What are emotions? Why do we feel anything at all? And more importantly — can we actually get better at feeling?In this episode, Drew and I dive headfirst into what might be the hardest question in all of psychology: what the actual f**k are emotions? We break down the biology, neuroscience, evolution, culture, and even language that shape how we feel — and why we often don’t understand what the hell is going on inside us. From ancient philosophy to brain scans, this is a deep (and occasionally weird) look into the emotional chaos that makes us human.We unpack everything from the origins of emotional intelligence (spoiler: it might be BS) to the science of emotional regulation, attachment styles, and the sneaky ways your culture wires your emotional defaults. Along the way, we explore why some relationships make you feel like a better person while others drain the life out of you, and how trauma, genetics, and childhood with your ability to keep it together.But this episode isn’t just about understanding emotions — it’s about learning how to work with them. And we give you a full emotional toolkit: a set of evidence-based tools to help you manage your emotions, build better relationships, feel more motivated, and yes — even feel more confident in yourself in the process.We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/emotionsReady to stop listening to podcasts and actually start taking action? Join Momentum, a community of like-minded people who are taking small steps every day to make big changes in their lives: https://findmomentum.com/emotionsSign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughChapters:0:00:00 Introduction0:04:47 Chapter 1: What Are Emotions?0:14:04 The Emotional Brain0:22:03 Neurotransmitters0:34:25 Evolution of Emotions0:39:53 How Life Experiences Shape Emotional Regulation0:48:41 Conclusion on What are Emotions0:49:45 Chapter 2: How Culture Influences Our Emotions0:55:44 Vietnam Bike Story1:00:05 Your Culture Trains You to Want Certain Feelings1:06:00 Culture Decides Whether Suppression is a Superpower or a Liability1:07:56 Paradox of Emotional Conformity1:16:36 How Language Shapes What You Feel1:29:23 Emotional Complexity1:36:25 Your Emotions Are Social Currency1:43:00 Conclusion to Culture defines our emotions1:44:08 Chapter 3: Historical and Philosophical Traditions on Emotions1:57:21 Modern Culture1:59:00 Chapter 4: The Four Schools of Emotional Regulation2:00:56 The Heart2:08:55 The Head2:18:37 The Soul2:28:50 The Body2:36:23 The Integrated Toolkit2:48:25 Chapter 5: Brilliant or Bullshit: Emotional Intelligence2:57:31 Chapter 6: Relationships and Emotional Regulation3:09:54 Attachment Theory3:27:29 Toxic Relationship3:36:49 Building Emotional Compatibility3:51:24 Conclusion Relationships3:57:24 Chapter 7: 80/20Follow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson

