Back from what some might consider a vacation, but I just consider a ton of WORK. This episode is one that Carter and I felt we needed to do, even though it felt weird, and a little awkward. Like many of you, we're trying to be better. Come join us as we talk through the idea of "all lives matter" versus "black lives matter". See what you think, and if it maybe gives you a different perspective. I hope you all are staying safe, being healthy, and taking good care of each other. Be good to one another. Talk to you next week!Music via Epidemic Sound:- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin Hall- Limited Edition Love (Sting Version) by Anders EkengrenSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

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S3E10: It Matters - Even Though It's Uncomfortable

Today I'm joined by my friend Carter and we're continuing in the same vein of militant authenticity talked about in Season 3 Episode 6. Listen in as we discuss being an authentic jerk, how you may be defining yourself, and how - perhaps - patent leather pants aren't quite the thing for work. Being true to who you are is important. It can get in your way sometimes, too. How do you find the balance? How can you think about who you are in a way that still lets you be flexible, adaptable, and open to growth? Join us for a discussion!Referenced in this episode:S3E6: Militant Authenticity: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/when-authenticity-gets-in-the-way/Coffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Have a wonderful week!Music via Epidemic Sound:Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallLimited Edition (Sting Version) by Anders EkengrenSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E9: Being Yourself At Work: Pros, Cons, and Patent Leather Pants

Multitasking is kind of one of those things where you might feel like you SHOULD be doing it, or maybe you think you should be doing it better. The reality is though, multitasking prevents you from doing an individual task well, it prevents you from actively listening, can damage your relationships, and can be flat-out dangerous. Join me, Emily, and John for a great discussion on multitasking, how it can hurt you, and what you can do to avoid it.Coffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Have a wonderful week!Music via Epidemic Sound:- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E8: How Multitasking Isn't All It's Cracked Up to Be

Even in the best of times, self-care and self-compassion are so very important. In these times, it becomes even more critical to safeguard your mental and physical wellbeing. Even though you may be locked down right now, there are things you can do to do your self-care even when stuck at home.Referenced in this episode:Coping with the Quarantine: 102 Self-Care Ideas & Activities to Do At Home | TCN Behavioral Health: https://www.tcn.org/news/2020/3/24/coping-with-the-quarantine-100-self-care-ideas-amp-activities-to-do-at-homeCoffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Have a wonderful week!Subscribe to my mailing list at: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription/Music via Epidemic Sound:- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E7: Self-Care and Self-Compassion Even When Stuck At Home

Militant authenticity is when you have such a strong allegiance to "you being you" that you get in your own way. Or worse, you have a negative impact on those around you or their respect for you. I have always been a strong advocate for people being themselves, and I still strongly believe that. I also believe that we have choices about when and how to express that authenticity, and we can do it in a way that still allows us to be present to the needs and feelings of those around us. Referenced in this episode:The Fine Line Between Helpful and Harmful Authenticity | Adam Grant | NY Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/10/smarter-living/the-fine-line-between-helpful-and-harmful-authenticity.htmlBook Review: Option B: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/book-review-option-b-by-sheryl-sandberg/Coffee, Grit and Inspiration on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CGInspo/Coffee, Grit and Inspiration on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coffeegritandinspiration/Coffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Have a wonderful week!Subscribe to my mailing list at: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription/Support the show: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/Music via Epidemic Sound:- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E6: Militant Authenticity: Getting Out of Your Own Way

Coffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Communities are powerful when they pull together. In times like these, the strength of a community will help people come out the other side. As a leader, you have a large impact on the communities you're a part of. How are you showing up? Are you building up your community, or are you tearing it down? Let's give our people strength and fortitude by building bonds with them and doing what we can to build up our families, teams, and communities.Show Notes and Transcript: Referenced in this episode:Listening with respect and engagement | CPB S2E10: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/active-listening/Keep Calm and Lead On: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/calm-leadership-during-a-crisis/How to Inspire Community Spirit in Times of Social Isolation | Alexandra Laxmi Iyer | Salesforce.org: https://www.salesforce.org/how-to-inspire-community-spirit-in-times-of-social-isolation/The Kindness Postcard and Other Heartwarming Gestures Sparked By Coronavirus | Lucy Handley | CNBC: https://www.cnbc.com/2020/03/16/coronavirus-compassion-the-kindness-postcard-and-other-heartwarming-gestures.htmlCompassion in the Time of the Coronavirus | Nicholas A. Christakis | The Washington Post: https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2020/03/11/compassion-time-coronavirus/Facing COVID-19 With Community Instead of Fear | Lornet Turnbull | Yes Magazine: https://www.yesmagazine.org/health-happiness/2020/03/10/coronavirus-covid19-community/Face Masks:I found this set of tutorials super helpful in sewing my own face masks for my husband, son, and their coworkers: https://sweetredpoppy.com/how-to-sew-a-surgical-face-mask/Have a wonderful week!Subscribe to my mailing list at: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription/Support the show: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/Music via Epidemic Sound:- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E5: Creating Unity in Your Community

