Join Terra for part 2 of her conversation with Dr. Michelle. Discover some essential truths about building emotional intimacy in marriage. As an expert EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) therapist, Dr. Michelle helps us understand why couples fight and how that can be fuel for intimacy. She shares common relational patterns for couples for those who find themselves in the rut of life, with very little friendship or romance. Terra and Dr. Michelle vulnerably share honestly about their own marriage attachment patterns and hope that anyone listening will find grace for where they are in marriage.   Dr. Michelle Engblom-Deglmann is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and currently serves as the Living Wholehearted Clinical Director. In addition to being a professor, she is in private practice working with individuals, couples, and coaching/supervising therapists. She received a Bachelor's degree at the College of St. Benedict in Minnesota, followed by a Master's in Counseling Psychology at St. Cloud State University, with a certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy. She went on to become a licensed MFT, before receiving a Ph.D. in Family Therapy from St. Louis University. Dr. Michelle also teaches as a graduate professor in the Marriage and Family Therapy program at George Fox University. Prior to moving to Portland, she was a professor and Clinical Training Director at Simpson University in Redding, California. As a professor she has presented and published, both regionally and nationally, on topics of divorce, remarriage, trust, and attachment among others.   You can find Dr. Michelle at: http://www.michelleengblom.com 

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Episode 101: Building Intimacy in Your Marriage and Emotional Dr. Michelle Engblom-Deglmann

In this episode, Terra talks to Dr. Michelle about how to be a healthy helper in an anxious world. We explore the inner life of helpers (pastors, counselors, youth workers, psychologists, spiritual directors, nurses, doctors, etc…) and what they need to maintain their own integrity as they strive to balance the work they do and the life they live outside the office.   Dr. Michelle Engblom-Deglmann is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and currently serves as the Living Wholehearted Clinical Director. In addition to being a professor, she is in private practice working with individuals, couples, and coaching/supervising therapists. She received a Bachelor's degree at the College of St. Benedict in Minnesota, followed by a Master's in Counseling Psychology at St. Cloud State University, with a certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy. She went on to become a licensed MFT, before receiving a Ph.D. in Family Therapy from St. Louis University. Dr. Michelle also teaches as a graduate professor in the Marriage and Family Therapy program at George Fox University. Prior to moving to Portland, she was a professor and Clinical Training Director at Simpson University in Redding, California. As a professor she has presented and published, both regionally and nationally, on topics of divorce, remarriage, trust, and attachment among others.   Dr. Michelle is an outdoor enthusiast and a marathon runner. She is a proud introvert who loves spending time with others, but thrives with time alone as well. When Dr Michelle is not teaching or working, she enjoys spending time with her husband and young daughter.   You can find Dr. Michelle at: http://www.michelleengblom.com or contact her directly at www.livingwholehearted.com 

Episode 100: How to be a Healthy Helper - Avoiding Burnout

Terra had a fantastic conversation today with podcaster/you-tuber/ best-selling author/mom, Jamie Ivey. Jamie loves creating things that help people believe the truths about who God made them to be. She does this mostly through her popular podcast, “The Happy Hour”, her new YouTube show, The Jamie Ivey Show, and through multiple books geared towards women. Now she’s taking this passion to a younger generation with her new children’s book, God made you to be you. As a mama to four kids, she knows the value in kids learning at a young age that God made them to be themselves! Her whole family, plus two dogs, live in Austin, Texas, and they all love to visit the West Texas desert as often as possible! In this episode, you will hear more about how Jamie started her career and how she combats the lies of comparison in her own life and with her four teens. She shares about the difference between the cultural message, “You Be You,” and her recent book release that speaks to standing in the design God has for each of us. She shares honestly about current struggles to avoid comparison and she leaves leaders and parents alike with wisdom for the weary soul. You can find all Jamie’s books and resources on her website, jamieivey.com or find her on socials at: Facebook: @thejamieivey Instagram: @jamieivey Twitter: @jamie_ivey 

Episode 99: God Made You to Be You: Fighting the Lies of Comparison

The Mattsons invited Dr. Tiffany Tajiri to the podcast to talk about trauma, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and how God’s Word can help us restore our fractured pasts. Dr. Tiffany Tajiri is a licensed and board-certified clinical psychologist, a veteran US Air Force officer, and currently the chief of the largest behavioral health clinic at Fort Bliss, Texas. She is the CEO and founder of Stand Up and Recover, Inc., the creator of Rhythm Restoration, and co-author of Abundant Recovery curriculum at Abundant Church. She recently authored a powerful book, Peace After Combat; Healing the Spiritual & Psychological Wounds of War (David C. Cook, 2020). Dr. Tiffany shares her experience with combat veterans who have confronted some of the most horrific places of pain in their stories and how they come to find wholeness, forgiveness, and peace again. She broadens her approach to those with any intrusive experiences, explaining Rhythm Restoration and how deeper healing is possible when we integrate God’s Word with the science of the mind, body, and soul. You can find more of Dr. Tiffany’s work in her book, Peace After Combat, anywhere books are sold.   You can also find her online at: Instagram: DrTiffanyTajiri YouTube: Dr. Tiffany Website: DrTiffanyTajiri.com

