We had a great time talking to Cait Flanders author of the Wall Street Journal bestseller The Year of Less. It may seem like an odd time to publish a book about opting out and yet, as we discovered, this is the perfect time to get serious about leading an intentional life. Find out more about Cait here. Follow on IG @caitflanders Find out more about Sandy here. Follow on IG @sandyareynolds  Find out more about Patti here. Follow IG @pattimhall 

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124 | Adventures in Opting Out with Cait Flanders

About the book: It has long been thought that artistic output declines in old age. When Emily Urquhart and her family celebrated the eightieth birthday of her father, the illustrious painter Tony Urquhart, she found it remarkable that, although his pace had slowed, he was continuing his daily art practice of drawing, painting, and constructing large-scale sculptures, and was even innovating his style. Was he defying the odds, or is it possible that some assumptions about the elderly are flat-out wrong? After all, many well-known visual artists completed their best work in the last decade of their lives, Turner, Monet, and Cézanne among them. With the eye of a memoirist and the curiosity of a journalist, Urquhart began an investigation into late-stage creativity, asking: Is it possible that our best work is ahead of us? Is there an expiry date on creativity? Do we ever really know when we’ve done anything for the last time? The Age of Creativity is a graceful, intimate blend of research on ageing and creativity, including on progressive senior-led organizations, such as a home for elderly theatre performers and a gallery in New York City that only represents artists over sixty, and her experiences living and travelling with her father. Emily Urquhart reveals how creative work, both amateur and professional, sustains people in the third act of their lives, and tells a new story about the possibilities of elder-hood.

123 | The Age of Creativity with Emily Urquhart

Art crashes into life for author Erica Cantley when she finds herself behind a podium in front of a class of high school seniors, teaching HAMLET as her father died, thousands of miles to the south in Costa Rica. Interspersing interactions with her teenage students and memories of her father, desperately sick and difficult to reach in his adopted jungle home, Cantley guides her students through HAMLET -- written four centuries ago -- while reflecting upon the impending loss of a parent in the never-ending now. The result is a powerful memoir of a love that will not die, the timeless story of the bond between parent and child, the magic created by a gifted teacher and willing pupils, and finally, the exploration of the timeless themes of HAMLET, the study in the transition of power through the generations. For those of you who aren't acquainted with Hamlet - don't let that deter you from this book or podcast.  The themes in this book and discussion are themes we can all relate to in our lives.  For more on Erica visit her website.  And your cohosts can be found here:  Sandy Reynolds and Patti M. Hall

122 | Teaching Hamlet as My Father Died with Erica Cantley

This week on Reframe Your Life we interview award-winning producer Michelle Parise about her book Alone: A Love Story. This memoir is about falling in love, the fallout of infidelity, and everything messy in between — and the inspiration behind the hit CBC podcast. Parise has worked for CBC Radio and Television for over two decades. She was born and raised in Toronto in a gigantic Italian immigrant family.

121 | Alone with Michelle Parise

Our guest this week  is Anne Bokma . She is an award-winning freelance journalist and the author of My Year of Living Spiritually: From Woo-Woo to Wonderful—One Woman's Secular Quest for a More Soulful Life published by Douglas & McIntyre in October 2019. A leading expert on North America's 80-million strong "spiritual-but-not-religious" demographic, Anne was the award-winning "Spiritual But Secular" columnist for the United Church Observer (now Broadview) for four years before writing her popular My Year of Living Spiritually blog for the magazine. Anne also leads workshops and gives presentations on topics relating to spirituality and writing, including how she left a fundamentalist religion, the importance of finding community, how to live a more soulful life and what it takes to tell a good story. She is the founder of the 6-Minute Memoir “Speed Storytelling For a Cause” event, which features storytellers sharing tales on a common theme within a strict six-minute time limit. The event has raised more than $45,000 for local charities in her hometown of Hamilton, Ontario, since 2013. You can find our more about Anne at her website here. In this episode we talked about some of the challenges of losing your religion. A big part of the struggle is disappointing people. Sandy offers a free PDF course for anyone who needs to find the courage to end people-pleasing in their life. You can find it at her website https://www.sandyreynolds.com And if you want to get support in writing a memoir you've been working on, reach out to Patti M. Hall

