Today, I'm talking about how easy it is to get into a rut when you prioritize other people's expectations over your own and look for outside validation. (I'm raising my hand on this one!!) I'm also talking about the first two steps that I took to get out of the rut I felt myself fall into with my marriage, creativity, life... everything.  Let's connect on Instagram I'm @MonicaChats the podcast is @NotANiceGirlPodcast This week's Show Notes monicafrederick.com/pulling-yourself-out-of-a-rut/ 

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Pulling yourself out of a Rut // Letting go of other's expectations and not hiding from negative emotions

The goal of this episode is to help you not chalk tough topics up as "politics" and letting yourself off the hook for growth. This one is a bit different than normal episodes and was inspired by a recent conversation on a Facebook Group thread.  We'll talk more in-depth about living as your higher self and how to make difficult decisions as her, how living through your core values is the key to finding yourself, and more! Check out today's journal prompts over on Instagram @NotANiceGirlPodcast

Politics vs. Morality: What it Means for Your Higher Self.

If you've tried vision boards, manifesting, gratitude journaling, affirmations or even new systems/routines and you feel like nothing is working, there's one reason why. Join me on the podcast as I talk about how it's not that you don't *believe* enough, but simply that you don't think of what you're trying to create as a fact.  Check out the pod on Instagram @NotANiceGirlPodcast to grab the journal prompts that go along with today's episode! If you're ready to take what we talk about on the podcast and apply it permanently, then book a consultation call with me here. 

Why Your Manifesting Isn't Working

In this episode, I'll discuss the two reasons that learning how to ask for help has been challenging and what action steps you can take to overcome them. LINKS This week's episode Show Notes With each episode published, additional free journal prompts will be added that takes you through the six steps and the episode topic. Grab the prompts on Instagram @NotANiceGirlPodcast. Work with Me 

How to Ask for Help When You're Too Nice to Ask

With a new year comes a few changes and this podcast is one of them! Welcome to the newest version of the podcast, NOT A NICE GIRL. In it, we're talking all about dropping labels and self-doubt that keeps you stuck and living authentically. In this episode, I'm chatting with you about how I used to pride myself on being a nice girl and what I sacrificed in order to do so. I'm also talking about what the word means and how it's been holding you back from living with kindness and dreaming big.  LINKS: This week's shownotes Instagram (@MonicaChats) Book a free discovery call 

Why I'm not Nice, and why you shouldn't be too -- PEOPLE PLEASING // KINDNESS vs NICE

Today, I'm talking about the ONLY New Years Resolution you need to set and keep for yourself: only doing things that are true to who you really are (not who you think you should be or what you're expected to be).  Essentially, we're talking about how having "live authentically" is the only goal you need to set because it will help you take the necessary actions to improve your life in all the ways you truly want. LINKS: Today's Show Notes Core Value Journal  Book a Free Call  Instagram

The Only New Years Resolution You Need

You have a natural compass that guides you to make actions that help you grow, and to keep you from burnout. We all have it, except, a lot of us ignore it or try to bury it with binging tv (I'm guilty of that!), drinking excessively, overeating or emotional shopping.  Today on the podcast, we're talking about how to interpret your emotions (no matter if they're positive or negative) and use them to better tune into what you need.  LINKS MENTIONED: Today's Shownotes Consultation Call with me Instagram

Your Anti-Burnout Compass: How to Develop Your Emotional Intelligence

When you think about reaching your goal, what is your motivation to get there? Is it the excitement from the future possibilities? Or is it fear of not making it?  In this episode, we’re talking about the different types of motivation you can use to compel yourself to take action on your goals and how you're probably using Anti-Inspiration Motivation. Check out more resources that go along with the episode on today's shownotes. If you're ready to stop DIY-ing your better life and want to make an action plan and STICK to it, book a free call with me.

Why You Need to Stop Using Anti-Inspiration Motivation

Are you buying yourself love or avoiding working on your relationship with yourself by binging TV, eating extra comfort food, shopping, or some other vice? If this sounds familiar, this episode of the Monica Chats podcast is for you! Links Mentioned: TODAY'S SHOWNOTES BOOK A FREE CALL  CONNECT ON INSTAGRAM

Burnout Kryptonite

Today, we’re talking about scale moments and how they are EVERYTHING when it comes to changing your life. Excuse the audio on this, as it is VERY off the cuff. Links mentioned: Instagram: https://Instagram.com/MonicaChats — Book a call: https://monicafrederick.com/book

SPECIAL: “Scale Moments”

