Part of being human is having a desire for evolution and change. We are seekers of constant improvement. Sometimes change is hard to come by because there’s no clear path to go from where we are to what we want. This is where determination and resolve come in handy.   I think it’s safe to say that if you’re reading this, you want to take charge of making changes in your life.    You’re ready to take an active role in creating what you want in your life experience.    Great — taking ownership of your success journey will require a few things that when you apply consistently will make success a reality faster than you might think.    You must have the potential for change. Nothing will happen without it. So, How do you know if you’ve got potential for change? You feel unsatisfied with things in your life experience and have a nagging thought you’re meant for more. You have a curious mind. You have an ability and desire to learn. You’re ready to take responsibility for the 4 things you can control: Your thoughts — Your thoughts lead to your focus which leads to your outcomes. If your thoughts aren’t leading to successful outcomes, you can change them to something that better serves you. Check out our free resources linked in the show notes. Your emotions — Emotions are communication from your unconscious mind. Learn from them, process them, and get into feel-good states. Your language — The words you speak and the words in your mind matter. Use positive, toward language to speak to the things you want and how you want them (not about what you don’t want). Your actions — Take consistent action that aligns with the success you want. The key is to do it consistently and with intention. Be at cause. This is the essential NLP frame for empowerment.When you decide to take ownership of your outcomes, you become more aware of your state, environment, and the outcomes you’re currently getting. The empowerment frame teaches that you are the sum of your conscious and unconscious choices. So if you want to know how you’re doing, just look around what’s going on internally and externally. There’s no blame here — only the knowledge and awareness that you have a choice in the matter. And when you know better, you can do better. Awareness leads to inspired action, which leads to more resources, more knowledge, and opportunities for creating lasting change. Then you’ll be ready to create the change you seek by doing the following: Focus on what you want with complete abandon. Don’t get frustrated if it’s not your life experience right now. Maintain focus on the desire for the sheer joy of wanting it. Speak to what you want. Using positive, toward language creates momentum. Simply say it the way you want it. Take action that aligns with your goals. Be at cause by paying attention to your moment-to-moment experience.   This is simple, but it isn’t easy. My coaching programs help clients get to success more quickly. But can you do it on your own? Absolutely! I did. And you’ll find many free resources here to support you on your journey. Own your journey. You’ve got this.    Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   Soulful Business Revolution Program — open for enrollment now 21-Day NLP Abundance Breakthrough Mind Revolution episode The Life-Changing Power of Redefining Deserving Check out our free resources! 

Mind Revolution

Taking Ownership of Your Success

Are you deserving of all good things?   Deep down, do you FEEL deserving?   When I asked the folks in my Abundance Breakthrough that question, I got a mixed bag of answers. Some people said yes, others said sometimes, and some said, “I feel like I have to earn my deserving.”   Many of us grew up with ideas from religion or household rules or other life philosophies about deserving being a prerequisite to having good things, so it’s understandable that the idea of deserving is deeply ingrained in many of us. Deserving presupposes that we have to achieve, do, or prove something to be worthy of having what we want.     Here’s my next question: Who decides what or how much you deserve?   Here are some sobering things I’ve observed about the concept of deserving: Deserving assumes we have to do something to have good things. And if you don’t do those things, then you don’t deserve the good things you want. If we’ve done “good,” then we might feel entitled to those good things — like somebody owes us something. Then entitlement puts us at effect because we’re expecting people or situations outside of ourselves to fulfill a desire. A feeling of deservingness can lead to inaction. If we feel like we’re already deserving, it can lead to an I-should-already-have-it attitude and a failure to take action toward what we want.  The concept of deserving can result in justification for bad behavior. “I deserve this, so I’m going to just take it.” Deserving can lead to self-sabotage. “I’ve been good lately, so I’m going to cheat on my diet today. I deserve this.”   What if instead of working to be deserving you believed that:    You don’t “deserve” abundance in the same way you don’t “deserve” scarcity.   You don’t “deserve” good health in the same way you don’t “deserve” disease.   You don’t “deserve” love in the same way you don’t “deserve” pain.   You don’t “deserve” success in the same way you don’t “deserve” failure.   Think of how your focus would shift and how you would use your time and energy.    I help my clients unlink the concept of deserving from anything they want to achieve all the time because that narrative is outdated and irrelevant. We would be better served by focusing more on congruence and alignment with the abundance and worthiness inherent within each of us.    Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   21-Day NLP Abundance Breakthrough Check out our free resource for rewriting limiting beliefs   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

