Lack of follow-through is a common issue so many couples face. Whether you are disappointed your partner is not following through, or you feel bad that you are unable to follow through, it’s an experience that puts a strain on your relationship. When individuals in a couple don’t follow through, trust in the relationship is eroded. It sends the message “I can’t depend on you.” Conversely, when there is follow-through, momentum is built and you have greater confidence in the direction you want to be headed in together. In this episode of the podcast, I’m sharing more about this topic. I break down what makes following through so difficult, and then walk you through a 6-step process for increasing your ability to follow through. Here’s what you’ll find inside:the top things couples WANT to follow through on but have a hard time doing consistently (see just how much you’re not alone)a greater understanding of the relationship between lack of follow-through and your negative perceptions of each otherhow being able to follow through creates a new identity for you and your partnerthe most important 6-steps to take in order to be able to follow through on the things that matter most to you.This episode is a MUST listen if you want to be a couple that follows through on your commitments and promises to each other.

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Episode 113: Following Through

There is probably no greater frustration in marriage than to not have your expectations met. Expectations are the rules we adopt that tell us what someone else is supposed to think, feel and act. In marriage, expectations are often the cause of a lot of unhappiness.In this episode of the podcast, we are going to take a new look at the idea of expectations. You will have the opportunity to work through a current expectation that you have that is not being met in your marriage. I will talk you through my 5-part process of how to question your expectations and identify if they make sense to hold on to. You willdistinguish between expectations and personal desires - and why knowing one from the other will change everything about how you make requests of your partnerlearn how to tell if your expectation is causing you to create resentment and distance in your marriageuncover the real reasons why you have expectations and honor what feels most right for you, regardless of what your spouse is doingcreate a sense of peace for yourself when expectations are not being metExpectations can be a great way to build the kind of marriage you want together. That process starts with questioning the ones you have now and making sure you end up with the right expectations for the kind of couple you are wanting to be together. Listen to this episode now and walk away feeling great about your expectations instead of frustrated by them.

Episode 112: Questionable Expectations

Today’s podcast episode will calm your fears and help you have the right perspective about doubting your marriage.Having doubt about your marriage is more common than you might think. Many people question if their marriage will last, or if they married the right person. These thoughts, in and of themselves are not the problem - it’s what you do with them that either makes your marriage stronger or weaker.In this episode, you will learnwhat causes you to doubt your marriagewhat it looks like to live in “Doubt Mentality” day to day with your spousewhat doubt really is (hint, it’s not what you’ve been told)how being certain about your marriage is not dependent on the circumstances that are happeningIn addition, I share with you a specific set of thoughts that will help you immediately step out of doubt and into a confident assurance about your future. I’ll walk you through my 5-step process for managing doubt so that you get to create a marriage that feels secure and stable.Knowing where you’re headed together as a couple is priceless. Listen to this episode now to get an approach that will help get you there.﻿Mentioned in this Episode: Better Together Couple’s Event: https://drchavonne.com/better-together-couples-event/ 

Episode‌ ‌111:‌ ‌How‌ ‌To‌ ‌Stop‌ ‌Doubting‌ ‌Your‌ ‌Marriage‌

Today’s podcast episode will inspire you and show you all that’s possible for you with your spouse. One of the greatest assets you have in making your marriage better is a vision for what you want to experience together as a couple. When couples struggle, it’s because they don’t have a clear picture of what they are striving for. They get stuck in the “reality” of what’s missing and don’t focus enough on what can still be.This week, I’m helping you reconnect with what it looks like for you to thrive together as husband and wife in a profound way. You will have hope again. You will allow yourself to dream again. You will remember what it was like to love your marriage.In this deeply emotional episode I discuss:the impact of having a better marriage and how your life will be differentwhat better conversations look like among a couple and what your communication goals should look likewhat it really means to have a better connection and how it supports your overall emotional well-beinghow having better thoughts about each other radically improves the day-to-day and long-term experience you have togetherThere is such value in having a better marriage, even beyond how you feel today. It’s about having a better marriage for the rest of your life. It’s about creating a legacy for your children, and their children.Listen to this episode and then bring your longing to be Better Together as a couple to the virtual couple’s event I’m hosting on October 22-23. It will set your marriage on the path of turning what you want most into reality. Details and registration information can be found at https://drchavonne.com/better-together-couples-event/ 

Episode 110: Being Better Together as a Couple

Making time for your marriage can sometimes feel like a sacrifice. There are many competing demands for your time and energy. But when you don’t treat your marriage as a priority, you and your spouse struggle to connect. And connection is what makes a marriage work.   In this episode: you’ll learn how to use a simple framework to think about the time you invest in your marriage you will determine if your motivation for how you spend your time outside of your marriage is coming from the right place or not you will shift the way you think about making time for your marriage from looking at what you lose to focusing on all that you gain you will understand the connection between making time for your marriage now and saving yourself time later   I also share a real-life example of how I recently applied this in my own marriage.   Making time for your marriage is an investment that always pays off. You’ll be more comfortable around each other, have better communication, and ultimately get along better. Join me on the podcast today for a valuable conversation about the importance of making time for your marriage.  

