Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige tackle a bundle of e-mails about one very big problem: What happens when someone wants sex and their partner won't or can't oblige? The specter of 'waiting until marriage' is raised in one very troubling e-mail. Ramani and Silvia address that decision, along with the recent revelation that the rapper T.I. checks in with his daughter's gynecologist about the state of her hymen. A listener discovers on her honeymoon that her husband has crippling ED, but she may be ignoring the real problems in her relationship. Then, a lesbian listener struggles with not being able to satisfy her partner's sex drive, and the fights that causes. Finally, the wife of a narcissist wonders why their sex life went from 5-6 times A DAY to barely ever. This opens up a broader conversation about the difference in men between libido and erections. *** DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE NOW ON AMAZON! Click here to get it! *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

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Episode 56 - Relationships with Libido Differences and Erectile Dysfunction

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige welcome rabbinical student and Jewish mental health advocate Jonah Sanderson for a controversial discussion on sex, gender and God. Jonah has made it his mission to combat suicide in the Los Angeles Jewish community. Much of his work focuses on sex, shame and gender roles. Jonah attempts to bridge the gap between traditional Orthodox beliefs and modern life. But many of his viewpoints do not sit right with Dr Ramani and Silvia. They explore the Talmudic view of sex and homosexuality (still very relevant to Christian and Muslim listeners) and the cultural place of women in the Jewish faith. Then, a deep discussion of the #MeToo Movement, and why its approach is not compatible with rabbis' approach to learning and healing. Ramani takes Jonah to task on forgiveness and Silvia objects to his concerns about the fallout for men. *** DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE NOW ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!***   *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 55 - Sex and God w/ Rabbinical Student Jonah Sanderson

Dr Ramani answers backlogged questions about picking bad partners, finding empathy for your mental illness, and keeping friends when there's a narcissist between you. ***DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE NOW ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!*** Silvia is out of the country and we miss her terribly! Dr Ramani uses the opportunity to address some of our more therapy-minded e-mails. A listener with a traumatic history admits to seeing all the warning signs and dysfunction, but wanting to be with her toxic ex anyway. Ramani addresses how to break the cycle. Another listener struggles as her narcissistic, slandering ex drives a wedge into their friend group. Ramani offers advice for how to maintain relationships and de-power the narc's mind games. Finally, a listener with a mental illness wonders how to process the lack of empathy he feels from those closest to him. He knows his condition can be off-putting, but it also makes him feel like he's surrounded by narcissists. Ramani has a lot to say on the social stigmas surrounding mental illness. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 54 - Toxic Love Addiction, A Narcissist In The Friend Group, Mental Illness Stigma

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige take a break from narcissism to tackle a bevy of backlogged sex questions, including cross-dressing fantasies and rules for BDSM. ***DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE FOR PRE-ORDER ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!*** A listener who identifies as straight wants to explore submissive, feminine style and behavior. Ramani says no worries, with one specific exception. Another listener wonders is there are universal rules for the BDSM community. Neither Ramani, Silvia or Producer Bill have ever participated in BDSM, but they all have stories involving people who have. Then, a lesbian woman struggles with a lack of sexual desire after starting a relationship with a newly out partner. And a concerned mother worries that her son is following in his dad's footsteps with a total lack of interest in sex. Ramani and Silvia aren't convinced she has anything to worry about. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 53 - Cross-Dressing, BDSM Rules, Hypoactive Sexual Desire

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige are back from summer vacation, with stories of travels abroad and the dysfunctional co-parents they encountered out there! ***DR RAMANI'S INDISPENSIBLE NEW BOOK "Don't You Know Who I Am?" IS NOW AVAILABLE FOR PRE-ORDER ON AMAZON! Click here to get it!*** A listener asks all the same questions Silvia brought back with her from England, about how to parent when your ex is no good. Ramani offers a tough love reality check about the situation. Then, a listener takes Dr Ramani to task about her use of the word 'boring' to describe stable relationships, but Ramani pushes back. Another listener struggles over wild swings in her boyfriend's self-esteem, and sends us on a tangent that addresses the stigma of dating with a mental illness. Finally, a very sweet listener wonders if her sibling might be a "part-time narcissist"...But we think she might have too forgiving a sister. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 52 - 'Boring' Lovers, Unwanted Confidence, Part-Time Narcissists

