Ever wondered how real friendships and sisterhoods start? The next two episodes explores the dynamics of the sisterhood between the host, Valencia Griffin-Wallace and Queen Co hosts, Lyvonne Copeland and Shannon Ward. Sisterhoods aren't made overnight. Finding those that understand you, support you and lovingly guide you the right way is what we all need. As we look back on who we were and how we came together, most will find inspiration that a true sisterhood can be built. We also discuss why it is very important for others to build friendships. Join the conversation if you want to understand how real sisterhoods are built to last. Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media) https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com) https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media) http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com) Connect with the show: Facebook-https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U ) Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U ) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

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After Dark 21: Building A Sisterhood-Part 2

Ever wondered how real friendships and sisterhoods start? The next two episodes explores the dynamics of the sisterhood between the host, Valencia Griffin-Wallace and Queen Co hosts, Lyvonne Copeland and Shannon Ward. We share the parts of our story people most forget...the pain. The show takes an interesting turn as we ask each other questions and realize how years later, we are more connected than ever before. There is a part 2, so make sure you stay tuned to hear the conclusion and some tips for building a sisterhood. Join the conversation if you want to understand how real sisterhoods are built to last. Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media) https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com) https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media) http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com) Connect with the show: Facebook-https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U ) Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U ) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 20: Building A Sisterhood (The reintroduction)-Part 1

Are you using your current relationship to get over your last? Are you considering giving someone another chance? Queen friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about getting hurt rebounding and giving a past relationship a do over. Have you been a rebound and did it go to something bigger? Join the conversation to hear things to consider before you go or stay Key Topics and Things Mentioned: What exactly is a rebound relationship How much disclosure is necessary What to consider before giving someone a second chance Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/gracefullypurposedcounseling/ (Follow Donna on social media) https://www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com/contact (www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 19: Rebound and Relationship Do Over or Neither

How do you know when a relationship is over? Do you make a speedy exit or try to work it out because of responsibilities? Queen friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about relationships and love. We also discuss cheating and who we think cheats more. If you have ever wondered should you leave or stay, this is the show for you. Women often try to make it work especially if children are involved. Or is that a stereotype? Join the conversation to hear things to consider before you go or stay Key Topics and Things Mentioned: How do you know when a relationship is over Is it worth salvaging when you have been hurt The point of no return in most relationships and more!!! Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/gracefullypurposedcounseling/ (Follow Donna on social media) https://www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com/contact (www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 18: Should You Resuscitate or Exit A Relationship with Donna Barnes

Are you letting the opinions and pressures from the outside change who you are on the inside? This special Valentines episode is all about loving, uplifting and supporting black women in their greatness. Message clips from special peoples in the host, co hosts and others who have something to say. This is the episode that will make you love yourself more even when you are struggling with media messages, personal low self esteem or just need a pick me up. Tips are given that you can practice in your own life to build your self confidence and self love. Loving yourself as a black woman doesn't mean you don't love others, it just means you love yourself more. If you want to join a conversation around black women love, uplifting and supporting each other, Join the conversation Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media) https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com) https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media) http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 17: Loving, Uplifting, and Supporting Black Women

In getting the love you want; how much are you willing to compromise? In this episode, the queens discuss everything from salacious women to relationships that change over time. Relationships right now are different.  Between pandemic babies and you are not the one during this pandemic, relationships are changing some for better and others for worse. Can men and women be friends if they are in relationships with others? The queens discuss their feeling on males and females being friends.  Shannon is open to her significant other having female friends.  Lyvonne is okay if she likes the woman and Valencia is hands down no indeed.  What are your thoughts? How would you handle your child’s relationship if something was going on you didn’t like? Yeah, we go there too! If you want to join a conversation around friends, boundaries and more in love, this is your show! Join the conversation Key Topics and Things Mentioned: Controlling or Crazy In Love Being Involved in Your Child's Relationships Should You Compromise or Change Pandemic Relationship Transitions and More! Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media) https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com) https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media) http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 16: Accepting, Changing and Compromising In Relationships