Episode 109: Making Time for Your Marriage

Anytime a couple is not on the same page one person is likely to feel very disappointed or frustrated. Many people come to me asking the question of how to get their spouse on board with something.   In this episode, I give you my honest answer and introduce you to a 5-step process for having these types of conversations.   I make the distinction between inviting your partner to consider something versus trying to convince them.   In this episode you will learn: -the right way to start an important conversation -what energy do you need to bring to best engage your spouse -how to make the invitation irresistible to your spouse -how to get their buy-in without dragging them along   AND… I also share a SPECIAL invitation for you to join me at my Virtual Couples Event: Better Together. This event will be held from Friday, October 22 2021 to Saturday, October 23, 2021. Friday will be a virtual date night in and Saturday is an in-depth virtual workshop where you will be given the tools you need to create a marriage you love. To register and get additional details visit https://drchavonne.com/better-together-couples-event/

Episode‌ ‌108:‌ ‌How‌ ‌To‌ ‌Get‌ ‌Your‌ ‌Spouse‌ ‌On‌ ‌Board‌

I know for many when you got married, you really didn't have many doubts. You felt like this was a great match that you were thrilled to be committing your life to spend together and you know, things happen. And maybe you're hoping to be back in that place again. I want you to know that no matter where you guys may find yourself right now. That connection, that enjoyment, that fun, that love, that passion, that excitement is still there. There may be things standing in your way right now. But all of those things can be removed. You can learn to love your marriage again and I want to help you with the “again part” of loving your marriage again. Tune in to learn more.   If you are at a place where you're ready to get some help with your marriage and work directly with a coach that gets exactly what you're going through, that knows the exact plan and process to get you to a better place. Then here I am for you. You can visit www.drchavonne.com to schedule a call with me directly.

Episode 107: The Again Part of Loving Your Marriage Again

I know for many when you got married, you really didn't have many doubts. You felt like this was a great match that you were thrilled to be committing your life to spend together and you know, things happen. And maybe you're hoping to be back in that place again. I want you to know that no matter where you guys may find yourself right now. That connection, that enjoyment, that fun, that love, that passion, that excitement is still there. There may be things standing in your way right now. But all of those things can be removed. You can learn to love your marriage again and I want to help you with the “again part” of loving your marriage again. Tune in to learn more. If you are at a place where you're ready to get some help with your marriage and work directly with a coach that gets exactly what you're going through, that knows the exact plan and process to get you to a better place. Then here I am for you. You can visit www.drchavonne.com to schedule a call with me directly.

Do you feel like you and your spouse are living like roommates? Whenever you hear about a roommate, it's usually a story of something that's not working well. You may currently be experiencing a rough patch in your marriage that’s making you feel this way but here’s the thing, you are roommates. You live in a home together, you share responsibilities, you do your thing, in some ways and your spouse does their thing in certain ways. So in actuality you are roommates, it is a part of being married. I want to offer you the insight that roommate living is more of a mindset rather than an actual circumstance. A couple can spend very little time together and not feel like roommates. And a couple could spend a lot of time together and still feel like roommates because this roommate mentality is a mindset. The good news is that this is just a season in your marriage and it can change. Listen in as I share a few things that you can do and how to navigate this season in your marriage. if you and your spouse are both interested in addressing how disconnection is a problem in your marriage. I am here to support you. Together, we will talk about what's been happening, what you want for your marriage and how to permanently move you out of the roommate living situation. Book your call now at www.drchavonne.com. 

