October is Down Syndrome Awareness Month, and today But Not All At Once dives into the story of Katie Alice Walker and her beautiful third baby, Jayne.Katie Alice walks us through the shock and grief of an unexpected diagnosis and the joy of meeting a child whose name has been spoken by an entire community in prayer .There&apos;s beauty to be found even in the uncertain, unforeseen and just plain hard; Katie Alice&apos;s words are a testament to that. Whether your family has faced similar news, you want to support a friend in the trenches, or you hope to be an example of inclusion in your community, this discussion is for you.A few books Katie Alice recommends:Authentically AddieYou&apos;re All Kinds of WonderfulDifferent - A Great Thing to Be!Almost Twins: A Story About Friendship and InclusionIf you&apos;re a parent who wants to connect with the Walkers, you can reach Katie Alice at @kacwalker on Instagram. As always, you can reach Anne at butnotallatonce.com or @butnotallatonce across social platforms. To support the podcast and hear monthly bonus episodes, subscribe to Patreon.com/ButNotAllAtOnce.If you enjoy But Not All At Once, would you please leave a five-star rating and review on Apple Podcasts? It elevates the podcast, gives potential guests a window into the show, and means the world!

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The Glue of Our Family: A Story of Down Syndrome with Katie Alice Walker

Meredith Puckett joins But Not All At Once to answer listener questions about grief, loss, and the seemingly easy task of "feeling your feelings." It&apos;s everyone&apos;s go-to advice for women facing divorce, life change, loss, or parenting in a pandemic, but how exactly how do we do it?(For reference and as a caution for anyone who may need it, this episode includes general themes of grief around separation, divorce, and pregnancy/infant loss.) Later this month, Meredith will be on the podcast&apos;s Patreon for a more intimate discussion of narcissism, abuse, unhealthy relationships, and finding freedom. Anne&apos;s emails and DMs are open for your anonymous stories and questions.Your thoughts will be in good company; Meredith and Anne will touch on experiences from their own lives and circles of friends. To join the conversation and support the podcast, subscribe at Patreon.com/ButNotAllAtOnce.Podcasts to Listen to: · Last week&apos;s But Not All At Once episode, "What If You&apos;re Still Broken?"· Grief is a Sneaky B!tch · Grief Out Loud· Grief Is My Side Hustle· Grieving Moms Podcast· The Mother of All Losses· While We Are Waiting: Hope After Child Loss· Surviving Divorce Podcast· Brené Brown&apos;s Unlocking Us episode, "On Grief and Finding Meaning"Books to Read:· Good Grief by Granger Westberg· It’s OK That You Are Not OK by Megan Devine· Bearing the Unbearable by Joanne Cacciatore· Grieving is Loving by Joanne CacciatoreIf you enjoy But Not All At Once, would you please leave a five-star rating and review on Apple Podcasts? It elevates the podcast, gives potential guests a window into the show, and just plain means the world! 

How Exactly Do You Feel Your Feelings? with Meredith Puckett

September 27th is a day Anne&apos;s body remembers each year, even if her brain doesn&apos;t quite catch up to it. This bonus episode dives into grief, miscarriage, trauma, guilt when you don&apos;t feel grateful "enough," and why you don&apos;t have to be useful to be worthy. You can read more of these words at Anne&apos;s blog, from a previous lifetime, on the subject. 

Bonus Episode: What If You're Still Broken?

Mamie Morgan is a poet, educator and entrepreneur with an eye for design and a passion for accepting people as they are. Today she talks to But Not All At Once about finding grown-up love; the beauty of blooming late; grieving a parent; and building a life more beautiful (but quite different) than you imagined.You can read Mamie&apos;s poetry at mamiemorgan.com and visit Opal Bride in West Greenville or at opalbride.com. To support the work of But Not All At Once, hear bonus episodes, and watch the podcast&apos;s first video chat, visit Patreon.com/ButNotAllAtOnce.You’ll hear Mamie reference Sangeeta Hardy’s, Katie Walters’, and Meredith Jaggard’s episodes, which are all worth a listen. Meredith’s was our very first episode, and her August 2021 hour-long update (buckle up and grab a pen to write down everything she says!) is live on Patreon now. Find Anne at @butnotallatonce on pretty much every social media platform, and don&apos;t blame her if TikTok&apos;s algorithm sucks you in with a vengeance.Talk to you next week! xoxo

