What if avoiding conflict was the thing killing your relationship and sex life? Are you being fake with your partner because you’re afraid to tell the truth? And is it possible to end a relationship with peace of mind? Relationship School founder Jayson Gaddis returns to discuss his new book Getting to Zero. Today he and I explore how conflict — especially avoiding conflict — is killing the relationships, trust, and sexual experiences we’re trying to protect. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/10/jayson-gaddis-getting-to-zero You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

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Why Avoiding Conflict is Creating Conflict – Jayson Gaddis (Getting to Zero, The Relationship School)

Richard Schwartz introduced IFS or Internal Family Systems many years ago. Since then, the process has been used to heal, strengthen, and align the minds of many people — including myself. I use IFS daily in meditation as well as in my coaching practice to help clients confront their fears and get out of their own way. When it comes to being productive, I’ve found that IFS works much, much better than forcing our way through resistance. And it’s amazingly effective at helping us cut through the noise so we can connect to what some may call our essential or spiritual Self. Schwartz has a new book called, “No Bad Parts” and today we’re going to explore the inner critic, our addiction to achievement, and getting out of our own way. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/09/richard-schwartz-no-bad-parts You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

From Inner Critic to Inner Peace – Richard Schwartz (IFS, No Bad Parts)

When you tell her she’s being ‘hormonal’ why does it typically erupt in flames? Why do heated conversations have a tendency to spiral into infernos? And is it more important to win the fight or find a solution? It’s not always sunny in the Lanier household, and on this particular day, I stepped on a landmine. After the fire was brought under control, Alyson thought it might be helpful to turn on the mics and explore what caused the fire - as well as what we did to put it out. But to be honest, like a moron, I ended up pouring gas on it again during this conversation. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/09/fighting-with-your-wife You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

You’re Being Hormonal – When Heated Talks Turn into Fights — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

Adrian Grenier (Vincent Chase from HBO’s Entourage). While Chase’s life was a fantasy, Adrian’s life behind the scenes had its share of ups and downs. Today we dive into his insatiable need to prove himself, the event that kicked his ass, and the way that he’s redefined himself since. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/08/adrian-grenier-investing You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Adrian Grenier: Success, Failure, and Rebirth

What does it mean to be a warrior in your life? Do your insecurities distract you or keep you stuck in stupid pissing matches? And is it possible to train ourselves so that we can be calm in hell? If you’re even remotely familiar with the world of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu then you know that Rickson Gracie is nothing short of a legend. But beyond the mats, Rickson’s wisdom runs deep, and he has so much to offer for those who don’t consider themselves to be fighters. He has a new book called Breathe: A Life in Flow. It’s a fantastic read not only because his life story is so interesting but also because it provides insights into what it means to be a spiritual warrior in our modern times. Rickson was never beaten as a professional fighter, but he has experienced great loss. In a time when so many guys are puffing themselves up or numbing themselves to escape their inner struggles, Rickson very openly talks about the beating he took and the darkness he experienced after his son died. Most importantly he discusses how he was reborn and even thankful for the loss. I loved talking with Rickson, and felt we could have gone on for hours. It’s always great to connect with those rare, few men who have great strength and a huge heart as well. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. In this interview: What does it mean to be a spiritual warrior? What’s the key to being a great teacher? How does your insecurity create more problems? Do you hide your emotions from yourself and others? The dangers of putting ourselves or others on a pedestal Plus: Being deeply impacted by grief Can we train ourselves to deal with emotional loss and grief? “Nothing can be completely wrong or bad.” How can a heavy loss become a gift? Using your intuition to find your way through the dark times https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/08/rickson-gracie-breathe-interview You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Rickson Gracie – How to Win Without a Fight

If you speak the truth could you lose your career? Is there more to life than striving for something we don’t already have? Dr. Zubin Damania aka ZDogg MD aka Doc Vader on breaking the mold, playfulness, and waking up. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/08/zdoggmd-zubin-damania-interview You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

This Doc Wants to Wake Your Ass Up – ZDoggMD Zubin Damania

Ever feel like it’s you against the world? Does imposter syndrome give you the sense that at any moment it’s all gonna come crashing down? And how does this pressure to perform put us in a version of hell? Today we talk about pressure, perfectionism, and why we need to tune into our bigger selves to pull us out of hell. In this video: Dealing with pressure, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome Always needing to “get it right” How protecting, pleasing, proving makes us weaker Getting out of our fearful, prey mindset Accessing our deeper, higher selves https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/07/imposter-syndrome You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Imposter Syndrome – Is it You Against the World?

