A world leader in love, conflict resolution and interpersonal relationships, relationship expert and coach Jayson Gaddis is also the author of Getting To Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships and the podcast host of The Relationship School. He joins Chelsea 17 minutes in to talk about getting closer through conflict, softening our internal critic by finding its stories interesting rather than horrible, the vulnerability of being the learner and the shame of being a man who is scared, the two shitty choices that people frame conflict as and the choice to pursue instead, how the gap between our strategic self and true self creates a core inner conflict, what it means to be a warrior, and why parenting is one of the most confronting experiences in our lives. To connect with Jayson, visit his:Website: www.jaysongaddis.com https://www.jaysongaddis.com/Book: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Zero-Conflict-High-Stakes-Relationships Podcast: The Relationship School Podcast Coaching: https://relationshipschool.com/myrelationshipcoach The Relationship School: https://relationshipschool.comBlog: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/blogInstagram: www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaysongaddisfanpageTwitter: https://twitter.com/jaygaddisYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/JaysongaddisWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

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216: The Upside of Conflict with Jayson Gaddis

Relationship Dynamics Coach, Educator of Effective Communications Strategies, and Founder of Project Equinox, André Paradis and his wife, dancer, choreographer, and director Nancy Paradis join Chelsea 11:30 minutes in to sound the alarm on toxic masculinity and advocate for ballroom dancing in a world full of disco dancers. Topics explored within this episode: Women being stuck in man mode, the toxic belief that in order to be valuable a woman has to be everything, retaliating against perfectionism and lone wolf syndrome, the ultimate goal for man is freedom, sex too early is a kiss of death, femininity is a superpower, distinguishing boys (weakness) from men (strength), the critic in a woman’s head versus the commentator in a man’s, and why the lemon women have bought about men is making them more miserable than ever before. To connect with André, visit his:Website: ProjectEquinox.netServices:  https://www.projectequinox.net/contactInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/projectequinoxWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

215: Sounding The Alarm On Toxic Masculinity with André Paradis and Nancy Paradis

Unexpectedly diagnosed with a severe case of Guillain-Barré Syndrome, Chris Maxwell joins Chelsea 5:45 minutes in to talk about having his ego stripped away while he was in the hands of everyone else, letting go of control and prioritizing connection by becoming relational about everything, how trauma is 1000 points of separation and recovery is 1000 points of reconnection, finding his way back to his wife and learning to spiral upward together as patient and caretaker, and why having our eyes raised to the horizon is essential for thriving not only together but separately. To connect with Chris, visit his:Website: https://www.maxwellstrat.comHis wife, Molly Weisgram&apos;s Website: https://mollyweisgram.squarespace.comThe memoir based on his and his wife&apos;s story: The Other Side of Us: A Memoir of Trauma, Truth, and Transformation

214: Together But Separate with Chris Maxwell

The author of The Other Side of Us: A Memoir of Trauma, Truth, and Transformation and a believer that life is about recovery, not disease, Molly Weisgram joins Chelsea 6:30 minutes in to discuss her husband&apos;s unexpected and severe case of Guillain-Barré Syndrome, a dangerous journey that forced the couple into roles as patient and caregiver. She talks about real education being new perspective, holding space for traumatic reverberations, finding your own voice, rejecting victim mentality, and looking at every crisis as an invitation to refine your soul. To connect with Molly, visit her:Website: https://mollyweisgram.squarespace.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mollyweisgramFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorMollyWeisgramTwitter: https://twitter.com/MollyWeisgramThe Other Side of Us via Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Other-Side-Us-Memoir-Transformation

213: Never Waste A Crisis with Molly Weisgram

High-Impact Motivational Speaker and author of Blind Ambition Chad E. Foster joins Chelsea 7:30 minutes in to talk about what he did in the aftermath of becoming blind and instantly feeling as though his self-identity was no longer valid. He reveals who he became in the process of relearning how to learn and why holding himself to a standard of discipline, accountability, curiosity, humility, and rarity turned him into a visionary.To connect with Chad, visit his:Website: https://chadefoster.comPurchase his book: Blind Ambition: How to Go from Victim to Visionary Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/FindChadEFosterTwitter: https://twitter.com/ChadEFosterFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/FindChadEFosterWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

212: Expanding The Edges Of Comfort with Chad E. Foster

Empowerment Speaker, Activation Coach, and author of Get Your Life Today Desiree Cocroft joins Chelsea 15:30 minutes in to talk about self-acceptance, confidence, direct communication, and decisiveness in dating. Spoiler alert: If you&apos;ve wondered what adulting in your relationships might really take, this conversation is for you. We discuss shifting away from codependency and into co-creation, why clarifying your intentions in the beginning and communicating your insecurities in the moment is both attractive and a game changer, the desire to be wanted versus needed, how to end the cycle of self-doubt and why, in the midst of rejection, celebrating what went right can increase confidence.To connect with Desiree, visit her:Website: https://www.desireecocroft.comPurchase her book: Get Your Life TodayInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireecocroftFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/getyourlifetodayLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/desireecocroftmbaWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