120 | My Year of Living Spiritually with Anne Bokma

An unexpected and belated mid-life love affair with birds and nature and finally discovering one’s place in the world – Field Notes from an Unintentional Birder illuminates the joyful experience of a new discovery and the surprising pleasure to be found while standing still on the edge of a lake at six a.m. When Julia Zarankin saw her first red-winged blackbird at the age of thirty-five, she didn’t expect that it would change her life. Recently divorced and auditioning hobbies during a stressful career transition, she stumbled on birdwatching, initially out of curiosity for the strange breed of humans who wear multi-pocketed vests, carry spotting scopes and discuss the finer points of optics with disturbing fervour. What she never could have predicted was that she would become one of them. Not only would she come to identify proudly as a birder, but birding would ultimately lead her to find love, uncover a new language and lay down her roots. For books that have inspired Julia Zarankin read her article here: https://lithub.com/the-accidental-hobby-on-the-books-that-made-me-a-birder/

119 | Field Notes from an Unintentional Birder with Julia Zarankin

We all have books that have greatly influenced us.  Dr. Sharon Blackie's bestselling book, If Women Rose Rooted is on Sandy's list of books that came along at just the right time in her life.  Having the opportunity to interview Dr. Blackie was a gift! If you aren't familiar with her, it is our privilege to introduce you! Dr. Sharon Blackie is an award-winning writer and internationally recognised teacher whose work sits at the interface of psychology, mythology and ecology. Her highly acclaimed books, courses, lectures and workshops are focused on the development of the mythic imagination, and on the relevance of our native myths, fairy tales and folk traditions to the personal, social and environmental problems we face today. She has penned four books of fiction and nonfiction, including the bestselling If Women Rose Rooted. You can find out more about her work at her website.   If you enjoy this episode let us know - you can leave a review on iTunes OR send us an email and tell us your favourite book! 

118 | Foxfire, Wolfskin and other stories of shapeshifting women with Dr. Sharon Blackie

Christa Couture reframes the experience of loss for us in her beautiful memoir, How to Lose Everything.  In this interview we talk about the questions she gets asked most frequently, her story of loss and the writing process.  Synopsis of her book:  From the amputation of her leg as a cure for bone cancer at a young age to her first child’s single day of life, the heart transplant and subsequent death of her second child, the divorce born of grief and then the thyroidectomy that threatened her career as a professional musician, How to Lose Everything delves into the heart of loss. Couture bears witness to the shift in perspective that comes with loss, and how it can deepen compassion for others, expand understanding, inspire a letting go of little things and plant a deeper feeling for what matters. At the same time, Couture’s writing evokes the joy and lightness that both precede and eventually follow grief, as well as the hope and resilience that grow from connections with others. Evoking Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking and Rachel Cusk’s A Life’s Work, Couture explores the emotional and psychological experiences of motherhood, partnership and change. Deftly connecting the dots of sorrow, reprieve and hard-won hope, How to Lose Everything contains the advice Couture is often asked for, as well as the words she wishes she could have heard many years ago. It is also an offering of kinship and understanding for anyone experiencing a loss.” You can find out more about Christa at her website. If you have started on your memoir but need help shaping it and getting it ready for publication, Patti M. Hall can coach you through this critical stage. Contact Patti here.   Find out more about Sandy's work with chronic people-pleasers at her website and get started Disappointing More People.  

117 | How to Lose Everything with Christa Couture

It's been said that 'life is a search for a good night's sleep.' If you have ever been sleep deprived you might relate. Sleep disruptions are more common than we realize. Sleep Coach Beth returns to Reframe Your Life to discuss her beautiful new book. It's not just a pretty book though, it is a practical resource to help you get the rest you need. You'll want to hear her publishing story as well. You never know what can happen on social media! For more on Beth check out this previous episode: Episode 79 | Reframe Your Nap.  And find out more about Beth at her website. If you are interested in working with a coach to get your book ready to publish, connect with Patti M Hall.   And if you people-pleasing is keeping you up at night connect with Sandy through her website for help.   Please leave us a review and share this episode and this podcast with your friends.  Thank you!

