“Let’s just take it day by day.”  “We may not be ‘official,’ but I basically act like your boyfriend. Aren’t actions enough for you?”  “I like you too much to be with you . . .” Any of these sound familiar? Trying to decode the excuses guys give for the reason why they don’t want an exclusive relationship can get incredibly confusing. How is it that you can have great communication with a guy in nearly every area . . . yet when it comes to talking about the relationship, you feel like you’re speaking different languages? For today’s brand-new episode, I asked you to send me the “most confusing thing a guy’s ever said to you,” and you didn’t disappoint.  From classic excuses to creative new ones, you’ll learn how to figure out whether what he’s saying is actually a red flag indicating that he’s just looking for something casual with you, or whether it’s safe to proceed. Together we’ll walk through 9 of the top excuses so you know how to spot them in the future and avoid unnecessary pain. ---   >> HOLIDAY SPECIAL! Unlock 67 Text Messages That Put You in Control & Move Your Life Forward + 4 Special Bonuses → http://www.MomentumTexts.com >> FREE download: "9 Texts No Man Can Resist" → http://www.9texts.com >> FREE download: "5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You" → http://www.SayThisToHim.com 

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

(Matt Monday): Confusing Sh*t Men Say (And What They Really Mean)

You're on a date with someone. You're both sharing stories.  He tells you that he plays the guitar. You notice that he seems really proud when he tells you about playing his first gig. Then without missing a moment, you start enthusiastically telling him about your friend who's also in a band, is the best guitarist you've ever seen, and has just released and album. Suddenly, his eyes narrow and he seems emotionally checked out, maybe even less interested. Why? What happened? In this episode with my brother Stephen, I'm going to reveal a simple flirting mistake that is all too easily made, and why it's can be such a turnoff to guys in dating. --- >>> Want to learn more about the psychology of attraction in dating? Download a free chapter of our bestselling program at GetTheFreeChapter.com

(Rewind): Never Make This Flirting Mistake In Conversation

There may be few more controversial and divisive topics than that of watching porn in relationships.  For some, it’s cheating. For others, it’s a useful way to balance out differences in sexual appetites. For others still, it can be a fun thing for couples to share and explore sexually together. So in this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson get together to discuss healthy vs unhealthy attitudes to porn, how to communicate your boundaries around porn in a relationship, and what to do when it becomes something that drives you apart.   ---   Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey ---   FREE download: "9 Texts No Man Can Resist" >> http://www.9texts.com FREE download: "5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You" >> http://www.SayThisToHim.com 

192: Does Porn Count As Cheating??

In the early days of dating, figuring out if someone is actually open to a relationship is key. But what does it mean when you ask them whether they're interested in a committed relationship and they respond, "I could be open to that. . . with the right person"? This sentence can make us feel safe to dive in, but do we really know whether they're truly looking for a relationship. . . or just telling us what we want to hear? In today's episode, I give you three things to look for in those early days to limit the guesswork and know if things are actually progressing toward real commitment. --- FREE download: "9 Texts No Man Can Resist" >> http://www.9texts.com FREE download: "5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You" >> http://www.SayThisToHim.com

(Matt Monday): The #1 Thing Men Say to Avoid Commitment

Compliments are like gifts. In fact, they’re even better, because the right compliment can be something the receiver never forgets. When in a relationship, most people don’t give enough compliments, despite them being so powerful in creating connection and making people feel loved. So here are 3 compliments men love to hear that can get you started! --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com  

(Rewind): The 3 Compliments Guys Never Get Tired Of Hearing

Have you ever had a guy say things that give you completely mixed messages? Or you've heard a phrase several times and are left scratching your head wondering what it actually means?   You're not alone.   In this episode we asked YOU for your best examples of confusing phrases you've heard from guys and got together to crack the code once and for all!   --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey 

191: Confusing Sh*t Men Say (And What They Really Mean)

You felt like the date couldn’t have gone better. They told you they had the best time, and as soon as you got home, you started counting down the minutes until you could see them again . . .  Except you never got that second date. Why would someone disappear after saying they had a really great time? Today’s episode reveals the #1 reason why this happens, and what you can do about it. I’ll give you a hint: chemistry is the key factor that turns a first date into a second one—and in this new video, I show you 7 simple ways to create incredible chemistry on a date. These tips are the difference between someone thinking, “Well, that was nice,” and someone telling themselves, “I must see this person again!” Whether you’re headed out on a first date tonight or just want reignite attraction with someone you’ve already been out with, this video is for you. (And if you’ve ever wondered what to text someone after a date to leave them wanting more, don’t miss tip #7.) --- Download "The Momentum Texts" >> MomentumTexts.com 

(Matt Monday): 7 Ways To Create Chemistry (Make Him Ask You Out Again)