211: Make A Decision with Desiree Cocroft

Rapper, songwriter, and producer Bafo Joseph aka "Voice of the Underdog" joins Chelsea 22:30 minutes in to talk about the tension of having the girl yet needing the space and time to go all in on oneself. Some may call it selfish or ambitious, enlightened or zoned in with blind faith, but Bafo discusses the hurdle of his long distance relationship and the motivation behind his career in a way that provides clarity surrounding a hot question, "Can one have it all?" He discusses dating to marry, where our love languages come from, his father&apos;s take on partnership, his mother&apos;s life-enhancing instinct to instill confidence, humility, forgiveness and initiative in him, the pain of divorce and watching your sisters be the one to bond with your father, and how the chip on his shoulder is the need for representation, that is, to not look the other way while his home country of South Sudan is neglected by the world. To connect with Bafo, visit his:Website: https://bafojoseph.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/bafojosephTwitter: https://twitter.com/bafojosephTune in on Spotify, Apple Music, YouTubeWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

210: All In On Him with Bafo Joseph

Actor Patrick J. Clarke joins 16:30 minutes in to reflect on deleting social media to feel free and returning to it when posting seems like the only way to reach a romantic interest, the false attention, narratives, and expectations that arise from the song and dance of being engaged with online but neglected in person, how to date with an open heart during not only a pandemic but an epidemic of ghosting, and navigating the tiers of vulnerability—when we share, who with, how soon, and is there really such a thing as sharing too much of ourselves, when being embraced for who we really are is the whole point of love?To connect with Patrick, visit his:Insta: http://www.instagram.com/patrickjclarkeWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopSite: www.breakupward.comInsta: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.comKey Moments:INTRO — (1:20) “The three words that came to me right before I pushed record were: Keep. Me. Honest ... What has kept me away from this mic, away from sharing, away from putting this episode out there? Someone that prides herself on just exposing it all. Have I been hiding? I think I have been.” (12:10) “It’s vulnerable to let it matter and it’s embarrassing to get it wrong ... It’s upsetting when we see ourselves in an unflattering light too but ... We say things because we need to release them. We bring something up because we want to explore. We want to exhale."CONVERSATION  —(22:56) “I ended up going home to quarantine for five months and I was the happiest I ever was. I was finding joy every single day. I was excited to wake up in the mornings and I felt okay without theater, without constantly pushing myself to be vulnerable.”(27:40) “I went through two months of deleting all of my social media. I felt so good. I felt so free ... And, recently, after going on a few dates with someone and now being ghosted, ... I’m back on social media because he’s active on Instagram and I’m constantly scrolling, clicking on my story to see who’s watching it, to make sure that he’s viewed what I’m posting. It’s the only way to get his attention right now.”(36:57) “My life has not been full of compliments. I’ve been beaten down and bullied and I’ve been called the worst things. So, I feel like I’m used to that and a compliment is just very different and uncomfortable to me.”(52:10) “When I’m with someone in bed, I feel like I feel more connected when I am pleasing a partner and I don’t necessarily have sex just for myself. It’s to share that intimacy and be vulnerable with another soul.”(1:17:23) “Do I need to come up with a tier of what I can share?"(1:30:21) “It’s been a week since I texted him — still no response — and it’s like do I want to reach out again in a better way and try and figure out what he’s dealing with and what he’s thinking or do I just stop texting and delete his number?”TO BREAKUPWARD —(1:40:00) “The first thing I pictured when you said &apos;Breakupward&apos; was breaking through that glass ceiling in Willy Wonka. Moving upward and onward from a breakup or from a relationship. Finding the positives in things. And I’m a very optimistic person so I’m always trying to find the joy and find the positive in a messy situation. I think breakingupward is sprouting a new life, taking something from th

209: Getting Out Of My Head with Patrick J. Clarke

Author of "Relationship. Are you sure you want one?” and leading Facilitator with Access Consciousness, a set of life-changing techniques and tools currently facilitated in more than 175 countries, Simone Milasas joins Chelsea 7:30 minutes in to talk about how you&apos;re not wrong if you&apos;re single and not right if you&apos;re in a relationship, why living in question is a power move (you get to choose!), the 5 elements of intimacy that you must have within yourself before you can develop true intimacy with a partner, how paying her boyfriend for sex was empowering AF, why we would invent a problem within a relationship, what you could choose if you had no judgment, how to treat everything like foreplay, and why we’ve got to choose courage over pride every damn day.To connect with Simone, visit her:Website: https://www.simonemilasas.comThe Choice, Change, and Action PodcastAccess Consciousness: Access Bars Book: Relationship, Are you sure you want one? Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonemilasasWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

