Shortly after my mom passed on Oct 30, 2019, I lost my dad almost exactly 8 months later on July 29, 2020.  He is missed and loved by many! My father was an honorable man of principle and he created a legacy for our family by changing our last name from Wallace to Shabazz. He was a husband, father, brother, son, cousin, uncle, and friend. He also was a minister with the Nation of Islam and a proud army veteran.  I invite you to listen in on this podcast as we capture some of the memorable times growing up with him and some of the life lessons we still carry today. Lastly, we recorded this podcast on this birthday (September 23, 2021). He would have been 85 years old at this time. So in closing We love and miss you dad - please listen from heaven as your sons (Dawud, Nasir, and myself) give you honor with this podcast.Al Salamu Alaykum Brother John 59X.

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Honoring Our Dad "John A. Shabazz"

The Real Truth Behind Your SMV (Sexual Market Place Value).When you go to an auto dealer to purchase a car – what are some of the things you look for when researching?  Most people look for the Year, make, model, mileage, performance, comfort, features, maintenance frequency, etc. You have the sales price, then you have the bluebook value.Well...we do the same thing when it comes to people. We all have an SMV, but most of us don&apos;t understand what that really is. So I employ you to listen in on this podcast with Mika and Bazz and learn something. Maybe your value isn&apos;t what you think it is.SMV Questions for the listeners:How do women view attraction to a man? Youth/Status/Resources/Stability How do men view attraction on a woman? Looks/Youth/WombNow that&apos;s real!

The Real Truth Behind Your SMV

In this world we live in everyone has a value. Some people place value on their career, items, experiences but not the same value on family. In this podcast, I ask my guests the million-dollar question "Is Your Price Tag Too High?" The responses are very interesting.So listen in as my guests (Eric, Mika, Boz, Kim, and LaTonia) share their views on relationships, a value of a person, and do modern women know how the value of a traditional man?Bazz

Is Your Price Tag Too High?

What is it? – Critical Race Theory is an academic concept that’s more than 40 years old.  The core idea is that race is a social construct and that racism is not just a product of individual bias or prejudice, but is also systemic and embedded in our legal, political, economic, and sociological society that states patterns of racism are ingrained in all of these modern institutions. In other words, It is a framework Listen as we (Abdul, Kyla, James, BJ, Tory, and Bazz) answer the following questions about CRT:Why is it necessary to understand what CRT really is?Is it real?Should it be taught in schools (K-12)?How has this impacted the black community?Great conversation! This was also streamed live on YouTube, you can watch it here!Stay tuned for Part II.

The Impact of Critical Race Theory

First Corinthians 13:4-7Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.In a study done by – psychcentral.com in 2019 on 36 children on the effects of parental rejection (lack of love) on their child. All 36 studies reported the same conclusion. Children who felt rejected/unloved by their parents were more anxious, insecure, hostile, and aggressive towards others in comparison to those who weren’t. Listen in as we (Bazz, Boz, and Streeter) discuss the following below:Defining love?What happens when a child is unloved?Is love the same as getting attention?What are the consequences of lack of affection?Why is this so important for Childhood development?Lastly – we discuss solutions on getting away from the enslaved feeling of inadequacy then you step into a realm of ways to learn to feel, give and receive real authentic love. This episode was also streamed live on YouTube.

Are You Loved Enough?

Legally just because you marry someone does not mean you have any legal rights to the child immediately upon that marriage…You can provide for them.Feed them.Clothe them.Love them as your own.Provide Health and Dental Coverage, even life insurance.But even with all that said - you do not have the same rights as the biological parent. You’re a second-class parent, but providing first-class benefits. Is that fair? Parents deal with:Behavioral problemsConflictsAttitudesChallenges with prioritiesDealing with the triggers of emotions when it came to their custodial parent.And Much MoreListen with Bazz, Breeze, and Isiah as we speak on this topic from a child and parent point of view, and check out this same podcast streamed on youtube - https://youtu.be/_bt_1XKqfRY.

