This week I wanted to wrap up the conversations around anxious attachment that I've shared over the past couple episodes, finishing with tools and mindset shifts that have been the most helpful for me and that are helping me move in the direction of someone who experiences secure relationships, beyond the advice to just find someone who is secure and have them be who heals this part of me (though that is still a part of this process as well in some ways). I hope these learnings and practical practices might resonate with you if you find yourself in a similar attachment style and I include more links and resources over at hifriend.co. I also share my plans for this podcast moving into the next year and elaborate on where I'll be putting my focus. Find me on instagram at @glitterandgrace and over on my blog at Glitter and Grace.

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Moving From an Anxious to Secure Attachment Style

As a follow up to last week's episode about attachment and having a hard time letting go of a person or relationship, I felt nudged to share a post I wrote on my blog six years ago. This was a visualization that truly felt divinely inspired, as if it was directly channeled through me. A visualization about letting go when I needed it the most. I return to this post often as it brings me great comfort, and I had the thought to record it in an audio version, for myself, and for anyone who might like to hear these words wash over them as well.  Read the written version here Show notes over at hifriend.co Find me on Instagram at @glitterandgrace

Letting Go - A Guided Visualization

I felt nudged to share a more personal part of my healing journey, one that I'm currently in the midst of working through, because it's an area I think many people can relate to. And that is the "stuck-ness" of being attached to someone and the frustrating feeling of not being able to let go, even when we don't understand our feelings in the first place. If moving on was easy, so many of us wouldn't struggle with this. But the reality is that there are much deeper forces at play when we find ourselves attached to someone that doesn't choose us back, or isn't in our worth. This fact can seem scary at first, but I've actually found it to be quite a relief when realizing the reason I hold on to attachments is because at a soul level I believe it will bring completeness and healing from something that was left unmet in me at a very young age. My hope is to tackle this topic with vulnerability and determination, and to share parts of it transparently with the goal of bringing healing to my own soul in this area, and then to guide others into healing who may need it as well. This episode serves as a setting up of the story of attachment in my own life, and then the high-level ways that I believe attachment exists in the first place. Through this and future episodes we'll cover the root causes of what leads to attachments, and then share tools for how to begin to break free from these blocks. Looking forward to healing and growing together, friends. See notes and links from the show over at hifriend.co.

Why We Can't Just "Get Over Someone"

Checking in with a few updates on life lately: what it's been like to re-incorporate alcohol back into my life after taking a year off, moments where I've been able to witness the ways in which my personal growth journey have started to make noticeable and tangible differences in my relationships and personality, and a big decision I just made that I believe will help take me into this next chapter of my life that I've been envisioning for awhile.

Drinking Update + The Belief That's Changed Everything For Me

It was such a joy getting to chat with Morgan Day Cecil, a Feminine Wholeness expert who I have followed and looked to for wisdom for years now, and to get to benefit from all of the life-giving goodness that poured from her story and the words she shared during our conversation. A question I often ponder, and hear from other single women, is around sexuality and how to incorporate it or delight in it without the presence of another human. Morgan's definitions of romance and adventure had me "Amen-ing" like crazy, and I really believe the words in this episode will bring healing, wholeness, and freedom to every woman who listens. You can find Morgan over at @morgandaycecil and http://morgandaycecil.com/, with the full show notes and links to all the free resources she mentioned over at hifriend.co. 

Enjoying Our Sexuality in Every Season - Sara + Morgan Day Cecil

Learning how to create and cultivate an abundance mindset has been one of the most beneficial practices of my life. I decided to publish this episode coming from a place of lack (in the world's eyes) in the areas of love and money, rather than wait until I have "achieved" both of those things, to show what it looks like to hold onto this mindset even in the midst of waiting for abundance to arrive, and demonstrate how I practice claiming abundance no matter where I'm at in life. Choosing to view life through a lens of abundance over scarcity goes way beyond money and love, and spills over into every facet of life, hence why I think this is such an essential practice to grasp. I share the mindset shifts and specific thoughts I focus on to create this in my own life, and the ways in which I believe abundance is already available to me as well as on its way to me right now.

Creating Abundance in Love and Money

As I've struggled to stay productive in certain areas of my life, specifically as it relates to my work, the practice of imagining and then invoking the behaviors of my higher self has been so beneficial for me. In this episode I explain who your higher self is, how to get really clear in defining it, and then how knowing those answers helps direct all of the decisions in your day to day life. Learning this concept blew my mind, and even though I'm still in progress with learning how to constantly live it out, I've been excited to share this process with you all for awhile now.  I'd love to know if there was anything specific that resonated with you in this episode, you can message me on Instagram at @glitterandgrace and find the show notes over at hifriend.co.