What is the difference between the people you commit to and people you don’t? As you get older, love changes because we as people change. In this episode, the queens share there thoughts on love before and during the pandemic.  We discuss our love languages and how that has changed in the past year. Should a relationship be 50/50 or 100/100? What is the difference? Shannon shares what has and will make her commit to a relationship.  Do you really know when you are in love and it is time to commit? Valencia discusses how she gave up talking to other people because she found her kind of crazy.  Lyvonne tells the us that knowing that she felt protected is what made her commit to her husband. Yes, you can find love during the pandemic or you might even have it already. If you are ready to get some real love tips, this is your show! Join the conversation to get ready to more love in your life. Key Topics and Things Mentioned: What makes a woman commit Is keeping the “same” energy throughout a relationship important What is really important to women today Expectations of love and more! Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media) https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com) https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media) http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com) Connect with the show: Facebook-https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U ) Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U ) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 15: Love, Relationships, and Expectations with The Queens

Does negative behavior run in your family? Are you the curse breaker? How much of your behavior is nurture vs nature? Friend of the show, Donna Barnes joins the conversation about generational curses. How much does how you are raised play a part in who you become? Maybe a lot or maybe a little. We also discuss how society judges children who come from certain environments. Valencia shares how being a control freak probably saved her from a lot of harmful behavior. Being raised in the same environment doesn't make people the same. Motivation and mentality may be the change maker in the life of most people. Join the conversation to learn how you can change the direction of generational curses. Key Topics and Things Mentioned: What exactly is a generational curse Environment vs DNA: who wins How to rise when you are different Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/gracefullypurposedcounseling/ (Follow Donna on social media) https://www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com/contact (www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 14: Nature vs Nurture: Breaking Generational Curses with Donna Barnes

Have you had "the talk" with your children about racism? In this episode, the queens discuss having to the talk with their children about racism and being black in America. Did 2020 show more racism or was it just brought more to the forefront by people who don't experience it? We also discuss "forgiveness" when racist acts take place and where we stand. In today's world, everyone should be having the talk not only with their children but their family and friends. Lyvonne shares how an incident prompted her to have the talk with her son. Whereas, Shannon's son ask questions and she gives him answers plus some. Either way, everyone should be honest with themselves and their children. If not, are you really preparing them for the world. Join the conversation to get tips to having those difficult conversations with the younger children in your family. Key Topics and Things Mentioned: The different ways we handled the talk Tips to having the talk with your children Preparing your children for the world Why people of all races need to have some form of the talk Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media) https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com) https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media) http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 13: Discussing Racism with Your Children with Lyvonne and Shannon

The conversation focuses on releasing and letting go of the things that happened in 2020. On this episode of After Dark host, Valencia discusses mental health with therapist, Donna Barnes. Donna gives shares how to release and then refocus on our own personal mental health. She also stresses the importance of acknowledging the stress that children may be going through and how to discuss it. 2020 affected everyone differently especially if you are an extroverted person. Feelings of despair may be overwhelming, however not dealing with the good, bad and ugly of 2020 will keep you from taking 2021 by the horns and succeeding. Join the conversation to hear how you can apply the lessons to have a better year. Key Topics and Things Mentioned: Accepting what you can not change Having tough conversations with your children How the pandemic affect introverts and extroverts differently Social distance and Emotional distance Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/gracefullypurposedcounseling/ (Follow Donna on social media) https://www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com/contact (www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 12: Releasing 2020 Stress and Get Mentally Healthy in 2021 with Donna Barnes

The conversation gets hot on this episode of After Dark, co-hosts Lyvonne and Shannon, join host Valencia to ring in the new year. Lyvonne shares how the loss of a family member taught her a valuable lesson that she needed to learn. Shannon took her lessons and applied it to leveling up on her finances. Valencia shares how she started growing tomatoes and it taught her valuable life lessons. We also realize that we were more prepared than we thought. The pandemic showed us that in order to grow, you must be buried. Join the conversation to hear how you can apply the lessons to have a better year. Key Topics and Things Mentioned: Learning what really mattered Dealing with things that fail expectations Being prepared for what's ahead How to go forward with the lessons learned Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (www.valenciagwallace.com) https://www.instagram.com/lyvonnecopeland/ (Follow Lyvonne on social media) https://www.lyvonnecopeland.com/ (www.lyvonnecopeland.com) https://www.instagram.com/thereal_che_don/ (Follow Shannon on social media) http://www.chedonmusic.com/index.html (www.chedonmusic.com) Connect with the show: https://www.facebook.com/thedefineu (The Define U on FB) https://www.instagram.com/thedefineu/ (The Define U on IG) Subscribe: You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast. If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research, or beliefs. Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) Support this podcast

