explained, and tie it back to how this relates to childhood trauma and our tendencies to date Gumball Guys. Resources Mentioned How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera The Ed Mylett Show episode with Dr. Caroline Leaf Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

How to Break Free from Toxic Thought Patterns

Ever had a guy ghost you? He’s into you and suddenly he pulls away or cheats? Does he leave and come back into your life? This is a Gumball Guy. Gumball Love is attention addiction. Attention is just like a Gumball, temporarily intense and sweet but soon the effect is gone. Guys addicted to the “Gumball" (any flavor of attention), get a high from the excitement, adoration and validation. During this cycle they appear to be falling in love. When the high is gone they pull away, ghost or cheat leaving you feeling confused, rejected and heartbroken. I'm your host, Melissa Leger, professional relationship coach, creator of Gumball Love and the Back to You Academy. If you're ready to stop the cycle of toxic men, get through the break up once and for all, and finally get back to YOU, you are in the right place. This journey is about healing your heart, and you are encouraged to take the pace that is just right for you. In the process, you will build a foundation of confidence and strength that will make you unshakable, I promise. So get ready to level up your mindset and your lifestyle, as you awaken the seeds of greatness that are waiting to burst into full bloom. Let's do this! Find Melissa Leger at www.GumballLove.com Instagram: @TheMelissaLeger Email: Melissa@GumballLove.com Facebook group: Gumball Love VIP Clubhouse

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