SOLVED with Mark Manson

How to Manage Your Emotions

In this second episode of Solved, Drew and I go deep into the psychology, history, and science of procrastination. From Plato and Aristotle to Freud and modern research, we break down why we delay the things that matter most—and how to actually stop.This isn't a “just set a timer” productivity talk. We’re diving deep into shame, identity, perfectionism, culture, and why procrastination is ultimately a *skill issue*, not a moral failure. We cover things like:- How humans have thought about putting things off for over 2000 years- The real reason you avoid the most important tasks in your life- Why “I work better under pressure” is (usually) BS- Why self-compassion is actually more motivating than guilt- Tons of practical, research-backed strategies you can start using todayAnd much, much, much more.We also put together a free companion guide with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here : https://solvedpodcast.com/procrastinationReady to stop listening to podcasts and actually start taking action? Join Momentum, a community of like-minded people who are taking small steps every day to make big changes in their lives: https://findmomentum.com/procrastinationSign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters00:00 Introduction01:05 Episode Roadmap08:20 What exactly is procrastination?15:50 Plato's Thoughts on Procrastination24:07 The Buddhist & Confucian Views on Procrastination26:19 ﻿﻿Aristotle's Take on Procrastination33:50 ﻿﻿Christianity and Procrastination46:53 ﻿﻿Self-Compassion and Procrastination58:45 ﻿﻿The Reformation and Procrastination1:04:25 Freud's Influence on Psychology1:06:40 Pleasure Principle and Reality Principle1:08:13 Id, Ego, and Superego1:10:26 Defense Mechanisms1:17:20 ﻿﻿Adopting Habits as Identity1:23:05 The Influence of Childhood and Parenting on Procrastination1:33:42 Behaviorism1:41:21 Environmental Design1:46:10 ﻿﻿Thriving Under Pressure: A Critique1:52:10 ﻿﻿Expectation, Pressure, and Procrastination1:54:06 ﻿﻿Critique of Behaviorism1:59:20 Time Management2:07:33 ﻿﻿Knowledge vs Emotion in Procrastination2:16:43 Mark and Drew's Personal Productivity Systems2:20:37 ﻿﻿Deep Work and Task Management2:23:12 ﻿﻿Productivity System for ADHD2:29:26 ﻿﻿Productive Procrastination2:34:22 ﻿﻿Importance of Task Completion2:36:51 Existentialism and Purpose2:44:21 ﻿﻿Purpose and Motivation2:53:40 Temporal Motivation Theory2:57:39 ﻿﻿Limitations of Temporal Motivation Theory2:59:22 ﻿﻿The Role of Technology in Procrastination3:07:10 ﻿﻿The Dynamic Nature of Temporal Motivation Theory3:10:59 ﻿﻿Critique of Temporal Motivation Theory3:16:41 ﻿﻿Emotional Regulation Theory of Procrastination3:20:27 ﻿﻿Understanding Emotional Regulation3:23:04 ﻿﻿Managing Emotions and Environment3:28:09 ﻿﻿Introduction to the RAIN Method3:31:07 The Six Types of Procrastinators3:40:21 ﻿﻿The 80-20 of Procrastination3:46:21 ﻿﻿Strategic Use of Friction3:56:11 ﻿﻿Gamifying Tasks to Make Them More Interesting3:58:49 ﻿﻿The Impact of Environment on Productivity4:01:07 ﻿﻿The Role of Purpose in Overcoming Procrastination4:06:06 ﻿﻿The Concept of "Minimum Viable Action"4:11:26 ﻿﻿Addressing Underlying Emotions to Overcome Procrastination4:16:06 ﻿﻿Leveraging Human Nature and Rewards4:20:06 ﻿﻿The Social Aspect of Overcoming Procrastination4:21:19 ﻿﻿Productive Procrastination: A Double-Edged Sword4:22:32 ﻿﻿The Hidden Costs of Overcoming Procrastination4:39:12 ﻿﻿Conclusion

How to Stop Procrastinating

Welcome to the first episode of the Solved Podcast. Today, we are solving your values.Over eight years ago, I wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck—a book that, underneath all the swearing and irreverence, was really about one thing: values. What do you care about? What’s actually worth your time, your energy, your life?So in this kickoff episode of SOLVED, Drew and I are going deep into why your values are the foundation of everything—your happiness, your mental health, your relationships, your sense of meaning—and why so many of us today feel so lost.We break down the difference between chasing cheap dopamine hits and building real fulfillment, why not all values are created equal, how to figure out what your true values are, how to change your values, how to start living out your values more fully, and how values silently shape your decisions and relationships every day. If you’ve ever felt stuck, directionless, or like you’re living someone else’s life, this episode is the wake-up call you need. It’s time to stop drifting through life and start giving a fck about the right things. Forget the rest.Welcome to SOLVED.Get the Values companion guide for this episode: https://solvedpodcast.com/valuesReady to stop listening to podcasts and actually start taking action? Join the Momentum, a community of like-minded people who are taking small steps every day to make big changes in their lives: https://findmomentum.comFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters00:00 Welcome to SOLVED07:47 Episode Roadmap09:31 CHAPTER 1: What are Values?10:26 Characteristics of Values14:23 Values vs. Psychological Needs vs. Preferences23:06 Schwartz's Values Wheel30:36 Instrumental and Terminal Values32:15 Hierarchy of Values38:35 Values Conflict42:35 Carol Ryff's Six Dimensions of Psychological Well-being57:01 Aristotle's Golden Mean as Virtue1:05:01 CHAPTER 2: Values and Your Relationships1:22:56 The Clash of Values in Relationships1:30:29 Identifying and Navigating Values in Relationships1:34:40 Understanding Compatibility Through Values1:37:25 CHAPTER 3: Where Do Values Come From?1:38:20 Margaret Mead's Cultural Relativism1:47:55 Mary Douglas's and the Grid-Group Framework1:56:20 Jonathan Haidt's Moral Foundations Theory2:09:26 The Allegory of the Taco Truck2:14:34 CHAPTER 4: Identifying Your Core Values2:16:58 Thought Experiments to Find Your Values2:32:16 The Instrumental Value of Golf2:41:45 The Role of Trauma in Value Change2:48:53 CHAPTER 5: How to Change Your Values2:50:44 Kazimierz Dabrowski and Positive Disintegration3:03:22 On Cults and Cognitive Dissonance3:16:26 Self-Confrontation and Value Change3:18:34 Charlie Munger's Maxim: Incentives and Behavior3:21:56 CHAPTER 6: Lessons and Takeaways3:36:30 The 80/20 of Values3:55:57 Reflecting on the Episode