The Life-Changing Power of Redefining Deserving

According to the principles of NLP, you’re living two realities — your internal reality and the external reality. And your external reality is going to align with your internal reality. This is why you’ve heard me say if you want to know how you’re doing on the inside, look at what’s happening in your environment.    My clients are “getting” this, and they know to look inward when they don’t like what’s happening in their environment.   Case in point — one of my clients is in an industry that requires her to make telephone sales calls. She had been given multiple verbal yeses from potential clients, but these prospects hadn’t signed on the bottom line. So she had verbal agreements but nothing concrete.   Upon reflection, she had a lightbulb moment. Her prospects were not following through with their verbal commitments in the same way that she was not following through with making her sales calls.   Boom!   This is how it happens. What’s happening internally will be reflected in your environment.   Remember that the unconscious mind is highly moral. It will be faithful to the morality it’s been taught. And I would bet that most of us came from upbringings where we were expected to honor our commitments. And if we didn’t, there may have been some sort of punishment.    If that’s the case for you, your unconscious mind can “discipline” you when you fail to meet your commitments or honor your decisions. “Discipline” can show up in a myriad of ways. And if you’re paying attention, you can find the connections and make corrections. Remember that your unconscious mind’s job is to get you back on track as defined by what it knows to be true.    And when you honor your decisions by taking action… You create the container for that action. It may be awkward and uncomfortable at first when you haven’t done it consistently. But the more you do it, the more your container,  the more comfortable you’ll be with the change.  Because perception is projection, the people in your space will honor your decisions too. And sometimes, you’ll see them begin to honor their commitments too.   One of my clients likens this process to a phoenix rising. Honoring your decisions and commitments builds momentum and strength and the internal conviction that “I keep my commitments.” Before long, you’ll have an attitude of “What else can I do? What’s next?”          Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   21-day NLP Abundance Breakthrough   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

The Power of Honoring Your Decisions

Evolving, growing, transforming — this is what the people in my space want (and they’re doing it!) Change is beautiful and thrilling, and it comes with some challenges.   When you're ready to create change, your unconscious mind will begin to show you all the ways that what you’re currently doing doesn’t work. And let me tell you, that can feel frustrating. But it’s just your unconscious mind confirming for you that growth is in order. While uncomfortable, this is just part of the growth process. So it’s probably a good idea to expect and embrace it. It means that your unconscious mind is getting on board — which is great news!   This discomfort is what can propel you to take action in the direction of what you want. The first step can be especially difficult because your nervous system is learning and evolving to accommodate the growth you’re seeking.    This is why taking those first steps can be painfully uncomfortable.   I’ve made two big changes in my career, and both times my new choices were uncomfortable until I learned the way around this expanded version of me. Recording and publishing my first podcast was so scary! But after doing it a few times, it was no big deal. And now I record and release episodes with speed. No sweat. When I decided to get more visible and start creating videos on Instagram — yikes! I was so nervous! Now that I’ve done it, though, I’m becoming more comfortable. I feel as if my brain is expanding and supporting me, and I’m even having fun with it.   What changed? Two things.  I took (external) action.  I had (internal) growth.    Our nervous systems have a tremendous ability to change when things in our environment begin to change. But in order for change to occur, we must do some things differently. Our  internal growth is fueled the action we take during times of change. And evolution of our neurological container (the nervous system) can and does compel us to action. In other words, action, growth, and evolution go hand in hand.   To be successful in making changes in business: Don’t compare yourself to the outliers in your industry. You shouldn’t expect the same results as someone who has been working at their business for years or has a massive email list when you’re a few months in. Model them, sure. But don’t compare.  Learn to sell by listening and using language effectively. (This is where the NLP Selling Series comes in!) Become more visible to grow your business — share content regularly, show your face on social media, try out video. Don’t worry; people are not nearly as interested in what you do or look like as you are.  Persevere. Keep going. Take the next step. As you do, your nervous system will evolve to support you. Honor your vision. By giving it energy By learning new things By getting better each day   Change is indeed hard. And you might feel like it's not the right time because you've never done this before. I’ve got to break it to you… There's no such thing as a right time when your brain hasn't done it before. Embrace the discomfort to embrace the growth. You and your vision are worth it! And I’m here to support you on your journey. Let’s do this!     Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   21-day NLP Abundance Breakthrough   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn

