There are many challenges to being a creative person. I’ve experienced many of those challenges, and we’ve discussed many of them here on the show. Today’s show will inspire us to make it through a crisis situation to thrive in your craft. In addition, we’ll be taking a sabbatical of sorts after today’s show, but Her Rules Radio will be back soon with more interesting guests and perspectives. Christine Dixon is an actress whom I met on Instagram. Since then, we’ve had many email and video conversations, and I knew that her story was one that my listeners needed to hear. Her experiences bring up many themes around the obstacles that creative thinkers face in putting their work and ideas out into the world. Chris has been performing her one-woman show, Harriet Tubman, for years. She has incredible stories about the challenges she’s overcome to deliver this performance. It’s a combination of education and entertainment that brings empowerment to each audience. Chris shares with us how she faced the fear of failure and rejection and learned to adapt to tough situations. She demonstrates how to think positively and proactively while reaching out for help when it’s needed. She shares how we can keep moving forward, so we live with no regrets. I hope you’re inspired to help support Chris and her amazing work. Her story is a beautiful ribbon as we wrap up the package that is this season of Her Rules Radio. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/255

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268: Harriet Tubman Herself with Actress Christine Dixon

This show is all about living life by your own rules. One of the challenging areas in which we need to break the rules is in setting boundaries. It’s an ongoing battle for many people--and for most women. Let’s dive into this topic and learn more! Nancy Levin has written a new book, Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free, and she’s busted a lot of myths around setting boundaries. We’re discussing the nitty-gritty of boundary setting, and Nancy is sharing truth bombs to revolutionize your life and your relationships. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/254.  

267: Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free with Nancy Levin

Creativity, Compassion, Courage... The 3 C's we need now.   We need to be creative to solve big, new problems we're all facing…   ...and we need to be creative to heal, grow into, and discover our best selves.   We need compassion for each other if we're going to come together and survive as a species…   ... and we need compassion for ourselves so we can embrace our failures, failings, and fuck-ups, and continue to grow and achieve.   We need COURAGE to change habits that lead to the healing we want, the growth we desire, the relationships we dream of…   ... and we need COURAGE to dismantle the unjust systems we live in, speak uncomfortable truths, and stand up for what we believe in.   Becoming an Artist has required all 3 of these - some days all at the same time. STAYING an Entrepreneur has required all of these… every day.   Today, I’m excited to invite you to the Creatrix Circle 2020, a 28-day group experience with:   The support and accountability you need The inspiration you desire The community and coaching you’ll love…   See the info here, and sign up! http://bit.ly/Create28

266: Creativity, Courage, and Compassion

We know that every woman’s worst critic is . . . herself. It’s a sad but true fact. Why do we spend so much time and energy berating and judging ourselves for falling short of our perfectionist ideals? Why can’t we embrace the truth of who we were created to be and who we have become through the ups and downs of life? This might be just the interview that you need to hear today. In this episode, we discuss some juicy topics for women. What if you took the energy you spend on self-improving and bashing your body in chasing impossible standards of perfectionism and channeled that energy into things that truly bring you alive? Join us! You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/253

264: Discovering Your Feminine Genius with LiYana Silver

Your thinking, clarity, and the ability to be present as a creative leader are tied to how you nourish your body with meals and snacks. A change to how and what you eat can improve how you think. Want to know more? Join us! You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/252

263: This is Your Brain on Food with Dr. Uma Naidoo

Have a tough time making and keeping personal boundaries? You're not alone! In this episode you'll learn: Alex's most popular and commented upon boundary (that keeps her distraction-free) The 2 questions to ask yourself and others to help you define powerful, compassionate boundaries Pre-order your copy of Radical Alignment at www.RadicalAlignmentBook.com to master this and the All-In Method, and get your bonuses here! 

262 BOUNDARIES: Make, Share & Keep Them

Ever struggle with shame? Imposter Syndrome?  Yeah, me too.    When a client experiences shame, they live in constant fear of being rejected. And they become trapped in the avoidance strategies they create to escape the pain. However, shame left untreated grows more powerful. And it can often lead our clients into behaviors that invite even greater shame.   I’m going to show you the ONE thing that has been studied and shown to dissolve them BOTH - the ONLY studied method used by professional trauma therapists and researchers…   AND I’m going to show you how the All-In Method, the tool at the heart of our book Radical Alignment, works to dissolve BOTH.   HUGE new info coming to my attention: Bessel Van Der Kolk, author of the body keeps the score, in a special course from The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine   The one counterintuitive technique that removes the fear of rejection from shame… it’s the same one that dissolves imposter syndrome…SHARING YOUR SHAME AND FEAR OF BEING SHAMED WITH SOMEONE SAFE, IN A NON-JUDGMENTAL SPACE.   Impostor syndrome is often comorbid with depression and anxiety and is associated with impaired job performance, job satisfaction, and burnout    Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, fraud syndrome, perceived fraudulence, or impostor experience) describes high-achieving individuals who, despite their objective successes, fail to internalize their accomplishments and have persistent self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud or impostor.1 People with impostor syndrome struggle with accurately attributing their performance to their actual competence (i.e., they attribute successes to external factors such as luck or receiving help from others and attribute setbacks as evidence of their professional inadequacy.   People with impostor syndrome had fears that were significantly related to maintaining their social standing and not wanting to display imperfection to others   The only studied method for helping people with Imposter Syndrome is sharing your fears and concerns in a safe space. A 1985 paper by Matthews and Clance qualitatively described their experiences in private practice caring for 41 people with impostor feelings.53 They recommended validating patients’ doubts and fears, directly addressing fears of failure, and providing group therapy since these patients often feel isolated and that they alone experience impostor feelings;   SO: HOW can you start to implement this in your life? Use the All-In Method from our new book, Radical Alignment: Intentions Concerns Boundaries Dreams   I’ve seen it work again and again in my marriage and in parenting my son. We now have a safe structure and habit of communicating our fears. Order your copy of Radical Alignment and share your receipt number at RadicalAlignmentBook.com to get a bonus workshop with me and co-author/hubby Bob Gower!  

