"Life in the Mental Health unit was definitely surreal for me!"In this episode, we chat more with Gabbie about the realities of what it was like being in a mental health unit for a few weeks, and, how as much as she didn&apos;t want to be there, she knew it was what she needed to do in order to become healthy again.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage.Please consider supporting the show by clicking this link. 

Quick and Dirty Marriage Podcast

Life in the Hospital

Knowing what we know now, and looking back at all these years, all the signs were on the wall.  We saw what was going on with her, had the "gut feelings", but didn&apos;t do anything about it.  We could have intervened earlier in her life but didn&apos;t. And we&apos;re devastated by it.In this episode, we chat more with Gabbie about some of the warning signs that we as parents ought to more pay attention to. These are some of the very things that led up to her eating disorder and mental health issues.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show by clicking this link. 

Picking up the Warning Signs

Just like Heather and I, every other parent wants nothing more than to enjoy a healthy and thriving family. From the beginning, their goal is to raise kids who are healthy, respectful, and most of all, loving. They want nothing more than to have a family who loves each other and supports each other throughout their entire lives, hoping to avoid any major issues or pitfalls throughout their lives.But what happens when everything seems fine on the surface, but under the covers, there's so much more that's happening that's gone undetected for weeks, months or even years?In this episode, we chat with a very special guest about their long battle with mental health disorders and how they decided to start their journey of healing.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show by clicking this link. 

(FF) The Start of a Journey

After 21+ years of marriage and 25 years of parenting, we want to share a few tips and tricks that we've learned along the way in dealing with our kids during trying times. This can really help for parents with kids who struggle with ADHD.We talk about:Transitions and TimersNoticing the Good, and Positive ReinforcementSpreading the Attention aroundIgnoring the Whining and ComplainingFoundation: ConsistencyWe hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show by clicking this link. 

(FF) Parenting Strategies for Kids with ADHD

Are you walking on egg shells around your spouse? Are you scared to share your ideas or dreams with them?Are you tired of hearing NO every time you suggest even the smallest thing?You are married to a close minded thinker and it's damaging your marriage.BUT...there's good news. And in this episode, we talk about a few things you BOTH can do to acknowledge the issue in a safe way, and then work towards strengthening your marriage by hearing and saying YES more often.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show

(MM) Quit Being so Rigid

Learning the difference between sympathy and empathy, and how to use them in your parenting.Words you can use when your child is having a hard time:"I see you are having a hard time""I hear you that you are sad.""I feel that you need a hug""What can I do  to help you?"We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show

(FF) Sympathy versus Empathy

MARRIAGE MONDAY EPISODE: "Where did our Friendship Go?"We started dating, got engaged, got married, had kids, started a family and then...we lost our friendship in the process. What gives?If you are feeling alone in your relationship with your spouse and wondering where things went wrong, consider the idea that you may have prioritized other things throughout the years and have now lost your friendship in the process.Consider this to be a time where you can both decide to start working on your friendship again by starting with a few ideas that we share in our latest conversation.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Please consider supporting the show

(MM) Why Aren't We Friends

FAMILY FRIDAY EPISODEDo you dread the holidays? As in, Thanksgiving isn't until 5 more days and you are already sweating with stress and anxiety? Yeah, us too.Don't get us wrong, we love the holidays. The food, the fun and especially the family. But then there's also the family. Not that we don't enjoy being with our family, but sometimes it can get quite hairy scary! Especially if one, and in our case a few of our kids, struggle with ADHD and other mental disorders.This conversation is centered around some of our past experiences in dealing with the holidays prior to understanding the ramifications of these disorders, but then we also go into a few tips and tricks that we've learned along the way in hopes that someone else may benefit from our long journey.We hope you find this episode helpful and as always, if you have any questions, please do ask us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or DM us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage. Support the Show

(FF) War Against the Holidays

MARRIAGE MONDAY EPISODE"I can&apos;t take this anymore?" Have you ever asked yourself that question? No? How about any of these questions?When will I decide that enough is enough?How much abuse can I really take?At what point will I call it quits?We&apos;ve been there before. Right where you are. A time and place where you are questioning yourself, "what went wrong in my marriage?" We know the pain staking agony that you are feeling day in and day out. Where you just want it to end. All the lies, the deceit and the abuse. We have felt all of that. And it SUCKS! How would you like to know when it will end? We have a great conversation about a time in our marriage when it all fell apart and the end was near. Our hopes is that after listening to this episode, it will provide some clarity and hopefully some relief in your current situation.*Please be advised, the following episode contains strong language, which may be unsuitable for children.If you have any questions, please email us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com or follow us on Instagram at @quickanddirtymarriage.

