DrBev, Am I a crisis junkie? I keep attracting Drama Queens. I feel like a magnet for sadness and misery relationships. How can I be addicted to feeling bad? Am I crazy? Don't people normally seek out pleasure rather than emotional pain? I create drama; choose bad boi/gurl friends and associates when things are going good in my life. I try to be productive and happy, but, it takes so such effort. Maybe, I have become accustomed to the pain and think that there is no solution to overcome it. Truth is, sometimes I don't feel worthy; Don't deserve to be happy, so I do things to sabotage the people, places and things that can let me be happy. Tonight, Emotions-R-Us will focus on self-misery and depression when your negativity feeds on itself. What are the symptoms and causes of a misery addiction? How does a childhood full of drama, trauma, and chaos connect to adult relationships and MISERY ADDICTION? Join DrBev and Guest, Dahni McPhail, Author “Two and a Possible”. A true to life fiction; real and personal representation of experiencing the reality and dangers of obsession and life threatening circumstances evolving from misery addicted relationships to “love gone mad”.

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Addicted to Chaos and Feeling Excited by the Misery

Have you ever had a misunderstanding with your Gurl and found yourself suddenly enraged or falling apart with intense tears? You thought that you were reacting to the present situation, but what was really happening is that an old, unhealed abandonment wound has been touched off. Join DrBev and her guest “Helen” a self-identified Lesbian, as she courageously shares her insights, life experiences and emotional pain. She talks openly and honestly about her abandonment issues and its effect on her sexual relationships. Together we will discuss, educate and give you tools that will save relationships time, pain, and emotional suffering.

SEXUAL CHAINS OF ABANDONMENT

Part two: Smooth talk may get a Bytch-B-Gone back into your bed. Know that betrayal, emotional violence and/or mental illness might crawl underneath the covers to rape your mind, one more, again. Join DrBev and Vonn Brown, Face Book Extraordinaire and Guest Host on tonight's show. We have two women who have agreed to share their intimate relationship details of drama, trauma, and emotional/physical chaos. One woman was in her relationship for almost twenty years, the year after she finally got away, her partner was diagnosed with 'Paranoid Schizophrenia'. Another Lesbian, out of her violent abusive relationship for several years, just by chance, sees her ex-partner and became so in fear for her life "Butch as I am, I ran not walked toward safety and away from her." Relationship violence will not take care of itself or miraculously disappear. Over time the chances are very good that your life and/or the lives of your children will be in danger. Want to get a jump-start, shorten your learning curve, check out the (3) books accompanying the show notes to give you knowledge and education. Have you taken DrBev's relationship quiz: Am I in an abusive relationship?

DrBev, More LGBTQ Dirty Secrets? YES, Return of the Abusive Partner, Betrayal & Mental Illness

SAN FRANCISCO—Simone, 54, female, lesbian, white, urban. I was with my abusive partner, Tasha, for ten years. “The most recent incident occurred when I told Tasha that I didn’t want to go on vacation with her. She exploded and started yelling, “I want you out of this house,” and threw my clothing and other belongings out of our home. I left and was too frightened to return. I eventually came back to pick up my belongings and Tasha pushed and shoved me, threatened to melt the hard drive on my computer, and said, “If you take anything from this house that is mine, you will draw your last breath.” Tasha threatened to kill me two more times while we were breaking up."Domestic violence in the GLBTQ community is a serious issue. The rates of domestic violence in same-gender relationships is roughly the same as domestic violence against heterosexual women. As in opposite-gendered couples, the problem is likely under-reported. Facing a system which is often oppressive and hostile towards those who identify as anything other than "straight", those involved in same-gender battering frequently report being afraid of revealing their sexual orientation or the nature of their relationship. Emotions R Us Special guest include a woman courageous enough to share her story of domestic violence. Also, Ordained Paster, Lesbian, Vonn Brown who is passionate about cancer, bullying, suicide, especially teen; Abuse of any form Specifically Women on Women, infidelity, honesty communication, family, and solidarity. Embracing Life, Seeing that her days are filled with good. Seeking to bless, love, support and not hurt. Snubbing evil, cultivating good, running after Peace for all my worth. While Living My Life and Being There For Others In Truth and Love.