How to Find and Live by Your Values

New podcast launches May 1st! We'll be releasing on this same feed, so all you have to do is stay subscribed to this channel and you'll get all the new episodes as they come out.***After more than 70 episodes and 30 million downloads, I’ve decided to shut down The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast. Yeah, I know—sounds a little crazy. But the truth is, I wasn’t having fun anymore. The guest treadmill, the pressure to play nice, the temptation to chase clicks instead of meaning—it all started to feel fake. So, I’m pulling the plug.BUT—I’m not going away. I’m launching something new. It’s called Solved—a no-ads, no-guests, deep-dive podcast where each episode tackles one major life topic and breaks it down thoroughly. Think: values, emotions, procrastination—done right, from every angle, with real research and clear implementation. It’s the podcast I wish already existed. So I’m making it. First episode drops May 1 st!Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson

The Last Podcast

I’ve got a special episode for you today. I sat down in person with my longtime friend and first-ever podcast guest, Derek Sivers. We haven’t recorded live before, and honestly, it shows—in the best way. It’s raw, weird, and filled with the kind of conversations we usually when we’re just hanging out together.We dig into Derek’s new book, Useful, Not True, and the big idea behind it: that our beliefs don’t need to be true to be helpful. That spins off into everything from remixing creative influences (metal + Dixieland jazz, anyone?) to why most podcasts—including mine—have gotten painfully predictable. We talk artistic reinvention, Bob Dylan, Bowie, Miles Davis, why most “thought leaders” are just regurgitating each other’s ideas, and why I'm ending the podcast as you know it—and what’s next!We also dive into the deeper stuff: the emotional power of belief, authenticity vs. performative vulnerability, therapy culture, and why sometimes the most liberating thing you can do is reject what everyone else thinks is necessary—relationships, kids, all of it.This was one of the most honest, meandering, and creatively energizing conversations I’ve had in a while. If you’re into big questions, unconventional ideas, and the occasional musical metaphor, this one’s for you.Derek’s new book- Useful, Not True: https://www.amazon.com/Useful-Not-True-Derek-Sivers-ebook/dp/B0D86K4XF5Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson

How to Find the Mindsets that Work For You (ft. Derek Sivers)

In this episode, Drew and I dive into some of the biggest beliefs we’ve shifted over the years—and what it actually looks like to change your mind.We talk about Drew’s evolving views on religion, why I’m way less convinced that people are as changeable as we like to believe, and why I think trauma might be getting a little too much airtime in the self-help world.We also get into the loneliness epidemic, the quiet power of community, and why so much of “personal growth” isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about learning to work with who you already are.Leave a comment below about what you’ve changed your mind about—and enjoy.Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters00:00 Intro: What we've changed our minds about02:59 Religion07:40 Where does belief change start?17:08 Does Mark stand by his books?18:06 Why change is so hard30:27 Trauma doesn't determine destiny37:52 Cautious optimismTheme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.

