Lyn is joined by New York Times best-selling author, Laura Doyle, also a relationship intimacy skills coach, who discusses her principles around life and marriage, and how we can use these skills to empower ourselves and positively inspire our husbands/ partners to be and achieve much more. KEY TAKEAWAYS The principles are based around 6 intimacy skills 1. Self Care 2. Relinquishing Control 3. Respect 4. Receiving 5, Vulnerability 6. Gratitude These skills form the basis of self empowerment and positive transformations that can take place within a marriage/ relationship. They take focus and effort, but with practice are proven to work. Self care is a skill we must nurture to replenish our spirit - to make ourselves happy - do three things each day that fill you with joy and light you up. Taking responsibility for making ourselves happy, means we will be happier with life in general, which will positively impact our relationships. The essence of femininity is to receive gracefully. If someone offers you appreciation, such as with a gift or a compliment, we can receive with gratitude or we can choose to self-deprecate or act undeserving. Always feel deserving and be thankful for the appreciation being offered. BEST MOMENTS 'I had this idea that I was going to help my husband be more ambitious' 'We saw miracles happen' 'These principles become a way of life' 'Only happy people have happy relationships'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Laura Doyle - Best-Selling Author & Relationship Intimacy Skills Coach New York Times Bestselling Author Laura Doyle was the perfect wife...until she actually got married. When she told her husband how to be tidier, more romantic, and more ambitious, he avoided her. So she dragged him to marriage counselling and nearly divorced him! In desperation, she asked happily married women for their secrets, and that’s when she got her miracle: the man who had wooed her returned. Laura’s mission is to end world divorce. She has helped over 15,000 women fix their relationships--even the hopeless ones--without their husband’s effort. But the thing that Laura is most proud of is her gratifying 31-year marriage with her hilarious husband John, who has been dressing himself since before she was born. Website: https://lauradoyle.org LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauramdoyle Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauradoyle.org Twitter: https://twitter.com/lauramdoyle Podcast: https://lauradoyle.org/podcasts ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hearts Entwined Podcast

The Empowered Wife: Six Surprising Secrets - with Laura Doyle

The effects of narcissistic abuse can be devastating, not only to the relationship, but to our sense of self and who we are. In this episode, Lyn talks to relationship coach and bounce-back specialist, Marie T Fraser, about the ways in which we can rebuild and come back stronger. KEY TAKEAWAYS The first step in rebuilding is to acknowledge that we have been hurt, and having the courage to speak out in some way. Don't let shame stop you seeking help or advice. There is usually a great sense of self-blame suffered by those in the aftermath of narcissist abuse. By vocalising, we can help others to recognise that they are not alone. A common narcissistic sign to watch out for, is the initial period of "love-bombing", which makes victims feel special and that they are the only thing that matters. The best course of action is to always listen to our inner voice - our gut reaction is there to steer us away from danger. BEST MOMENTS 'A lot of women and men suffer in silence' 'A narcissist never thinks they are wrong. They will try to convince you that black is white' 'The damage they can do is incredibly pervasive' 'You lose the confidence to trust your instincts'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Marie T Fraser Marie spent many years in demanding corporate positions managing international law firms in London.  She was married for 27 years to a narcissist and has two children, one of whom is disabled. Today as a clinical hypnotherapist, transformational therapist, certified life coach, the creator of Bounce Back After Break-Up and her own personal experiences, Marie is committed to supporting women to redesign their future, and bring fun, freedom and joy back into their lives, whilst ditching the limiting beliefs associated with a relationship break-up and narcissistic abuse. Marie’s valuers are courage, fun, freedom, justice and authenticity.  They are the core of who she is and what she brings to her practice.  Deep relaxation audio https://bit.ly/DeepRelaxing Website www.mariefraser.com Instagram www.instagram.com/mariefraser__ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Rebuilding Your life After Narcissistic Abuse - with Marie T Fraser