Dr Ramani and Silvia welcome "guest professor" Robert Kandell, author of the new book unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Buy unHIDDEN at this link: https://robertkandell.com/unhidden-a-book-for-men/ Rob is an interpersonal communication expert and also the host of the podcast TUFF LOVE. His focus is on the changing role of men in society. This episode is everything you ever wanted to know but maybe didn't know to ask about the concept of "The Patriarchy." "What does 'the patriarchy' even mean?" "Who created patriarchal structures? Who benefits from them?" "Isn't this just an angry feminist issue?" "How does this concept affect relationships?" "What would a non-patriarchal society look like?" "Is a non-patriarchal society achievable?" "What's so wrong with masculinity anyway?" "Is it bad if a woman just likes being taken care of by a man?" And tons more! Because the only step to understanding is open and honest communication. Write us with ALWAYS-anonymous suggestions for future 101 segments: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com   -- Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian.   Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 51 - PATRIARCHY 101

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige celebrate the show's 50th episode with a look back on lessons learned and fresh advice on narcissists, boundaries, and forging ahead. ** Thank you to our amazing tribe of listeners, which seems to grow with every episode, for your vulnerability with your stories and your interest in making the world a healthier, more loving place. ** Ramani reflects on the tradition of talk shows expanding the conversation about sex. Silvia recaps everything we've learned about porn over the past 50 episodes. And Producer Bill pulls back the curtain on some of Silvia's most devoted fans. Then, a listener raises the specter of narcissists turning friends against you. Another listener identifies a key red flag for IDing a narcissistic partner. And a past e-mailer writes again to clarify her struggle with dating in the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship. Finally, Producer Bill opens up with a personal story about a recent loss to suicide, and we hammer home that everything we talk about on this show ultimately comes down to the twin human desires to love and to be loved. *** PLEASE NOTE: If you or someone you know has been contemplating suicide, please seek help. There is a better way. If you are in the United States, there are trained professionals with whom you can talk 24/7 at the National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) – and you can find a quality therapist in your area at www.samhsa.gov. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 50 - Porn, Love and, of course, Narcissism

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige answer listener questions about narcissistic parents and the traumas they leave in their wake. Dr Ramani presents her 3-Part Plan to Disempower Narcissists. We draw an extremely important distinction between empathy and selflessness for people in toxic families. And we explore the idea that people with narcissistic pasts seek out problematic partners with the subconscious goal that this time, they'll "win." Spoiler: You won't. Finally, Dr Ramani relishes an opportunity to psychoanalyze the characters of The Great Gatsby! *** WRITE US FOR EPISODE 50! Our fiftieth episode will be extra-long and extra-deep, perfect for a podcast about sexuality. If you've been waffling about writing us, if you just discovered us, or if you wrote us before and put our advice into action, WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU NOW! E-mail: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com *** Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is a standup comedian and adult film actress. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.  

Episode 49 - The Origins and Legacy of Narcissism

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige tackle a grab-bag of listener follow-ups and some tough new questions about leaving the past behind. Plus, thoughts on the big college cheating scandal! Listeners have comments on anal play and the pitfalls of staying friends with an ex. Then, a widowed listener was used and abused by a narcissistic boyfriend after her husband passed. She wonders how to learn to trust and love again. Finally, a young woman has been through a tumultuous few years with her best-friend-turned-girlfriend. Now, their acrimonious breakup has led the ex to threaten suicide. Ramani and Silvia address how (and if!) you can help someone who is in pain, but is trying to drag you down with them. *** PLEASE NOTE: If you or someone you know has been contemplating suicide, please seek help. There is a better way. If you are in the United States, there are trained professionals with whom you can talk 24/7 at the National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) – and you can find a quality therapist in your area at www.samhsa.gov. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 48 - Exes As Friends, Rediscovering Trust, Suicidal Threats

A professor critiques Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige for ignoring lesbian perspectives. Another listener pontificates on the taboo of male anal penetration. We encourage all listeners to write us with topics or concerns we may be overlooking! Our first e-mail causes us to reflect on the amount of attention we pay to queer relationships. The writer brings up terrific points about shame, romance, online dating and the many non-penetrative options for pleasing a woman. Then, a listener's e-mail revisits the hot topic of male anal play. She wonders if psychological power dynamics may lead to avoidance. Ramani is skeptical, but Producer Bill chimes in with a personal perspective. Finally, Silvia offers professional tips for anal sex prep! *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 47 - A Lesbian Critic, Non-Penetrative Sex and Anal Play