If you hate your job, then it's probably affecting every area of your life, right? Today on the podcast, we're talking about what you need to know when you hate your job, and what you can do NOW to help you create happiness and change the way you feel.  Check out today's shownotes at MonicaFrederick.com/ep68 Ready to finally figure out what’s stopping you from living the life you love? Schedule a free 1-on-1 video call with me. We’ll define what you *truly* want, pinpoint what’s getting in your way, and map out a simple step by step plan for you to get it. Just head to MonicaFrederick.com/Book and pick a time that works for you! Recommended Resources to help you take this work deeper How to Define Your Core Values -- Episode 32 of the Monica Chats podcast Core Values Journal How to Stop Being Miserable in Your Day Job -- Episode 49 of the Monica Chats podcast The 5 Steps to Figure Out Your Passion and Find Fulfilling Work guide How to Start Living Your Purpose TODAY -- Episode 62 of the Monica Chats podcast Trying to find meaningful work? Look for this instead -- Episode 39 of the Monica Chats podcast. 

What You Need to Know When You Hate Your Job

If you're putting a ton of pressure on yourself to find your life's purpose and start living it RIGHT NOW, then this episode is for you. There are a few major differences between your life purpose and goals, and knowing the difference will help you stop putting that pressure on yourself. LINKS MENTIONED This week's show notes Core Values Journal How to Create a Vision for Your Life 

The Difference Between Finding Your Life Purpose and Goals

I used to always judge myself when I was feeling bad emotions. I'd tell myself to "stop being so angry" .. sensitive.. anxious, etc. But it NEVER helped. There's a few reasons why this was, and I'm going over them in today's podcast! When you stop labeling your emotions as "good" or "bad" then you'll learn how to deal with negative emotions in a way that keeps you from wasting time trying to avoid "bad" ones. Dive into this week's episode to see how.  And if you want to revisit what we talk about this week, make sure to check out the detailed shownotes at Monicafrederick.com/ep66

What's in Your Way of Dealing with Negative Emotions

When I first started thinking about improving the quality of my life, I tried to make my husband just as excited about personal development as I was. I'd beg him to listen to the same inspiring podcasts and books that I was into and hoped he would push me along on my self-improvement journey when I felt my motivation drag. But after a while of that NOT working, I figured out it was because I was really pushing him to do all this because I didn't believe in myself enough to push me along. So, we're talking about that and more in today's podcast episode. In this episode you’ll hear: Why hoping your partner will be your accountability buddy isn't going to work. What to do if you're scared of out-growing your partner or you're scared they'll want to leave you. Questions you NEED to ask yourself about to get deeper into your personal development journey. Check out the detailed show notes for this week’s episode at MonicaFrederick.com/ep65 If you've decided that your self-improvement is worth the effort and investment of your time and you want to radically improve the way you see your career and your life, then I want to invite you to work with me one-on-one. We'd work together for six months to get you from feeling powerless and unfulfilled in your job and life and get to the real heart of what's actually in your way. By working together, you'll have a fool-proof strategy for making the life you daydream about to happen. Schedule a free strategy call with me to see how to make it happen for yourself.

When You're Focused on Self-Improvement, but Your Partner Isn't

Have you ever had an awesome idea, but you didn't tell anyone about it or take action because you were afraid of failing? You're not alone. I've been there too, but I'm changing my relationship with failure every day.  This didn't happen for me overnight. It took me years to figure this out on my own, and it's still something I work on consistently. But it's not just me, the bulk of the time I spend with my coaching clients is spent dismantling the fear of failure and redefining it. Since it is such a significant roadblock for many women I work with, I wanted to make an episode dedicated to it. After you dive into this episode, you'll know how to turn any failure into fuel so that you can bounce back quickly and not stay stuck in disappointment! If you're using it as fuel, then your fear of failure will start to evaporate. Hell, you may even start to think about failure and mistakes as a good thing. Check out the detailed show notes for this week’s episode at MonicaFrederick.com/ep64 Ready to finally figure out what’s stopping you from living the life you love? Schedule a free 1-on-1 video call with me. We’ll define what you *truly* want, pinpoint what’s getting in your way, and map out a simple step by step plan for you to get it. Just head to MonicaFrederick.com/Book and pick a time that works for you! 

The Ultimate Cure for Fear of Failure - Turning it into Fuel

(formerly Imperfection with Intention) This is a show where you'll hear talk about self-discovery, finding and living your purpose & passion and overcoming the anxiety, overwhelm and burn out that happens when you’re chasing your dreams! Whether you want to make a career change, start your own business or even just find a passion project, you're in the right place. Wanna get started with getting clear on what your purpose is? Grab my free 5 Steps to Figuring Out Your Passion and Finding Fulfilling Work guide at MonicaFrederick.com/guide

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