COVID has meant that lockdowns & restrictions have impacted the way we live, which may have made it more difficult for those in search of love. In this week's episode, Lyn talks to Sandra Myers, a matchmaker and founder of Select Date Society, about the ways in which we can successfully start dating, even during these more challenging times. KEY TAKEAWAYS Despite us having reservations, COVID has actually provided a huge boost to the dating & matchmaking industry. People haven't been able to get out and socailise as much, so there has been a massive increase in people using online dating & matchmaking services. Humans are social creatures so people are yearning for connection. Love is the strongest natural force in the world. Many think that factors like a pandemic would dampen this force, but actually the opposite is true. When we are denied the comfort of receiving love and connection it only serves to make our passion to give and feel it that much stronger. BEST MOMENTS 'What you pay attention to, gets bigger' 'People need love now more than ever' 'What you feel and think attracts those who are like-minded' 'You want to share your rewards and successes with someone'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST - Sandra Myers Sandra Myers is the Co-Founder & President of Select Date Society, a luxury matchmaking firm. Sandra has been a matchmaker and relationship expert for over 25 years. She is known as the “go to” matchmaker for celebrities, politicians, and executives throughout the United States. Sandra and her partner Amber Lee started SDS with the idea of bringing a Ritz Carlton level of service to the dating industry. Their boutique high end luxury service represents elite singles nationwide. Their priority for the company was to take care of client’s hearts and in turn also take care of hearts in need of assistance in health. They give back by donating a portion of their fees to the American Heart Association. To learn more about the story of their deep connection to the American Heart Association please visit Website https://selectdatesociety.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How To Successfully Date During COVID - with Sandra Myers

This week, Lyn talks to author Loren Keeling about, What Type Of Man? Betrayal, Abandonment, Post-Separation Abuse", her book about her journey as a survivor of emotional abuse, and the ways in which she wants to help others heal and move past the scars of emotional trauma. KEY TAKEAWAYS Emotional trauma feels as though many pieces of a relationship have been tossed into the air, with each piece falling down at random to create chaos at any one moment. Emotional abuse turns us into unrecognisable versions of ourselves. It turns us from the person we knew into something more raw, strange, lost and confused. We are often left not just in tatters emotionally, but also in terms of practicality when it comes to being able to function effectively. The aftershocks of abuse resonate through every area of our lives. BEST MOMENTS 'I realised quickly that the relationship wasn't what I thought it was' 'I'm not an angry person. It takes a lot to push me' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Loraine Marshall / Author pen name - Loren Keeling Loraine believes that in order to be successful you have to have a positive outlook on life and go after what you really want to achieve, even if you have no clue how you will get there. Loraine’s ambition is to create multiple streams of income from online businesses and help other women who find themselves in difficult financial circumstances to do the same. After experiencing all three of the three D's, Divorce, Death of a spouse and abrupt Discard, Loraine contributed a chapter in a collaborative book entitled "Faces of Mental Illness" which will be published in October 2021. Loraine has also recently started writing her first book "What Type Of Man?" about her experience of hidden emotional abuse in her relationship (under the pen name Loren Keeling). "What Type Of Man?" Betrayal, Abandonment and Post Separation Abuse Written to highlight the impact of domestic abuse and all the women who don’t survive. Who were not able to get through the trauma and gave up on themselves and their future. Suicide facts, 200 women taking their own lives and 10,000 attempting to do so due to domestic abuse every year in the UK. That's nearly 30 women attempting to complete suicide every single day. May 28, 2021 https://www.hestia.org/ Written for all the women who have been in or are still in a controlling or emotionally abusive relationship, who felt trapped and couldn't find a way to leave. To highlight the myth of being in a common-law marriage and the gap in the Laws when a relationship fails and results in conflict or post-separation abuse. Website: https://lifechangeplans.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lifechangeplans Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifechangeplan YouTube: https://bit.ly/lcpvideos My first book:- Publishing as Loren Keeling. "What Type Of Man?" Betrayal, Abandonment, Post Separation Abuse. Support My First Book Launch https://lifechangeplans.com/support-my-first-book-launch/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What Type of Man? Betrayal, Abandonment, Post-Separation Abuse - with Loren Keeling