261: End Shame & Imposter Syndrome with the All-In Method

Need to have a talk about a tough topic? This show is for you! Welcome back to Her Rules Radio where you come to learn how to live life by your own rules! Today’s show is brought to you by my new book, co-authored with my incredible husband Bob Gower, Radical Alignment, how to have game-changing conversations that will change your business and your life!   SOOO excited to be back here with you, talking again - I took a little summer break and now we are basically back here in Season 6 (yes, coming up on our 6th anniversary of this show!)...   If you’re listening for the first time, or the first time in a long time, I grew up in a radio station - my mom had her own organic gardening radio show for 10 years, and every once in a while I would go on the show and do a “children’s gardening” episode with her! My older brother brendan was her sound engineer, so it was a family affair!   Even though we were a creative, often collaborative family, there’s one thing I didn’t really learn growing up with my fam:   How to have tough, emotional, or high-stakes conversations that felt safe, where everyone could be bravely vulnerable.   It’s part of why Bob and I finally wrote this book - RAdical Alignment.   You know those skills you wish you'd mastered earlier in life? ME too.   I didn't learn how to gracefully talk about emotional topics until well into adulthood. Important conversations would veer wildly from where we started, and it felt so dangerous.   Maybe you grew up in a family where any past mistake could be brought up again. Maybe you didn't have space to talk. Maybe one person would dominate conversations so you felt like "what's the point?"   Emotional conversations were hard for me until my late 30s because I always felt I had to argue my points and “win” - and that never felt right to me. I would show up to conversations with people I cared about, friends or family or even business colleagues, and I would feel like I was trying to be fair and generous, and maybe the other person was out for blood! The heart of our book Radical Alignment is The All In Method, which helps each person commit to sharing their intentions, concerns, boundaries and dreams about a topic. It’s not about arguing points, or “winning” - it’s a format to collect information so you don’t avoid talking about really valuable emotional stuff that sits underneath all important things. YES - emotions matter and they’re always present! I grew up thinking emotions were bad, or invalid or even unfair to bring into conversations. But we are all human! EVERYONE has emotions. So our AIM helps you share them in a respectful, safe way where people are able to listen to each other better than ever before. Another thing that kept me from bringing up tough topics? Things going off the rails! Has this ever happened to you? You start talking about one tough topic, and the other person brings up something completely different that happened in the past, and now you’re arguing about something completely different.  In our book Radical Alignment we show you how to set up a conversation with another person or people so that you all agree in the beginning on the topic, so you can come back to it if things feel like they’re getting off course. It's such a relief!  I like to think of it as a linear process for emotional topics. When you have a shared map - ok, everyone we are agreeing at the start to share our intentions, then our concerns, then our boundaries, and then our dreams, and everyone gets the same amount of time, and no one will talk over each other - we are just hear to listen to each other … With THAT roadmap? Totally new outcomes are possible.  One of the tough conversations we are in as a family, and that’s me and my husband, my son, and his dad and step-mom, is what is life going to look like in September.    My son is getting ready to go into high school here in New York City, although at the point I’m recording the show, I don’t know if he’ll be going to school or starting the year from his bedroom. This is a tough choice and many families are feeling really upended because we don’t know what to do, or what’s coming.    So we are using our AIM to help us have conversations about the decisions that need to be made as an extended family. We use AIM to help us understand each other’s needs, worries, and to actually build empathy with each other - which in blended families with competing needs and fears isn’t always easy.   This is a way to have a shared vocabulary, a shared commitment to how we will communicate that is respectful, fair, and productive. It helps us stay grounded. And it helps us make space for our son to share his thoughts and feelings, and because we’ve been using it with him for a while, since he was 7 or so, he feels comfortable talking about tough topics with us -    WHICH feels so huge to me.   A few weeks ago at the dinner table, he said, out of nowhere, “I’m really glad I’m being raised learning to care about other people’s feelings.”   I don’t know about you, but this feels like a huge parenting WIN!   SO: I offer you a challenge: to invite someone in your life to have a tough conversation in the next 48 hours.   Invite them with openness and kindness: don’t say “WE NEED TO TALK.”   No one likes to hear that.   How to invite someone to a tough conversation   Be specific but not rigid.  Be inviting, and be clear about the topic. See what happens!   Personally I’ve had a BIG breakthrough with some family members recently about topics I’ve been avoiding for decades… the conversation is ongoing but we are off to a clear, caring start.   I would love to hear from you how this goes!  Pre-order Radical Alignment and get your bonuses here! https://radicalalignmentbook.com/