Blooming Right on Time with Mamie Morgan

Today&apos;s episode is a smorgasbord of topics requested by our little Instagram community. First up, the Murdaugh (pronounced "Murdock") murders right here in South Carolina. This is a tragic, complicated, ready-for-Netflix story. I recommend you dive into Mandy Matney&apos;s podcast to catch up on years of Lowcountry legal entanglements, unfortunate deaths and mysterious happenings.Next, the Time 100 cover featuring Harry, Meghan and a boatload of memes about their pose. Also, Britney Spears&apos; engagement and subsequent Instagram exit; the end of Rachel Hollis&apos; Rise conference; the LuLaRich documentary series; the Met gala history and fashion; favorite fall movies; and my personal must-make soup recipes to be whipped up the moment temps drop below 80. Links! Links! Links!Best butternut squash soup recipe ever. Don&apos;t @ me.Pioneer Woman&apos;s white bean chicken chili. Add cornbread, invite me, and enjoy.At-home Sbux Medicine Ball dupe: One Teavana Jade Citrus Mint tea bag and one Teavana Peach Tranquility tea bag. Add warm lemonade (or lemon juice and water), then honey. Voila! Support the work of But Not All At Once via Patreon, where you can access bonus episodes, videos, and guest follow-ups. Talk to you next week! xoxo

A Potluck Podcast

Shakespeare wrote that "the course of true love never did run smooth." While it could apply to any facet of life, it may reflect most the exhaustion and adventure of parenting.That&apos;s certainly the case for Tinsley Maness and her son, Hart. What started smoothly when her second child was born soon changed course, birthing a desire to advocate not only for him, but also for others outside the "typical." You&apos;ll hear Tinsley speak of Hart&apos;s school, the Meyer Center, and Greenville&apos;s newest non-profit, Kind of the Upstate. Both organizations are worth your time and support. To support the stories and work of But Not All At Once, hear bonus episodes, and watch our first video chats, visit Patreon.com/ButNotAllAtOnce.If you too have been influenced by friends, targeted ads or professional influencers to make all manner of purchases, you&apos;ll find good company, reviews and regrets here.Stay tuned to the end, where I absolutely mean what I say - I&apos;m here. Tell me what you&apos;d like to hear: uplifting or heavy, relatable or aspirational, real-world or nostalgic. You&apos;re not in the trenches, whatever your trench may be, by yourself.

In the Thick of It with Tinsley Maness

Sarah Shell spent three years in law school, passed the bar and began a promising legal career in a Savannah office with a river view. Something was missing, though...Today Sarah and I walk through her "non-linear" path to owning a floral design studio whose first dedicated space opened just before Covid hit. We talk about finding your path, starting over, and letting others take a chance on you.You can find Sarah at Fern Studio in Columbia, South Carolina, where she brightens locals&apos; days with porch drop deliveries, flash floral installations, and gorgeous events.If you stay to hear my "outro" chat, tell me! I don&apos;t often touch on day-to-day events, and I&apos;m wondering if your brain needs a break by the end of a chatty hour?To support But Not All at Once and see its first-ever video episode this weekend, join our Patreon community. Former surrogate Brittney Bolt, now carrying her fourth child after delivering twins for strangers, will dish with me on the good, the bad and the ridiculous of baby names!P.S. Thank you for a QUARTER OF A MILLION listens! Having your ear for an hour a week is a privilege that isn&apos;t lost on me, and it&apos;s a gift to share women&apos;s stories with the world. xoxo

Non-Linear Paths with Sarah Shell of Fern Studio

When I came across Laura&apos;s TikTok content earlier this month, I knew she&apos;d make the perfect podcast guest. As @thatdarnchat on social media, she puts words to the epidemic of exhaustion I&apos;ve seen in friends and strangers alike over the years. You see it too: wives, mothers, and working women crumbling under the weight of invisible labor, unrealistic expectations, and unspoken hopes for parenthood and marriage.In today&apos;s episode, you&apos;ll hear us praise the men in our lives, break down the patterns that don&apos;t serve us or our marriages, and unpack how we (the collective we) can add more rest, joy and life into the years ahead.A few resources we mention:Fair Play by Eve RodskyHow We Show Up by Mia BirdsongParenting Beyond Pink and Blue by Christia Spears BrownBut Not All At Once, Episode 48: The Invisible List Clogging Up Your BrainFind us on Instagram, Patreon, or at the podcast&apos;s website to continue the discussion!