Rebuilding trust once it has been broken, can take time, and a task that some may see as insurmountable, but as Lyn's special guest this week, relationship transformation coach Tabitha Jane explains, there are ways to overcome trust issues and get relationships back on track. KEY TAKEAWAYS If we enter a new relationship carrying the baggage of unresolved trust issues, we unconsciously project a lack of trust in our thinking, words and behaviour. When we are projecting a lack trust from our own mind and self, the irony is that we will attract those less trustworthy, as our energy will seek to match us with those who will prove that our lower ego mind self (rather than our higher intuitive heart self) is right.  Many of us assume that if we see perceived flaws in another person, we can somehow 'fix' them. But this is misguided. We can inspire people to become the best versions of themselves but postive change has to come internally from a persons own free will. BEST MOMENTS 'I became clear and attached to the kind of relationship I wanted' 'What you focus on is what you attract' 'It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Tabitha Jane LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tabitha-jane-760638a/?originalSubdomain=uk ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How To Overcome Trust Issues - with Tabitha Jane

Dipping our toe back into the dating pool can seem like a daunting prospect after a long time away. But it doesn't have to be scary. This week, Lyn is joined by Alex Mellor-Brook, the co-founder of Select Personal Introductions, who gives some practical advice on how you can re-enter the dating world with more confidence. KEY TAKEAWAYS Generally women are more likely to reach out for self-help & guidance from others. Usually men seem less willing to ask for help, they prefer to be more autonomous and figure things out for themselves. Strong relationships are built upon healthy communication. If we have effective communication as the foundation, then the relationship is far more likely to last and be happy. Building a network of friends who will be there for you, and to whom you can open up is essential (especially for women) in providing a safety net whilst we're looking for love. Opening ourselves up to love is about looking deep within ourselves and identifying what's fundamentally important to us. BEST MOMENTS 'It's about finding that support network' 'We ought not to be trying to force men to open up' 'It's about making sure the network of friends you have are not toxic' 'You've got to decide what you want' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Alex Mellor-BrookCo-founder & MD at Select Personal Introductions Alex is a Certified International Matchmaker & Dating Expert. He's also an Elected Council Member for the Association of British Introduction Agencies, helping protect consumers. He provides executive matchmaking, with a team of professional matchmakers for exceptional singles. His experience and expertise in matchmaking is extensive. For over two decades, Alex has successfully combined the ethos of matchmaking tradition with modern relationship psychology and search techniques to help Select Personal Introductions professional clientele find their ultimate mate. Alex is highly regarded as the 'go to' authority within the dating industry, with regular appearances on TV, radio & in press across the globe. Company name: Select Personal Introductions Website: https://www.selectservices.co.uk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selectpersonalintroductions/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/selectpersonalintroductions Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexmellorbrook/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How Do I Start Dating Again? - with Alex Mellor-Brook

This week, Lyn talks to executive matchmaker and relationship coach, Linda Goldfischer, about the joy we can find in the process of dating itself - the qualities we should aim to find in a partner, as well as Linda's own golden rules to having successful relationships. KEY TAKEAWAYS There nine fruits of the spirit - love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. If we wish to reap the positive benefits of love, then we must make sure that we ourselves are planting seeds of positivity. We should always attempt to listen more than we speak. We have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Many choose to bulldoze over the voices of others in an attempt to prove their point, but this can lead to miscommunication or not feeling heard which will likely produce a negative outcome. Sometimes we get discouraged from percieved failures or rejections in the dating world, but we can choose to remain postive and view the situation differently and realise that every 'no' from someone who's not right for us, takes us closer to a 'yes' from someone who is. We can make the decision to look at every new opportunity at happiness from a hopeful perspective. BEST MOMENTS 'We're going to sow what we reap' 'Communicate honestly!' 'A good way of finding a healthy relationship is to follow these golden rules' 'Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Linda Goldfischer LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-goldfischer-18b41724/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Joy Of Dating - with Linda Goldfischer