What Your Higher Self Has To Do With Increasing Your Productivity

This week I had the pleasure of talking with Brooke and Heather - the women, wives, mothers and entrepreneurs behind Sōlspace - a community for women that creates a space for those who are balancing all these roles together. In our conversation we talk about one of my favorite things: not waiting on certain milestones to more fully live your life, and what that has looked like for each of us. We also share how "the grass is always greener" game is pointless - from both sides of marriage - and why we strongly dislike the phrase, "just you wait" (including suggestions on what you should say instead ;). I loved this conversation and I hope you do too! Find Brooke and Heather and their blog over at Sōlspace.co, their podcast on iTunes, and follow along on Instagram at @solspace.co. See the full show notes over at hifriend.co as well.

Just You Wait - Sara + Sōlspace

One of the most life-altering things I have learned and incorporated into my life has been the revelation that my thoughts and my thoughts alone are what cause my feelings, and in turn, affect the actions I take and the experience I have in this life. As I've witnessed first hand the power I have to completely change my feelings and experiences towards something - anything from my relationship with cockroaches (trigger warning but also not really cuz it's a happy story :) to my relationship with my roommates - it's given me an entirely new (and amazing) perspective on the fact that I am in control of my happiness and the ways in which I decide to experience this life. I share personal stories of how this has affected multiple areas of my life for the better, simple tips for how to be more intentional with your thoughts and how to begin creating a more joyful and empowered life for yourself, and then resources for how to further develop these practices. See more over at hifriend.co.

Thought Work That Will Change Your Life, Or At The Least, Your Relationship with Cockroaches

Lately I've become so aware of the amount of joy and delight I experience on a daily basis, and so much of it is thanks to steps I've taken to fill as many tiny corners of my day and life with things that light me up and spark joy. And so I wanted to share those delightful little details with you, and also ways in which you can go about doing the same in your life - because I believe the practice of learning how to make ourselves happy and learning how to create a world in which we're constantly flooded with delight and gratitude is one that has a ripple effect so far beyond ourselves. I share specifics from the morning and evening routines I've created for myself, and the 4 different "domains" I curate to my preference, and then end with tips on how to start or deepen this practice for yourself, with important distinctions on how this isn't about materialism or excess. Bonus content includes my spiritual journey with my cold sore, the current podcast I'm obsessed with, and the book I'm reading to overcome resistance in my creative endeavors (which I'll share now since I said it wrong on the podcast, ugh: "The War OF Art").

How to Create a Life Filled With Delight

In my own life experience, a message I have received through various areas of my life has been that it can be unsafe to have friendships of the opposite sex. Whether that's because it's impossible to be friends with a guy without it turning into a romantic or sexual relationship, or because it's not appropriate to be close friends with a man who's married, these messages can lead us to believe that ourselves and others are ultimately untrustworthy and that we need to proceed with fear or strict boundaries in order to have these relationships. I know that's not everyone's experience, but my hope in sharing this is to highlight the necessity and beauty of having friendships of all genders that are able to hold great intimacy and closeness without the end outcome always needing to be a romantic relationship. As I've gotten to witness the healing and life-giving benefits of those friendships in my life, I wanted to express gratitude for what they've meant to me, and encourage others to seek out a varied community for their own lives as well.

It Is Safe To Be Friends With Men

Expanding on the topic of intuitive dating and sharing stories of times I felt pressured into dating situations because of outside factors and how I've learned to tune those out and only do what feels right for me. I also share the importance of shifting my mindset around dating to one that's positive and hopeful rather than one that has given up all hope of ever meeting someone decent in this app-saturated world. See more over at hifriend.co.

You Can Date However You Want

Thoughts on the things I wish we did more of in our friendships rather than saving them for romantic and married relationships. See the show notes over at hifriend.co.

Stop Saving Intimacy For Marriage

When a topic is repeatedly put in my path, I pay attention to what it's there to teach me. And the concept of the mind-body connection and the ways in which our unreleased emotions and anger manifest as pain or dis-ease in our bodies is one that seems to be everywhere I look these days. Confirmed by a mini incident I recently experienced, I decided to share what I've been learning around this from multiple sources, and the tools I've started to use to healthily release unwanted and toxic emotions from my own body. I am so fascinated and encouraged by the growing awareness and conversations around this subject, and am hopeful for the healing and growth we'll begin to collectively see as this knowledge is spread. Find resources and show notes over at hifriend.co.

How Making Friends With Your Anger is Your Ticket to Healing

This is a topic I've had rolling around in my heart for the past year or so. The topic of who we're here to "help," how we know which path to follow in finding our purpose, and releasing the guilt around not feeling called to a life of sacrifice and service (as you may currently understand those words). You can even hear the resistance I'm still wrestling through in this episode as I try to justify the path I've currently set myself on when it comes to choosing the ways I'll use my life as a service to others, as I clearly have some beliefs deeply embedded in me around this idea. I hope my rambling thoughts make sense, and you're left with a feeling of relief, with the ability to release the pressure from your own life, and add practical tools for moving forward and focusing on one thing at a time in order to find wholeness in yourself as a way to bring healing to the world.

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