Back in ye olden times, the fear that a partner might be cheating was enough to keep someone up at night. But in recent years, we’ve added a new layer of anxiety to the mix: “micro-cheating,” a.k.a. “back burner relationships.”   In fact, when Psychology Today recently polled people who are in a relationship, 56% revealed they had a back burner person: someone they’re in contact with who could be an option if their current relationship doesn’t go the distance.   That’s not to say that everyone realizes what they’re doing. Many feel it’s harmless—that they’re just being friendly and keeping in touch with a friend. Today’s clip will give you a simple test to figure out if you’re in a back burner relationship, and provide you with the mindset you need to give your current one its best shot. --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com

(Rewind): If You’re Thinking About Other People In A Relationship, Listen To This…

Why are toxic relationships so hard to leave? One reason is because you hold onto the small good moments and fail to acknowledge the extent of the bad.  And when we feel sympathy for someone, this also makes us doubt ourselves. We think "Maybe I'm wrong?", "Maybe I'm being too harsh on this person?", "Maybe it's actually ok?"  In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about how to get the courage to let go of a narcissistic or toxic relationship and feel certain in your decision when you keep doubting yourself. --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

190: How To Leave A Narcissist (Part 2)

Have you ever created an entire relationship in your head before going on a date with someone? Perhaps you’ve been texting with them for weeks and have already deduced they could be “The One,” or maybe you live for the two minutes of conversation you have with them before spin class. And in order to fan the flames of your excitement, you turn into a social media detective, where their posts and information become “compatibility clues” that either build up or tear down the relationship you’ve created in your mind . . .   Unfortunately, living in our heads in this way can turn into obsessing, and render us incapable of feeling excited about anything other than seeing or hearing from that person. In other words, they occupy a space in our minds they’ve not yet earned! In this week’s new video, I share with you the mindsets that can both help and hurt you in dating, as well as the best way to determine if you and this person could really work out. --- LAST CHANCE to join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com

(Matt Monday): How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone You Want

People always ask how to spot red flags in relationships. But often the red flags are right in front of our eyes - we just choose to ignore them.  In this clip, Matt and Stephen explain why this happens and how you SHOULD respond when the warning signs appear. . . --- ►► FREE download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com ---  Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

(Rewind) The Obvious Red Flag You Should Never Ignore When Dating

In a previous episode, we talked about the struggles dating can pose when women are thinking about their desire for children and their biological clock, and all the associated anxieties that can come with it.  And we had some incredible and thoughtful responses to what is rightfully a very difficult and emotional topic to discuss (but also an essential one). In this episode, we take the conversation further and look at the disparity between men and women in future planning, why freezing your eggs and planning fertility can be its own enormous challenge, and how to think about making decisions about the future you want when you haven't met the right person yet. --- Download my free guides and give your love life a kickstart today!  ►► FREE download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com ---  Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

189: The Difficulties Of Planning For Marriage And Kids (When The Outcomes Are Uncertain)

It’s Halloween time, and for the occasion, in today’s video I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting.  If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . .   But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time?  In this brand-new episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you should do when it happens, and the strange reason why they may choose to ghost but leave the door open. You can’t miss this topic! ►► Protect Your Time & Energy. Move On Strong in Your Love Life. Unlock Your FREE Video Training at . . . → http://www.MoveOnStrong.com

(Matt Monday): He Said He Wanted You Then Pulled Away? HERE’S WHY…

Ever notice how you completely fall apart when you try to speak to that guy you’re really attracted to? It’s like with your best friends you can be effortlessly funny, talkative, and smart, then suddenly you’re talking to this guy and your brain turns to mush. Then begins the negative self-talk: “I’m not pretty enough,” “I have nothing interesting to say,” “He’s not going to like me.” It’s like you instantly lose all of your game. You go into “impress” mode. You over-analyze everything you say. You get in your head. Instead of just having fun in the moment, you start playing it cautious, like you’re in a game of chess and the stakes are life and death. If you want to finally stop putting guys on a pedestal and instill new empowering beliefs that will make you bring your best to the table (no matter who you’re talking to) listen to this clip before you do anything else... --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com

(Rewind): Mindset Shifts for When You Think “They’re Out Of My League”

What do you do when you're not attracted to men who want you, and the men you ARE attracted to are unwilling to commit? In life, as we get older, we can find the dating world changing around us. We want different things, we're not as young and carefree as we were in our twenties, and we feel like we want something serious in this phase of our life. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson go deep on the dilemma of attracting the wrong people when you want to get serious, how to get excited to date again after facing painful life events, and what to do if you're facing the possibility of never finding the love you're looking for. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey

188: I'm Not Attracted To The Men Who Want Me

Relationships are for heroes. Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern dating. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are. About the Hosts: Matthew Hussey is the New York Times bestselling author of Get the Guy, and host of a YouTube channel that has received 400+ million views. Get the Guy co-writer and YouTuber Stephen Hussey holds a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Oxford University.

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