Running late causes stress for almost every parent. And when we are running late, our kids’ behavior seems to get worse -- causing even more stress. In this episode, you’ll learn why children’s behavior really does deteriorate when we’re behind schedule. You’ll also learn what you can do to motivate them to move more quickly so you can get where you need to go… with less stress.  Follow Rachel in Instagram: https://instagram.com/rachelbaileyparenting Join Rachel’s Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/ Sign up for Rachel’s free weekly tips by email: https://rachel-bailey.com/weekly-tips/ Check out Rachel Bailey's Parenting Academy:  https://rachel-bailey.com/parenting-academy/

Your Parenting Long Game

Episode 103: Reducing the Stress of Running Late

When our children worry or are hesitant about new things or new people, it’s tempting to try to reassure them that everything will be OK. But that strategy is often ineffective and can even make children feel worse. In this episode, you’ll learn two strategies to help your child feel more confident in their own ability to handle situations that they might normally want to avoid. Follow Rachel in Instagram: https://instagram.com/rachelbaileyparenting Join Rachel’s Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/ Sign up for Rachel’s free weekly tips by email: https://rachel-bailey.com/weekly-tips/ Check out Rachel Bailey's Parenting Academy:  https://rachel-bailey.com/parenting-academy/

Episode 102: Proactive Strategies to Address Children’s Anxiety and Build Their Confidence

So many of us think (or say), "I would be more patient if my child would just do what I ask the first time I ask..." or "I wouldn't raise my voice if my kids didn't fight..." Often without realizing it, as parents we are letting our children's behavior control our behavior. In this week's podcast, you’ll learn tips to stay in control of yourself, even when you are unhappy with your child's behavior, mood, or attitude.

Episode 101: Tips to Keep Your Cool, No Matter What Your Children Are Doing

While I’ve shared a lot of parenting strategies on this podcast, in this 100th episode I’m going to share some tools that I use to maintain my own parenting long game… even though much of what I teach doesn’t come naturally to me. I will tell you how I maintain my cool (most of the time), despite the fact that I am very sensitive to my kids, both of whom have pretty big emotions! In this episode, I also request that if you haven’t done so yet, please subscribe and rate the podcast so that I can reach more people with the (hopefully valuable) parenting tips that I share.

Episode 100: My Parenting Long Game (as a Parent With Big Feelings Raising Kids With Big Feelings)

When you face negative situations, you probably try your best to turn things around. But sometimes no matter what you try, things remain negative, issues pile up... and you may start to feel stuck in Yuck. In this episode, you’ll learn why we often get stuck in negative cycles and how you can break free -- even if others aren’t helping or you’re tackling multiple situations at once.

Episode 99: A Strategy to Help You Get Unstuck from Yuck

When you’re raising a child with someone else, you’re likely to disagree on how to handle situations. Sometimes when you have to make a decision about how to respond to your child, most of the energy is spent with each of you trying to convince the other why you are right and they are wrong. In this episode, you’ll learn what makes it so hard to compromise in these conversations… and what you can do to get on the same page when it comes to doing what’s best for your child.

Episode 98: When You And Your Co-Parent Don’t Agree On How to Handle an Issue

Some of the most commonly used discipline strategies are behavior charts, rewards, and punishments… But what happens when you try them and they’re not effective in motivating better behavior? In this episode, you’ll learn why some children don’t respond to charts or point systems and what you can do instead to ensure that children act responsible, even when they don’t feel like it.

Episode 97: When Behavior Charts, Rewards, and Punishments Aren’t Effective

When we speak to people, we want them to listen and to engage with us. But often we ask our children questions, or make suggestions, and we are met with disrespect or even resistance. In this episode, you’ll learn what you may be doing that is contributing to that resistance and how you can turn conversations (and even your relationship) around.

Episode 96: A Communication Tip To Reduce Resistance from Your Child (and Anyone Else)

It makes our lives easier when children don’t insist that things need to go their way….when they can go with the flow. But often children who don’t insist on things going a certain way ALSO don’t ask for what they do need. And they may not stand up for themselves to others -- siblings, friends, peers, or even adults -- when necessary. In this episode, you’ll learn why children may not stand up for themselves (even when you’ve told them how important it is and taught them what to say!) and how you can teach them to become more assertive so they know (and show) that they matter too.

Episode 95: Teaching Children to Stand Up for Themselves and Ask for What They Need

We know that part of being a parent is paying attention to and spending time with our children. But in some cases, no matter how much attention we give them, they always want more! In this episode, you’ll learn why some children seem to have a never-ending need for attention. You’ll also learn why you don’t have to be their full-time entertainer and what you can do instead when children demand more than you have to give. 

Episode 93: When the Amount of Attention You Give Your Child Is Never Enough

Many parents believe in respectful parenting strategies, but they worry -- or their friends or family members warn them -- that these strategies will handicap children in the future. After all, not everyone will treat them with respect, and they need to be prepared for a harsh world out there! In this episode, you’ll learn why respectful parenting strategies foster more resilience, not less.  You’ll also learn the action you can take to set your children up for success, in even the most challenging environments... while still treating them with respect. 

Episode 93: Why Respectful Parenting Builds MORE Resilience, Not Less

We all have to provide instruction to our children -- setting limits, letting them know when they’ve done something wrong, suggesting ways to do things differently in the future. But some children get very upset about this type of feedback; they may become defensive or angry, become overly apologetic, or say mean things about themselves. In this episode, you’ll learn why some children have such a difficult time with these messages (no matter how nicely we say them), how to respond to their reactions, and how you can foster resilience so they can handle the fact that they will hear a lot of “criticism” in their lifetime.

Episode 92: When Your Child is Sensitive to Feedback or Discipline

In the past, you may have tried to implement strategies that resonate with you… a strategy to motivate your daughter to clean her room or to teach your son to be more respectful… but when you try that strategy, it doesn’t work. Especially if you’ve made multiple attempts, you may start to feel defeated and hopeless. In this episode, you’ll learn what to do when strategies you’ve tried don’t have the impact you wanted them to -- especially when you don’t have a lot of energy, but you don’t want to stop trying.

Episode 91: What to Do When the Strategies You Try Aren’t Working

Knowing that you are in charge in your home -- and just as importantly, your KIDS knowing that you are in charge in your home -- is important in motivating better behavior... and in helping kids feel safe. But you may not know how to lead with confidence, especially when your kids don’t seem to listen to or respect you all the time! In this episode, you’ll learn why it’s so important to be a strong leader in your home and the specific action you can take to get there.

Episode 90: How to Be a Strong Leader in Your Family

No one likes nagging. Your kids don’t like hearing it, and you don’t like doing it. But how can you stop when they won’t do what they’re supposed to do UNTIL you nag or yell? In this episode, you’ll learn why kids don’t do what we ask the first time we ask, and why nagging isn’t the only solution. You’ll also learn simple steps of a conversation you can have with your children to identify other ways to motivate responsible behavior (that will work better for them and for you).

Episode 89: When You and Your Child(ren) Are Tired of Your Nagging

This podcast is for parents who not only want to short-term tips for handling current kids' behaviors and moods, but who are exhausted from addressing the same situation over and over and want to find solutions that last much longer into the future. Because you will receive plans and step-by-step tools, it's also for parents who crave feeling in control -- and who do much better with structure than the chaos traditionally associated with parenting.

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