How to Change Your Mind Without Losing Yourself

Lewis Howes is one of the most successful podcasters of all time—12 years, nearly 1,800 episodes, and countless interviews with world-class performers. But what’s even more interesting is how his definition of success has evolved over the years. In this conversation, Lewis opens up about shifting from a hyper-competitive, “be number one” mentality to a more collaborative, impact-driven approach. We also dive into emotional regulation, the surprising ways our relationship with money affects our lives, and why most people either idolize or demonize wealth. Oh, and Lewis casually mentions he’s training to compete in the Olympics in his 40s. No big deal. This episode is packed with insights on what it really means to live a fulfilling, abundant life—without losing your mind in the process.Get 10% off health services at Marek Health: https://marekhealth.com/idgafLewis's new book, Make Money Easy: https://www.amazon.com/Make-Money-Easy-Financial-Freedom/dp/1401993931Lewis's podcast, The School of Greatness: https://lewishowes.com/sogpodcast/Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme music: Icarus Lives by Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.

Lessons on Money, Success, and Fulfillment You Need to Hear (ft. Lewis Howes)

Resilience isn’t just about gritting your teeth and enduring pain—it’s about managing the stories you tell yourself. In this episode, I break down why most people get resilience wrong and how mastering the “second arrow” is the real key to bouncing back. We dive into post-traumatic growth, why caring about something bigger than yourself makes you stronger, and how focusing on what you can control changes everything.We also talk about AI—how it’s not here to save or destroy humanity, but it is going to change everything. We look at how AI is already transforming creative and knowledge-based jobs, why you should be using it right now, and what you can do to stay ahead. Plus, we tackle the ultimate question: Can people change? That three-word question is lot more complex than it seems. Check it out.Get 30 days of Brain.fm for free at https://brain.fm/idgafGet 20% off PLUS a free rechargeable frother and glass beaker with your first purchase of a Pu’er Tea bundle at https://piquelife.com/idgafSign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughChapters:0:00 Mark feels the AGI—Drew does not3:42 The Fck of the Week: Resilience25:48 Brilliant or Bullsht: AI will doom/save us all46:27 Q&A: Can people change?Follow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.

Mastering Resilience, AI’s Unstoppable Rise, and Can We Truly Change?

You know that voice in your head that loves to tell you that you suck? Yeah, that one. The one that compares you to everyone on Instagram, tells you you’re a failure for eating cereal at 11 p.m., and insists you’ll never get your life together. Well, today, we’re calling in a professional to deal with that assh*le. Dr. Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist and viral mental health educator who’s built a massive following by actually making psychology make sense. In this episode, she breaks down how to quiet that inner critic, stop getting crushed by comparison, and reframe your self-loathing into something a little more useful—like self-respect.We also dig into what it’s like to become internet famous when you’re an introvert, why emotions are not facts (even though they feel like they are), and how to stop letting social media, your parents, and your own bullsh*t beliefs define your worth. Whether you’re stuck in a shame spiral, wondering why life feels pointless, or just trying to figure out how to not hate yourself so much, this episode is for you.Get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/idgafUse code IDGAF to get 10% your health services at https://marekhealth.com/idgafDr. Julie’s new book, Open When: A Companion for Life's Twists & Turns: https://www.amazon.com/Open-When-Companion-Lifes-Twists-ebook/dp/B0D3CB1XX6Dr. Julie’s first book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before-ebook/dp/B0983L6T32Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow Dr. Julie:https://www.youtube.com/@DrJuliehttps://www.instagram.com/drjuliehttps://www.tiktok.com/@drjuliehttps://x.com/drjuliesmithhttps://www.facebook.com/DrJulieSmith/Follow Me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters:0:00 Introduction'01:21 Using social media to improve mental health?04:50 How Dr. Julie stays sane07:01 When Dr. Julie has to take her own advice14:01 How to deal with comparing yourself to others too much24:21 The human capacity for resilience32:56 How to be less lonely36:57 How to know if therapy is working43:19 What about nihilism?52:13 Where do most parents get it wrong?56:46 What about when you hate yourself?Theme Music: Icarus Lives by Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.

How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Life (ft. Dr. Julie Smith)

Fear of failure isn’t really about failure—it’s about what failure means to us. We’re not scared of messing up; we’re scared of being judged, embarrassed, or proving our worst insecurities right. But the people who actually succeed at anything are the ones willing to suck at it long enough to get good. Today, we break down why failure feels so terrifying, how social comparison messes with our heads, and why the loudest critics are usually the ones who’ve never done a damn thing themselves. Tune in for some practical tips on overcoming all of this.We also dig into the science of why boredom can spark better ideas, why our addiction to content might be making us less creative, and whether we should all do a digital detox before our brains turn into overstimulated mush. Finally, we wrap things up with a simple but profound question: If life is just an endless series of trade-offs, what are the best problems to have? Because problems never go away—you just get to level up to better ones.Get one month free at htttps://brain.fm/idgafSign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughThe Creative Benefits of Boredom: https://hbr.org/2014/09/the-creative-benefits-of-boredomFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.

