Fears, Feelings, and Fatigue, OH MY! Today we have a no-fluff conversation with Financial Planner and Podcast Host Meghan Dwyer about juggling career, family, and the nuances that come with being a female breadwinner. Money isn't scary, but we all have stories that we tell ourselves about our self-worth and ability to handle finances. For many women these stories are deeply embedded, negative, and reinforced throughout their lives. In part one of this two-part series, we explore: The patriarchal attitudes that still define women's role in the workplace and home The emotions that women feel as the primary breadwinner How to process those emotions healthily Read all the show notes, get Meghan’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

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Episode 62 - Working Mom Life (As The Breadwinner) Part 1 of 2

Money, kids, and in-laws...those have to be the top 3 reasons couples fight, right? Today's guest can't help you with the last two, but they've got you covered on the first. Money is an emotional trigger for many couples, and even seemingly-innocent conversations can lead to heated arguments that are difficult to resolve and may boil over into other areas of the relationship. Men -- don’t miss this one. It’s for everyone, but there’s something powerful in the humility and perspective Stephen Finney brings. Who hasn't had a disagreement with their partner about blown budgets, missed payments, or a lack of the extra income needed to enjoy life? Financial Coach Stephen Finney is on a mission to help couples recover from money battles and embarrassment so that they can save, spend, and give according to their goals. Listen up as he shares his five-step framework to manage, and most importantly bounce back from heated money arguments with our partners. [8:21] Stephen Finney helps couples overcome their money conflicts so they can create a legacy of love and trust. His program “Grow Together!” coaches couples through their financial conflicts and struggles with communication over money. (Read all the show notes, get Stephen’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast) 

Episode 61 - What To Do When Money Talks Get Heated

What would it be like to handle money in a way that highlights your strength and that you actually *enjoy* doing?! And Kolbe Theory ™ Certified Coach Michael Dickey is here to show us how! Join Michael as he takes us through his signature framework to learn how to: Determine if you are prone to disagreements as a couple and what to do about it [7:45] What to do when your conative mind doesn't align with societal norms [16:03] How to use your strengths to strive in and out of work [20:00] Micheal Dickey is the Chief Leadership Officer at Fiscal Fitness Phoenix and has been a Certified Kolbe Consultant since 2019. Together with Kelsa Dickey, his wife and business partner, they and their team are "helping driven professionals and solopreneurs gain clarity and stress less with their money."  (Read all the show notes, get Michael’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast)

Episode 60 - Conflict, Communication, and Problem Solving With Your Partner

Having your caring, concerned, and trusted partner handle the finances in your relationship...seems like a dream come true, right?  Not so fast! What happens when concern turns into coercion? When does trust become a threat?  Financial abuse isn't widely discussed, so you may be surprised to learn how prevalent it is. Like domestic abuse, financial abuse can be subtle, suggestive at the outset, and yet just as severe. Two excellent organizations with programs to assist with physical abuse, safety, and financial abuse are https://domesticshelter.org/ and https://nnedv.org/ Before giving your partner complete control, listen to today's episode with Carine Keenan, Relationship Therapist, Coach, and the creator of Financially Fit Couples. She teaches us: How To Spot The Warning Signs Of Financial Abuse [8:02] What Preliminary Steps Couples Can Take To Reduce The Risk of Financial Abuse [10:46] What Protections Are Available To Victims [20:59] (Read all the show notes, get Carine’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast)

Episode 59 - Financial Abuse In Couples

It’s hard enough to navigate money, emotions, relationships, and expectations inside a single relationship, but... What about in blended families with sets of step-parents, step kids, your kids, and your new spouse?! Blending beautifully takes intentional conversations, collaboration, and perseverance to navigate what may seem like an ongoing family construction zone. Bill and Jen Rogers, of the Stepfamily Mission Possible podcast, are here to help us anticipate the complexities and develop a personalized roadmap! In this episode, they help us uncover the “magical formula” to blended parenting. They also share ways to take the sting out of child support and alimony. Plus, they’ll teach you how to move from feeling stuck, even if you have very different ideas about the proper direction. (Read all the show notes, get Bill & Jen’s links, find out your Couples Money Personality Type, and  more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast)

Episode 58 - Stepfamily Couples: Four Keys To Flourishing

You learned about skeletal and muscular systems in school. But what about the psychological and biological system that helps us form and maintain healthy relationships with ourselves, others, and our money? Ed Coambs is a thought leader in Financial Therapy with experience in financial planning. He has combined his experience with analysis of the latest brain and love research to learn what makes us tick around relationships and money.  He’s found a theory that explains so much of it: Attachment Theory. Ed is here to share how attachment styles can impact our financial well-being. Your relationship with money, others, and even your perspective of yourself is developed based on how caregivers responded to your needs (or didn’t) from the time you were born. This episode was so powerful that we’ve also recorded a Part 2!   You’ll find:     That positive social and emotional relationships are key to human survival and when deprived of them we begin to suffer What “attachment styles” means and what each of the four styles may look like in you, your partner, or others. About 50-60% of the general, non-clinical population exhibit a range of secure attachment behavior, indicating positive, repetitive relationships with themselves and others. (Read all the show notes, get Ed’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast)