You Don't Have The Right To Discipline My Child

Children are a blessing. They bring joy, love, value, and even education to our lives. We want to give them the best, we want them to not make the same mistakes we did growing up. So, we try to help them navigate life – helping them learn along the way. In some cases, they make us much better parents and people in general.Now on the other hand some children – not most but some can be disrespectful, ungrateful, entitled, and even narcissistic. They exemplify behaviors such as:Talking back / attitudeUn-appreciative of what they haveMaking demands (entitlement)Lack of ownership and knowing their role (i.e. chores, school)Not being responsible for their actionsDon’t communicate (only call when they need something) / do not say “Thank you”.Join us as we (Eric, Breeze, Joe, Steve, and Bazz) talk about how we handle these family challenges and give recommendations on how to handle them.

Disrespectful and Ungrateful Children

This is the final episode of the Men of Fire Series - Part 3: What&apos;s Your Motivation To Keep Us Happy?This episode is also in video format on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4YA836lNepcIn the beginning, we focus so much of our attention on the person we are dating/married to that we can sometimes make you lose focus of ourselves. Then, on the other hand, certain life events take place that can make you lose sight of your other half as well. Hey, I get it – life happens, but when we get off course, but why do we stay off?I call that “Getting attention but not maintaining retention”.So that’s basically what this podcast topic is about – how do we work on retaining each other in the relationship?  It sums up all the challenges we face in relationships with this issue. Now don&apos;t get me wrong we got tons of more to discuss but for now, check out this podcast and hear what we (Joe, Eric, John, Tory, and Bazz) have to share. You might find it a bit interesting.This episode is also in video format on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4YA836lNepc

Men on Fire Series Part 3: What's Your Motivation To Keep Us Happy?

This is Part 2 of 3 of our Men of Fire Series titled: Defining a High-Value Man Most women want a good quality man, but does that include the traits of an HVM? Everyone&apos;s opinion is different and could be quite subjective. Nevertheless, we (Latonia, Big Boz, and Bazz) discuss in this podcast just that.  So check out some of the traits we researched online (www.lovequestcoaching.com ) and see if any of those apply to you.  MSO figured to be considered an HVM, they should have at least 9 out of the 12 listed below. These traits consist of:He communicates clearly.He’s clear on his intentions.He commits to himself and others.He makes over $120K a year for at least 3-5 years (not all high-earning men are high-value men) – can’t be High-Value and homeless.He loves putting forth effort for a woman.He makes plans and follows through.He CALLS and does not rely on TEXT.He is well knowledgeable in today’s current events (politics, news, etc.)He is a positive goal-driven individual.He doesn’t chase, he attracts.His car and home are clean.He’s fun and unique.Also, this podcast is streamed on YouTube. You can check out the video at: https://youtu.be/ZNBIvvq89_A Stay tuned for part 3.

Men on Fire Series Part 2: Defining a High-Value Man

Welcome to part one of a three-part series titled - Men on Fire: What Am I Asking A Man To do? This episode is also on YouTube - https://youtu.be/UUdICdnI_PILadies think about that for a second. Men are considered to be the priest, protectors, and providers of the home. If he is doing all of this, what more do you want out of him?So my questions for the men are:Are you being asked to go above and beyond for your family? Do they even appreciate what you do? Do you sometimes go without, so your family can have?How does it make you feel in the long run?How do you know if you are being appreciated in your home?For the women:How do you make your man feel appreciated? Does he even know? What are you doing to show him?Do you put your children before him? What&apos;s the proper "order of family"?Do you treat him as the Alpha male in your household?Well, join us in part one of this series as we (Eric, Big O, Izzy, Tamika, Fatty, Corey, and Bazz) discuss some of the bullet points above. Also, this is our very first streaming episode. You can see it here https://youtu.be/UUdICdnI_PI. We want to apologize in advance - you can&apos;t hear Bazz that well...first-time mic mistakes. MSO promises the next one will be on point.

Men on Fire Series Part 1: What Am I Asking A Man To Do?