Are you focused on what’s important or just trying to put out fires? Do you ever get overwhelmed by all of the ideas in books and podcasts? And what does it mean to be ruthless? Optimize force of nature and CEO Brian Johnson and I catch up after his new venture, Heroic made history by becoming the first company to raise $5 million through crowdfunding. Today, we discuss dealing with pressure, distractions, and developing anti-fragile confidence. FWIW, this conversation took place after I had to reschedule because the 5G vaccine nano-bots hijacked my brain. Let’s dive in. In this interview: When the finish line is really a starting line Dealing with pressure The importance of a big “why” Finding the sweet spot for your big goal How do you train a hero? Plus: What’s the game you’re playing? How to deal with doubt Developing anti-fragile confidence Dealing with discomfort Does discomfort mean you’re on the wrong path? And: Self-betrayal and grinding vs self-alignment and grit What if the thing that scares you is the thing that will energize you? What’s the question that gets us out of a victim mindset? How do you figure out what to delegate? What does it mean to be ruthless? As well as: Are you reactive or focused? Are you fierce with your focus? Doing what’s right even when you don’t feel like it What’s the fastest way to make a big change? Getting stuck between optimizing and maximizing https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/07/brian-johnson-antifragile-confidence You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

How to Develop Anti-Fragile Confidence (Part 3) – Brian Johnson

Are you trying to achieve the impossible or just get through the week? What are the necessary keys for turning your work into play? And is grinding yourself to a pulp really the best way to accomplish a big goal? Best selling author and Flow Research Collective guru, Steven Kotler returns to discuss his new book, The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer. Today we explore the basics of peak performance, burn out, and goals. Whether you’re trying to change the world or just get through a lousy week — these are the keys to leveling up without burning out. In this interview: How to level up without burning out What is peak performance? What are the two types of impossible? Why is a good mood so important? Is grinding the best way to accomplish a big goal? Plus: How much meditation and exercise is needed to regulate your nervous system? How can you ensure that you don’t burnout? What are the 4 elements driving peak performance? What are the keys to setting goals? How do you know when your day is done? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/06/steven-kotler-art-of-impossible You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

How to Level Up Without Burning Out – Steven Kotler (The Art of Impossible)

Are you fixated on who you should be or who you truly are? Are you exhausted from trying to control so many things that seem out of your control? And what if your goals are really just lies rooted in fears and wounds? Kute Blackson returns to discuss his latest book, The Magic of Surrender. Today we dive into the crazy belief that it’s us against the universe, and we’ll learn why the key to putting on our big boy pants is embracing the unknown. In this interview: What is surrender? Feeling exhausted from trying to control life Hustling and forcing what we want What’s trying to happen without your control? What’s in the middle between controlling everything and doing nothing? Plus: How is surrender like surfing? What is life trying to create through you? What keeps us stuck in our own prison? How is your pain or frustration information? What has us seek drama or toxic BS? And: Do you have a sickening feeling that you’re living a lie? How is life our classroom? Have you outgrown your current level in life? Can a crisis be a blessing? How important is grieving to our growth? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/06/kute-blackson-surrender You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

What if Surrender is the Opposite of Defeat? – Kute Blackson (The Magic of Surrender)

Does your partner give you a hard time because you want more sex? Do you blame your work or family for getting in the way of what has you feel alive? And what do power and pleasure have to do with us becoming grumpy old men? Shana James has coached many guys over the years through the intersection between owning our power and having the experiences we most want. She’s got a new book called Power and Pleasure: A Man’s Guide to Becoming a More Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader. Today we talk about how to shift our mindset from frustration into greater aliveness and fun. In this interview: What is pleasure? Is power about dominance? Being responsible vs having fun “What do I actually enjoy?” Why all of us have a bit of “nice guy syndrome” Seeing frustration as information Plus: Feeling guilty about wanting more pleasure What’s your role in your level of unhappiness? Waiting for someone to tell you what to do Are you a bad husband or father if you want time for yourself? Are you afraid to bring what you want to your partner for fear it’ll cause a problem? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/05/shana-james-power-pleasure You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