If you're one of the millions of people being asked to work from home, you might be struggling with some of the challenges that working remotely can present. Or maybe you're just looking for some tips to make your work-from-home life a little bit easier! Either way, never fear, because us three veteran remote workers are here to share some of the challenges, benefits, and our best tips for working from home. Whether you're working from home or not, I hope you're staying safe and healthy, in both body and mind. Be well. Referenced in this episode:5 Tips to Build Stronger RelationshipsSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E4: Advice from Veteran Remote Workers to Those Newly Remote

The world is going crazy right now. Our personal worlds are turned inside out, upside down. In situations like this, it's easy for our emotions to jump in, take control, and ruin our ability to make rational decisions about what's happening. We get emotionally hijacked! I struggle with this a lot, and found some ways that I think will work well to help us to regain control over our emotions and get some mastery over our emotions when they threaten to overwhelm us. If you're struggling, please don't wait to ask for help. Times like these can make us feel more alone than usual, maybe than we've ever felt before. Everyone needs help sometimes.Referenced in this episode:Empathy and Emotional Intelligence | Coffee, Grit, and InspirationStrong Emotions: Name It To Tame It! (video)The A-Z Guide to Feelings and Emotions | Laughter Online UniversityReduce Emotional Hijacking With Emotional Intelligence | TTI Success InsightsTame Reactive Emotions By Naming Them | Mindful.orgWhat Was I Thinking? Handling The Hijack | Dr. Relly Nadler, True North Leadership | Psychology TodayCoffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Subscribe to my mailing list at: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription/Support the show: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/Find us on Facebook and join the Coffee, Grit and Inspiration Community!Music via Epidemic Sound:Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E3: Emotionally Hijacked! 3 Ways To Take Back Control

This week I'm talking about what happens when we use "but" to say something and then immediately negate it, or when we start our sentences with "no", "but", or "however". This seemingly harmless habit can cause our communications to break down, or to cause us to be seen as ineffective communicators or people who don't listen. Note that no butts were harmed in the making of this podcast. Referenced in this episode:S2E9: Overapologizing and Minimizing YourselfWhat Got You Here Won't Get You There [affiliate link] by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark ReiterHave a wonderful week!Support the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3E2: Getting Rid of the "But"

Instead of being a "know-it-all", be a "learn-it-all"! People that cultivate curiosity about the world around them experience greater levels of satisfaction with their lives, are more innovative, have better ideas, and are more engaged. You can cultivate curiosity in your life and at work to enrich your experience and get the most out of what you have. Show Notes and Transcript:Referenced in this episode:Psych Central: 6 Ways to Cultivate Your Curiosity: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/everyday-creativity/2018/01/6-ways-to-cultivate-your-curiosity/Psychology Today: Cultivate Curiosity: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200609/cultivating-curiosityHarvard Business Review: 4 Ways to Cultivate a Culture of Curiosity: https://hbr.org/2013/09/four-ways-to-cultivate-a-culture-of-curiosityHow to Fail Like a Champ: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/overcome-failure/Growth Mindset: An Introduction: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/growth-mindset-intro/Email me at: dianne@coffeegritandinspiration.comSubmit comments and feedback at: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/contact/ Coffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Have a wonderful week!Subscribe to my mailing list at: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription/Support the show: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/If you liked this episode, please follow and give it a rating!Music via Epidemic Sound:- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S3 E1: How to be a "Learn-It-All"

Active listening is much more than just inserting "yeah" or "okay" at regular intervals in a conversation. Active listening also means listening with respect, with engagement, and listening with your whole body. Thinking before you speak. Creating connections with people and helping to ensure that they don't leave a conversation with you feeling bad about it, or about you. Join me in Season 2 Episode 10 while I talk about active listening, what it is, the attributes of a good listener, and some tiny tactics you can employ to make yourself a better listener. Remember that Season 3 starts on February 26. There won't be a podcast on the 19th - try not to miss me too much!  Referenced in this episode:What Got You Here Won't Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter: https://amzn.to/2Nx1Sjt [affiliate link]How Women Rise by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith: https://amzn.to/2NBeYw8 [affiliate link]Marshall Goldsmith's Tiny Tactics (https://www.marshallgoldsmith.com/articles/the-skill-that-separates/):Listen. Don’t interrupt. Don’t finish the other person’s sentences. Don’t say, “I knew that.” Don’t even agree with the other person. If he praises you, just say thank you. Don’t use the words “no,” “but,” and “however.” Don’t let your eyes wander elsewhere while the other person is talking.Maintain your end of the dialogue by asking intelligent questions that show you’re paying attention, move the conversation forward, and require the person to talk (while you listen).Coffee Break Podcast: making personal development accessible and helping people grow. One episode at a time.Have a wonderful week!Subscribe to my mailing list at: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription/Support the show: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/If you liked this podcast, please follow, subscribe and/or give it a rating!You can also find me here:- Coffee, Grit, and Inspiration Blog: https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coffee-break/id1482885097- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0TzyV9SXyVZ8MAz18A7D6P?si=aKTGUm0XQ5qeCioxCXATqw- TuneIn: https://tunein.com/podcasts/Health--Wellness-Podcasts/Coffee-Break-p1288067/- Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS82NTQwMjgucnNzMusic via Epidemic Sound:- Enjoy Your Heartbreak (Sting Version) by Martin HallSupport the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S2E10: Listening With Respect and Engagement