Have you ever wondered how matchmaking works? In this week's show, Lyn talks to May Bugenhagen, who has more than a decade of professional matchmaking and coaching experience. May reveals the answers to all things matchmaking, and how it could be a means to helping you find your way to love. KEY TAKEAWAYS Matchmaking is the art of talking to clients, finding out who they truly are, and finding the people that would be a good fit with that client. Hiring a matchmaker is wonderful for people who do not have the time to go out and find someone for themselves. This is why many succesful entrepreneurs and people in the corporate world use these services. Matchmaking is a discreet service designed to protect the anonymity of those who use it, meaning that private details are kept that way. Many look for superficial qualities in people when searching for love. But the things that really matter go beyond looks and physical attributes. BEST MOMENTS 'My best superpower is that I'm very nosey!' 'It's really for someone who is accomplished and values privacy' 'They meet quality people - it's not about quantity' 'I've never heard anyone say that their husband is a good father to their kids because he's tall'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  May Bugenhagen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermay/?hl=en Matchmaker May - https://matchmakermay.com/team/may/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Curious About Matchmaking? Your Questions Answered - with May Bugenhagen

This week, Lyn is joined by Helen Snape, a healthy relationship coach, to talk about people-pleasing. Some people go all out to please others, sometimes at the cost of their own happiness. As Lyn and Helen discuss, bringing happiness to others can be a very special gift, but always needs to be in moderation and balanced with giving love & happiness to self first. KEY TAKEAWAYS No one teaches us how to conduct healthy relationships. We learn along the way. But we should never be afraid to ask for guidance and be open to receive outside expert support and help. A people pleaser is someone who has trouble saying "no". They say "yes" to everyone else, except themselves. They prioritise others over themselves. Healthy boundaries are a good thing to have in a relationship. We should make sure we set healthy boundaries and realise we deserve to be treated well and not keep easily forgiving unacceptable behaviour without consequence. We gain respect and change our lives for the better by doing so. If others react badly to our setting of relationship boundaries, then we must remember that this is their problem that they need to work on, not ours. BEST MOMENTS 'I lost myself' 'Some people are too nice for their own good' 'People pleasers will ignore or minimise their own feelings' 'You can live with uncomfortable feelings!'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Helen Snape - Healthy Relationships Coach Helen helps ‘good girls’ reclaim their power, voice and find fulfilling relationships by building boundaries, confidence and effective communication skills. Helen has been coaching for over 10 years, has a degree in Psychology from the University of Warwick and is qualified in mindfulness and coaching with trauma. An award-winning speak Helen has been interviewed on BBC Radio, the Women’s Economic Forum and been featured in Happiful magazine. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelenSnapeCoaching/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helen.snape/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/helensnape/ Website: https://www.helensnape.com ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are You A People-Pleaser? - with Helen Snape

This week, Lyn talks to Julie Foster, an intuitive grief coach, specialising in helping others to gain new perspectives so they can embrace and celebrate life. Julie joins Lyn to talk about dating after loss and the most common mistakes we make, and how best to avoid them. KEY TAKEAWAYS When we lose a partner, it can cause serious heartbreak and leave a gaping chasm inside that seems destined to be there forever. But with determination and will, we can heal our heart and get back to leading a normal fulfilling life once more. When we're ready to start dating after losing a partner, it's common to see how a new suitor compares with our old partner in many ways. But we must remember that everyone is different with their own uinque personality and traits. We must look for what's on offer and base our decisions on who a prospective partner is right now and not fall in love with a fantasy person we hope they'll turn out to be. We can sometimes romanticise a partner and fall in love with someone so much, that we choose to look past red flags, so always use discernment and trust your intuition. BEST MOMENTS 'I've tried to use my own life experience to help others' 'On one date I thought I was being interviewed for a housekeeper's job!' 'I have found amazing freedom and lots of myself that I didn't know I had' 'You can not fall in love with the potential of somebody' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Julie Foster LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-foster-awidowscoach/?originalSubdomain=uk ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are You Making These Dating Mistakes? - with Julie Foster

