In this episode (Marriage is extremely dynamic), I wrap up my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the importance of making space and time for yourself, especially in a relationship. We discuss finances and allocating money for your personal hobbies and individual needs. We highlight the intentionality required to keep the spark alive in a marriage. We dive deep on balancing emotions and understanding which ones to project out, because everything doesn’t need to be shared. We uncover some of the unique feelings that come from fatherhood. We break down some of the misconceptions of marriage and how critical timing is to meeting the right partner. We wrap up with our thoughts on what people are truly looking for in a partner and our perspective on dating women with children. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!  

I Think I Love My Wife

S02.E16 - Marriage is extremely dynamic

In this episode (Stick to your guns), I continue my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the male ego and when we need to check it. We discuss the attractiveness of women who can take charge and the importance of seeing your partner actively make an effort towards the things you ask for. We uncover the blessings that going through seasons early in a relationship can provide. We explain how personal issues can impact the way a man progresses in his relationship and the communication required to overcome. We share how some men deal with break up and view taking the necessary steps forward. We break down how the feeling of “knowing” you’re with the right person can trump some of the rigid rules we have, typical protocol we like to follow, and the desired data points we like to gather. We highlight how people are typically checking for things on the margin when it’s not an instant or automatic fit / connection. We wrap up with a discussion on balancing the time it takes to cultivate a strong foundation with the expected pace to get to commitment and exclusivity. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E15 - Stick to your guns

In this episode (It’s about opportunity and access), I start my conversation with a guy who’s met his partner in Vegas, while visiting from another country and examine his journey to marriage and fatherhood. We talk about the adaptability required in a relationship, especially with long distance. We discuss women being risk averse and how expectations can lead to disappointment. We explain leverage dynamics and how it tends to change hands over the course of a relationship. We highlight the need for people to be authentic to themselves and for men to be more intentional about matching their actions with actions with how they feel about a woman. We dive deep in the value of having time apart from your partner. We describe some of the mental notes that men take when interacting with a woman and how much we evaluate the way a woman responds to things. We uncover why men are sometimes hesitant to move a relationship forward. We also share our thoughts on dealing with rejection and the things that can make guys feel less of a man. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E14 - It’s about opportunity and access

In this episode (It wasn’t a full court press), I continue my conversation with a guy I’ve known for 20+ years, who’s been remarried, and examine his journey towards finding love with the right person. We talk about the mixed messages that “courting” can send a woman in certain situations and how it can look like a full court press when it’s not really one. We explain how men may react differently to a woman giving him what feels like demands. We discuss the differences between stating expectations and demanding them. We uncover the importance of showing your partner you support them. We highlight a key reason why it’s important to celebrate marriage by having a wedding. He challenges my beliefs with his meaning behind opening a car door for a woman. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!!

S02.E13 - It wasn't a full court press

In this episode (I was definitely on her B-Team), I start my conversation with a guy I’ve known for 20+ years, who’s been remarried, and examine his journey towards finding love with the right person. We talk about the desire to hedge even though we have something good right in front of us. We discuss how some people get married and not know the real reasons why. We dive deep in navigating the feelings, reflection, and next steps associated with getting a divorce. We show how men still have to be persistent and take chances even when we are not being prioritized in the dating phase. We explain specific situations where men aren’t trying to be friends with women. We uncover why some men are relationship guys and why they typically find themselves in one. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!  

S02.E12 - I was definitely on her B team

In this episode (She taught me how to love), I continue my conversation with the father of a friend, who's been married for almost 30 years, and examine his journey towards getting married at a young age and his personal growth over time. We discuss the importance of developing a solid relationship with the in-laws. We talk about the perspective of treating your marriage like a family business. We share our thoughts on navigating the process to identify areas of improvement in a relationship. We highlight the mindshift and lessons learned in becoming a husband and a father at the same time. We explain the importance of showing up for your partner, especially during critical seasons of life. We dive deep on the need to accept family and cultural norms that your partner may have. We also uncover the lasting impact that being affectionate can have on children and how that’s something that some men have to actively work on. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E11 - She taught me how to love

In this episode (Marriage is a job), I start a conversation with the father of a friend, who's been married for almost 30 years, and examine his journey towards getting married at a young age and his personal growth over time. We share thoughts on how your perspective on relationships can change when a child is on the way. We talk about dating versus courting and how it looks different when a woman checks all of your boxes. We highlight the ways guys look at dating and the categories we put women in. We discuss the importance for guys to be honest upfront and express why it’s valuable to have a “what I can do for you” perspective instead of a “what are you doing for me” mindset. We uncover ways to build trust with a man and lessons learned about communication. We also explain the mental notes that men take in their interactions with women. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E010 - Marriage is a job

In this episode (It’s a constant recalibration), I wrap my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school “crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about the role money plays in their relationship and how they do finances. We discuss how maturity on both sides changes with age. We highlight the importance of having your partner’s support. We explain what it means to be a man in the context of being a husband and a father. We uncover how to demonstrate leadership in a household with an alpha woman. We also talk about how to navigate the things your partner wants you to do versus what your natural inclination is. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E09 - It's a constant recalibration

In this episode (Men are mad emotional), I continue my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school “crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about dating versus courting and recognizing red flags. We discuss navigating the clock and condensed timelines that women have. We go deep on the strain that a lack of intimacy can put on a relationship. We highlight some of the lessons learned from seeing a counselor. We explain how people have different sex drives and how to find common ground. We explain why type A men are often attracted to type A women. We reveal the 95/5 rule and uncover how it plays out in a marriage. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!!