Episode 98: The intersection of Biblical Truth and Neuroscience to Heal Toxic Experiences

What is my purpose? How do I find it? Will it change? Can I live without a purpose and what are the effects? Can I miss my purpose? In this episode, Jeff and Terra share their personal stories and how they stumbled upon their unique purposes. They share how they then cultivated a shared meaning as a married couple. They have helped thousands understand their purpose through exploring wiring, story, and God-given talents. The Mattson simplify the common questions and help listeners find freedom and peace, rather than striving and FOMO (fear of missing out). Listen in to better understand your own purpose and how to help those you lead in the home, work, and community do the same!   Jeff and Terra, the hosts of the podcast, are co-founders and co-owners of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Just celebrating 20 years of marriage, they met with a vision to utilize their education, wirings, and resources to help people dive deeper into relationships with God and others. Whether it’s marriage, parenting, friendships, or work, Jeff and Terra are passionate about connecting the dots between biblical, clinical, and relational wisdom.   If you do not know, Living Wholeheartedis a professional counseling and organizational development firm that helps leaders live and lead with integrity. Courageous Girls a global movement equipping moms to walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Together, they are authors, national speakers, and executive coaches to leaders in a variety of sectors. They are also spokesperson for Christian Parenting and the hosts of the newDearMattsonvideo series. Terra is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor and Jeff is an organizational consultant and leadership coach. You can read more in their books, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What LeadersPreach and LiveandCourageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, found anywhere you buy books. For more on-going resources from Living Wholehearted or courageous Girls, go to www.livingwholehearted.com or www.mycourageousgirls.com to sign up for our monthly newsletters. 

Episode 97: Finding Our Purpose

We have been talking about so many heavy topics, we thought it was time to spend an episode discussing something we all desire...happiness. Some people cringe, thinking that happiness is a shallow and possibility immature emotion. Others sacrifice everything in order to attain happiness for themselves and their children. In this episode, we describe the definition and value of happiness, what the Bible has to say about it, and how we can practically cultivate it in our homes.   Our guest is Jeff and Terra’s friend and colleague, Tristen Collins. Tristen is one of our very first repeat guests and an expert in helping people process all their emotions (Check out her previous interview with her husband, Jon, in episode 16). Tristen is a therapist, a life coach, and author. She lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband, Jon, and their two boys. Jon is the co-founder of The Bible Project and together they wrote Why Emotions Matter. Like Jeff & Terra, Tristen is passionate about helping leaders shrink the gap between what they preach and how we live with clinical insights and biblical truth.   If this episode made you “happy,” consider leaving a review! Reviews always help others find this podcast and resource more leaders with help for the mind, body, heart, and soul.    To find out more from Tristen, visit: whyemotionsmattter.com tristencollins.com Instagram @tristencollinslpc 

Episode 96: Cultivating Happiness in our Homes with Tristen Collins

Lisa Whittle joins Jeff and Terra and shares her journey of losing her father and her upclose observations watching him do forty years of ministry. She speaks of the good and the hard of life with humor, depth, and practical wisdom. Lisa addresses how to manage emotions through the flood of grieving, loss, and difficult seasons. Listen in for hope and insight around finding purpose, what to do when you are weary and considering shutting down, or are facing an unpredictable future.   Lisa is the author of eight books; her most recent, The Hard Good: Showing Up for God to Work in You When All You Want to Do is Shut Down (released on September 7, 2021). Her wit and bold bottom-line approach have made her a sought-after Bible teacher. A pastor’s daughter and longtime ministry leader in issues relevant to the church, Lisa is the founder of Ministry Strong and the popular Jesus Over Everything Podcast, which debuted in the top 25 of Christian podcasts. Her love runs deep to see people pursue Jesus for life, grow deep roots of faith, and walk strong in the midst of a world that so often seems to have gone crazy. Lisa has done master’s work in marriage and family counseling, advocated for Compassion International, and been featured on numerous media outlets through the years. She and her family live in North Carolina. If you like what you hear, consider leaving a review and subscribing to the Living Wholehearted Podcast!   Connect with Lisa Online: Website: lisawhittle.com Instagram: @LisaWhittle Facebook: @LisaWhittleOfficial Twitter: @LisaRWhittle Jesus Over Everything Podcast: Apple Podcasts 