“The love is there, the sex is not.” Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige tackle hypoactive sex drive and sexual anxiety. Plus: Tips for not getting walked all over! Dr Ramani reports close to 100% of couples she’s counseled have at least one partner unsatisfied with their sex life. She outlines the bevy of factors that contribute to this disharmony. Silvia has firsthand experience both withholding sex in a relationship and wanting it when it’s not there. She also has tips from a professional on how to defuse some of the awkwardness of any sexual encounter (even when it’s two experienced sex workers!). Then, a hot topic among listeners has been frustration over being “door matted.” Ramani and Silvia have some common sense advice about how to be heard, be respected, and be “the bouncer to your own velvet rope.” *** A NOTE ABOUT SCHEDULE: Dr Ramani has been hard at work finishing her fourth book, due out later this year. Thank you for your patience as the podcast's schedule fluctuates to accommodate this work. The best way to help us stay on track is to tell your friends to subscribe – the more subscribers , the closer we come to lining up sponsors that will allow us to do this show for a living. Thanks for your enthusiasm and your support! *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 46 - When Sex Fades, How Not To Be A Doormat

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige devote a full episode to the most jaw-dropping e-mail they've received to date. A brave and intelligent listener has taken all the right steps, but is still dealing with the fallout of a psychopathic partner. Her story allows Dr Ramani to explore one of our more popular topics – the difference between narcissism and psychopathy. This listener was widowed in her twenties, when she met the man who would go on to trick her into parenthood, burn down their house, steal their daughter, and get her listed on the FBI terrorism watch list. Silvia and Producer Bill can barely believe the details, while Ramani wrestles with how uncomfortably common this kind of story is. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 45 - Sharing A Child With A Psychopath

Dr Ramani and Silvia kick off 2019 with questions about sexual identity, pursuit of “the one that got away,” and how to set boundaries while “volume dating.” But first: The psychology behind R. Kelly. Dr Ramani counsels a listener with dueling desires for straight sex and gay romance. We break down the 3 Aspects of Sexual Orientation. Silvia discusses her experience – she identifies as straight, but with caveats. How does she deal with that, both personally and publicly? Then, a bisexual listener is overcome with fantasies of seducing “the man who got away” from his youth. But his e-mail brings up the specter of Rumination, an aspect of many mental illnesses. Finally, a listener with open-ended questions about setting boundaries while dating leads the team to ponder hookup culture, "The Bachelor" and online courtship. *** ATTENTION NEW YORKERS: ATTEND A LIVE Q & A SEMINAR WITH DR RAMANI! "Surviving Narcissism" on Sunday, January 27, 11:30am in the East Village. CLICK HERE for details and tickets, or visit www.doctor-ramani.com. *** Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 44 - R. Kelly, Homoromantic Longing, Boundaries in Dating

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige close out 2018 with answers to questions about how to stop BEING a narcissist and what to do when cheating might not be cheating. The team catches up on holiday plans – and dives into a secret December ritual that only members of the entertainment industry enjoy! Then, a listener struggles with the sobering realization that she might be a narcissist. What work lies ahead to make her life better? Is it possible to overcome these negative patterns? Another listener writes in with fears of being doxxed by her cyber-stalker. Ramani and Silvia both share personal stories about encounters with stalkers and bullies. Finally, a man frustrated by accusations that he's cheating leads to a frank conversation about where "emotional infidelity" begins and ends. And it's probably not what you think. Happy New Year to our wonderful listeners! Join us in 2019 for even more strategies to live your healthiest, happiest, sexiest life! -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 43 - Screeners, Cyber-Stalkers and Defining Cheating

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige answer listener questions about empathy vs. sympathy, dealing with a groom's toxic mom, and the questionable power of Tony Robbins. *** ATTEND A LIVE Q & A SEMINAR WITH DR RAMANI: "Narcissism, Toxic People and The Holidays"! Sunday, December 16, in Santa Monica, CA. CLICK HERE for details and tickets, or visit www.doctor-ramani.com. *** Narcissism is all about a lack of empathy, but even Silvia is not sure what that exactly means. Dr Ramani lays it out, alongside the important difference between 'reacting' and 'responding.' Then, the ladies offer strategies for managing a narcissistic mother who's threatening to spoil a wedding! Plus, a deep dive into the power of positive thinking, and why some people should be wary. Finally, an open-ended question leads to a discussion of "sexual competition" among modern women. -- Write the show, ALWAYS ANONYMOUS, with your questions on sex, love, relationships and everything in between: sexualdisorientation@gmail.com Dr Ramani Durvasula (@doctorramani) is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Professor of Psychology, and the nation's leading expert on narcissism. Silvia Saige (@silviasaigexxx, @silviasaigesex) is an adult film actress and standup comedian. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app! Follow Bail Bonds Media on Instagram for behind-the-scenes looks and other great content.

Episode 42 - Empathy, Sympathy, Positive Thinking

Sexual Disorientation is a weekly podcast featuring clinical psychologist and Professor Of Psychology Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Each episode Dr. Ramani welcomes an interesting guest to talk sex, relationships, and every taboo topic in between.

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