One of the most difficult things someone can hear, is that their partner needs space. Nothing is clear, the terms are undefined, and once uttered it usually ends up in disaster. Tune in now to find out what to do. CHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction 5:25 Malignant phrases 6:20 How to handle short term space 8:38 When she takes days, weeks and months of space 13:15 What you’re supposed to know when she says she needs space 16:08 If you’re going to try to make it work, here’s what you should do. 15 minutes. 34:42 Do the feelings of the other partner matter? 39:54 How to correctly ask for space 42:21 Asking for space in a healthy and conscious way 44:55 What NOT to do when you needs space 47:36 Should you go out, party, drink and do drugs? 52:45 You actually could have just ended the relationship 53:32 When a guys never texts you back or calls you back… 56:15 How much space do you actually need? 56:54 Why women get upset when a man asks natural questions 59:15 If you’re going through this now, it gets worse… 1:03:25 The pitfalls of actually taking space 1:06:42 What if your partner doesn’t need or want space but you do? 1:08:43 What if the man needs space? 1:10:54 Summing it all up 1:15:15 How anger and resentment plays in to taking space 1:25:50 Does Tari actually see the value in taking space? Thank you for listening! We hope you enjoyed this immensely. 

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What to do and what it means when a woman says she needs space

1:45 Actions speak louder than words 5:55 What do you actually owe the other person? 8:24 Do unto others as you would have them do unto you 10:36 When we invest ourselves too much and get overextended 13:54 Self care and taking care of ourselves 20:23 When you think you don’t want anyone else but them 23:28 getting over your previous relationships 24:36 an exercise to show yourself you can get past this… using your exes 26:20 Caring for and helping others…once you’re healed 28:21 Can you still be friends with your ex or after a breakup? 30:48 How do you treat your ex after a breakup? 32:38 Personal stories of trying to remain friends with exes 34:15 Why must we NEVER touch again after breaking up? 36:26 The ways that couples deal with breakups 38:34 How to not handle your breakup 41:48 Advice for the person who is hurting the most 45:56 Do you even want to be friends after a breakup? 47:46 Personal stories about breakups and relationships 49:11 Being in love when someone only ‘likes’ you back 51:42 What to do if you feel like you actually love them more 55:28 Don’t stay in relationships where you partner doesn’t show up for you 59:17 Personal experience from a partner loving me more, but I wasn’t there yet 1:03:13 Nobody wants to be loved when you’re thinking about someone else 1:08:04 Outro 

Part 3: How to properly handle and move on from a breakup

One of the biggest challenges of being alive today, is handling, processing, surviving and getting through a breakup. In this 90 minute episode I am going to help you get through it. CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 2:45 You are probably in crisis right now 7:09 We look for ways to resent our partner to get over them 8:05 Understanding the emotional scale 9:08 There must be a grieving process 10:20 The disaster of distracting yourself vs healing yourself 12:14 The age old adage, that everything heals with time is not helpful 14:45 How to self soothe and search for relief 17:33 Avoiding unhealthy distractions 24:39 How can you separate distractions from helpful actions to occupy your mind or time? 30:09 Things to not do during your healing process 35:00 The kinds of friends you should seek solace from 39:14 Feng Shui and letting of old possessions 41:05 Questions to reflect on 43:02 It’s the aftermath of a breakup that makes spending time together impossible 48:01 Trying to be with or supportive of your ex while they are reeling 50:01 The loss of all terms of endearment 51:43 Pay attention to how they treat you during and after a breakup 54:19 We never want to talk about it when things are going well 57:27 We don’t need to suffer so deeply to experience the highest of highs 59:15 When you like or love your partner more than they like or love you 1:00:42 The person who loves you less will tend to gaslight and attack you 1:06:10 People are selfish 1:08:26 You’re never going to get what you want when you need it most 1:17:07 People lie… incessantly 1:22:21 In lying to and deceiving your partner, you will lead them on 1:26:36 When they tell you they need space… 

