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This was an impromptu session with Ralph Smart about being the space for manifestation to occur

Ralph Smart (infinite waters) on manifesting

It's NOT the Happy people that are Grateful

What's up, yo! Preston Smiles here. Make sure you go to prestonsmiles.com because I got some magical juicy stuff that I'll only release through email. Today's transmission, "Five Ways to Overcome Fear and Master Personal Freedom". In 2005, I started surfing and I was good, not that great. I decided to go on this trip with my buddy, Josh, to a surf break called Tarantulas. Now, out the gate, I should have known that this was going to be an issue with a surf break called Tarantulas. We get there and it's beautiful and the waves are crashing and at this point, remember that I had only surfed just a little bit and maybe the biggest wave I had ever surfed was 5 feet. From the beach break, it looks like everything I had ever surfed. We get out there, we strapped on our wet suit. We paddled out and as I get closer, I'm like, "Josh, these waves are bigger than like they looked back there." He's like, "Yeah, it's probably 6 to 10 feet today," which is actually really big and it was heavy. We get out there and I'm shaking. I'm scared. It was like, like it was Iceland even when the sun was out and we're in California. I was really nervous. After about 20 or 30 minutes, I gathered the courage to paddle for a wave and I caught this wave and I was happy and I was excited and I was like, "Woo-hoo!" I kicked out of the wave and I looked up and I heard of the guys says, "Outside," which in surfer terms means that there's a gigantic wave, rouge wave coming in and you better paddle your butt off or you're going to get annihilated. I'm here, they're here and the wave is here. Everybody is paddling full speed and then there's a point when I realize and everybody else realizes after they make it over that I'm not going to make it. What's even worse is that I'm in the impact zone which means I'm in the point where the wave kicks up and slams in the exact spot. That first wave is coming and I'm seeing it jacked up and I was like, "Okay, there's no way out of this." I tried to dive under and the wave hits me, bangs! Slams me to the ground. I'm in the sea grass being tumbled and pushed to the ground and thrown everywhere and I come up and I take this breathe, "Aah!" Only to see that there's another one. That one comes, bang! Hits me, takes me, throws me, pushes me further out and then another one comes. At this point, when the third one comes, I have the thought I may not make it. I have that thought that this is actually life and death and then I actually may not make it this time. It hits me, I go down. I [watch 00:02:44] the machine, I tumble, eventually I come up, take the breath and I see that it's clear and it's calm. At this point my buddy Josh is screaming, "Preston, Preston, come here, come here. P, come out." I see that the sand is there and I could paddle back to the beach or I could back out with the surfers. I have this choice point, this moment, what do I do? Do I go back where it's safe or do I go and do the thing that I love? Josh told me later that it looked like I had death in my eyes and it was so important that I get back out there and get back on that board and surf again because if I would have went, which I did not choose. If I would have went back to the beach, I would have never surfed again and I would have missed out on this beautiful gift that I do all the time. I paddle back out and yes, I was afraid and fear was coming through my body but I did it anyway. It took me almost an hour to catch the next wave but I did it anyway. Now, before we even begin and I give you the five master steps to overcoming fear and gaining your personal freedom and your personal power, I must say this that it is highly important that you share what's coming up for you, that you tell your friends and your family or somebody you trust, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, a husband, a wife, whoever. You tell somebody what you're experiencing. You see, if I would have tried to go at that alone without having Josh, maybe I would never be a surfer. Maybe I wouldn't even be living but because I had a friend who got my fears, because I had a friend who could see what I was going through from a different perspective, because I had a friend who could see it differently. He held the space for me to get over my fears. Step #1, to overcoming your fear is examine your story carefully. Ask yourself, is this real? Ask yourself, is this grounded or am I making this story bigger than what it is? Ask yourself, is there a possibility that there can be another outcome? Does this have to be true for me or is it true for just me and nobody else? Because when you examine the story, you can create enough space where it doesn't have you. A lot of people are afraid of, let's say, snakes. They have a story that the snake is going to come out and bite them but if we examine it carefully, the likelihood of a snake jumping out and biting you for no reason is pretty rare. Step #2, to overcoming your fear is drop your need for security. People, just for security, will stay in jobs they hate and marriages that are making them miserable and they'll keep doing things like overeating even though they know it's killing them. When you drop your need to feel secure all the time, you overcome the fear. When you drop your need of having to know and have it all figured out, you create a space where you can be bigger than something. I know so many people who want to follow their dreams but their fear of failure is stopping them. The fear is getting in their way. They're addicted to their comfort zone and the security of knowing where the next paycheck is coming from. Now, I get it. That's not an easy thing to do necessarily but if you start doing #1 which is examining the story and then step into #2 which just go, you know what? Do I really, really need all this security? Is this security real? I've met so many people and seen it in my own family where somebody thinks that they're secure in their job, in their relationship and then the rug gets pull from under them. If it can get pulled no matter what, why in the hell would you stay in it just because it's secure? You had to push against your edges. You got to move forward. Step #3, which is treat fear like an action call. Every time you experience fear, know that that's exactly what you get to walk towards. Know that that's a thing that you get to move forward in. If you're afraid to talk to that girl, ask her for her number, if you're afraid to ask for a raise in your job, that's exactly what you need to do. If you're afraid to just go to your mate, to your partner, to your best friend and say, "You know what, brother? The way that you've been acting is not necessarily conducive to our friendship." If you're afraid of that, that's what you walk towards. Walk towards what you're afraid of and you overcome it. Step #4 to overcoming your fear is reframe your fear into excitement. Robert Heller said that,"Fear is excitement without the breath." People ask me all the time, "Are you afraid to speak?" I went and spoke in Australia for 6,500 people and after it was over, few people said, "Were you afraid?" Yes, I felt fear. I felt some fear come up but I transmuted that. I pushed it into excitement. I got myself pumped up. I got myself in a state ready to go like I'm doing now. I asked myself powerful questions like who am I and what am I here for? Well, the answer to who am I is love and what am I here for, the answer to that is serve, service, I'm here for service. In that moment, it became less about me and my fears and looking bad and looking stupid and messing up and not getting the words right and more about being of service for humanity, for the 6,500 people that were in that room. It was more about service in that moment. When you reframe it into excitement and ask powerful questions like what am I here for? I can almost guarantee you, 9 out of 10, you're going to have the same answer as I did, which is service. What am I here for? I'm here to serve. Stop making it about me and make it about them. In that moment, the fear gets transmuted. It becomes excitement and you can use it to create. Step #5 which is the final last step is make sure you breathe. Just breathe. I found that whenever I'm feeling fear, 9 out of 10 I'm also not breathing. When something comes up, my breath shortens. When I'm in argument, when I feel that anger and things coming up, I stop breathing. If you just take some moments whenever you're feeling fear about anything, whether it's jumping off of a bridge bungee jumping or asking your soon-to-be-wife to marry you or whatever the case maybe, just take a moment to get still, get silent and be with your breath because there's so much wisdom in the body. There's so much space that gets created when we stop tightening and get in the flow of life. Life is about the end-breath and the out-breath, the yin and the yang. There's a flow and when you tap back into that flow, then you can create from there. Guys, fear is not real. It's only real because we say it is. It's a tool that can be used on our tool belt but it's not something that gets to run our lives. If you are afraid of something in your life, that is the thing that points to your freedom. Whatever you are most afraid of is the thing that holds your personal freedom. What's up, my beautiful people. If you are new to the tribe and you are in YouTube, go ahead and click subscribe, like and leave a comment. If you're on Facebook, tag somebody, click like, leave a comment. I love you, guys, so much. It is going down in a beautiful major way. I am, we are #LovesVoice. Live love, give love, be love.