What do we do when our feelings towards our partners go stale after the initial rush of love? In this week's show, Lyn is joined by relationship expert and professional matchmaker, Julia McCurley, they discuss how to keep that fire alive - how best to date your mate... KEY TAKEAWAYS We can keep the spark alive by reminding ourselves to care for our significant other. Look for ways to show that you still care - big or small. We may believe that grand gestures are the ones that matter most, when in reality, small moments of affection and understanding are far more effective and appreciated. We may not always be in the mood for love and romance, but once it's been initiated we may be surprised and really enjoy ourselves. Disconnecting from the world via phones, computers and other devices, is invaluable in letting your partner know that they really matter to you. Give them the gift of your full presence and attention. BEST MOMENTS 'There are all kinds of things we can do to make him/ her feel more special' 'Small gestures in a relationship are what make the difference' 'Anything can wait for an hour. Turn off those phones!' 'There's a way that you want to show your love and the way you want to receive your love' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Julia McCurley is a Professional Matchmaker, Relationship Coach and CEO of Something More - Austin's premier Matchmaking service. She has been creating happy couples since 2009 and has helped hundreds of singles on their journey to finding love. Her blogs have been published on the Huffington Post, Good Men Project, She Knows, Emlovz and The Dating Truth. She also just published her first book, Game Set Match: A Professional Matchmaker's Advice on How to Win At the Game Of Love. Website - https://www.trysomethingmore.com Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/juliamccurley/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How To Date Your Mate - with Julia McCurley

This week, Lyn is joined by Rebecca Lowrie, an expert in men's sexuality, self-awareness and personal/ spiritual development, who joins the podcast to discuss the concept of Sexual Alchemy - what it means, and how you can achieve it with your partner. KEY TAKEAWAYS Sexual Alchemy is a profound transformational journey and process that leaves you more confident, self-aware and deeply connected to who 'you' really are. Our energies connect more naturally with certain people than others (regardless of their gender). This is not a fault, it's just a vibrational matching of energies with others who are operating on the same level/ frequency. Sexual chemistry and alchemy is greatly enhanced by adding the spiritual element to any acts of intimacy. We do this by connecting the energy and the soul during  lovemaking which deeply amplify our feelings and overall experience of ourselves and our partner. Alchemy work clears away any negative conditioning, habits or behaviour patterns that have been unconsciously imposed on us by society, so that we can embrace the best version of ourselves that we have always desired to be. BEST MOMENTS 'It's several things at once - in the same way that light can be a particle and a wave' 'I've finally reached where I'm supposed to be' 'There's a lot more to intimacy'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Rebecca Lowrie Website - https://www.sexualalchemy.com ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What Is Sexual Alchemy? - with Rebecca Lowrie

This week, Lyn talks to life coach, Seth Katz about healing from abuse, including the journey Seth himself took in order to overcome his own trauma, and how he now helps others to do the same. KEY TAKEAWAYS When it comes to healing, the first step is to admit that pain has been caused. This can be difficult, especially for many men, because they want to be perceived as strong, and in their mind they may feel it's weak to talk about how any past abuse has affected them. The after-effects of abuse manifest themselves in many ways, including self harm, addictions, unhealthy relationships and exuding negative personality traits. We may not know it at the time, but the wounds can run far deeper than we think. Left unchecked abuse can cling on to the darker corners of our souls and affect each moment of every day whether we realise it or not. Reaching out for help & support is the road to healing and discovering more about ourselves, and also provides the insights and techniques for removing any guilt, shame and blame being harboured inside us. BEST MOMENTS 'Nowadays men are talking more and sharing their experiences more' 'It's healthy to express and show that side' 'I thought maybe this is having a greater effect on me than I thought' 'Subconsciously, we're walking around with dents, marks and holes' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Seth Katz Seth was sexually abused as child at the age of 10 years old it really affected his self-esteem and how he valued himself which led on to a life of failed relationships, destructive self-soothing behaviours and anxieties. Eventually through therapy he was able to heal from his childhood trauma and he’s now living a happy, healthy and worry-free life. This experience inspired him to become a Life Coach so he can help survivors (men & women) reach a place of understanding, peace and healing. Website: www.selfloveafterabuse.com Facebook: seth Katz Instagram: sethkatz ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Healing From Abuse - with Seth Katz