Part 2: How to properly handle, cope and deal with a breakup

How to properly handle a breakup…before it happens Part 1

It’s one of the most detrimental behavior patterns of our generation. Here’s everything you need to know to recognize it, avoid it and if you are afflicted with this disease, how to cure it. CHAPTERS:0:00 What is ghosting?2:25 Why do people ghost? 6:25 When does emotional involvement begin?10:17 Preliminaries and disclaimers13:15 Having to make backup plans 14:41 Taking our own insecurities out on others15:16 The most important sentence when it comes to dating16:45 Runaway brides19:58 Understanding the devastating effects of ghosting 24:15 Why ghosting makes you someone who can’t be trusted25:05 Why you being uncomfortable is not as important as you think 26:35 Examples of being uncomfortable30:50 Do you ghost when your finances are involved 34:35 More emotional effects of ghosting41:46 Stop pretending you don’t want hurt the other person 43:34 Curving46:01 Blocking 48:05 The one key you need to understand boundaries 50:15 Ghosting causes hostility 56:02 Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)57:55 Why you NEED to care about what others think about you1:00:35 One guiding principle 1:01:54 When you do need to set a boundary. Story time1:05:50 Why you need understanding when someone ghosts1:09:19 Another story about someone who gave different reasons for breaking it off1:14:16 The perils of changing your mind 1:21:22 Secrets to being rejected 1:24:25 An exceptional example of asking for understanding 1:26:20 A woman’s sensitivity to tone and intensity 1:27:24 More on healthy boundaries 1:28:51 Do the other persons feelings really matter? 1:32:52 Why if your’e involved with someone, it’s your obligation to be a custodian of their emotions1:35:15 Why it’s risky to ask for understanding if you are being rejected1:38:24 We MUST learn how to reject and be rejected responsibly 1:39:40 Tying it all together Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  www.patreon.com/closeness   

Ghosting and Blocking and Curving Oh My!

 What’s your definition of hot passionate chemistry? Do you believe that it’s just “there or it isn’t?” In this episode we will put that myth to an end.  We’ll explore over twenty concepts including:  – How to have naturally good chemistry with everyone around you -Is chemistry for men inevitable or bound to happen regardless of what happens? -How many kinds of chemistry are there?  -How to have good chemistry by “allowing it” to happen and letting yourself go there -How we constantly shut ourselves down and turn away love when it comes from the wrong people  -Why there will always be people who you aren’t going to have chemistry with  -Why context is everything  -How to chemistry from your past to create chemistry in your now -How to bring forward intimacy from your previous relationships to allow good chemistry to flourish in new ones  -How touch and eye contact play into chemistry  -Why saying, I’m just not feeling it, doesn’t cut it -Why thinking that good chemistry just happens is flawed    Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1     Please consider donating to our Patreon:  www.patreon.com/closeness     

How to Create Hot Sexual Chemistry from Nothing

 If you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, If you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, modeling, dancing, “sugaring” or being a sugar baby, and more. Subscribe and tune in as she spills story after story in this very detailed and intimate account of Heather’s life as a sex worker. It’s guaranteed to satisfy your innermost curiosities and take you on a wild adventure.   Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness 

Is she asking for it and is she asking for it sexually?

In this unprecedented time of worry and concern regarding COVID-19 or the Corona Virus this is our Corona-free offering to soothe you and help you relax: a sensual meditation to come back to again and again, anytime you need it. …

Kauai: A sensual meditation

Countless Closeness episodes focus on how to pleasure a woman, but what can you do to take care of your man? Put down your magazine and let’s get deep. Sure we can talk about how to go down and arch …

How to properly have sex with a man

Learning to kiss our partner in a way that really turns them on is not innate. Like most things we do for the first time, we’re sloppy and we don’t take the time to learn good technique. Yes even kissing …

How to kiss properly. 10 big juicy steps.

 Some of the juicy details you can expect from this episode are learning to: Feel into her, the moment you open the door… see what her energy and sensuality is like. Ask yourself, Is she actually ready to have sex …

Part 2: Thoughts on having sex with someone new for the first time

You’ve shared some amazing time together and now you’re ready to take things to the bedroom. Yes, logistically we all know “how” to have sex, but do you know how to navigate through being with someone new for the first …

Part 1: Thoughts on having sex with someone new for the first time

Have you ever been accused of playing games or not being up front? Most of us struggle with three simple words: I’m not interested. This one sentence alone can save you time and heartache. If we’re being honest, a lack …

How to actually tell someone you’re not interested

The much anticipated 90 minute season finale that holds nothing back. We’ll share articles, statistics, personal references, and even explore if paying for dates is a form of prostitution!  We’ll discuss how people really feel when their partner fights or …

Part 3: Who should pay for the first date and beyond?

Welcome to 2020 and welcome to season two of the Closeness Podcast! To start the New Year off with a bang we’re diving in with a sexually explicit episode that covers fifteen steps to giving a woman a phenomenal experience …

How to properly have sex with a woman

Sex, intimacy, relationships, rejection, passion and pain. These are subjects we are highly passionate about and yet often know the least about, particularly when it comes to the opposite sex. On top of that, most of us are private people and we expect our partners to know what to do or to read our minds. We want to experience hot sex and closeness but many of us have lost our way... or we never learned how. Navigating sexual terrain without getting hurt or hurting others can be treacherous territory. But it doesn't have to be. Every few weeks, join Tari as he sensually unravels complex intimate subjects and presents them in am arousing, classy, intelligent and easy to understand format. If you want to be a better lover or partner, if you want to get out of pain, if you want to learn the how to's of sex and intimacy, this podcast is a must. Simply tune in, self-reflect and take action to dramatically increase the quality of your intimate life. In person and online Closeness Coaching is available on our website www.getcloseness.com. If this podcast has helped you, please consider donating to our Patreon at www.patreon.com/closeness

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