What it Really Takes to Have that Dream Business

People are social creatures, and we organize ourselves into cultures, societies, governments, groups. And here’s the thing about these groups — most people here are living in a self-sacrificial environment. At an unconscious level, we’re taught that the individual is subservient to the group, and the group is more important than the individual.   Is it any wonder that most of us have a hard time embracing our desires and dreams when we’ve been conditioned to feel guilty and selfish if we expend too much energy going after what we want?   In today’s episode, we scratch the surface of Clare Graves’ Values work. Clare Graves’ work is less about individual values and more about thinking systems. The foundational values level systems are rooted in self-sacrifice or aggressive, shoot-myself-in-the-foot type of self-expression.    It’s not until Values Level (VL) 5 (there are at least 8 values levels) that we get into expressive values with win-win scenarios. It’s a level where individualistic, “selfish” behavior isn’t viewed as being at odds with the group’s prosperity. This is huge! Especially for entrepreneurs, coaches, and commissioned salespeople.     It’s my goal to help all of my entrepreneurial clients and students transition into a solid VL5. Here you can begin to really live — guilt-free — from a place of abundance, of recognizing that it won’t take anything away from anyone else. And the nature of VL5 allows for more curiosity which usually leads to more introspective work and deeper spiritual connections.   Is Values Level 5 all there is? Hardly. But according to Clare Grave’s model, we can’t fully evolve to more complex levels until we’ve actualized the previous ones. Transitioning out of the sacrificial levels and firmly into a more resourcefully expressive level is key to your personal and financial evolution.    Yep, Values Levels play an unconscious role in your money story. The story creates internal systems and environments that affect your decision-making.    And you can interrupt unhelpful stories by… Remembering that it’s just a story Interrupting the story with reject-delete and something that makes you laugh Imagining the power that once belonged to the story is coming back to you, where it belongs Taking action that aligns with what you want   You are the author of your money story. If the story you’re currently running isn’t serving you, change it.    To learn more about how to do this, join our upcoming 21-day NLP abundance breakthrough. It’s free, and it’s powerful. Make your money story one that you want to live.      Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   21-day free NLP abundance breakthrough, starting October 6   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