5 ways to OVERCOME FEAR

What's up, y'all? Preston Smiles here. I want to remind us all today that the world is not changed by opinions, the world is changed by example. A lot of people have a lot to say about politics, about how we should live, who you should date, all kinds of stuff. I want to remind us all to stop talking so much and to live by example, to show instead of talk. Yes, you speak what you seek, but don't speak it too much. Just show people. Be the embodiment of the stuff you talk about. That's the game-changer. People respect people who say they're going to do something and then fulfill it, then embody it. That's it, y'all. I love you guys so much. I am, we are, #lovesvoice is going down in a beautiful, major way.

Opinions don't matter - SHOW ME

What’s up you all, Preston Smiles here. Make sure you go to prestonsmiles.com because I release stuff there that I only release through email. Today’s transmission: The universe is not happening to you it’s responding to you. I’m going to say that again, the universe (God, Buddha, Allah, Krishna) whatever name is on the door for you is not happening to you it’s responding to you. It’s responding to your energetic frequency. That means that you get to stop every time you get knocked down. You get to stop running back to the thing that knocked you down. That means letting go of these old patterns and unfollowing people in real life … Unfollowing people in real life. That means getting a squad, getting a family, getting a crew, that gets and sees who and what you are. That means loving when you’re ready not when you’re lonely. That means not swiping through Tinder when you feel lonely. Not swiping through all these dating apps trying to hook up. Guys, the universe is not happening to you it’s responding to you. When you take full responsibility and get that your vibrational frequency, that who you be matters in the world and that your life is being created moment after moment after moment based on your frequency. When you get how powerful, how beautiful, how magical, how great you actually are? You’ll stop selling yourself short, you’ll stop giving people discounts for how fucking amazing you are. I just cursed I have never cursed in a video yet. You will stop giving people discounts for how amazing you are. You were created the image and likeness of God that can never fail. You’re pure magic, pure beauty and you’re powerful that you’re creating even when you don’t know you are. Guys, you’re living in results. Take a look around your life and see how the universe is responding to you. It’s responding to your conversation about money. It’s responding to your conversation about women. It’s responding to your conversation about men. It’s responding to you. It’s not happening to you it’s you. When you take responsibility for it and get that it is happening through you vibrationally then the whole thing changes I promise you. If you get nothing else get that the universe is not happening to you it’s responding to you. Guys, I love so much. If you are new to the tribe go ahead and click ‘like’ ‘subscribe’. If you’re on Facebook, tag somebody, share this message. Guys, I love you guys so much. We’re all in this together, all of us. Keep holding each other up, make sure you comment in that box. If you see somebody comment and you know you have a gift, you know you have a testimony, you know you have a mess that turned into a message, go ahead and jump in there and write them. This is our tribe. I know that this is happening on my channel but really this is our channel. I am, we are #LovesVoice. It’s going down in a beautiful major way. Live love, give love, be love.