DrBev is Airing the Dirty Secret Hiding in the Closet - DOMESTIC VIOLENCE in the LBGTQ community

Special Exclusive Interview with Mike Hally, he is a 100% disabled Veteran and the main consultant, and trainer, with 53 years of experience with dogs, he has a way of "talking" and making the dogs respond. His life-mission is to provide obedient dogs to disabled veterans of all war eras, to help them overcome their invisible disabilities in order to become more productive and functional members of society, while informing the public of the need for Service Dogs in addition to Seeing Eye dogs. Mike Halley's Motto: To rescue disabled Veterans and dogs, and build, "one team at a time".

K9’s for Veterans Saving dogs and Veterans One team at a time

According to Patrik Jonsson(FB), here's pretty much what all of Atlanta, and much of the country, is talking about right now: http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/2010/0922/Bishop-Eddie-Long-case-Will-it-alter-black-church-s-view-of-gays. "The point is not whether [Long] is gay or not or he denies or admits it, but this is really about how people [in the black community] FEEL that black people should be represented in public, and that is about being heterosexual," says Melinda Chateauvert, an African-American studies professor at the University of Maryland, in College Park. "There are [millions] of black people who are gay, members of families, pastors of churches, who serve in the military – they're everywhere. But the deliberate closeting – not necessarily by them, but by other people – is really problematic."Jeremiah Camara, wrote The deeper issue at hand has to do with why so many so-called “men of God” are accused of sex crimes. In the Black church, homosexuality is not a new phenomenon—it’s just more in the open nowadays. Gay, Black men are often the most demonstrative in displaying their love for Jesus and are among the most dedicated members of their churches.Long, who is married, built his mega-church on his prodigious charisma, often defending his ostentatious lifestyle, which includes a $350,000 Bentley and a $1.4 million home. Close friends of Long told CNN Tuesday that the pastor has become more humble in recent years, even complaining of a sense of loneliness. One way Long connects with his church members is by talking about his failings, including a first marriage and rejection from his father, writes CNN's John Blake, who covered Long during a stint as religion reporter for the Atlanta Journal-Constitution.

HOMOS Out of Their Comfort Zone in the Black Church: What's Your Pleasure Treasure?

The rest of the story..."It Is What It Is, Dr. Liz and I will back with a part two of the last show. At the request of our listeners, we are thrill that so many of you responded in kind "I want to speak my truth and say what happen to me as a a child, teenage, and/or adult." Emotions-R-Us will continue WHAT THE F.... was I Thinking - LESSONS I learned as a child. Reality is the only way we do Emotions-R-Us will keep it REAL & RAW. My Nana would say, "You Special, But you ain't that special." You are not the Only One. Sadly, there are more, Ask Oprah, Mackenzie Phillips, or Kathryn Harrison. As it was in your Past, So it is Currently. Act like you know:All types of child abuse and neglect leave lasting scars. Some of these scars might be physical, but emotional scarring has long lasting effects throughout life, damaging a child’s sense of self, ability to have healthy relationships, and ability to function at home, at work and/or at school. Ahh, What the Fu.. was I thinking? What!!!"How be so ever, When I didn't know, I just didn't Know. Now, that I know I Know, I will NOW, act like I KNOW. "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing her/himself."

WTF was I thinking part 2: What? Stockholm Syndrome What!!!