Episode 57 - Attachment Styles, Relationships, and Money

Let's face it, no one wants to compromise when it comes to their marriage or their money. That's why this week's episode is all about creating synergy.  We know that when two individuals come together as one, they have an opportunity to become greater than the sum of their equal parts. Despite this knowledge, couples still struggle to find actionable tools to tap into the magic of synergy.  This episode features Relationship Coach Cheri Timko on why a couple's greatest tool is the unique *habits* they create. She also shares a powerful habit that any couple can incorporate to cultivate communication, commitment, and consistency across their relationship, including money. AND here's the good news...once we establish this habit, it operates on autopilot. A few highlights: Have you ever struggled to talk to your partner about difficult things? Learn how to open the door to seamless communication. [00:04:29] Think that daily, weekly, and monthly touchpoints with your partner don't make a difference? Learn how small shifts can be the catalyst to keeping your relationship in sync. [00:02:00] Do you and your partner suffer from automation avoidance? Learn what it is and how to make automation work. [00:10:23]   (Read all the show notes, get Cheri’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast) 

Episode 56 - How To Strengthen Your Marriage While Improving Your Finances

If you know an educator, it’s likely you also are very aware of their ongoing internal tug-of-war between work-life balance and pay. E Danyall, a former adjunct professor and the primary breadwinner in her family, found a way out by creating online courses and sharing her knowledge online, instead of only in the classroom.  Now, it’s E’s mission to help other teachers leverage their knowledge toward a successful exit from the classroom. Or at least the freedom to choose. She wants to empower educators to use their in-depth knowledge and experience to their advantage and finally earn what their expertise is worth. Whether you’re still suffering at that exhausting, low-paying job; thinking about making a transition and wondering how to make the jump; or wading through the early years of entrepreneurship and trying to get your business off the ground (or have a partner doing any of these things)...E Danyall has insight for you! A few highlights:  What it was like to go from being the highly-educated breadwinner with the career...to being home with much less income while she launched her online courses, including struggles with feelings of doubt, being burdensome, and fear...to becoming the entrepreneurial female breadwinner in the family.  [8:41] How the “independent woman” mindset can accidentally be damaging toward the bond and the intrinsic support for each other in a relationship, and how open communication can get couples back on the same page.  [14:32] What her husband said about her true value as a person, a woman, and a mother when she was feeling down about her financial contributions during the tough transition times.  [25:10] Read all the show notes, get E’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 55 - Female Breadwinners, Knowledge Monetization, and Re-Discovering Self-Worth

We all have a money story, and there are ALWAYS layers of emotions built-in. When we're in a relationship...oh, boy. But there’s a silver lining: We can create more intimacy, trust, and connection by opening up about our money story -- and also being curious about someone else's money story and experience. Still, when and how do you bring up the topic of money? What if it’s a new relationship - you don’t want to scare them away, right? Today’s guest, Kim Nicol, is a life coach with expertise in mindfulness and leadership. She is here to share tips about how, when, and why to bring up finances, especially when dating or in a new relationship. She teaches us how to learn about our acquaintances, friends, and partners by asking curiosity-driven questions about their first job, holiday gifts, expectations, and memories.  A few highlights:  How you can learn about someone's experiences and perspective on money by asking creative questions.  [4:31] Kim’s process of evaluating why you may want to know about the person’s money perspective, and how to allow that to determine what you ask.  [8:35] Her personal experience in bringing up holiday gifts with her partner before Christmas, the sweet gifts they exchanged, and how being open about the subject relieved building tension about money and the upcoming holiday season.  [18:04] Read all the show notes, get Kim’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 54 - How And When To Bring Up Finances In A Relationship

What’s your wisest investment? Most people think of their emergency fund, retirement account, or real estate. But Robin Taub is here to teach us about the importance of raising money-smart kids! Why’s that? For starters: if and when adult children get in a bind, their money problems often become their parents’ money problems. Heading this off with a solid financial education starts when they are very young. Starting as young as age five, you can discuss simple math, delayed gratification, and the concept of trading money for things you want and need. Listen in as Robin Taub tells us how! A Chartered Professional Accountant by training, Robin Taub began her career at KPMG, transitioned into real estate, and then landed in the complex world of derivatives marketing at Citibank Canada. Today, she’s a professional speaker and author of The Wisest Investment, an update of the bestselling A Parent’s Guide to Raising Money-Smart Kids. A few highlights:  Parents have a duty and responsibility to raise financially educated, money-smart kids. If not, the kids and the parents wind up paying the price. And it’s an expensive lesson for all involved.  [2:37] How to share age-appropriate money lessons with children under the five pillars: Earn, Save, Spend, Share, and Invest  [8:47] When we can slow down and connect with children over such a commonly-used, impactful tool like money, and look for opportunities to build money lessons into day-to-day life, we create a life-long bond over it.    [24:11]   Read all the show notes, get Robin’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 53 - Why Your Kids’ Money-Sense Is Your Wisest Investment