Disrupting Your Limiting Money Story

There’s no such thing as small changes. All change is BIG.    Some changes might seem small, but when you shift to something outside of your usual patterns or take a path that diverges from your typical choices, that’s no small feat. Continue to make small, incremental changes, and you can dramatically change your life’s trajectory.    But change is scary because getting out of the comfort zone is uncomfortable.    I always tell my clients that intentional change is optional. You have a right to stay in what’s familiar. You’re entitled to your away-froms, negative thinking, and limiting beliefs. You can continue to do the same thing and hope that something will change. You can stay right where you are and try to make the most of it.    But the reality is that the comfort zone eventually reveals a certain discomfort. The comfort zone is supposed to be comfortable, but it’s also boring and predictable, and it  becomes increasingly unsatisfying.    Why? Because human beings are meant to grow and evolve.    You were meant for change.    “But, Brenda, you already said change is hard and scary.”    Yes, it is. And avoiding change comes with its own baggage. Whether you choose to avoid change or choose to  grow and evolve, there will be discomfort.    There will be discomfort in trying new things and taking chances. And there will be discomfort in staying in the same place. And the choice is yours.    We can learn to reframe the fear of getting outside the comfort zone because there is seldom any real danger involved. The safety that we feel in the comfort zone is usually nothing more than emotional safety. And years of inaction or years of doing the same thing can blind us to the other available options.     My invitation is for you to, first, realize that you have a choice. You can stay where you are, or you can choose to grow. And, second, I invite you to choose the path that helps you expand. Yes, there will be discomfort in the growth, but there will be benefits and newness on the other side of that growth. Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   Soulful Business Reboot - 21-Day NLP Abundance Breakthrough   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

On Choosing Your Personal "Hard"

To get what we want in life, we need to balance thinking and doing, and connecting emotionally and spiritually with what we want. A lot of the work I do with my clients is about creating the emotional and spiritual space for the things they want in their lives.    This emotional-spiritual collaboration lets us get what we want with a greater sense of ease, purpose, and fun.   The problem is that our internal resources go largely untapped. We simply haven’t been trained to cultivate and use them. It’s like you have a sports car sitting in the garage, but you don’t even know it’s there. And all the while, you’re sweating on a bicycle around town when you could be driving your sports car.   We have this fantastic, powerful resource inside us, so how can we tap into it?    Often we see things we want and feel a pang inside. Perhaps it feels like jealousy or lack. The next time you feel triggered by seeing something you want, try this:   Step one — Find a sense of trust inside that you have the resources, access to them, and the power to use them to get what you want. You can say, "I use my power to access the resources to create this thing I want."   Step two — Say or write, “I access those resources and use them to achieve what I want.”   Step three — Say or write, “I  assess my outcomes and make adjustments as needed.”   Step four — Say or write, “I trust the process until I reach the desired results.”   Write these steps in a favorite notebook, print them out or take a screenshot. And when you feel triggered by something you want that’s not currently in your life experience, go through these steps. With time and repetition, your unconscious mind will tap into your available resources and make way for your desires.    Run this mental strategy with emotions attached. Let your emotions fuel and propel your desires because — remember — emotions are the language of the unconscious mind. Imagine that you’re living your desired outcome now. That will help your unconscious mind get on board.   By tapping into your internal resources, you’ll see results quickly. Give it a try!   Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   Upcoming Soulful Business Reboot — 21-day NLP Abundance Breakthrough   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

THIS Could be Keeping You from Living Your Best Life

Over the last week, a theme was running through the people in my space — one of frustration. Many clients and students felt that they were doing all the right things but they weren’t getting the outcomes they wanted. It was happening in their businesses, sales, and relationships. By the end of the week, I had to use NLP to release frustration for myself!   If you can subscribe to the NLP idea that you are the sum total of your conscious and unconscious choices and can believe that you can train your unconscious mind, then I’ve got good news and bad news for you. The bad news: You’re responsible for your life experience. The good news: You’re responsible for your life experience. And you can shape that life experience by working with your conscious and unconscious minds.    If you feel like you’re doing everything you can but the results aren’t to your liking, here are some things to consider…   Are you going deep to uncover dominant limiting beliefs? Working on surface-level things can only get you so far. If you feel like you’re missing the “abundance gene,” that often means your focus is on lack. Do you have a deep sense of trust that things will work out for you? Do you believe the universe has your back? Do your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, expectations, and behaviors align with the outcomes you seek? Maybe one or two areas are off. Focus on aligning mentally, emotionally, and energetically with your goals. Are you doing mindset work consistently? It’s easy to stop when you begin to feel better. The key is to keep doing internal work until feeling good and positive outcomes are the norm. And then keep going to make it even better. Are you doing what you’ve always done, thinking what you’ve always thought and expecting things to change? For things to change, your thoughts and actions must align with what you want.    Negative experiences are just letting you know that something like thoughts, beliefs, or emotions are out of balance. And it’s easy to get derailed by what’s going on in our environments. This is where staying vigilant and consistent with internal work pays off.    The quality of your internal filters is revealed in how you’re feeling right now. So, if you feel like you’re doing everything you know to do but aren’t living the life you crave, perhaps this is an ideal opportunity to make that inward turn to align your thinking, beliefs and expectations with your desired outcomes.    I share this with a sense of compassion because, hey, I’ve been there. I aim to inspire and empower you by asking, “And now, what are you going to do about it?”  Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   Mind Revolution episode Managing Negative Emotions Effectively   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