An Exhaustion Epidemic: All the Work You Can't See

Suzy Dover spends her days guiding elementary schoolers through the ins and outs of technology, then comes home to do the same with her own children.One question the instructional technology coach answers more than any other is, "How do I keep my kids safe online?" In today&apos;s episode, we answer just that - and it starts at a far more foundational level than parental controls or security apps.Suzy explains her philosophy of technology as communication; how children are the same online and off; in what ways to give them boundaries and control over their digital lives; and how adults can model what we want to see in our children when it comes to social media.So much of parenting we&apos;re prepared to do from conception: buy car seats, prepare nutritious meals, keep them warm and safe and fed. Feeling the urge to swaddle them in bubble wrap when it comes to technology makes sense - but it isn&apos;t practical.This is the world we live in; so how do we make it safe, healthy and kind? I loved thinking through this with Suzy, not to mention chatting about Little House on the Prairie, Hocus Pocus, and how our children will spill every last detail of our home lives to any teacher who will listen.Mentioned in today&apos;s discussion: Common Sense MediaEpisode with parenting coach Mary Van GeffenEpisode with intuitive eating counselor Kate Morris

Raising Kids in a Digital World with Suzy Dover

One night can change everything. Abby Banks, this week&apos;s guest, put her healthy infant son to sleep, but the next morning, he was paralyzed. Without warning, a rare autoimmune disease attacked his spinal cord; there was no cure or road map for healing from his diagnosis, transverse myelitis, short of a miracle.Abby walks us through the life she envisioned for Wyatt, and the one her son has today. Rather than facing the unknown full of fear, the Banks family finds joy in every gift - including the freedom and possibilities Wyatt&apos;s wheelchair provides. Whether you are waiting for a miracle, frustrated and facing challenges, or ready to celebrate every good thing in your life, this conversation will move you. Follow But Not All At Once on Instagram for a giveaway of Abby&apos;s book, Love Him Anyway, later this week."I could drown myself in a sea of anger because life hasn&apos;t turned out the way I planned, but I know that life is a gift, and I want to fight to make ours amazing, no matter what it looks like..."-from Love Him Anyway

If Your Miracle Never Comes with Abby Banks

When I recall the beauty standards of my formative years, I think of two Kates, one Fiona, and my beloved (but sometimes side-eyed) Friends.  Kate Moss, the queen of heroin chic;  headlines decrying "overweight" Kate Winslet; Fiona Apple, unshowered, underfed, and undressed on a dirty carpet in her "Criminal" video; and Friends&apos; lazy punchlines about Monica in a fat suit.Not to mention Bridget Jones&apos; topping out at 140lbs in her panicked diet diary entries or Renee Zellwegger&apos;s "brave" weight gain to portray her. Nor the worrisomely slim women of Ally McBeal. Or Regina George&apos;s puffer coat masquerading as an upsetting weight gain plot point in Mean Girls.Today Kristen Watson and I tackle pop culture and marketing; body image, positivity and diversity; whether we&apos;ve left &apos;90s beauty standards behind us; and the upside of social media&apos;s portrayal of everyday women and the many kinds of beauty they hold.Get ready for a ride that touches on:1. Britney&apos;s nude-and-crystal body stocking, J Lo&apos;s green Versace dress, and why 2000s fashion made a women&apos;s bodies the ultimate accessory.  2. What is normal versus what&apos;s normalized. (Do you hear Oprah saying that in her "silent or silencedddd" voice?)3. The puzzle of compliments - how to use our words to build up the people we find beautiful.4. The pressure of being perceived. We know when we&apos;re being sized up, measured, and found lacking/worthwhile. What do we do about it?5. Supergoop&apos;s Handscreen SPF and what kind of dunce falls for it. 6. Why middle school boys called me Tic-Tac Girl, and how I feel about it today.7. Whether the "COVID 15" jokes can go away now.8. The "we don&apos;t care what you look like or what you&apos;re wearing - just come!" disclaimer every post-pandemic invite needs.9. Why lacking visible ribs and tan lines was once considered a status symbol - but also why archaic beauty standards are still everywhere.10. Our moms could just toss the VS catalogs if they didn&apos;t want us to see them. What does that look like in a modern world?JUICY BONUS: Kristen&apos;s teen heartthrob boyfriend who shared a set with Jessica Biel while they dated, and whose face makes me cringe now.Though we touch on the Victoria&apos;s Secret/VS Collective rebrand here, the remaining hour (yes, we have thoughts) will go live on Patreon over the weekend. It&apos;ll take me a minute to come down from visiting the high of visiting the touring Friends set today; I&apos;m basically Penny Lane-level groupie for that traveling orange Central Perk couch.So many future chats may have been born in this hour: A Notebook/Mean Girls breakdown. The history and frustrating glory of Sports Illustrated&apos;s swimsuit cover. (Yay, someone who looks less emaciated is on the cover, but is this our ultimate goal?) What Jessica Simpson, Britney Spears, and Christina Aguilera could have accomplished if the media hadn&apos;t positioned them as enemy rivals. The list goes on - and I can&apos;t wait to hear your thoughts!Find us on Instagram, Patreon, or at the podcast&apos;s website to continue the discussion!