How to Fear Less, Spark More Creativity, and Choose Better Problems in Life

Life in a rock band isn’t all sold-out shows and backstage parties—it’s a high-pressure, all-consuming commitment that tests friendships, sanity, and survival. In this episode, I sit down with Randy Blythe, legendary frontman of Lamb of God, to pull back the curtain on what it really takes to last in the music industry. From the brutal realities of band relationships to the myths of the rockstar lifestyle, Randy shares unfiltered insights on creativity, addiction, and personal transformation.We also dig into his journey to sobriety, the impact of punk rock’s DIY ethos, and the surprising ways today’s generation is redefining rebellion. Whether you’re a musician, a fan, or just someone navigating your own challenges, this conversation is a raw and inspiring look at resilience, reinvention, and the power of staying true to yourself.Randy’s books:Just Beyond the Light: https://www.amazon.com/Just-Beyond-Light-Making-Inside-ebook/dp/B0DJHMN7C1Dark Days: https://www.amazon.com/Dark-Days-D-Randall-Blythe/dp/0306825090Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme music: "Icarus Lives" by Periphery, used with permission from periphery.

The Unexpected Truth About Sex, Drugs, and Rock & Roll (ft. Randy Blythe)

Self-help is supposed to, you know, help. But what if, sometimes, it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we take a hard look at the self-improvement industry that promises transformation but often sells little more than feel-good illusions. From outdated advice that preys on your insecurities to the dopamine hit of "life-changing" content that changes nothing, we break down why self-help often fails the people who need it most.Along with unpacking the biggest traps of self-improvement, Drew and I also tackle whether or not minimalism was just an aesthetic rebellion against our parents’ McMansion dreams. We were both once staunch minimalists and we look back on what we learned and what principles still apply to our lives today. We wrap up with a listener question about the ethics of going to church if you’re an atheist. It’s another grab bag episode full of rabbit holes. Check it out.Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person:https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters00:00 Drew&#39;s legs are too short for his chair00:40 The F*ck of the Week: Self-Help that doesn&#39;t help26:23 Brilliant or Bullshit: Minimalism43:05 Q&A: Is it ok for atheists/agnostics to go to church?Theme song: Icarus Lives byPeriphery, used with permission from Periphery.

Snake Oil or Self-Help?, Minimalism’s Real Value, and Atheists Who Go to Church

Australia, you absolute legends. Back in November, I did a speaking tour across seven cities, talking to thousands of you about life, purpose, relationships, and why giving fewer fucks is the key to actually living a life you don’t hate.We recorded some of the best Q&A moments to share with you here on the podcast. We diving into the big existential stuff—how to stop procrastinating, how to know if a relationship is right for you, and whether Australia’s ban on social media for kids is actually a good thing or not.We’ll also talk about the brutal truth behind imposter syndrome, how to stop caring so much about what other people think, and one thing that actually helps you figure out what the hell you should be doing with your life. Plus, I’ll share some hard-earned wisdom on drinking, quitting, and why people stay in bad relationships way too long. So if you’ve ever felt stuck, lost, or just overwhelmed by the sheer absurdity of life, this one’s for you. Hit play and let’s get into it.Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow mehttps://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters00:00 Mark goes down under02:10 How do you discover what truly matters to you?03:45 How can I stop procrastinating so much?07:26 How do you deal with negative thoughts and feelings after a trauma?09:39 How long should I wait on my "experiments" before I move on?13:18 How do you deal with people who want you to tell you how to live your life?14:36 What are some of the hardest things to give up?16:43 What's your best advice on marriage?19:40 Do you think we'll get back together?22:12 Is society rewarding more and more bad behavior?26:10 What are some tradeoffs that more people should do?28:55 What can your books and content teach children?31:57 How do you overcome imposter syndrome?34:00 How to know if your relationship is good enough for you?35:28 How can I deal with being overly empathetic and letting people walk all over me?38:58 What do you think of the ban on kids using social media in Australia?40:47 What's your advice for teenagers?42:44 How do you overcome analysis paralysis?44:38 How can you stop caring about other people's opinions so much?46:56 How can we be more relevant in the AI future?49:20 Why are so many good people not happy?51:46 How do you go about finding your purpose in life?54:38 What should I do if I'm focused too much on other people's problems instead of my own (codependency)?57:42 How do continue to overcome failure after failure?1:00:32 How can I find motivation to do anything when the world is so f*cked?1:04:15 How can we more fully face death, grief, and loss?Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.