Life is RESPONDING to your FREQUENCY

It's not what you don't know that gets in the way of your success. It's what you do know that isn't true that gets in the way of you manifesting and living a life of your dreams. What we think we know is really just someone else's opinion about the subject matter, IE, right now I'm in Africa and for the longest time all I saw was commercials with babies with flies on their face and scenes of war and things of that nature and as of recently the Ebola scare, right. When it came time for me to come here everybody including myself based on their opinions started getting a little afraid. Now that I'm here I am experiencing what I would deem the most welcoming beautiful people I have ever experienced in my life. You see for at least 10 years I've had the dream of coming to Africa and what's gotten in my way is what I knew about Africa, what I knew about India. Now I want you to apply this to your own life. Right now you know too much about that dream of yours that you want to accomplish. You know that you have to go and take these steps and you've got to get a PHD and you've got to da da da da. You have this whole list of things that you know and what you know is getting in your way. The people who succeed, the people who break barriers, the people who create stuff like the airplane, like the cellphone, these are the people who are so naive, they're so naive, they're so willing to dream and get out of their own way because this is what it's really about. Everything in your way has to do with you and no other circumstance. You're in your own way, you know too much so today start to cultivate, cultivate a consciousness of naivety. Cultivate a consciousness of freedom and curiosity. Start to get curious about life and let go of all of your shoulds and coulds and would have's and step into the magic of the unknown. There's a curious kid in all of us. There's somebody who will dare to be different. There's somebody who will dare to go to what we call the end of the Earth only to find out that there is no end. There's somebody who will dare to run the 4 minute mile when they say your heart will explode if you do. Thank you Roger Bannister for that. There's somebody who will dare. My question to you is what will you dare to do today? Guys, thank you so much for taking this journey with me here in Africa, one of the most beautiful places I have ever experienced. I'll see you soon. If you're new to the family go ahead click like, subscribe. If you're on Facebook tag a friend, tag a loved one, share this message. If you really want to dig deep go to PrestonSmiles.com or go thebridgemethod.org where I have a personal development program with my fiance that is amazing. I love you guys so much. I'll see you soon from Africa, boom. No matter how obscure, no matter how weird, no matter how ridiculous you think this thing is that's the thing that will make room for you.

What you 'KNOW' is getting in your way

Trying to get rid of the pain only magnifies it. Guys, it is okay not to be okay. One of the things that I want to nail home for all of us is that we live in a society where we try to hurry up and fix things. We try to hurry up and get out of things and that works in many places. It’s great that our reptilian brain fixes things and creates buildings and cars and all of these things but it does not work when it comes to personal development. It does not work when it comes to healing your life and living life at a 10. Now, take this ride with me for a second. Imagine and I know you’ll never probably ever have this happen but just go there with me. Imagine that you’re stuck in quick sand and there’s no trees, no ropes, nobody there to come and save you. What do you do? Most humans, myself included before I really got what I’m explaining, will try to struggle their way out. “Help, let me out of here. I’m dying.” The thing about quick sand is that the more you struggle the further you go down. The more you try to fight your way out the further you sink. In life it can feel like this. It can feel like everything is stacking on top of itself. It can feel, “Oh, I didn’t pay the bills and now my such and such left me and my boss is up my butt and the dadadadadada.” I feel you, I get it, such is life. Thing about quick sand is that you can’t get out of quick sand. The only way to get out of quick sand is to relax, spread ego and roll yourself out. Now, think about this for your life. The only way out is in, is through, but many of us when we have an issue try to hurry up and get out. Just like that quick sand I’m going to need you to relax, to surrender, to accept what is. It’s okay to not be okay. You get to feel all of it and be with all of it you all. Now, understand that I’m not saying that you get to just say, “Well, I’m screwed. Preston said I could say I’m screwed.” No, it’s not that. It’s choosing from the embodied acceptance of what you created as opposed to choosing from resistance. “I need to get my way out because everyone else has screwed me over. Life has screwed me over and now I need to climb my way out.” That’s a whole different ball game from acceptance, from surrender. I created this, I’m the Picasso of my life. If I painted that picture, I can now paint that one. Before you paint that one I’m asking you, I’m challenging you, to surrender to this one. That’s where the magic is. Blessings and blessings. I love you so much. If you are new to the #LovesVoice family go ahead and click ‘subscribe’ if you’re on YouTube. If you’re on Facebook or YouTube share this message, leave a comment and just understand that I love the crap out of you. It’s going down in a beautiful major way. If you can respond, if you can have your wits about you when hell is crashing all around you, then that’s a powerful place to be in.

It's OK to not be ok

This was a spur of the moment conversation between Alexi Panos and Infinite waters Ralph Smart about the importance of how we use our time.

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