What the '90s and '00s Taught Us About Beauty - and Have We Unlearned It?

You can&apos;t be an expert on living. Perhaps intuitive eating, child-rearing, business, style, fitness - any number of things that require licenses, credentials or letters after your name. But living? Hmm. Perhaps that&apos;s how we got into a "personal development" situation.After our first Rachel Hollis discussion, there was a clamor to dive in a bit deeper, so here we are. Let&apos;s talk masterful word salad, accountability versus cancel culture, platforms versus pedestals, and what it means to be authentic.Can&apos;t wait to hear your thoughts! xoxo

Girl, You Don't Need Rachel Hollis

Lilibet Diana Mountbatten-Windsor arrived ten days ago; a press release and a flurry of headlines marked her debut. This week we delve into royal names, royal gossip, my baby-naming preferences and strategy, and more.Later this week we&apos;ll dive into Rachel Hollis&apos; return to (and quick retreat from) social media on Patreon. Can&apos;t wait to hear your thoughts! 

"Lili?! But...": On a Royal Baby's Name and an International Brouhaha

Parenting coach Mary Van Geffen guides folks daily through the process of raising "spicy" kids. Want to really get her going? Talk about the societal pressure to be a "good" mom, and the many meaningless, artificial and external markers that indicate what success looks like for modern parents.Mary unpacks and refutes every bit of that. I wish I could quote our entire conversation, but you&apos;ll just have to listen yourself. We cover every Southern woman&apos;s weakness; the perpetual people pleasers who seek her guidance; why the key to a happy home is in us, not our children; and (in an exercise that brings me to tears) how to create a relationship our grown children will rush home to each Thanksgiving.What DOES success look like in raising children? Mary&apos;s perspective may change your whole approach to parenting.Resources mentioned:Mary Van Geffen&apos;s website and Instagram The Gottman Institute feeling wheelBrittney Bolt, our Enneagram 7 guest, on being a surrogate for strangersMeredith Jaggard, prioritizing herself and her marriage while parenting and kicking MS square in the teethDo Less by Kate NorthrupTry Softer by Aundie KolberSupport But Not All At Once via our Patreon, where you can catch an hour-long update (and a metric ton of inspiration) from Meredith Jaggard, plus videos, giveaways, upcoming guest Q&As, and more.As always, you can find Anne at  hello@butnotallatonce.com and @butnotallatonce across social media platforms.

What Makes a "Good" Mom with Mary Van Geffen

As Mental Health Awareness Month ends, we talk with Tanya Camunas about how families can break generational cycles; what makes healing from trauma possible; how communities can preserve families and support their children&apos;s mental health; and why families of every socioeconomic status struggle.More than an executive director far removed from her field, Tanya herself is in therapy to heal from childhood trauma. Adopted at two after neglect and abuse from parents with untreated mental illnesses, she is a living example to the families she serves.Learn more about A Child&apos;s Haven and its work at achildshaven.org. Resources mentioned include:Ashley Adams: Surviving a Spouse’s Substance Abuse episodeDr. Nika White: Diversity & Inclusion episodeCatherine Schumacher: Public Education Partners episodeThe ACES questionnaireRight Now, I Am Fine: Tanya’s favorite children’s book for stress, anxiety and struggles Institute for Child SuccessChildren’s Trust of South CarolinaACH&apos;s Recommended Resources for FamiliesSupport the work of But Not All At Once with a $3 subscription to Patreon, where you&apos;ll find extra episodes and videos. (Psst: Meredith Jaggard’s kicking-MS-in-the-teeth hour of inspiration and updates goes live there this week!)As always, you can reach Anne at hello@butnotallatonce.com, find the podcast via @butnotallatonce across social platforms, and learn more at butnotallatonce.com. 

A Child's Mental Health Shapes Generations

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