How to Stop Bitching and Create What You Want – Shana James, MA

If you were wearing blinders, how would you know? What if your perspective on the world — instead of the world itself — was the thing truly holding you back? And why do some psychedelics have such a profound, lasting impact when combined with certain types of therapy? Dr. Will Van Derveer returns to discuss the pros and cons of psychedelic-assisted therapy as well as the possibilities for those of us who want to challenge our limitations. In this interview: Michael Pollan’s How to Change Your Mind The pros vs the “Backyard Shamans” Who’s a candidate for psychedelic assisted therapy? Understanding the ‘default mode network’ The problem with meditation and ayahuasca retreats Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Dick Schwartz Plus: What’s it like to take ketamine? What are the legalities of psychedelics? What is ketamine and how does it impact the mind? Neuroplasticity and changing the brain What makes these changes stick? Antidepressants vs dealing with the root cause https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/05/psychedelic-assisted-therapy You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://thenewmanpodcast.com Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. http://dangerousbookstore.com

Psychedelics and Getting Out of Your Own Way — Will Van Derveer, MD

Is it dangerous to believe in god or something bigger than yourself? What do Mars colonization, cults, and the pursuit of heavenly salvation have in common? And why are so many of us feeling spiritually lost? Jamie Wheal is the co-author of Stealing Fire and the executive director of the Flow Genome Project. He’s returned to discuss his latest book, Recapture the Rapture. Today we talk about the world’s crisis of meaning, why groups sometimes make us dumber, and trying to fill the god-shaped hole in our hearts. In this interview: Rabbi Zalman Shachter, LSD, and being a Jew Trying to ignore our faith When Buddha, Lao Tzu, and other traditions don’t fit Why so many of us long for god Being “cosmic-orphans” Plus: Why we’re in a “meaning crisis” Our longing to escape the grind of life The power of the death-rebirth experience Communities that mean good but go bad Why cults are a feature of being human Do we get dumber as members of a group? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/04/jamie-wheal-recapture-the-rapture You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. https://dangerousbookstore.com

Is Believing in God Dangerous? — Jamie Wheal, Recapture the Rapture

Tired of feeling uninspired or “meh?” Tired of hearing yourself bitch and complain? And why do we choose to “cover our ass, kiss ass, or prove we’re not an ass?” In this short video, we explore a simple process to use our mood to our advantage. In this episode: Why do moods matter? What causes our moods? Why are we giving up our power? The 3 step process to shift a lousy mood into empowering action Why do we choose to “cover our ass, kiss ass, or prove we’re not an ass?” https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/04/use-mood-to-your-advantage You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. https://dangerousbookstore.com

Go From Poopy-Pants to Power — Tripp Lanier

What if your normal level of stress, anxiety, or depression didn’t have to be normal? Do you feel like you’re using work, alcohol, or something else to outrun the uncomfortable thoughts in your head? And how can we use our stress and darkness to help us live a more full, rewarding life? Before Keith Kurlander became a founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Center, he struggled with serious mental health issues. He ran away from the promise of a highly lucrative life on Wall Street to find relief on a path which took many, many turns. He worked with everyone from yoga teachers to therapists to meds to shamans to psychedelics to you name it. He tried it. But none of those approaches alone worked for him. These days he’s dialed in his brain, his body, and his behaviors and his life is back on track. So what worked? What had him go from struggling to get off the couch to being a husband and father leading two companies today? Today we explore his story and the reality that all of us deal with some form of mental illness on some level. Here’s to all of us realizing that maybe, just maybe we don’t have to hide, outrun, or settle if we don’t want to. In this interview: What if everyone has a bit of mental illness? Trying to outrun our inner critic, dark thoughts, emotions Moving from mental illness to peak performance The stigma of struggling with anxiety and depression Do we have to blow up our lives in order to make a change? Plus: Running away from Wall Street and a lucrative career Keith’s experiences with mental illness and bipolar disorder Seeking relief through spiritual growth How ayahuasca effected Keith’s brain Keith’s experience with meds And: What approaches help us heal mental illness What is integrative psychiatry and why is it so powerful? Why you need to be the authority of your path Integrating psychedelics, ketamine, and functional medicine with traditional therapies And then: Betraying ourselves and pushing down that inner voice Wound worshipping and getting stuck in “healing” Mental disorders are chosen because we get something from them What is spiritual bypassing? What to ask yourself if you’re tired of feeling stuck https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2021/04/mental-illness-peak-performance You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ Most men will let fear get the best of them. This book is not for most men. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way. This Book Will Make You Dangerous is now available at DangerousBookstore.com. https://dangerousbookstore.com

Aren’t We All a Little Crazy? Mental Illness to Peak Performance — Keith Kurlander

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