Hey Lovaaas! We are back with an episode dedicated to Modern Love!In this episode, we address topics such as mental health in relationships, why some folks have stronger feelings and/or different expectations than the people they're seeing while dating, internalizing external judgment about your partner, keeping the love alive after the honeymoon phase, and what to do when you have a damaged relationship with a parent and they want to repair it but you don’t.

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Episode 12: Modern Love

Welcome back, Lovers! After our 2.5 month hiatus, we are back with an episode dedicated to answering your questions. We give advice about suddenly living with your partner during quarantine, being perpetually single, how to come out to your partner, being separated from your partner during the pandemic, what to do when your parents don't approve of your partner, some challenges of dating someone way outside of your age range, and more. We're excited to get back on our regular schedule and look forward to seeing you all again on May 1st!Song of the month: Moço Lindo Do Badauê - Opanijé, Nelson Maca, Wall, Aspri RBF e Xarope MChttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jUrNqjQoSo

Episode 11: A Whole Pot of Tea

This month, we go back through all of the old episodes and talk about how each topic influenced our year, how our perspectives on the topics have changed, and personal situations in which we've had to use the knowledge from each episode to help us in our relationships.  Happy New Year, Lovers! See you next month.

Episode 10: A Year In Review

It's Episode 9 and this month we are talking about Interracial Dating. Using Jhumpa Lahiri's The Namesake, we deconstruct our personal experiences as they relate to the main character's journey. See you next year for Episode 10!

Episode 9: Interracial Dating

Episode 8 is about all things Break Ups! We were lucky to have the homies Andrea and Chayenne on this episode to talk to us about their most recent breakup experiences and help offer advice about how to handle these tough situations. Using Katherine Woodward Thomas’s Conscious Uncoupling, we talked about graceful goodbyes, not giving away your power, breaking toxic patterns, and more! Give it a listen and see you on December 1st for Episode 9. Book Overview at 00:03:23Chayenne's Story at 00:26:28Andrea's Story at 00:49:23The Tea at 01:16:26The Word at 01:33:15Alexis's experience with Conscious Uncoupling at 01:37:10

Episode 8: Breakups

In this month's episode, we take the key concepts we've learned throughout the first 6 months of this podcast and apply them to deconstruct the many complex relationships on HBO's Euphoria.    We also talk about what to do when your situationship won't turn into a relationship and more! Join us this month for Episode 7: Euphoria. 

Episode 7: Euphoria

In this month’s episode, we talk about narcissism and love from two different angles: within the family unit (i.e. being the child of a narcissistic parent) and within romantic relationships (i.e. having a partner that is a narcissist).   We deconstruct what narcissism actually means and how the cultural definition differs from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We identify typical traits of people who suffer from NPD, break down what it’s like being in a relationship with a narcissist, talk about how being raised by a narcissistic parent affects your ability to find love in the future, and give you a number of techniques to both deal with partners who suffer from NPD and undo some inherited narcissistic traits/learned behaviors from narcissistic parents.   Join us for this in depth, non judgmental conversation about narcissism and how it affects almost every person’s life.

Episode 6: Love & Narcissism

In this month’s episode, we use Shan Boodram’s quiz as a reference point to discuss ideal relationship styles, ranging from serial non committed to modern monogamy to open relationships to polyamory.  We talk about being single in your 20s, vulnerable communication, what to do if you and your partner’s relationship styles don’t match up, and how perceptions of marriage as an end goal in relationships is changing for millennials.

Episode 5: What Is Your Ideal Relationship Style?

In this month’s episode, we use a Toni Morrison classic to deconstruct how Eurocentric beauty standards affect how Black and Brown people are perceived by society at large, and how these same standards plague POC’s self perception within their own communities as well.  We talk about interracial dating, fetishization of black bodies, “mejorar la raza”, mixed/light skinned fixation within the black and brown communities, and more!

Episode 4: The Bluest Eye

In this episode we take a break from analyzing books and ask each other a bunch of questions about love and relationships. We cover topics such as our first kisses, what constitutes cheating, what we want to teach our kids about love as parents, and more. We also answer questions about how to start dating again after a long term relationship and arranged marriages. Join the conversation! Music: Moksha by Choker

Episode 3: 100 Questions

In this episode, we talk about all things Attachment Theory. We give a brief rundown of the three attachment styles and how they express in relationships, and then we get into their implications for millennials and POC. Through topics like hook up culture, social media, “the chase”, POC children’s experience in grade school, and oppressive narratives making it harder for parents of color to provide healthy emotional support for their kids, we deconstruct how our attachment styles form and their effects on our relationships. We also give tips on how to create/find secure relationships, answer questions about dating apps, etc. Music: Come To Me by Avila Santo

Episode 2: Attached

In this month’s episode, we discuss the love as a verb, breaking generational cycles in our families of origin, how our chosen communities have taught us new ways to love, masculinity, soul connections, and self love. The Intro/Outro song is "Boom" by MEZCLAS (follow them on soundcloud!). We are looking for independent artists still on the come up to highlight each episode, so if you know of any dope music, put us on! DM or email us at askloveispodcast@gmail.com

Episode 1: All About Love

Join Elan and Alexis for their podcast all about love as they deconstruct generational/systemic traumas that lead 20something Black/Brown adults to act unhealthily in relationships

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