Episode 95: Getting through the Hard Good of Life with Lisa Whittle

Everything we do at Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls is through the lens of trauma-informed theology. God draws near to the brokenhearted and wants to help those who are victimized. In episode 94, Terra talked with Rosie Rivera about her abusive trauma and her relationships with a God she so dearly loves. Rosia is the author of God Is Your Defender: Learning to Stand After Life Has Knocked You Down (Thomas Nelson, June 8, 2021). Through her own journey of trauma, she holds tight to the truth found in Exodus: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” CEO of Jenni Rivera Enterprises, businesswoman, television personality, and social media influencer (with over a million followers on Instagram alone), Rosie is one of the most influential and inspirational Latinas in the world. In her new book, God Is Your Defender, Rivera openly shares about the tragic loss of her sister, internationally acclaimed singer Jenni Rivera, in a plane crash in 2012. This thrust Rosie into the spotlight and immediately subjected her to false accusations and lawsuits from people who were trying to take advantage of her in her time of grief and her new position as executor over her sister’s estate and CEO of Jenni Rivera Enterprises. Rosie also opens up about her experience of childhood sexual abuse, being bullied on national television, and even reaching (and recovering from) the brink of divorce. Despite deep hurts like these, she has refused to be beaten down or silenced by the Enemy. Why? Because she knows God is her defender. Follow on Instagram @rosieriveria or pick up her book, God is Your Defender, anywhere books are sold. **Warning, this episode is graphic and may trigger anyone with a past history of abuse. Take your time pausing and grounding yourself as you listen and better understand the needs of survivors and the impact of trauma.

God is My Defender - Trauma to Triumph with Rosie Rivera

Human trafficking, especially sex trafficking, is not an easy topic to discuss, but don’t skip this podcast! This issue touches the lives of all of us. This is not just a foreign issue - it affects communities and families everywhere. Tune in and learn how we can all participate in bringing justice, mercy and restoration.   Our guest for this episode is David Zack, the lead singer and songwriter for a rock band, and a volunteer with The Exodus Road, an organization bringing holistic and systemic change in the fight to end human trafficking. For the past six years David has helped develop strategic partnerships for TER and he serves as an investigator. He has worked undercover in hundreds of brothels. He has seen, with his own eyes, the terrible reality of human trafficking. Hear the story of how he was drawn to this work, and how his musical gifts and his passion for justice intersect.   For more info about The Exodus Road, check out: Instagram (@TheExodusRoad), the TER podcast, or the Front Line Stories page on TheExodusRoad.com website.   To get text updates about successful TER rescues, text “remedy” to (727)273-7283. For ideas about how to support the work of TER, go to remedydrive.com/action. 

Episode 93: The Exodus Road with David Zach

We all know that pornography is a problem in America. But what many parents don't know is that our kids (boys, and yes, girls too) are susceptible to getting addicted as young as nine years old.   To help us understand this topic, we are joined by Josh Glaser. He is a pastor, speaker, writer, and blogger. Josh has been with Regeneration Ministries since 1999 and has served as Executive Director since 2006. Josh is the author of “Rescue”, a year-round discipleship program for men seeking a deeper relationship with Jesus and freedom from sexual sin. He also recently co-authored (with Daniel Weiss) a new book titled, Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents.   This conversation is filled with grace. We understand this is a process, and it takes courage, but we can lead our children in this area. It begins with our willingness to face our stories. Join the conversation with us today and take a step forward in your journey.   Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents, can be purchased anywhere books are sold.   For additional resources, see the links below: https://www.facebook.com/JoshuaGlaser https://www.instagram.com/joshglaserofficial/ https://www.regenerationministries.org 

Episode 92: Teaching Our Children to navigate a Pornographic World with Josh Glaser

How does one heal from a life of shame? Join us as we dive into a conversation with Dr. Richard Shaw, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Mental Health Counselor. He is also an ordained minister with the International Foursquare Church and he is an Associate Professor of Counseling at George Fox University. He has traveled extensively in the U.S. and overseas to teach and facilitate workshops for his groundbreaking work around shame and grace.   We believe shame and grace are at the root of many of our biggest challenges and deepest wounds, so today we are going to hear from an expert who has dedicated his life to helping people find healing through grace.   Dr. Richard Shaw’s new book is titled, “Shame No More - Framework For Healing With A Message of Grace.” For those who want to explore this topic even further, he also has a DVD video series (2015), “Shame No More - 6 Teachings For Those Seeking Grace & Truth In Their Key Relationships”. Go to www.shamenomore.com 