208: What If We Didn't Hold Back with Simone Milasas

Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder and creator of WeConcile—an affordable online DIY relationship restoration program for couples—Jennifer Lehr, MFT joins Chelsea to talk about love as a creative endeavor, learning to trust the universe while dealing with a major complication, how every fear has a need attached to it, why not feeling safely, and emotionally connected threatens a relationship more than anything, and why finding the one has nothing to do with numbers and everything to do with grace, magic, and synchronicity. To connect with Jennifer, visit her:WeConcile: https://weconcile.comWebsite: https://www.jenniferlehrmft.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenniferlehrMFTInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/weconcileWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

207: Changing How We Pursue with Jennifer Lehr

Author of Fear Is Not An Option and Rethink Love: 3 Steps to being the one, attracting the one, and become one, Monica Berg is a self-proclaimed “change junkie.” She talks about why meeting her husband felt more like a thud than a bang, how her father’s nonverbal support and ability to just walk by her side during her eating disorder were some of the most beautiful days, the true definition of authenticity, why we all need to help each other offer our unique strength to this world, and how raising a son with special needs helped her let go of judgment, expectation, and approval and showed her what real love is.To connect with Monica, visit her:Website: RethinkLife.TodayAmazon: Fear Is Not An Option & Rethink LoveInstagram: www.instagram.com/monicaberg74Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/monicaberg74Twitter: https://twitter.com/monicaberg74Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

206: Finding The Gifts Right And Left with Monica Berg

Known as the clown, the monkey, the deviant with the Famous Anus and the person at the party who says the uncomfortable truth, comedian and host of the Unmentionable podcast, Jordan Power brings to the mic a rarer side of himself in this episode—one that’s deeper, darker, and a little off brand. It’s the side of himself that he’s always wanted to be loved for—his brain and cerebral take on the world. In episode 205, Jordan opens up about how comedy became a defense mechanism that he’s cleaved to in the darkest moments of his life, a tool that both saves him and makes him a slave to the chuckles. He talks about where his deepest insecurity—being unlovable—and his heaviest fear—that no one will stay—originated, how he lost 20 years of his life as a result of not being able to be open, candid, and shamelessly gay, why he&apos;ll no longer be divulging his sex life on his new podcast, and how confronting his own mortality on a regular basis keeps him zoned in and balls out.This conversation is everything that Thank You Heartbreak hopes to embody—depth, darkness, bursts of laughter, wide-eyed commentary and shameless self-critique. To connect with Jordan, visit his:Podcast: UnmentionableUnmentionable Podcast on YouTubeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jpowercomedyTwitter: https://twitter.com/jpowercomedyFamous Anus via AmazonWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

205: Humanizing The Comedian with Jordan Power

204: Dating with Dignity with Marni Batista

Renowned author, speaker, facilitator of consciousness and change, and the co-creator of Access Consciousness, Dr. Dain Heer joins Chelsea for a deep conversation. That seems like a given and, yet, in hearing this episode back it hit me that the depth in this conversation really is multi-dimensional. Not only will hear how being the only white kid in the neighborhood taught him about judgment, but you'll hear about the dynamic abuse he suffered at the hands of women—an experience that awoke the seeker in him. We spoke about how putting suicide on the agenda pushed him out toward life, the question you can ask yourself to see whether you're telling yourself a lie or hearing your truth, how we have a hand in building the wall of judgment that separates us in relationships, why freedom means knowing you have choice, and how the belief that we're only good and successful in relationship, if we make it last forever  is harming our growth. Plus, so much more. To connect with Dr. Dain, visit his:Website: https://drdainheer.comAccess ConsciousnessYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channelFacebook: www.facebook.com/DrDainHeerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dainheerWork with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

203: Telling The Universe He's Done with Dr. Dain Heer

At the time of her accident, Linda Olson, author of Gone: A Memoir of Love, Body, and Taking Back My Life, had it all. She and her husband were both young doctors traveling through Germany when a train hit their van in an accident that shattered their lives—and Linda&apos;s body—forever. Now, as a triple amputee, Linda opens up about the pact her and her husband made when they were first reunited in the hospital and why the family secret they kept for 35-years was an important part of why their lives turned out so well. She talks about dropping the blame game and never looking back at "what-if," using humor to make others comfortable with her disability, why initiating contact with a single word—hello—kept her from being left behind in her new life and how a recent Parkison&apos;s diagnosis is daring her, once again, to overcome limitations through a mindset of innovation.To connect with Linda, visit her:Website: www.lindakolson.comAmazon: Gone: A Memoir of Love, Body, and Taking Back My Life—Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

202: If She Can Do It, I Can Do It with Linda Olson

When it comes to heartbreak, most people fear it, citing it as one of the most crushing experiences of a lifetime. Not Chelsea. On this podcast, Breakup Coach Chelsea Leigh Trescott explores the upside of heartbreak, shedding light on how loss is our greatest opportunity to become meaningful, relatable human beings who are stronger in love, life, and character.

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