Hey Y&apos;all!!!As we wind down from the after effects of Valentine&apos;s Day, we thought why should the talk around passion and love stop there! We are so excited to for you to listen in on our latest conversation with black queer Mental Health Therapist, Community Organizer, educator, sexuality professional and kink aficionado, Shanae "HonestlyNae" Adams, MA, LPCC, CIGT. This episode Shanae talks with us as we DIC down "sex". This episode we aim to break down "sex" to the basics, demystify it, and learn what "Sex" is or can be for us by our own definitions. You do not want to miss this one!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down": Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we aim to define "SEX" and what it is, what it means, who is it with, why is it important. Then we discuss the impact of sex in our lives. Lastly, we talk about how we cope with sex in our lives, what we want to do better, different, release, etc.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.For more on our guest:Website: https://www.honestlynae.com/IG: @honestlynae and i_amsyre (Secret Page Password: ThankyouSyre) Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCopvQyGi8HGqFJeQjXxRm_QTwitter: https://twitter.com/honestlynaeHit her up for sessions, education, merchandise and moreMentions During Episode:Goody HowardWebsite: https://www.askgoody.com/IG: @askgoody Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/5rapHGvRc7E

It's A Mess, Sis!

Let's Talk about Sex with HonestlyNae EP. 59

HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH !This episode kicks it off with a conversation about support, especially in the black community. So join us as we explore support, what it means, the benefits, obstacles, and how receive and show support as part of the black community.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down": Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define support, what it means, what it looks like etc. which segues into a discussion about the impact of support in our lives, when and how we receive it and our experiences with support as we defined it. Lastly, we ask what we do from here, do we give more, ask for, and/or set a boundary around our support…what do we do from here as a way to sum up how we cope with the subject of support in our lives, We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/5rapHGvRc7E

Lean on Me…How do we SUPPORT? BHM Episode EP. 58

As the title implies, this episode explores How to Take a Break. Our Guest PMKester is a scientist, writer, journalist, mother and  host of How To Take A Break the Podcast and is devoted to advocating for our human need to take a break and facilitating discussions on how to use breaks efficiently and effectively to build the lives we want. If you find yourself needing to take a break but don&apos;t know how, when, where or why...you need to listen to this episode.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC “Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we aim to define what it means to “Take a Break” and identify ways to go about taking a break.Then we discuss the impact of taking a break, our views on taking breaks, benefits and barriers etc. feel free to add any personal stories you may have about taking a break. Lastly, we talk about how we cope with taking a break and what our plans and intentions are regarding taking breaks from here on out. We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you!How to find our Guest:Podcast: How To Take a Break The PodcastIG: @PmkesterLinktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/pmkesterWebsite: https://www.pmkesterenterprisesllc.com/How to find us:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/tDhl4uH5qAMWe love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here: Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. 

How to Take a Break feat. PMKester of How to Take a Break Podcast EP. 57

Welcome to our First Episode of the New Year!!!!We wanted to start the New Year off right and follow up our intention episode with an episode about what we hope to MANIFEST in 2022. So, if you are looking to try to manifest something this year, don&apos;t know what to start, wondering what manifesting is all about... check out this episode!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what it means to “manifest” and what we hope to manifest or bring into 2022.Then we discuss the impact of manifesting, and go into our hopes, dreams, and visions for 2022. What do we want, what are the barriers, what are we affirming, etc. And lastly, we talk about how we cope our visions and manifestations in the new year.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/blJ5iBvw2SA

Manifesting: What are you visualizing in the NEW YEAR 2022? EP. 56

Hey Tribe!We&apos;re back with our end of year tradition of setting intentions for the New Year (2022). This is something we both look forward to as a way of closing out the year and setting the tone for the next. So, whether you are joining us for the first, second, or third time, take a listen and DIC down your goals for 2022 with us. The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down": Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we once again define what an intention is, means to be intentional , and give you our personal intention for the year.Then we discuss the impact of setting intentions, what we’ve experienced with last year’s intention and what we hope to gain from this year’s intention.And lastly, we talk about how we cope…with it all.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/RaH4qFHyH_E

Let’s Get Intentional! I Wanna Be Intentional (2022 Intention Setting) EP. 55

Hey Y&apos;all!Remember waaayyyy back in 2021 when all us black folks were supposed to get Superpowers....well that didn&apos;t happen...well at least we don&apos;t think it did, but the memes reminding us of our unactivated potential have resurfaced and thus is the inspiration for this week&apos;s episode. So, vibe with us as we DIC down what it means to have  Superpowers and you never know...maybe you&apos;ll discover that you have a "Superpower" after all...FYI *Go to 20:45 to skip the MESS and get straight to the topicThe agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what a superpower is and what it means to have one, which one we would want, and which one we feel we have.Then we discuss the impact of that superpower, why we want it, what we could do with itAnd lastly, we talk about how we cope…with our own superpower and how it gets us through life.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/7qpWB4nS1sk

I’m only Human, But I’ll Be Your Superwoman: What Superpower Are You Bringing Into 2022? EP. 54

Hey Y&apos;all,We hope you all are HAPPY and surrounded by people and plates that bring you joy! This is the time of year where almost everyone takes the time to reflect on the things, people, places, all the nouns, that we are thankful for and this  episode is all about that, Thankfulness aka gratitude. So, join us as we review what we have found ourselves thankful for over the past year and maybe take some time to ponder for yourselves.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define our understanding of “being thankful” and throw out some things we have been thankful for receiving over the past year.Then we discuss the impact of “being thankful”, what we have received, and how it intersects.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with being thankful, that should be easy, or better yet, how we use being thankful to cope.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/XWj2Ckfei0Y