Ask Mark Anything: Live from Australia

Today, I sit down with Arthur Brooks, a renowned social scientist and happiness expert, for a deep dive into the realms of meaning, faith, and love. Our conversation takes unexpected turns as we explore the intersection of spirituality, psychology, and personal growth. From discussing the evolutionary roots of our search for meaning to examining the role of faith in modern life, this episode challenges conventional wisdom and offers fresh perspectives on age-old questions.We cover a wide range of topics, including the importance of boredom in fostering creativity, the dangers of political activism as a substitute for religion, and the keys to a successful marriage. Arthur shares insights from his work with the Dalai Lama, explains why young men are increasingly turning to religion, and offers advice on finding meaning in a world dominated by technology. Whether you&#39;re grappling with questions of faith, seeking to understand the nature of love, or simply looking for ways to live a more fulfilling life, this conversation will leave you with plenty to ponder and explore further.Arthur’s latest book with Oprah Winfrey: Build the Life You Want: https://www.amazon.com/Build-Life-You-Want-Science-ebook/dp/B0C38FCTJCAll of Arthur’s books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Arthur-C.-Brooks/author/B001HOU7REArthur’s online workshop: https://www.scienceofhappier.com/Arthur’s newsletter: https://arthurbrooks.com/newsletterArthur’s column in The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/how-build-life/Follow Arthur:https://www.instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/https://www.facebook.com/ArthurBrooks/https://x.com/arthurbrookshttps://www.tiktok.com/@arthurcbrooksChapters:0:12 Arthur and Mark&#39;s failed music careers6:28 Trading meaning for acclaim11:41 How to live a more meaningful life19:28 Is finding meaning a 1st world problem?22:27 The role of religion and/or spirituality25:43 The meaning struggle for young men and women29:44 Is religion making a comeback?37:48 What&#39;s love got to do with it?45:12 The case for religious/spiritual practice49:58 Healthy forms of spirituality55:22 Dealing with toxic people59:52 Spotting the people who will bring you down1:02:44 Marriage and meaningFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme music: “Icarus Lives” by Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.

How to Build a Life Full of Meaning and Purpose (ft. Arthur Brooks)

Drew comes in hot today as we dig into the nitty gritty of confidence and motivation. We explore the counterintuitive idea that true confidence doesn&#39;t come from expecting success, but from being comfortable with failure. If you&#39;ve ever struggled with self-doubt or felt demotivated despite external achievements, this episode might just change your perspective.We start by dissecting what I call the "Confidence Conundrum" and how it applies to various aspects of life, from business to relationships. Then, we challenge some long-held beliefs about intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, discussing research that questions the idea that external rewards always undermine our natural interests. We wrap up with a thought-provoking exploration of Internal Family Systems theory and how understanding the different "parts" of our psyche can lead to greater self-integration. This is a grab bag episode that we had a lot of fun with, so I hope you enjoy it.Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughChapters:00:00 Drew comes in hot00:53 The F*ck of the Week: Confidence21:55 Brilliant or Bullsh*t: Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation42:44 Q&A: What do you think of "parts work"?Follow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.

Building Real Confidence, The Motivation Puzzle, and Understanding All Your “Parts”

Welcome to SOLVED, the podcast where life’s hardest questions get the full treatment. No fluff, no filler—just brutal honesty and evidence-based insight. Hosted by Mark Manson, three-time #1 New York Times bestselling author, each episode is obsessively researched, thoughtfully delivered, and designed to be the last podcast you’ll ever need on the topic. From values to procrastination to confidence, we cut deep. New episodes drop on the 1st of every month.

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SOLVED with Mark Manson

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