We’re experiencing a shift in the traditional role of men as financial breadwinners and decision-makers. More women are breadwinners than ever before. And at an even faster rate, women are making their voices heard when it comes to family finances.  How can you transcend those traditional gender norms as smoothly as possible and create more equity in your relationship? Today’s guest, Teresa Lodato, has done the work in her personal life and now shares it with you! She’s a former stressed-out financial services executive. Now, she guides leaders to fully align with their inner knowing to optimize mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Teresa’s clients learn to create balanced and healthy relationships which promote effective communication and bridges to connection, including around money. Since your health is tied directly to your financial stability, each partner’s needs, opinions, and fears must be integral parts of the financial planning and implementation. Money conversations can be tense, especially if a partner has experienced scarcity, loss, or fear around finances. Bring curiosity to each conversation, and you’ll avoid jumping to conclusions, making assumptions, or starting an accidental argument! Read all the show notes, get Teresa’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 52 - Bringing (More) Women Into The Money Conversation

You’ve likely heard the term “money mindset” thrown around. But what does it really mean, and how does it affect our relationships?  Luckily, our guest is Certified Divorce Specialist & Financial Therapy Association member Christine Luken! She has coached hundreds of high-earning professionals toward paying off staggering amounts of debt and massively increasing their wealth through the Financial Dignity® Movement. In this episode, Christine shares: How we learned to interact with our family of origin, with those experiences forming our money blueprint at an extremely young age (around 7!); How that may affect our interactions with money, and therefore our relationships, too; How to create awareness about your money mindset + the questions to ask to learn about your spouse’s money mindset; and, A nifty trick to stop emotional online spending. When you uplevel your self-awareness and understanding, you’ll be better able to navigate financial tension, manage each other's triggers, and problem-solve amicably!  Read the full show notes, snag Christine’s links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 51 - Money Mindset Awareness For Couples

It’s long been taboo to discuss money and salary among family and friends, but even more so at work. Luckily, stagnant generational patterns are fading and workplace policies are changing. Nicole Babel started her coaching business after a successful career coaching salespeople and leading teams. She loves to work with 20 and 30 somethings to help them negotiate all the life that happens in those years. As the founder of From Broke 2 Baller in Columbus, Ohio, she is well versed in how to appropriately bring up topics like pay equality, the gender wage gap, and asking for a raise at work. In today's episode, we’re getting cozy with those previously uncomfortable conversations, thanks to Nicole! Nicole talks about: How each different generation, from Baby Boomers, to GenX, to Millennials are gradually becoming more open to conversations about money and why.  The transformation she’s witnessed in the perspective of young men toward equity because they understand that as women rise to equality, the entire family reaps the rewards. What to say and how to keep the conversation with HR or your supervisor focused on you if you do find out someone makes more than you.  Read the full show notes, get Nicole's links, and find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 50 - Leading Workplace Money Conversations Like A Boss

Mental health and access to counseling has risen to the forefront of our attention over the past few years, a trend that was accelerated by the Covid_19 Pandemic.  Carrie Bock, LPC-MHSP of By The Well Counseling, is a Christian Licensed Professional Counselor who specializes in helping clients with anxiety and OCD overcome wounding childhood experiences via online counseling across Tennessee.  We dive into all things mental health, insurance coverage for counseling, and low-cost or free opportunities for counseling you probably didn’t even know existed. As a couple, seeking help and remaining inside the budget is always a concern, but after you listen to this episode, you’ll know all the tricks. Carrie talks about: How to use your Employee Assistance Program Benefits through your employer to get confidential counseling for free without a mental health diagnosis. How to obtain counseling for reduced rates from university counselors, pre-licensed professionals, or recent graduates.  How to find a therapist or counselor that aligns with your needs by asking tough questions and being open about your needs. Find out more & read the full show notes at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 49 - Mental Health Support On Any Budget

Would you like more lightness, joy, and clarity in your life around your finances and your life? Who wouldn’t!   Today, Jenna Carlson, a Certified KonMari Consultant, helps us explore the important relationship between physical clutter and financial chaos!   The KonMari method is a systematic yet intuitive process of weeding through our physical belongings. For example, for things that no longer serve us or bring us joy, we thank them and get rid of them. This all helps us move to a more abundant mindset through decluttering our personal space.   Jenna talks about: Decluttering on your own or with your partner Whether or not your partner needs to be on board What to expect if you embark upon the KonMari decluttering method    So much of our behavior as adults is a reflection of the way we grew up. That includes our financial habits, our health habits, and yes, even what we keep and how we keep our physical personal space. Find out more at https://ahkcoaching.com/podcast

Episode 48 - How The Magic of Decluttering Filters Your Life For Joy

Adam is a Couples Financial Counselor who loves helping couples get on the same page, minimize their financial stress, and build healthy financial futures. You can have the peace and financial freedom you want and deserve, and he will help you get there. As a Mediator, Financial Advisor, and former Tax Lawyer, he provides individually-crafted coaching and trainings. If you want to make both your relationship & finances work, then Adam has what it takes to get you there.

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How to Invest in Your Marriage...and the Stock Market

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