Episode 8 | Self-Betrayals and Shame Bombs In Episode 8, we talk about: •How we are all human beings that make mistakes · What the "absence of self-betrayal" looks like · How we betray ourselves often · How to invite in the internal voice of the loving parent · Learning a healthier belief about ourselves. The idea that people are always “good,” but actions and choices may not serve us. · Women and emotional bondage...and powerful words from Marianne Williamson about these concepts · Why over-analyzing challenging times is typically not the path to resolution. · Being "impeccable with your word" both internally and externally. · "Micro betrayals" and how to spot them · Why Kim has trouble answering other people’s phones. · A revisiting of the distinction between “choices” and “decisions” · Why people tend to name call when individuals' actions fall outside our perceived idea of what is "normal." · “Shame bombs” and how we pick ourselves up from the "shame shrapnel" · Kim's realization that “When you are in relationship with somebody, you are in relationship with how well they are able to deal with their own pain.” · Asking, "Am I going to betray myself here?" The oath of self-love. · How what we are doing relates to who we are being. Other Notes: Podcast: Stan Tatkin “Your soul purpose” radio Book: A Women’s worth Marianne Williamson Facebook page: The Resourced Adult Instagram: @theresourcedadult Dr. Dani’s Website: www.terrainwellness.com Kim’s Instagram: @holisticpediatrics

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The Resourced Adult Episode 8 | Self-Betrayals and Shame Bombs

Episode 7| Start with Comfy Pants: Our Strategies for Dealing with a Funk In Episode 7, we talk about: • What is means to be in a funk, and how allow yourself to be human • The many benefits of comfy pants • “Staying in your generation,” metaphorically blowing up antiquated beliefs, and the importance of mentors and role models • Our definition of “joy starvation,” and why Dani thinks Kim will love that word play • Finding and using your "funk soundtrack" • What it looks like when you are NOT resourced and in a dunk • The joy that is "Coconut Bliss" ice cream • Christina Perri singing our new anthem for funks, "Human" Other Notes: Song credit: Christina Perri, “Human” Facebook page: The Resourced Adult Instagram: @theresourcedadult Dr. Dani’s Website: www.terrainwellness.com Kim’s Instagram: @holisticpediatrics

Episode 7| Start with Comfy Pants-Our Strategies for Dealing with Funk

Episode 6| Beware of the Easy Button In this episode we talk about: • Socially acceptable emotions and holding it all together • We define the word “Hibatical” • The power of pain and telling the truth • Giving up our fantasy of what we thought was going to happen and what actually happened • Martha Beck’s point of view on suffering • “We are the curators of what we consume” • Trauma and emotion and the “moro reflex” aka the startle reflex • Kim explains why it’s important to offer neutrality when you can’t at least offer kindness. • The power of identifying who is safe to be our full authentic selves with, and who is safe to bare witness to our lives. Books we discussed: Love Warrior: Glennon Doyle Melton Other notes: Zen Parenting radio Quotes by Tony Robbins Facebook page: The Resourced Adult Instagram: @theresourcedadult Dr. Dani’s Website: www.terrainwellness.com Kim’s Instagram: @holisticpediatrics

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•The idea that no person can “make you” feel anything •Why pausing is so important when you are trying to decipher the root of emotions •Why feeling are always valid •The definition of a list “checkeroffer” and why this is a difficult habit to kick •How to advocate for our own emotions while still creating deep connection •Why Kimmy avoids roller coasters and why Dani is a data and production addict •The Definition of perfectionism according to Brene Brown aka the queen of truth bombers •Attack of the data •Why Dani wants to bring back the “gold star” system •Coming full circle on emotional processing allows for laughter Facebook page: The Resourced Adult Instagram: @theresourcedadult Dr. Dani’s Website: www.terrainwellness.com Kim’s Instagram: @holisticpediatrics Photo credit: https://juliabeinggrownup.wordpress.com/2015/06/10/the-listmaker-5-reasons-why-lists-are-great/ Books we discussed: Rising Strong by Brene Brown Getting the Love you Want by Harville Hendrix and Helen LeKelly Hunt Other notes: Zen Parenting radio School of Greatness: Lewis Howes Rob Cast: Rob Bell

Episode 5| You Can't Make Me

Episode 4 | From Rigidity to Flexibility •Revisiting aspects of our lives that we thought were fixed, but are actually adjustable •The trouble with adjusting straps •How new situations cause re-wiring in the brain •Why Kim is now known as the “truth fairy” •Making decisions versus choices •Unearthing your 100% as a starting point for a win-win •Worthiness and the vulnerability hangovers Books we discussed: Rising Strong by Brene Brown Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Other notes: Zen Parenting radio Photo credit: https://www.theragear.com/exercise/yoga_learn_how_to_use_the_yoga_strap.php Facebook page: The Resourced Adult Instagram: @theresourcedadult Dr. Dani’s Website: www.terrainwellness.com Kim’s Instagram: @holisticpediatrics

Episode 4 | From Rigidity to Flexibility

In this episode we talk about: • Re-claiming the word basic • The empowerment that is NSync’ • Why weekend at Bernie’s should never have had a sequel • How growing old really is just a state of mind • How Charles Darwin may have actually been on to something • Survival versus adaptation Facebook page: The Resourced Adult Instagram: @theresourcedadult Dr. Dani’s Website: www.terrainwellness.com Kim’s Instagram: @holisticpediatrics

Episode 3| Vintage Basic

Episode 2- Family Matters In this episode we talk about: • Defining tribal rules/generational narrative • The healing powers of 90’s hip hop and Alanis Morrisette • Surviving difficult family interactions • Why messing with geese is never a good idea • The neurological response when we get “triggered” • Laughing more and doing less Facebook page: The Resourced Adult Instagram: @theresourcedadult Dr. Dani’s Website: www.terrainwellness.com Kim’s Instagram: @holisticpediatrics Photo credit: http://www.wallpaperfo.com/People/Baby/nature_birds_geese_baby_birds_1920x1080_wallpaper_53691

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"The Resourced Adult" is a podcast hosted by two close friends with two different clinical backgrounds, looking to answer one question: "How do I adult?" In this episode we talk about what is a resourced adult, explain why Kim and Dani cannot buy moisturizing shampoo, and explain how to build a "Lighthouse List." For more info on Dr. Dani visit her clinic website www.terrainwellness.com Follow Kim on instagram @holisticpediatrics Follow The Resourced Adult page on Facebook and on instagram @theresourcedadult

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"The Resourced Adult" is a podcast hosted by two close friends with two different clinical backgrounds, looking to answer one question: "How do I adult?"

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