Giving Thanks For What We Have Been Given (Thanksgiving Episode) EP. 53

Drop it , Drop it Low Girl! as Jess would say...Winter is coming and maybe you start to feel your mood... Drop it , Drop it Low,  Girl! as Jessica would say... What do you do when you feel "Seasonal Depression" begin to  kick in?Maybe you don&apos;t know what to doMaybe you don&apos;t know if you have itMaybe you don&apos;t know what it isEither way, that&apos;s what we attempt to DIC down in this episode!So let&apos;s get into it, yuh!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define our understanding of “seasonal depression” aka Seasonal Affective Disorder or simply, SAD.Then we discuss the impact of “seasonal depression”, the signs, how it presents for us, socially, emotionally, physically, etc.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with “seasonal depression” what we can do for ourselves and how we prepare to take care of ourselves during this time and when experiencing bouts of depression and intense emotional feelings in general…ya know.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!Shout out  to CLOUDY CLOTHING, a  BLACK OWNED DMV BASED LUXURY STREETWEAR BRAND and their ice pink trucker hat that @sneakerreen was wear in this episode. IG: @cldyclothing Check out their clothing and accessories here: https://www.cldyclothing.com/or just follow and show support. As a black business, we want to be the energy we want to see reflected in the world and support other black businesses. Stay tuned as we share more black owned businesses. If you are a black owned or queer business and want to collab or want us to promote your product/service, contact us using the info below.We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/Ub5IbSEVX48 

Tis' The Season To Be....DEPRESSED: Dealing with "Seasonal Depression" EP. 52

Welcome to our HALLOWEEN EPISODE!!! We have a question:  Are you afraid of YOUR DARK? Have you heard the term, "Shadow Work"? Ever wonder what it is?  Or are you in the process of beginning your own journey and want to know if it something you want to truly traverse...then this episode is for YOU!In this episode we define "Shadow Work", name a Shadow aspect we fear/ are exploring, discuss the impact of doing shadow work on our lives, and lastly  how we cope with the darker shaded sides of yourselves are we continue our growth.The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define our understanding of “shadow work” and provide one example of what we fear about our shadow self. Then we discuss the impact of shadow work and acknowledging the shadow self.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with  the concept of shadow work and our shadow self.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!) This episode: https://youtu.be/wXpAeJ-EW-M

Are you Afraid of the Dark: "Shadow Work" EP 51

YO! You ever get suspicious of yourself,  and end up wondering, Am I as good as I think I am? This is the episode for YOU!  This time around we ask ourselves what&apos;s the difference between Self-Confidence and Delusion, how it plays out in society and how that impacts our sense of self. We are going to tell you now, we don&apos;t have the answers, but if you too are pondering this question, you don&apos;t have to think on it alone. You can DIC it down with us! The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what is means to have “self-confidence” and to be “delusional”.Then we discuss the impact of those definitions on our view of our confidence in ourselves.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of all of the above and how we would like to proceed.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)

It’s Not Me, It’s You: Self-Confidence vs Delusion EP. 50

With Cuffing Season quickly approaching, social media debates surrounding who is bring what to the table, and all the expectations and anticipation that comes with relationships in general, we decided to ask ourselves a very important question:Would YOU date YOU?and for a little fun we also answer the hypothetical question "Fuck, Marry, Kill"? as it pertains to how we see ourselves aligning in a romantic relationship.We had SO MUCH FUN this episode.  We were both confused, and  it was clear that we don&apos;t have the answers, which is great because not only does it allow us to explore our authentic feelings about our "dateability"...but it will leave space for you, the listeners, to do the same.We hope you enjoy!The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we define what it means to “date”, assess what we bring to the table by asking ourselves if we would date ourselves and explain why or why not?Then we discuss the impact of our outlook on dating ourselves on our view of and relationship with ourselves and others.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of all of the above and how we would like to proceed.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest YouTube here: https://youtu.be/zFupVehitoQ

Fuck, Marry, Kill: Would You Date YOU? EP. 49

Hey There!We are back and this time we are talking about "Hustle Culture". This episode  challenge ourselves to define what it means to "Hustle". If you have ever asked yourself the questions,   Do I want to hustle? Do I have to?  and What does it mean if I don’t? this episode is for you!  We hope you sit through this convo, DIC down what it means to "Hustle" for yourself, and leave with a little clarity on your personal approach to the "Hustle". The agenda for this episode: THE DIC“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. This episode we will explore and define the definition what it means to “Hustle” if we feel like hustling is necessary, what’s the point? And what it means if we choose not to hustle?Then we discuss the impact of Hustle Culture on our lives.And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of work, hustling and life, how we wish to proceed in the future.We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We&apos;d love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at whatsthemesssis@gmail.com . Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don&apos;t hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!We love to engage with y&apos;all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:Business Email: itsamesssis@gmail.comComments/share Mess: whatsthemesssis@gmail.comInstagram: @itsamesssispodcastFacebook: itsamesssispodcastTwitter: @itsamesssisYouTube:  It&apos;s a Mess, Sis! (search for us!)Latest YouTube here:https://youtu.be/LnJFHNlq5SA

Everyday I'm Hustlin': But Why? EP. 48

A therapeutic conversation geared towards black queer women who have discovered that the life script is not enough! Come join us and if you vibe, we tribe!

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It's A Mess, Sis!

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