(MM) When to Call it Quits

NEW FAMILY FRIDAY EPISODE: Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder affecting both children and adults around the world.And with October being ADHD Awareness Month, we are going to be dedicating the next 5 Family Friday Editions focusing and bringing attention to ADHD with hopes that we can shed a bit of light onto the disorder with our journey with it, and in some ways, attempting to normalize it in order to help you not feel alone with your struggles as well.In this episode, Heather and I (Dale) had a good chat discussing how I have struggled with ADHD for most of my life, why I decided to finally get tested for it, and what has happened ever since.Have you struggled with ADHD? Or maybe you think you have it, but aren&apos;t really sure you do. This episode just may answers some questions you may have about it.We hope you find this episode helpful and that you tag and share it with 3 people who may benefit from it as well.

(FF) Me and ADHD

Notice the GoodLooking for a quick win in your marriage? When you notice the good in your marriage, you will not only see your relationship improve, but your spouse will develop into the person they were created to be.When you speak to their future person, and tap into their potential, you will very quick find that they will rise up to who you are calling them out to be. BUT, when you constantly cut their legs from under them and devalue them as a person, they will lower themselves and meet those expectations.Point them in the right direction and begin building a strong sense of worth for them.  Contact Us: Got Questions? Email us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.com

Notice the Good

The pandemic is all around us. And it&apos;s affecting everyone in so many different ways. First there&apos;s the sickness itself, which has sadly lead to loss of life for many. There&apos;s the effects of school and job loss and it&apos;s security. And then there&apos;s one aspect that is not being talked about too much and it&apos;s how are people coping with all the loss that we are all experiencing.In this episode, Heather and I share some &apos;Real Talk&apos; when it comes to our own struggles, and also offer some simple ways in which you and your spouse can step back and learn how to cope with it together.Got Questions? Email us at quickanddirtymarriage@gmail.comBook References:The Happiness of Pursuit by Chris GuillebeauUnfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life Gary John Bishop 

Coping with COVID

3 Ways to Survive Self Isolation with your SpouseIsn't this kinda crazy? How the entire world is having to witness, experience and live out this COVID-19 Pandemic together?People sick, others are dying, countries are in lock down and schools and workplaces are shut down. It's some difficult times we are living in, but there are ways in which we can do this successfully.Like many of you, I (Dale) am working from home as well. And if it wasn't for our time in the Philippines where we experienced similar living and working arrangements, we'd still be trying to figure this out.In this episode, we want to share with you 3 ways in which you and your spouse can survive self isolation, and do it successfully!

3 Ways to Survive Self Isolation with your Spouse

Love is not...Sacrificing.One foundation that is super important in a marriage is sacrifice. Love cannot thrive without a healthy level of sacrifice between both husband and wife. However, there are different types of sacrifice that you must be able to manage.Sacrificing your Time, Money, and Effort. When you give of your time, money and effort to your spouse, those fall in perfectly line with the 5 Love Languages. And that&apos;s important in any marriage. In fact, that&apos;s how you work on and get your relationship up to the next level. This is considered good sacrifice. Sacrificing Yourself. When you lose who you are for your spouse, that&apos;s considered a bad sacrifice. You, as an individual, have values, morals, other relationships, beliefs, likes, dislikes and so many other aspects that make up who you are. And as much as when two become one on your wedding day, you are still you and you should protect that.

Love is not...Sacrificing

Love is not...ControlBelieve it or not, no one likes to be controlled. Especially in a marriage relationship.Wrongly, there are times where we feel that in order to be loved more, we must control more, when in fact, it's the exact opposite.In this episode, we chat about how to spot the signs of control whether you are the one controlling your spouse, or, you are the one being controlled.

Love is not...Control

Dale and Heather share all their years of heartache, hardships and struggles and how they worked hard and transformed them into their foundation, their strength and eventually their passion in wanting to help others bring their marriage to the next level. Being married since 1999 and parents to now 6 kids, they almost signed those divorce papers but gave it one last shot and have a pretty great marriage. And now they want to share those secrets with you! These Quick and Dirty Marriage Podcast Episodes are about 10 minutes long, they're funny, and contain practical and effective ways that you and your spouse can start applying TODAY! quickanddirtymarriage.com

hubhopper

Quick and Dirty Marriage Podcast

hubhopper