This week, Lyn talks to relationship and mindset transformation coach, Preeti Mistry, who specialises in helping young single professionals overcome any inner resistance to finding love, and about the importance of having the right mind-set when it comes to developing healthy relationships. KEY TAKEAWAYS We subconsciously exude certain energies when it comes to dating. If we don't have the awareness of how these energies work, we can often repel others without us even knowing it. We must look into how to get to know ourselves really well, and be clear on the relationship we wish to attract, before we can truely hope to find lasting, healthy love. Our external behaviours will reflect our inner beliefs. If our inner beliefs are negative, then they will manifest as negative actions or non actions and attract negative experiences. We cannot hope to make people like us by being a people pleaser. We must have healthy boundaries in place & remember our value, self worth, independence and uniqueness, and hold them front and centre at all times. BEST MOMENTS 'I was somebody who used to feel not so passionate about life in general' 'Our subconscious mind is a very powerful tool' 'We shift the internal ambience for ourselves, and little by little, we change things' 'There is going to be a point where we challenge our comfort zone'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Preeti Mistry is a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach whose journey into life coaching began when she felt a higher calling to continue to serve humanity. Preeti is also a healthcare professional, a painter, a dancer and nature lover. As someone who is a young professional in her 30’s, her chosen niche as a relationship mindset transformation coach was due to her own particular struggles, and also noticing that this was a common problem that plagued many others she knew. Here were these amazing young professionals and entrepreneurs who had so much to give and deserved to have love in their life, yet still found themselves single. And now she is more passionate than ever to help others become unstuck when it comes to love. Her mission is to help these high achievers uncover their blind spots and move past their particular internal obstacles with regards to their love life and empower them to put their Best Self Forward so they can Dare to manifest their dream relationship into a reality. IG: @bestselfforward.pm LInkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/preeti-m-6621821b8 FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/bestselfforward.pm ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What Is Your Relationship Mindset? - with Preeti Mistry

In this episode, Lyn talks to love and success coach, Frida Bruhn, a survivor of domestic abuse, about the tricky subject of narcissism in a relationship and how best we can ensure that we come out safely on the other side. KEY TAKEAWAYS Being in an abusive relationship can affect us in all kinds of ways. It usually results in feeling confused and losing ourselves and our sense of identity. Abuse sufferers sometimes come to the conclusion that by remaining in the relationship and working at it, it will result in everything being resolved. But this is just not true. Beneath any anger & resentment is fear. Fear turns us into a version of ourselves that we do not recognise. We all deserve to live a happy and fulfulfilling life and to feel safe. No matter how tough it might seem, we all have the strength within us to break free from an abusive relationship. When we do, we realise just how powerful we truly are. BEST MOMENTS 'If you feel it's wrong then it is wrong' 'What's happening is a kind of trauma' 'I don't know how I survived it - it must have been my inner strength'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher  ABOUT THE GUEST Frida Bruhn is a Life & Success Coach. She has been working as an actress, editor and speaker for more than 25 years. Frida lived years of her life on autopilot in constant flight and fight mode. By failing, doubting, trying, and getting up again and again, she finally broke the vicious cycle of perfectionism, hurt and repetition and left two toxic relationships behind. The one with herself and the one with others. Frida now lives an abundant life, committing to Freedom daily. As a trusted advisor, Frida coaches clients around the globe on overcoming perfectionism, finding purpose, success and fulfilment. As a proud mom of six powerful kids she enjoys exploring the world with them.  Website www.fridabruhn.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/fridacarolinebruhn/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frida-caroline-bruhn-9688a31a6/?originalSubdomain=de ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How To Leave A Narcissist - with Frida Bruhn

Love, Dating & Relationship support, guidance, advice and tips with Lyn Smith – The Queen of HEARTS. Lyn cares and personally understands what it’s like to have suffered sexual violence (in her teens) and how that negatively affected her personal relationships; she subsequently turned all that around and now has a lasting healthy relationship which is full of passion, intimacy and fulfilment. If you’ve ever had: *Unhealthy relationships full of drama and conflicts *Unfulfilling relationships where there has been little or no passion or *Real healthy passion in a relationship and want to know how you can you re-ignite the flame Lyn’s been there and is here to help you heal past hurts, traumas and heartbreak and attract/ create the healthy deep loving relationship you truly want and deserve. She’s on a mission to make a positive global impact in reducing divorce, domestic violence & suicide. So if you want real, healthy passion, intimacy and fulfilment in your love life and are open to listening to the wisdom of some controversial truths about relationships delivered in Lyn’s easy to understand – makes a lot of sense – style, then we invite you to listen the 'HEARTS Entwined’ podcast….

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