The Value of Making Tough Inward Turns

If you’re here, you’re probably like most of my clients. You want to have something in your life experience, but it’s not here yet. Or, there are some things in your life experience that you don’t like.    Bottom line, you want change in your life.    For many of us, things are great in most areas of life, but there are one or two challenging areas. These areas are where our conscious and unconscious minds don’t align.    In NLP, we say there are two types of problems: The presenting problem — what’s in our sensory awareness The deep structure problem — what’s happening underneath in our belief systems. This is the root of the presenting problems.   To achieve the change you’re seeking — you need to align your intention and your behavior.    To do this, first, let’s clear up some misconceptions:   Misconception 1 - Plan for the future by thinking about the future.  The truth - Your unconscious mind understands the difference between the concepts of “present” and “future”, and while your unconscious mind exists in an ever present “now”, if in your “now” you’re thinking of something happening in the future, then you're communicating the essence of “not here, and not yet” to your unconscious mind and that “not yet” can become a thought and manifestation loop.  This is HUGE.   Rather than having thoughts and plans for “someday,” get your unconscious mind primed and ready by imagining that what you want is happening now, in this present moment. Let those feelings percolate in the now.   Misconception 2 - Keep thinking the same thoughts and get better outcomes. The truth - To get different outcomes, your thinking has to change.  When you think of the person with the outcomes that you want, what do they believe? What do they see in their world? How do they spend their time? What behaviors serve them?   Misconception 3 - To create what you want, you have to feel good 24/7. The truth - You live in the real world, and crappy stuff will come into your awareness. You’ll have negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. The key is to become aware of them and address them. We can eradicate automatic negative thoughts with some exercises you can find in the freebies section. Tackle them one at a time as you become aware of them. Perfection isn’t the goal. Awareness is.    Misconception 4 - You can keep your limiting beliefs and make amazing things happen. The truth - For amazing things to happen, you need to tackle those limiting beliefs, changing the underlying structure that will topple the presenting problems in your world.   This isn’t about living a problem-free life. Our world is a mix of positive and negative energy, and it’s impossible to be unaffected by the negative. But we can become aware, address it, and do the world to create a more beautiful life. Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube     To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

Misconceptions about Creating a Dream Life

When you turn on a garden hose, do you wait impatiently for the water to come out of the spout? Of course not.   You know it’s coming eventually, so you trust that water’s going to pour out of there any second.   When you plug in the hairdryer, do you wonder if it will work? Probably not.   When you drive on a two-lane road, are you afraid that the oncoming traffic will hop into your lane? I hope not.   When you go to bed at night, are you concerned that the sun might not rise in the morning? No way!   We TRUST that these things will happen.   What would happen if we, in a similar way, trust that the universe had our backs? What if we trust the universe with our big desires knowing full well they would show up?   In today’s episode, I’m inviting you to adopt a sense of trust and surrender regarding the outcomes that you want, to trust in the power of your unconscious mind and your source (God, the universe, creative energy, etc.) just like you would the force behind the garden hose.    When you turn on the spigot, you know there’s a lag time before the water reaches the end of the hose. But the lag doesn’t make you doubt that the flow will come. You know you just need to give it a few seconds before you see evidence of the flow.   It’s much the same when tapping into the power and abundance of the universe. There’s some lag time, but there’s no need to fret about the lag. The key is to stay positive in your anticipation and expectation as you focus on your desired outcome. If you start to feel impatient, temporarily shift your focus to something else that will help you get in a feel-good state. The key is to manage your moment-to-moment state as you focus on the essence of what you want. The key is to live as if it’s already yours, and that its arrival is certain.   Trust that the universe has your back. The energy flow is always there. And you have the opportunity to co-create with your source.    Let that sink in.    If you’re skeptical, that’s okay. But what do you think could happen if your unconscious mind believed that the universe could be trusted? Isn’t it worth a seven-day experiment to find out?    Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   MR116 One Simple Change for Big Results -- on disconnecting the cause and effect   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn

The Power of Surrender and Trust

NLP places a premium on the ‘L’ -- linguistic. Language. The language we use matters. And the language we use gives us all sorts of clues about what we believe.    Today we're talking about two different linguistic assumptions. See if you spot these in your own thinking.   The first is cause and effect, the linguistic structure behind beliefs. It's simply the idea that one thing causes another.  Cause and effect is all about the “how”.  Like I must work hard to have money — meaning HOW does one make money? Oh, by working hard.   Or He must do ____ in order for me to feel loved. Cause and effect thinking can often lead to the next linguistic assumption: complex equivalence.   Complex equivalence occurs when we equate two things as being equal. Making money equals working hard. Or My partner neglects to _____ which means he doesn't love me.   These linguistic assumptions trip us up because instead of focusing on the thing that we want and feeling good, we’ve linked what we want to something that is uncomfortable or difficult or overwhelming. Maybe you want to see a certain amount in your bank account, and you assume you’ll have to take certain uncomfortable steps to get from here to there.    In cases like that, the key is to unlink the feel-good outcome you want from the other assumed steps that don’t feel great. Unlink those things and just focus on what feels good.   Just suppose you trained your unconscious mind to completely remove the notion of working hard, and you instead focused your energy on what it would feel to do work you love and receive all the money you need — as two separate things.    And what if you eliminated external factors in order to feel loved, and simply focused on feeling loved?    This is exactly what my clients are doing, and it works!    I know it sounds crazy and maybe a bit pie-in-the-sky. But this is what "allowing” looks like. You focus on the feel-good part and allow the universe to do its part. And if there are steps along the way from here to there that feel good, you can focus on those too for as long as it feels good.   We bring so many assumptions to the table about how things should unfold. And if we could just  let go of the how, the universe can get to work on our behalf and bring us what we want in unexpected ways or with a sense of ease that we didn't realize was possible.   So if you’re finding yourself getting caught in the weeds of what it’s going to take to get from here to there, unlink that cause-and-effect thinking and those complex equivalences and just focus on the feel-good outcome. I dare you to try it and see what happens.      Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   “It’s not here yet…” More about this in Episode 115, Quantum Leap Thinking to Change Paradigms   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

One Simple Change for Big Results

This week is Integration Week inside our Soulful Business Revolution Program which means that I’ve got more time on my hands. I used this time to revisit an old book that I’ve read again and again, Price Pritchett’s You2. — it’s a quick read and so worth the time.    The book reminded me that the fastest way to get from where you are to where you want to be is to work from the inside out. No doubt, there are things in the physical world that will need to change or to happen, but working from the inside out can allow the external changes to happen with much more ease.   Change starts in the mind and emotions. If you can begin with the end in mind and align your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions with your desired outcomes, you’ll be able to accomplish them.    As Carl Jung said, your unconscious mind must express itself in your environment via people, circumstances, and events. So, if you want to know what your mind believes to be true, take a look around because your environment is showing it to you 24/7/365. If you like what you notice, keep going. If you want to see something even better, then start doing the focus work and take action that aligns with what you want. Your consistent focus will eventually compel your brain to start making the shifts. And the sooner you get your unconscious mind on board, the better.    We tend to get stuck in a loop and spin our wheels because we repeatedly tell ourselves the same ol’ stories. And we keep getting the same outcomes as a result.   It’s time to change the story so that you can get a different outcome. Remember, the unconscious mind communicates through stories, symbols, and it loves repetition.    Maybe you’re skeptical. That’s okay. You can still do the work of thinking about what it would be like to be the receiver of the thing that you want, even if you’re in doubt. Make it a game. By allowing your mind to go to the positive outcome, you’re giving your unconscious mind the tools it needs to get you there.    Consider this: What if your unconscious mind believed what you told it? Wouldn’t you choose to tell it something good?    Well, tell it enough times with conviction, and it will believe you. Give it a try.   I invite you to step into your power, into your worthiness. Create your reality by first creating it in your mind. Make it fun. Dream big and let yourself feel the goodness of your dreams becoming your reality. Stay in that state as frequently and for as long as you can. Then watch what happens.        Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   You2 by Price Pritchett   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn 