Episode 106: How to Get Out of Roommate Living

For many women, there's an emotional reactivity and a heightened sense of fear and anxiety that's often at play when it comes to parenting our children. It's like you reflect back on your own childhood and find yourself being in the space of not wanting to make the same mistakes with your children that you perceive that your parents made. This can result in having parenting differences in your marriage since you may not always be a united front in all of your parenting scenarios. This can be very frustrating but I want you to know that this is a very common topic that I coach on and it can get better. So what I'm going to share with you today are several perspectives and tips and strategies that you can employ when you find yourself growing more and more frustrated by parenting differences with your spouse. I also want to offer that even though this topic is specific to parenting, you can apply these principles I'm going to share to any significant difference between you and your spouse. If you are really struggling with some of the differences between you and your spouse, coaching can really help you.  We can work together one on one and do a deep dive into, we can look at every aspect of your marriage, where it feels like you and your spouse are not on the same page, we can find how to think about it differently, how to feel differently about it, and how to approach the situations in ways that are really just going to be much more effective than maybe what you've been doing so far. If you're ready to do this work I want to invite you to a private call with me, it is a complimentary consultation, and you can book your call today at www.drchavonne.com.

Episode 105: How to Deal with Parenting Differences

Shutting down in a marriage may look like a lot of different things. You may find your spouse is more distant, withdrawn, distracted, or defensive. This can be a difficult time, especially if you deeply want to connect and work on things together.  In this episode I share the reasons why your spouse may have shut down, and how you can still move yourself forward in a positive direction. I also share three critical things to keep in mind so that you remain encouraged and believe in a better future together. You CAN have  a marriage that you love, a marriage that your spouse loves and a marriage that you both are very proud of. Press play to learn more.

Episode 104: When Your Spouse Shuts Down

What does it mean to hold space for someone else? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. For your spouse, this means the same thing. If we aren't as happy as we can be in the marriage, it's likely because we see something in our spouse that we would like to be different. In this episode I offer you six steps that will help you hold the space and find peace with exactly where your spouse is. These steps will help you create a breakthrough for yourself and actually start feeling the way that you want to be feeling. Listen in to learn more.

Episode‌ ‌103:‌ ‌Holding‌ ‌the‌ ‌Space‌ ‌for‌ ‌Your‌ ‌Spouse’s‌ Transformation‌

So often we are unclear about where we are and what is necessary to take us to where we want to be. Knowing where you are right now in your marriage is such valuable information because it helps you know where to put your focus and effort. As a coach, my goal is all about getting you from where you are now, to where you want to be and help you to get super clear about the starting line. How you approach getting the results that you want will be different depending on where you're starting from but ultimately all we really want is to fully express ourselves, to be accepted and loved and feel connected to life, to other people, to ourselves. And so if that's what we're all after, at the end of the day, there's tons of different ways we can create that. And there are tons of different starting points. Today I want to share with you the three places that I find most people start out from and how the work of marriage coaching, the work of life coaching applies, and is beneficial to these scenarios. And as long as you are open to coaching, you are really committed to doing the work and getting the outcome that you want, I can help you. If you would like to work together, I encourage you to go to my website at www.drchavonnne.com and schedule a complimentary call with me. I will be really clear with you about where you are and we will map out your exact pathway to getting to where you want to be.

Episode 102: Knowing Where You Are

Today’s episode will help you to be intentional about the marriage you want and deserve. If you want a great marriage, it won’t happen by chance. Great marriages happen by choice. When it comes to #marriagegoals, I want you to look at what you have now and build from there rather than focusing on the future idealistic version of the marriage that you want. Making what we have now be enough to work with in creating the marriage of your dreams is the best place to start. The next step is looking internally to identify what needs to shift inside of you to make your marriage better. These are the things that you have 100% control over and these are the things that can make your marriage 100% better. Listen in to learn more about setting marriage goals from an internal place. If you are ready to have a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in accomplishing your marriage goals. I can help you get clear on your goals, what's standing in your way and your exact roadmap so that you can get unstuck and transform your marriage into a loving and enjoyable experience. Go to www.drchavonne.com/ to book your Complimentary Call today.

Episode 101: Your Marriage Goals

It's a celebration guys! This is our 100th podcast episode! I am so proud. Thank you all for your continued support. I appreciate you listening to the podcast and taking the time to leave a comment and a review. Thank you. So to celebrate, I thought it would be fun to share with you a few books from some of the experts in the marriage space that have really shaped my thinking and enhanced my marriage and my coaching business. Listen in as I discuss my faves and how these books and ideas can help you. And if you decide to read any of them, I'd  love to know your thoughts, so let me know about it by leaving me a comment! If you are looking for more guidance and 1-on-1 support, I invite you to reach out to me by scheduling your complimentary call to see if working together is the right next step. Go to https://drchavonne.com/ to book a call.

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