Episode 91: Shame No More with Dr. Richard Shaw

Are you raising a daughter or mentoring girls? This podcast is for you. Being a girl and a woman today is hard and the messages women are hearing are so confusing!   Join Terra Mattson, co-host of this podcast as well as licensed marriage and family therapist, co-founder of Courageous Girls and author of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, for a conversation with Bethany Beal on what girls need today. Bethany, along with her sister, Kristen, launched GirlDefined Ministries in 2014. GirlDefined is helping the modern girl understand and live out God’s timeless truth for womanhood.    Take a deep breath, because we are diving into topics like; God’s design for women, sexuality, identity, beauty, relationships, romance and more.    Bethany and Kristen have published a new devotional called Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl defined By God. They are also hosting an upcoming GirlDefined conference. Of course, you can find GirlDefined online and on social media. See the links below.    Website https://www.girldefined.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/girldefined/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/ UCww9VDOBh5hfnsN6pPE6NpA Facebook https://www.facebook.com/girldefined 

Episode 90: Becoming a Woman Today with Bethany Beal of GirlDefined

Have you ever wanted to start a podcast? Maybe you have a podcast and you are looking for some insider tips. Maybe you listen to podcasts and wonder how they juggle the tensions they hold leading and influencing many. Terra speaks with Esther Littlefield, a business and leadership coach who has years of experience. She offers practical insights and helpful principles to help anyone navigate common pitfalls.   Esther is a marketing strategist and business coach for Christian women who are ready to stop feeling scattered and confused about how to grow their business online. She’s the host of the award-winning Christian Woman Leadership Podcast and the Christian Woman Business Podcast.   She is passionate about helping women lead with confidence, shine online, and amplify their impact. She works with clients to help them cut through the confusion, find clarity, and develop confidence in their marketing strategy so that they can focus on what will truly help them create a business (and life) they love.   You can find Esther and all of her great resources at: Website: https://estherlittlefield.com/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/estherlittlefield IG: https://www.instagram.com/estherdlittlefield/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/elittlefield/ Mini-course to help someone start a podcast: http:// podcastinaweekend.com/

Episode 89: Ethics of Podcasting: Tips, Tricks, and Truth Telling with Esther Littlefield

Jeff and Terra share the vision of the new Living Wholehearted Lodge and Retreat, coming Fall 2021. While they talk about their shared meaning as a couple, they discuss marriage principles based on the Gottman’s “sound relationship house” model and what lies ahead for the LW Lodge & Retreat.   Jeff and Terra, the hosts of the podcast, are co-founders and co-owners of Living Wholehearted and Courageous Girls. Just celebrating 20 years of marriage, they met with a vision to utilize their education, wirings, and resources to help people dive deeper into relationships with God and others. Whether it’s marriage, parenting, friendships, or work, Jeff and Terra are geeks for relationships and long to see more environments of grace and health. To help them achieve this, they created the Lodge & Retreat where couples, families, and leaders come to rest, restore, and rebuild what has been long lost from generations before.   If you do not know, Living Wholehearted is a professional counseling and organizational development firm that helps leaders live and lead with integrity. Courageous Girls is a global movement equipping moms with biblical, clinical, and relational wisdom to walk with their daughters at every stage of their growing years. Together, they are authors, speakers, and executive coaches to leaders in a variety of sectors. Terra is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor and Jeff is an organizational consultant and leadership coach. You can read more in their books, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live and Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, found anywhere you buy books.   www.livingwholehearted.com or www.terramattson.com Follow on Instagram: Terra @terramattson LW @living_wholehearted CG @mycourageousgirls   Like on Facebook: Jeff Terra Mattson, Living Wholehearted, LLC My Courageous Girls 

Episode 88: The Makings of the Living Wholehearted Lodge & Retreat

If you watch The Voice, you might already be familiar with our guests on this episode. Todd and Brooke Tilghman are parents to eight children. Having recently moved closer to Nashville for Todd’s leap-of-faith to pursue music full time, they now live in Tennessee. From 2011 to 2020, Todd was the pastor of Cornerstone Church in Meridian, Mississippi. He has the distinction of being the oldest winner, at age forty-two, in the history of The Voice. As a member of “Team Blake”, Todd was the winner of the show's eighteenth season in 2020. Todd has been singing in church since he was just eight years old, and he is currently writing and recording songs for his first album, to be released this year. Today our guests give a candid picture of what really matters, how they navigated depression, anxiety, stress, and a struggling marriage. They share with us some of the lessons they’ve learned along the way during their 20 plus years of marriage.   Keep up with Todd’s latest music releases on all streaming platforms. Learn more about Todd and Brooke’s new book, Every Little Win: How Celebrating Small Victories Can Lead to Big Joy, at www.everylittlewinbook.com. You can follow Brooke @brooketilghman and Todd at @todd_tilghman 

Episode 87: Every Moment Matters in Marriage with Todd & Brooke Tilghman

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