Quantum Leap Thinking to Change Paradigms

I’ve been studying self-development since learning English as a kid. But I have memories, even as a young girl, of being mesmerized by Gloria Steinem’s inspiring messages, seeing her on Mexican TV, as her words were translated into Spanish.    As an adult, my love of self-development led me to breathwork, meditation, books, fitness, and eventually to NLP, and then to coaching others. Over the years, I’ve evolved and have discovered my why for being here and doing what I do. It’s what lights me up and gives my life meaning.    I haven’t always known my purpose, even though I experienced success in many areas. There was a time when I felt like I had arrived. I was living in a 5,000 square-foot home — just me and my two boys, working long hours, and collecting a lot of things. But I was lacking real purpose and meaning.   My purpose has revealed itself as I’ve been on my journey. I have evolved and so have my programs and services.    I’ve become bolder, more true to myself. Some of the clients that I had a couple of years ago wouldn’t be my clients today. And that’s okay. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, there are many ways to get to where you want to go. I’m embracing the methods that have worked for my clients and me. And I’m going all-in.   I realize that I can’t make anything happen for anyone. But I can provide you with resources, a blueprint for success, and support so that you can make things happen for yourself. That’s why I offer multiple layers of resources for you to access at whatever level you’re ready for. There’s this podcast, the free Facebook Community, our Revolution Program, and one-on-one coaching. Each layer is available for you when you’re ready for it.    And I’m right there, doing the work with you so that I’m serving as a model.  This allows me to live with purpose and from a place of integrity and authenticity.    “Well, this sounds great, but what if I don’t know what my purpose is?”    That’s okay! I didn’t know for a long time either. I suggest you work from where you are. Maybe you don’t know what your purpose is, but you know what it’s not. In that case, focus on what it would feel like to be living from your purpose if you knew what it was. In time, with focus work, your purpose will come to you.    The work that you’ll find in my programs  requires time and effort. But the overall intention is to make everything easier, more in sync and save you so much time — because you’ll be pointed in the right direction — your direction. In the direction of your why.    

Letting Your Purpose Lead the Way

Why do negative emotions stick around longer than positive ones?    It’s because we’re wired with a negativity bias. It’s nature’s way of keeping us safe. But it doesn’t feel good.   Negative emotions have a way of spiraling into more than just negative feelings. What may start out as a negative emotion can lead to a limiting belief, an away-from orientation, negative outcomes, fewer resources, and even a general place of disempowerment that doesn’t feel good.   Don’t get the idea that negative emotions are useless — they’re not! In fact, they’re a valuable form of communication from your unconscious mind. And when handled effectively, they can, in a roundabout way, help reorient you in a better direction.    While your life is an emotional and spiritual journey, we usually have to take action to feel better.   Recognize that emotions — negative and positive ones — are going to happen. Emotions are part of being human. Try to observe your emotions at a distance. It may help to imagine that you’re floating above the event or watching it on a movie screen. Identify the emotions. Writing them down may help. Acknowledge and take ownership of your emotions. This is especially important if other people are involved. Someone else may have done something, but the emotions are yours. Own them. Take responsibility for what you feel.  Honor the emotions as communication from your unconscious mind. Explore, "What is this telling me? What is this alluding to? What’s the evidence here that supports the emotion?" Then explore, "So this is what I'm feeling. What would make it better?” And believe that better is possible. Interrupt the pattern of negative emotions with thinking, “reject-delete,” dancing, reciting a mantra like “this too shall pass,” jumping jacks — whatever gets you in a good mood. After the negative emotion has passed, identify the trigger.  Then focus on intentionally and consistently creating positive states. This will put you at cause.   The purpose of all this is to help you feel better. Because when you can feel better, you can do better. Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Links from today’s episode:   Check out our freebies!   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn  