260: Tough Talks Challenge! All-In Method for your emotional conversations

Today’s show will be the last one for a couple of months. I’m taking a summer break before the August 2020 release of my new book, Radical Alignment, co-authored with my husband, Bob Gower. Today’s show has everything to do with design--and we are going far beyond kitchen remodels.  Angie Lee is someone I met in the last few months, and we bonded immediately. She’s an architect, partner, and Design Director of Interiors at FXCollaborative in NYC. Angie knows the importance of design and how it is a part of everything in our lives.  You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/251

259: How To Design A Better Future with Angie Lee

Today’s guest is my gold star doctor guest and one of my favorite people. Her work is immensely helpful, and her products are beneficial in many ways. Her philosophy is that being healthy and vital involves the whole human being, and it’s not all about weight loss. If you want to learn how to take ownership of your body and your wellness, then join us today. Dr. Anna Cabeca is “The Girlfriend Doctor.” She works with thousands of women to help them understand and improve their health and manage their hormones. Along with her life-changing products and programs, she’s written two books, The Hormone Fix and Keto-Green 16. She’s done exhaustive research to find solutions to help women reclaim their vibrancy, sexuality, health, and happiness.  You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/250

258: Dr. Anna Cabeca Going Keto Green for Womxn

How are you coping lately? Have you been managing your stress levels? Today, we’re very happy to have Rebekah (Bex) Borucki joining us on the show. Bex’s mission in life is to make mental-health support and stress-management tools accessible to everyone. For the last ten years or so, she has been doing this in several powerfully creative (and sometimes exhausting) ways. In recent years, however, she has felt moved to pivot most of her work and become a writer of children’s books. Bex has a powerful message to share. Her inspiring story is sure to uplift and encourage you! You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/249.  

257: The Kids' Book We All Need Right Now: Rebekah Borucki and Zara’s Big Messy Bedtime!

As an artist, there are many constructs you have to overcome in order to create authenticity. Whether those are mental, societal, or physical, there’s an element of discovery that cannot be revealed without releasing our pre-existing perception of the world.  Lindsay Katt is a brilliant example of what it means to be unapologetically yourself, as well as a colorful illustration of an artist. As a musician, filmmaker, painter, and master of doing things, Lindsay shares what it means to use your voice unapologetically in a way that resonates with others. She discusses how to use art to improve the lives of those around you, strategies to deal with creative blocks, and how to know when we should violate social rules.  You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/247

256: Creating and Community with Artist Lindsay Katt

This bonus episode is for those of us who are parenting in these times of crisis. If dealing with the increased pressures of parenting is leaving you feeling stressed, then I have an expert coach and therapist to help. Dr. Jennifer Johnston-Jones is a dear friend who is here to help us focus on what is most helpful for parents during this time. She is a licensed clinical psychologist and the founder and executive director of Roots & Wings Institute of Social and Emotional Learning for the Prevention of Childhood Trauma. Jennifer has over twenty years of experience profoundly changing families, individuals, and companies, and she’s the author of Transformational Parenting, listed as a top parenting book by USA Today. Jennifer works with teachers and parents to help change the parenting and education paradigms around childhood trauma, and she’s a sought-after keynote speaker who lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and two children.  You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/247

254: Be A Good Parent, Even Now with Dr. Jennifer Johnston-Jones

How does a mom of 3 teens, trauma coach, and therapist handle parenting during the Covid-19 crisis?  On today's bonus interview with Cristie Ritz-King, we talk about: How to create self-care boundaries with your kids when you're all home 24-7 How to honor your own inner turmoil while showing up as caregiver for little ones What IS trauma? How do we manage traumatic triggers on our physical and emotional health? What to do when you blow up at your kids (because it will happen) How to help our kids when we notice them acting out or withdrawing... and more. Get more from Cristie here: https://cristieritzking.com/

246: Parenting During Covid with Cristie Ritz-King

If you’re experiencing surprising feelings of grief lately, you’re not alone. It’s normal during the upside-down times to examine our lives, question our decisions, or feel like we’ve lost our dreams for the future. Remembering our values, our morals, and our spiritual compass will help us to stay moving forward. Finding a mentor can also help us to move forward by providing clarity and connections, which are especially important right now in this time of unrest. Learn how to find a mentor and get the most out of that valuable relationship in today’s episode. You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/246

253: Your Values Will Guide You: Pink Mentorship with Stacy Cassio

Functional nutrition coach and chef Alexandra Jamieson, author of Women, Food & Desire and The Great American Detox Diet, shares new insights into what we crave and desire, and how to achieve the well-being and happiness we want. The Crave Cast provides valuable inspiration and information to help you get the healthy body, energy, and life you crave.

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