This is Part III which will conclude our “cheating podcast series". Make sure you check out the previous two episodes (34 - Why Do People Cheat In Relationships & 35 - Sex, Sandwiches, and Silence).So what does "Shining In The Background” mean – simply put it&apos;s main chick vs side chick. The main chick is more visible to the public, official, and has priority in the relationship, but the side chick is always "shining in the background". Most men don&apos;t, and some men do have side chicks, why? What is the benefit of having a woman on the side? Is it greed? Is it conquering the challenge? Or is it because the side chick fills a void that&apos;s missing from the relationship? Well, listen in as I have a conversation with my guests (Tonia, Joe, and Tamika) on this topic. Also, on this episode, I have my first co-host (Tamika from the Hustle Goddess Blog Site) and she leads the discussion on the current controversy around Derrick Jaxn and the negative impact he&apos;s made on himself, and the disappointment of his fan base with the current actions of his cheating behavior.

Shining In The Background

Chris Rock Said it best “Feed me, Phuck me and then Shut the phuck up”Men are simple creatures – our “wants are very simple” once we get them, we’re happy...or at least so we think. So let&apos;s explore some of the "wants" that can put a smile on a man&apos;s face and give me some solace he can look forward to in his relationship.They consist of:Food  - It&apos;s always been said the way to a man&apos;s heart is his stomach - we&apos;ll test that theory.Sex - Although it&apos;s very important, and if you are in a serious relationship with your partner - there should be no limits and if so communicating them should be in order.Silence - Men fight enough battles outside the home, we don&apos;t need to fight them inside our comfort zone. Sometimes we just need silence to add to our internal "male care".So listen in on this discussion, as we (Eric, Tamika, Big O, Tessa, Fatty, Tonia, Joe, and myself - Bazz) talk about all three points above.  You never know you may get a nugget or two out of the conversation.  I will admit this podcast does get kind of explicit at some points, (so listen at your discretion).  Nevertheless, this is Men Speaking Out -  where we really talk to reveal not to conceal.

Sex, Sandwiches and Silence

Why do people cheat in relationships?A study from May 2020 states that 20% of married couples and 70% of unmarried couples experience infidelity (basically CHEATING)! https://comparecamp.com/cheating-statistics/  WHY? Well, that&apos;s the subject of discussion on this episode. This age-old question is still a mystery to some people, especially to individuals in relationships who "feel" they are giving their partner 100% of them. Is it...frustration, neglect, lack of sex or interest, finances, no communication, etc. I employ you to listen in as we (Eric, Fatty, Corey, Tessa, Mika, and myself - Bazz) talk about some of the reasons why this happens, some of our very own experiences around this, and lastly a recommended solution on how to talk through these situations and continue to move forward with your relationship. A very good podcast!

Why Do People Cheat In Relationships

Happy Valentines Day!Think about the below questions for a second...Do women control sex? Do men control the relationship?or...Does the person who loves the least control the relationship?Listen in as we take our podcast on the road in sunny Orlando, FL (recorded on SuperBowl Sunday) with an in-person dialog (with social distancing) with Eric, Cory, Jon, Joe, and myself.  We talk about all the above questions and we even go a bit deeper in the conversation and discuss communication, sex, and money.  I will admit that part will get a bit graphic, but hey we all adults here right? Women, you are about to find out what some men are looking for in that space. So get your pad and pen ready and take some notes.Bazz

What You "Think" You Control In Your Relationship

The year 2020 has been a tough year for us all. We&apos;ve dealt with this Covid-19 pandemic, loss of life, problems with relationships, people losing their job and lastly our mental health has been challenged. Well, thank goodness it&apos;s over and we can start looking forward to positive times in 2021. Listen in on this episode as I speak with my guests (Eric, John, and Chris) around some of the challenges they faced in 2020. I also join in on sharing mine as well and I also give the listeners some new information about me that I haven&apos;t shared on any of my previous episodes.  Check out this episode and remember we all have been impacted. So no matter how rough 2020 was for you, keep your head up, stick your chest out and handle 2021.Bazz

Challenges of 2020

Men Speaking Out is a podcast where men can openly share their positives, problems, concerns, and secrets. All our podcast shows are done in an interview/round table format. Meaning, although we welcome guests that have a background in the subject matter of discussion, we also bring on guests that do not. This gives our audience multiple perspectives. Our goal is to create an environment that promotes healthy relationships, truthful expressions and honest conversations for men.

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