The Dark Truth behind Valentines Day actually sounds pretty Hot. We also discuss our latest reality TV obsession, Love Is Blind. References: https://www.thegypsythread.org/silphium-herbal-birth-control-ancients/ https://allthatsinteresting.com/silphium https://www.buzzfeed.com/mayaogolini/biggest-valentines-day-fail-stories https://www.instyle.com/holidays-occasions/valentines-day/sending-valentines-to-friends https://www.npr.org/2011/02/14/133693152/the-dark-origins-of-valentines-day https://nationaltoday.com/singles-awareness-day/

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There's a reason why Romance novels have been the top selling genre for decades. The most popular fantasy shared by women is sexual domination, so why are many of us afraid to admit it and explore our fantasies with our partners? Charlotte recounts her teenage fantasies and reveals the three leading men who encompased them. Also is Grace Heightest? References: 99% Invisible: The Clinch https://99percentinvisible.org/episode/the-clinch/ Esther Perel https://www.estherperel.com/ https://www.calebadodson.com/writing/humanizing-our-fantasies-love-yourself https://www.sexedeast.ca/blog/exploring-sexual-fantasies https://www.businessinsider.com/which-sexual-fantasies-are-normal-2014-10 https://medium.com/sexography/where-do-sexual-fantasies-come-from-211a3d59e91b https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201807/where-do-our-sexual-fantasies-come https://www.insider.com/what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-you2020-7 https://www.brides.com/fantasize-about-someone-not-married-to-2303821 https://www.nytimes.com/1996/07/28/nyregion/the-good-and-bad-of-indulging-in-fantasy-and-daydreaming.html https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fighting-fear/201404/sexual-fantasies

Episode 101: What's Your Fantasy?

For our 100th episode we talk about the pandemic that has plagued women in their 20's and beyond...Baby Fever! Why does it seem like everyone has it? And if you’re not feeling it, is that a sign you shouldn’t start a family? Grace also talks about her affinity for tiny shoes. Thanks for being with us for 100 episodes! References https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2021/12/how-common-baby-fever/621083/ https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Baby%20Fever https://health.usnews.com/health-news/health-wellness/articles/2015/09/14/is-baby-fever-real https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21842990/ https://www.nbcnews.com/healthmain/baby-fever-real-thing-not-just-women-study-claims-1C6437144 https://www.reddit.com/r/babyfever/ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2029489/Whos-daddy-Men-suffer-baby-fever-new-study-reveals.html https://www.vice.com/en/article/xwpvb4/psychology-of-baby-fever-is-it-real https://www.livescience.com/15949-baby-fever-reproduction.html https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuSBPqkSpc0

Episode 100: Baby Fever ? ?

Scrotum Steeping, Abortion Pills, and Discharge Oh My! A new male contraceptive, The COSO has made news for its innovative design and effectiveness. Think Apple product for tea bagging. The F.D.A. has announced the abortion pill will continue to be available by mail in the U.S. And how art is normalizing vaginal discharge. https://www.thisisavulva.com/dischargegallery References: https://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/crossroads-lab/article256681357.html https://aidaccess.org/en/i-need-an-abortion https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/hormones/oral-contraceptives-fact-sheet https://www.coso-contraception.de/ https://www.latimes.com/opinion/story/2021-12-22/the-fdas-decision-to-allow-abortion-pills-in-person-wont-help-if-you-live-in-a-state-requires-it https://www.jamesdysonaward.org/en-US/2021/project/coso-the-new-way-of-male-contraception/ https://www.insidehook.com/daily_brief/health-and-fitness/steeping-your-balls-future-male-birth-control https://nypost.com/2021/10/15/men-can-prevent-pregnancy-by-giving-their-testicles-a-bath/ https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/16/health/abortion-pills-fda.html

Episode 99: Pussy News: Ball Boiling, Abortion by Mail, and Normalizing Discharge