Managing Negative Emotions Effectively

Some people are into hobbies like writing, painting, music, or fitness.    Me? I’m into self-improvement. Self-improvement is my thing, and it’s been my jam for a long time. As a teenager, I read self-help books for fun. I even put myself in therapy when I was 17. My mom found out when she got a call from Kaiser. So, yeah, that was me, feeling the desire, even as a teen, to gather as many tools and resources as possible to better myself and my life.   You might not be a self-development junkie to the extent that I am, but virtually everyone in my space is here because they want to realize something in their life that’s not yet present.    And if you’ve been in my space for a while, you know that I preach doing the work. The work involves focusing on what you want so that you can enlist your unconscious mind in the process of manifesting your dreams.    If you’ve been doing that, and you’re still waiting to see the fruits of your focus, this episode is for you.    Doing the work and waiting for results can be frustrating. In a recent Soulful Business Revolution session, one client arrived feeling very frustrated. She made it known that she was tired of “doing the work” and not seeing the results. Most of us could relate. And it makes sense on account of quick-fix promises everywhere we turn.    But there’s a vital component of “doing the work” that we can’t skip. For your unconscious mind to align with your conscious desires, you need to align with the energetic qualities of what you want to create while doing the work. This means staying in a positive mindset, which makes staying in feel-good and empowering states so very important.    When you think about your goal, if you feel upset or annoyed that it’s not here yet, your unconscious mind links your “not here” thoughts and feelings with your desired goal and the waiting period is just going to take longer, which then perpetuates the “not here” essence. The big problem is that at some point, your unconscious mind can absolutely generalize the association of “not here” with all of your desired outcomes, and before you know it, “not here” can easily become the norm.   Another client proposed a beautiful reframe for this situation. The work and the waiting time are creating space for what’s to come. That reframe can shift feelings of impatience and a sense of lack to anticipation and excitement.    Think of your waiting time like building a nest. There’s work to do, but it’s all in anticipation and expectation of the beautiful life that’s to come. Think of the “creating space” time like making preparations for a welcomed guest. The preparations you’re making create a positive sense of anticipation and expectation.   Positive feelings about your goals are what prepares you to receive the fruits of your desires. So being keenly aware of your state is crucial. It’s one of the most important things you can do to achieve the outcomes you want.      Thanks for listening!   To share your thoughts:   Leave a note in the comment section below Use the “I have a question” button Share this show on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn  Find Brenda on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and YouTube Soulful Business with NLP Facebook Community Links from today’s episode:   Take on Sales with Brenda and Maxine -- new podcast coming soon! Check out our freebies for ways to help manage your state   To help out the show:   Leave a positive review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help, and I read each and every one. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Libsyn  

Feeling Your Way to Success

The Mind Revolution Podcast shares relatable and practical tools to tap into the power of your mind to help you step into your own power, unleash your highest potential, and turn your big dreams into actualized results. Host Brenda Terry, a personal development trainer and master coach, utilizes her insights to inspire, motivate, and educate listeners to achieve mastery in business, relationships and personal development. Join a community of go-getters, leaders, and seekers actively working to live life fully by making an inward turn and taking a courageous leap to discover the greatness inside.

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