S02.E08 - Men are mad emotional

In this episode (I’m a friend zone survivor), I start a conversation with a friend, who's been married for 17 years, and examine his journey towards marriage with his high school "crush” and the obstacles and challenges they have faced while dating and in marriage. We talk about falling in love with your best friend and the importance of having a partner that is self-sufficient. We discuss navigating the digital era as well as how it’s changed the way people date and interact. We uncover some valuable lessons learned from being friend zoned. We highlight the value of getting dating experience and the growth that can come from that. We go deep on how a man can be in love but not be ready for marriage as well as how to navigate those feelings. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, for your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!  

S02.E07 - I'm a friend zone survivor

In this episode (Putting my feelings aside), I wrap up my conversation exploring love and relationship as I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We talk about the role money can have in a relationship. We discuss what the vows of marriage mean and the value of doing life with someone who understands you. We highlight different communication pro tips. We dive deep on the topic of children. We explain what the process is like and having to navigate issues that may come up with trying to get pregnant. We break down the factors involved with having a child and the role a man can have with pregnancy issues. We also uncover some of the consequences of being prideful. And we end on the importance of being a support system for your partner. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Check out our sponsor - Sharper Services, an ACN Independent Business Owner, your one-stop shop for all of your residential and business utility needs. Sharper Services can help you put extra money back in your pocket each month. Check out their offers at www.sharperservices.com or text “Think Love Wife” to 214-997-4205 for a quote on these free services.  Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E06 - Putting my feelings aside

In this episode (Casting unnecessary blame), I continue my conversation exploring love and relationship as I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures. We talk about contemplating divorce and the things that led to that like communication issues, aligning on love languages, as well as the domino effect that it can cause. He explains how him and his wife got over the hump of wanting a divorce. We discuss the need men have to control things and in some cases force the things they want. We unpack the various levels of intimacy and why all of them matter. We look at the blame associated with a lack of intimacy, dealing with tension points, and the after effect of constant friction. We also go over his decision to move to another country for his wife, the decision making process for that, and the importance of having the right support system.  We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E05 - Casting unnecessary blame

In this episode (We tend to proceed before acknowledging), I explore navigating a relationship through marriage, tough career decisions, and intentions to grow a family. I talk to a friend, who's been married for 7 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have handled various challenges and adventures.  We discuss the sacrifices made for a long distance relationship and the collective critical decision making points that come up. We go further to talk through making the decision to move to be close to a partner before having real certainty in the relationship. We uncover the power of acknowledgement, especially as it pertains to your partner’s feelings. We talk through his decision to propose and trying to determine if she was the right person for him. We go deep in the internal evaluation of being prepared to be someone’s husband and ability to be a good husband. We highlight the lessons learned like having patience and that all issues won’t be resolved immediately as well as the continuous work marriage takes. He explains how important it is to work on yourself first, the various happiness levels he’s experienced in his marriage, and the moments when he had serious thoughts of filing for divorce.   We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E04 - We tend to proceed before acknowledging

In this episode (How do I out serve her), I wrap my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times.  We discuss service leadership in a relationship and the mentality to out serve your partner. We talk about the roles and responsibilities in the household and the importance of having a partner that will hold you accountable. We debate the perception of the term “head of household” and why it might be outdated. I inquire about creating space for your wife to find and have a voice in the relationship. We go deep on how to balance the business of the relationship with the romance in the relationship. We end the conversation around the idea of maturity, what that means, and the importance of time management to balance areas we invest our energy in. We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends. Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E03 - How do I out serve her

In this episode (The little things add up), I continue my conversation with a friend, who's been married for 5 years, and examine his journey towards marriage and how he and his wife have navigated challenging times.   We discuss evaluating someone as a wife versus a girlfriend and the difference between dating and courting. We talk about how he made his long distance relationship work and the grace required to be successful. We go deep to understand the benefits and concerns brought on from being in a long distance relationship as well as key things to consider when deciding who should move. I push hard to understand how he navigated living with someone for the first time and getting through the first year of marriage. I also get his thoughts on pre-marital counseling and learn about how going to a marriage counselor helped save his marriage.   We are on all major platforms. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, TuneIn, Soundcloud, Castbox, and many others. Don’t forget to subscribe and share with your friends.   Looking for a couples or marriage counselor, check out Marquita Y. Clay. She is the counselor referenced in this episode and is based in Dallas, TX, but also does online sessions.   Follow @ThinkLoveWife on Instagram and send any questions and topics that you’d like me to discuss. Email me at feedback@thinklovewife.com with any feedback!

S02.E02 - The little things add up

This podcast explores the inner workings, struggles, challenges, and beauty of being in a relationship. It goes deep in uncovering how people have overcome challenges to become engaged and then married. It intentionally focuses on getting perspective from married men of color, especially married Black men, while providing a platform where people can learn from their stories. This podcast also highlights the mental burdens that stem from societal pressures, generational curses, gender related norms, and personal expectations.

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I Think I Love My Wife

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