Who's Gaslighting Who? What is Gaslighting? And why is it suddenly in the cultural zeitgeist? We discuss the warning signs of gaslighting and what to do if it’s happening to you. References https://www.thehotline.org/wp-content/uploads/media/2020/10/power-and-control-wheel-cropped.png https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-red-flags-gaslighting-in-relationship https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ToLfQU2xmg https://metro.co.uk/2020/06/18/what-racial-gaslighting-why-damaging-people-colour-12866409/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4P2Qwh1QCU https://www.instagram.com/p/CA82O3YlqUS/ https://www.psycom.net/gaslighting-what-is-it/ https://hbr.org/2021/09/how-to-intervene-when-a-manager-is-gaslighting-their-employees https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/what-gaslighting-how-do-you-know-if-it-s-happening-ncna890866

Episode 98: Gaslighting ???

We discuss prevention and destigmatizing STIs. Having HPV is seen as a sexual right of passage, but a single vaccine can prevent its transmission and cancer. The gardasil vaccine is recommended for children but can be given up to 45 years of age. Let us know if you got the vaccine or if you would reccomend it. References https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/infectious-agents/hpv-and-cancer https://www.ncsl.org/research/health/hpv-vaccine-state-legislation-and-statutes.aspx https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/here%E2%80%99s-radical-idea-easy-home-std-tests https://evekit.vn/en/

Episode 97: Maybe she's born with it, Maybe it's HPV

Raise a hand of you're depressed! We discuss the connection between depression and low libido. There’s a possibility that the treatment to your depression is also causing a decreased sex drive. References https://www.aafp.org/afp/2000/0815/p782.html https://healthtalk.unchealthcare.org/how-depression-can-affect-sexual-health/ https://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/is-sex-an-antidepressant.aspx https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FyKr_laxu2I https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2rvVEBh-Qc https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/sexual-health

Episode 95: The Other Blue Waffle

Has a Hun or a Boss Babe ever slipped in your DMs promising a fantastic business opportunity? Are these women really living the She E O dream or have they Girl Bossed too close to the sun? MLM's or Multi-Level Marketing companies saw a spike in membership during the height of the pandemic when women were forced out of the job market. These companies are notoriously predatory and can slip by legal regulations leaving people high and dry, or more accurately in a warehouse full of moldy leggings. References https://www.fundera.com/resources/mlm-statistics https://www.ecosecretariat.org/best-mlm-companies/ https://jacobinmag.com/2021/10/multilevel-marketing-scam-lularoe-pyramid-scheme-capitalism-myth https://www.healthyway.com/content/multi-level-marketing-businesses-arent-making-people-moneyso-why-are-they-still-popular/ https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/multi-level-marketing-businesses-and-pyramid-schemes https://www.ftc.gov/sites/default/files/documents/publiccomments/trade-regulation-rule-disclosure-requirements-and-prohibitions-concerning-business-opportunities-ftc.r511993-00017%C2%A0/00017-57317.pdf https://www.huffpost.com/entry/say-no-mlm-pitchl_5f4d61d7c5b697186e39eaa1 https://www.politico.com/news/2021/11/05/kyrsten-sinema-multi-level-marketing-labor-519661 https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2021/01/anti-mlm-reddit-youtube/617816/ https://www.vox.com/the-goods/22732586/ftc-mlm-rohit-chopra-business-opportunity-rule https://medium.com/swlh/how-mlms-used-the-pandemic-to-prey-on-vulnerable-women-7be98f57674f