It's amazing what comes out of your own mouth, and at times, how much of what you say seems designed to "make yourself small" - to minimize yourself and what you're saying. In today's episode, I am joined by my dear friend and long-time coworker Emily Hastings, and we're revisiting the topic of over-apologizing with some additional tips and insights, plus exploring how apologizing, like several other speech habits, doesn't serve you. In fact, it can serve to minimize you and devalue what you have to say in the minds of those you are speaking to. Please forgive any audio issues, we tried out a new program for remote podcasting. It will get better! Also, I used a swear word. #sorrynotsorry.Referenced in this episode:S1E4: The Effects of OverapologizingPoem: Our Deepest Fear by Marianne WilliamsonMore on minimizing in a future podcast! In the meantime, you can learn more by reading How Women Rise by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith [affiliate link].Check out the Show Notes for this episode!Give us a review and ranking to show your support!Support the show (https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/support-us/)

S2E9: Over-Apologizing and Minimizing Yourself

Last week we talked about when you get feedback, to say thank you and then shut up. Feedback itself is a whole other topic! There is an art to giving feedback, and a perspective that, if you can develop it, will help you implement feedback in ways that enrich your life and your relationships with other people. In this episode I'm talking about the different types of feedback, how to give it, how to receive it, and what to do with it once you've got it. Plus I define "synthesize" which is helpful no matter who you are. <3A lot of the material in this podcast I got from the following books, which are affiliate links. This means I get a commission if you use my links to purchase something. You can see more info here.What Got You Here Won't Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark ReiterHow Women Rise by Sally Helgesen and Marshall GoldsmithAlso referenced in this episode:Times We Should Just Say Thank You and Then Shut Up (CBP S2E7)Stop Drop and Roll: Practice Taking Constructive CriticismEmail me at: dianne@coffeegritandinspiration.comSubmit comments and feedback at: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/contact/ Subscribe to the newsletter at: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription/Support the show (https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription)

Last week we talked about when you get feedback, to say thank you and then shut up. Feedback itself is a whole other topic! There is an art to giving feedback, and a perspective that, if you can develop it, will help you implement feedback in ways that enrich your life and your relationships with other people. In this episode I'm talking about the different types of feedback, how to give it, how to receive it, and what to do with it once you've got it. Plus I define "synthesize" which is helpful no matter who you are. 

Feedback is Your Friend

"Thank you" is such a versatile phrase! After bingeing on several personal development books over the last week that have to do with behavioral changes and forming and ending habits, it occurred to me that there are three situations (at least) where you should just say thank you...and then shut up. Enjoy!Referenced in this article: CBP S1 E4: The Effects of Overapologizing: https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/s1-e4-effects-of-overapologizing/How Women Rise by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith: https://amzn.to/2NBeYw8 [affiliate link]What Got You Here Won't Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter: https://amzn.to/2Nx1Sjt [affiliate link]Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://amzn.to/2GbbEn7 [affiliate link]Support the show (https://www.coffeegritandinspiration.com/subscription)

S2E7: Three Times You Should Just Say Thank You and Then Shut Up

Stress is a pervasive, unavoidable part of life. For better or worse, it happens, and it's a good idea for us to get better at managing it. The more resilient we can be in response to negative events, the more we can respond to rather than react to them, the less stress we will let into our lives. Join me as I talk about stress, some causes, how our reactions can actually compound the stress we feel, and some ways to manage stress. Referenced in this episode:Give Yourself the Gift of "I Will Handle It": https://coffeegritandinspiration.com/i-will-handle-it/Stress and Personality | Psych Central: https://psychcentral.com/lib/stress-and-personality/Respond vs. React | Mindful Minutes: https://mindfulminutes.com/respond-vs-react-how-to-keep-your-cool-in-times-of-stress/10 Ways To Change the Way You Deal With Stress | Lifehack.org: https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-ways-change-the-way-you-deal-with-stress.htmlCauses of Stress | WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/balance/guide/causes-of-stress#1Support the show

S2E6: Stress: Responding vs Reacting, and Ways to Manage It

Join Dianne Whitford and Heather Abbe from Coffee, Grit and Inspiration for brief thoughts on whatever is going on in the Coffee, Grit, and Inspiration blog at the moment! Join us for weekly 10-15 minute chats about personal development and self-improvement. We cover topics like grit, growth mindset, overcoming failure, self-compassion, growing your creativity, and achieving your goals! Come take a coffee break and join us!

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