Contrary to this old saying, emotional abuse can severely damage a child’s mental health or social development, leaving lifelong psychological scars. Aside from the physical damage that sexual abuse can cause, the emotional component is powerful and far-reaching. Sexually abused children are tormented by shame, abandonment, and guilt. While physical abuse might be the most visible sign, other types of abuse, such as emotional abuse or child neglect, also leave deep, long lasting scars. Some signs of child abuse are subtler than others.Child abuse doesn't only happen in poor families or bad neighborhoods. It crosses all racial, economic, and cultural lines. Sometimes, families who seem to have it all from the outside are hiding a different story behind closed doors. While abuse by strangers does happen, most abusers are family members or others close to the family. Emotional scarring has long lasting effects throughout life, damaging a child’s sense of self, ability to have healthy relationships, and ability to function at home, at work and at school. Abuse by a primary caregiver damages the most fundamental relationship as a child that you will safely, reliably, get your physical and emotional needs met by the person who is responsible for your care. Sexual abuse survivors, with the stigma and shame surrounding the abuse, often especially struggle with a feeling of being damaged. Abused children cannot express emotions safely. As a result, the emotions get stuffed down, coming out in unexpected ways. Adult survivors of child abuse can struggle with unexplained anxiety, depression, or anger. They may turn to alcohol or drugs to numb out the painful feelings.

WTF was I thinking… Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?

What!!! DrBev, how can I manage my difficult emotions without going postal?Hate. Pain. Revenge. Don’t want to love. Can’t love because…– Rasheed Lee’s emotions spilled out silently in the room full of Jacksonville youths torn by tragedy (jim.schoettler@jacksonville.com.) Rasheed and 53 other Jacksonville boys and girls ages 7 to 17 spent the weekend mixing solemn group therapy — disguised as expressive arts and crafts exercises — with swimming and other fun during the second annual Camp Maddie. The camp is designed in part for young homicide survivors to express their feelings among peers familiar with such emotions, said Glen Mitchell, co-founder of Compassionate Families the kids realize they are not alone. “How do you cope when somebody’s left?” “I believe you start to learning how to live with the hand you have been dealt. When my dad died .... I didn’t talk to nobody. That went on for two years,” another teen said. “I had to realize that by him being gone, I can’t throw my life away. I’m pretty sure he’d like to see me succeed in the end.” A 10-year-old girl wrote, Daddy, I miss you so much. I wish I could see you again. Someday I will when I come to those beautiful clouds with golden streets. Daddy, you don’t know how much I miss you. I love you. Sociologists say "The perpetrators of violent actions have contracted a 'social psychological infectious disease' that shows itself in a desire to take revenge on society, and reflect the tragic consequences of ignoring mental illness and rising stress resulting from huge social inequalities.

Mind-Rape? What? “Emotions that are Self-Deprecating, Abusive, and Demoralizing you feel worthless

You didn’t see it coming, What? What! One day, you are intensely in love. You’re cuddling on the couch, reading love poems, feeding each other strawberries and playing with ‘whip cream’. Love between two people is the most dangerous of adventures and the most beautiful. To be loved can be the greatest of compliments and the greatest of burdens. "How could you have missed the signs?" Breaking up is never easy. Your ego and heart are bound to get injured. But, what if you could just see the breakup coming; it might make the whole relationship ‘thang’ easier to stomach. While hindsight is 20/20, there are always warning signals along the way. If you're alone right now, there's a healthier way of thinking that will better prepare you to make fulfilling romantic choices. DrBev, Emotion-R-Us, Psychotherapeutic radio talk show is here to assist you as you gain insight, define goals, and plan actions to achieve effective solutions to satisfying, healthy relationships with “self” and “others”. Learn how to turn everything in your favor when you seize the emotional initiative and take control of your life. What? Didn't they tell you love, passion and relationships are part of the human life condition. ACT LIKE YOU KNOW. HOLLA’ WHAT!!! Are you settling for the wrong person just because it's the right time; hoping to change someone into what you want them to be; not having the foresight to choose someone who can grow and change alongside you; wishfully believing that some magical, transformational person is waiting around the corner to whisk you to your exciting new life. The list is endless and at its core is the need to find someone -- anyone -- to be with, at least until someone better comes along. Emotions can weaken and strengthen our reasoning!!! Not all relationships have to be permanent to be worthwhile. The mission of today’s show is to save you time, pain, and suffering.

“YOU MAKE ME SICK” Top five signs you’re about to get dumped!!!

Emotions r us for those who experience early life struggles of fear, shame, guilt or pain and/or emotionally age inappropriate moments. DrBev, Certified Gestalt Psychotherapist, offers common sense, life information to help you help you.

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