Episode 94: MomsLosingMoney

Biden's Build Back Better Plan gutted Paid Leave, or did it? We discuss the latest news regarding the deal. Texas is on it's fuck shit again. We also try to scrounge up some good news this week and maybe have solved feminism by replacing bikini bottoms with shorts? References: https://www.npr.org/2021/11/02/1051471123/female-beach-handball-players-bikini-shorts-norway https://www.forbes.com/advisor/personal-finance/cuts-from-reconciliation-bill-paid-family-leave/ https://www.vox.com/2021/10/29/22749595/paid-leave-sick-parental-leave-biden-build-back-better-bill https://www.npr.org/2021/11/02/1051471236/texas-governor-abbott-calls-for-removal-of-obscene-school-library-books https://www.npr.org/2021/11/03/1052121244/pelosi-says-house-democrats-are-bringing-back-paid-leave-in-their-spending-bill https://www.bostonherald.com/2021/11/01/battenfeld-voters-across-the-nation-rejecting-defund-the-police-candidates-but-not-in-boston/ https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/31/us/politics/paid-family-leave.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/03/nyregion/byron-brown-buffalo-mayor.html https://www.wgbh.org/news/politics/2021/11/02/election-day-2021-live-updates-and-insights-from-around-greater-boston https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/how-republicans-won-the-virginia-governors-race/ https://qz.com/work/2082746/elon-musks-tweet-captures-everyday-sexism-faced-by-women-in-stem/ https://www.indiatimes.com/technology/news/elon-musk-tits-university-twitter-552857.html Check out #TruthBeTold which has an interactive map on the legislative attacks on racial and gender justice legislation https://www.aapf.org/truthbetold Watch the rally to save paid leave https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=431771511662833

Episode 93: Pussy News: Biden's Not So Better Plan

For our 2 year spooktastic aniversary we talk Witches! We might be Baby Witches. How did the idea of Witches start? Why are we still so fascinated by them? And how are modern Witches taking on modern problems? References: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QW5p0gNQiX4 https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/24/books/peak-witch.html https://goop.com/glacce-amethyst-crystal-infused-water-bottle/p/?taxon_id=1291 https://www.history.com/topics/folklore/history-of-witches https://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/2019/10/30/millennials-and-gen-embrace-witchy-new-age-spiritualism/ojetIu5fYahXu4dxa2IF6I/story.html

Episode 92: Witch Please! ?‍♀️

What's behind the societal idea that Boys don't cry? Crying is a universal human experience that can be triggered by emotions and feelings, not just irritants. Various studies have found that crying because of strong emotions is more common among women than men. There has also been evidence that emotional tears chemical consistency differs from reflexive tears. Maybe women don’t cry more, but men cry less because of societal and hormonal influence. References https://nypost.com/2017/09/18/heres-why-women-cry-twice-as-much-as-men/ https://www.thrillist.com/health/nation/why-do-women-cry https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/men-and-crying-the-shamed-tears-of-boys-97ccf2e3841e https://www.bustle.com/wellness/why-cant-i-cry-experts-explain-the-science-19381382 https://www.sbs.com.au/news/why-do-women-cry-more-than-men https://www.apa.org/monitor/2014/02/cry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8CBqYocrM04&list=PLfHPmT3pP0htzwUFnnxGIVSTLuUkUCjFo&index=37 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XOo1OJFAeQ&list=PLfHPmT3pP0htzwUFnnxGIVSTLuUkUCjFo&index=39 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wc0GjfCG8u0 https://time.com/4254089/science-crying/

Episode 91: Boys Don't Cry?

For decades Women (people with uteruses) have been responsible for birth control, but recent studies show that as many as 80% of men (penis havers) would take "male birth control" if it was available. So why isn't there a decent male birth control option other than condoms and vasectomies? What's stopping modern science from creating a viable male birth control option. Turns out its more complicated than it seems. https://health.clevelandclinic.org/vasectomy-reversal-5-facts-men-need-to-know-2/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7MHOk7qVhYs https://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/male-contraceptives https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/11/03/500549503/male-birth-control-study-killed-after-men-complain-about-side-effects https://www.healthline.com/health/birth-control/male-birth-control-options#outlook https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/4423-vasectomy-sterilization https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/jun/05/male-birth-control-step-up-responsibility https://thepolypost.com/opinion/2021/09/14/men-want-to-control-womens-bodies-because-they-are-scared-of-male-birth-control/ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/vasectomy-reversal-5-facts-men-need-to-know-2/ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/4423-vasectomy-sterilization

Episode 90: Sperm St?ppers

Charlotte and Grace are two friends who want to expand the conversation around female sexuality and pleasure by talking openly about their own sex lives and experiences as women. Cum on this journey with us as we relearn everything about our bodies and ourselves!

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