116 | Beth Wyatt and The Calm & Cozy Book of Sleep

You are going to love this author and her latest book! Alison Wearing is a Canadian writer and performer. In addition to award-winning articles, short stories, essays and solo plays, she is the author of three critically-acclaimed memoirs. Honeymoon in Purdah became a national bestseller and was published in seven countries. Confessions of a Fairy's Daughter was both a bestselling memoir and a multiple award-winning solo play. Her new book, Moments of Glad Grace, has been heralded as "a wise, funny, and tender book, beautifully written and perfectly executed from first to last sentence" by Yann Martel, author of Life of Pi. Connect with Alison here:  https://www.alisonwearing.com And find Sandy Reynolds at: https://www.sandyreynolds.com And Patti M. Hall makes her home here: https://pattimhall.com

115 | Moments of Glad Grace with Alison Wearing

This week we sit down with Rebecca Eckler and talk about her latest book and how she manages to be so bold in her work. Anyone in a blended family or thinking about attempting to bring two families together will benefit from this book.  Rebecca Eckler’s newest book chronicles the hard truth of what it’s really like to make a blended family. Blissfully Blended Bullshit is a witty, engaging, refreshingly candid chronicle of a modern family’s journey as they blend households. We follow Eckler as her partner and his two children move in with her and her daughter. Then, thanks to a reverse vasectomy, they add a baby to the mix. Readers go along for the ride in this poignant, often hilarious tale, as everyone attempts to navigate their new roles: the children, the in-laws, the exes, the ex-in-laws, and even the dog. Lighthearted and intimate, this is an indispensable story about a family determined to make blended splendid, and the juicy truth of what it’s really like behind closed doors in what is rapidly becoming a typical family makeup.  And if you are ready to get your memoir out into the hands of the world you will want to connect with Patti Hall. Visit her website and reach out and start the conversation today. Now is the perfect time to write your story. For those of you who feel hampered in your life by other people's expectations or judgements, sign up for Sandy Reynold's free e-course "Disappoint More People."   

114 | Blissfully Blended Bullshit with Rebecca Eckler

On this episode we interview Samra Zafar about her book A Good Wife.  From her website, " This ia a modern-day fairy tale where the heroine saves her own life."  Samra faced years of abuse after arriving in Canada as a teenage bride in a hastily arranged marriage, her determination and desire to forge a better life for herself never left her as she made slow progress towards her dreams.  Find out more about Samra at her website.  Find out more about Patti M Hall at her website.  Find out more about Sandy Reynolds at her website.  And if you are enjoying this podcast please share it with a friend and leave us a review on iTunes. Help us get the word out!  Thanks. 

113 | Samra Zafar on A Good Wife

Kate Armstrong inspired us with her truth-telling memoir about what it meant to be part of the first class of women attending Royal Military College. This book touches on many of the issues that women with natural leadership gifts encounter in their lives. You can find out more about Kate at her website.  For more on writing your story contact Patti here. For more on reframing your life and learning to chart your own course connect with Sandy here. 

Episode 112 | Kate Armstrong, author of The Stone Frigate

Jane Christmas has written several memoirs. You will want to read them all!   Find out more of Jane at her website.   Inspired to write your own story? Patti M. Hall can help. Find out more about her work here.   Are you afraid you will disappoint someone if you move forward or share your story? Talk to Sandy! 

Episode 111 | Author Jane Christmas discusses her new book, Open House

While working as an executive in the seniors' care industry, Deborah Bakti's professional and personal lives collided when her husband Ty, was diagnosed with a rare disease. When her husband was admitted to a long-term care home, Deborah was forced to adopt a new role; that of a residents' wife. On this episode we talk about her book RECIPE for Empathy and the strategies she teaches for transforming the long term care experience for families.  Find out more about Deborah at her website.   Find out more about how you can get started writing your memoir with Patti M. Hall here.  

Episode 110 | Deborah Bakti on supporting long term care workers and creating stronger communities

Reframing is about aligning your external world with your values and beliefs. It's a journey. A life long journey. It requires becoming aware of who you really are and doing the work of bringing your external world into alignment with your inner world. It is a spiritual journey that will bring you to what often feels like that mythical place of authenticity. If you've experienced that feeling, deep down inside, that there are things in your life that don't fit with who you really are and what you really believe, you are ready to Reframe Your Life.

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