After Dark 11: 2020 The Aftermath and Beyond with Lyvonne and Shannon

What did you learn in 2020? 2020 was the year of revelation! It revealed the cracks in the system and in our lives (personally and professionally).  In this episode, the host Valencia, breaks down the past lessons we should have learned and how to make sure 2021 is the year we all pull the trigger.  There were lessons learned and if you apply them, you will see how much 2020 made a difference.  Join the conversation and do your homework. Key Topics: The important things you learned How 2020 exposed the cracks in your life Going forward and applying the lessons Show Links https://www.facebook.com/valencia.gwallace (Follow Valencia on social media) https://www.valenciagwallace.com/ (Learn more about Valencia) Subscribe You can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast.  If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here. Join the Conversation Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations.  Sidenote: The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research,  or beliefs.  Do your research and think for yourself.  https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign) https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign (Support the show) (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

After Dark 10: Owning Up To 2020 And Running It In 2021

What did you learn in 2020?2020 was the year of revelation! It revealed the cracks in the system and in our lives (personally and professionally). In this episode, the host Valencia, breaks down the past lessons we should have learned and how to make sure 2021 is the year we all pull the trigger.  There were lessons learned and if you apply them, you will see how much 2020 made a difference. Join the conversation and do your homework.Key Topics:The important things you learnedHow 2020 exposed the cracks in your lifeGoing forward and applying the lessonsShow LinksFollow Valencia on social mediaLearn more about ValenciaSubscribeYou can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast.  If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here.Join the ConversationJoin the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations. Sidenote:The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research,  or beliefs.  Do your research and think for yourself. Support the show (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)Support the show (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

Would you support another Black Panther movie?After the sudden and shocking death of Chadwick Boseman, some of us wonder is this the end of the Black Panther movies.  Even though Chadwick Boseman played other iconic characters such as Thurgood Marshall, most people know him because of his role as Black Panther. What direction should the studios go now that he has passed? Today, friend of the show Black Panther stuntman, Jay Wells Jr (actor, stunt choreographer and more) discuss the future of the Black Panther series. We touch on the role of Killmonger, the Black Panther comics and why I think Wesley Snipes could never have played the part. Join the conversation to hear why or why not Black Panther can go on.Key Topics:The importance of Black Panther culturallyChadwick Boseman as an actorBlack Panther ComicsBlack Panther 2Who else could have played Black PantherShow LinksFollow Valencia on social mediaLearn more about ValenciaBlack Panther ComicsFollow Jay on social mediaLearn more about JaySubscribeYou can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast.  If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here.Join the ConversationJoin the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations. Sidenote:The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research,  or beliefs.  Do your research and think for yourself. Support the show (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

After Dark 9: Black Panther 2: Good or Bad Idea with Jay Wells Jr.

What does the pandemic have to do with the surge in domestic violence?Being in a domestic violence situation is hard enough without the current state of events.  Now more than ever, victims are suffering.  We can blame the stay at home orders, the loss of jobs and even evictions to the higher rates.  But, at the end of the day, would the numbers be there if the “situation” weren’t already present? October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Every October, we have a conversation about something that should be discussed daily.  In fact, friend of the show, Donna Barnes, LPC discuss that very question. Why aren’t people talking about domestic violence in households where it doesn’t exist? We also talk about a few safety tips for the woman or man that wants to leave.  Both of us share our personal stories, why a restraining order is a good thing and more! We even have a “mock” conversation to help friends of victims out.Join the conversation about domestic violence.Key TopicsRecognizing the signs of domestic violenceHow to have “the conversation” with suspected victimsBeing proactive versus reactive as a familyWhy the old adage “What goes on in this house…” is detrimentalShow LinksFollow Valencia on social mediaLearn more about Valencia (www.valenciagwallace.com)Domestic Violence Hotlines or 800.799.SAFE (7233)Follow Donna on social mediaLearn more about Donna (www.gracefullypurposedcounseling.com)SubscribeYou can subscribe to Define U Radio on iTunes, Google Podcast, and anywhere you listen to podcast.  If you liked the conversation, go on a listening binge here.Join the Conversation on social media using #DefineURadio and #AfterDarkConversations #DomesticViolenceSidenote:The opinions of the host and guest are our own and are not in any way meant to offend or sway your own thoughts, research,  or beliefs.  Do your research and think for yourself. Kinda Nice Tee Shirts and more for those Kinda Nice MomentsSupport the show (https://www.paypal.me/lifebydesign)

After Dark 8: The Rise of Domestic Violence During Covid-19 with Donna Barnes

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