What is God&apos;s design for the testicles? How do testicles uniquely reflect the image of God? You might be surprised! This episode is a follow-up to a previous episode: Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson).Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.app

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Have you ever tried to avoid something difficult by praying to God or reading the Bible? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell will introduce the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiritual ideas or practices can become a crutch to cope with pain or trauma (just like pornography). Along the way, Craig will explain different examples of spiritual bypass, such as toxic positivity, compulsive goodness, and forced forgiveness. We will also talk about how emotional/spiritual health is totally different and so much better!Dr. Craig Cashwell is Professor of Counselor Education and Clinical Mental Health Counseling at William & Mary, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. You can email him at cscashwell@wm.edu.Books featuring Dr. Craig Cashwell (these are paid links):Shadows Of The Cross: A Christian Companion to Facing The ShadowIntegrating Spirituality and Religion Into Counseling.Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.app

What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell)

This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of mistakes, but with God as their foundation, Clinton and Charity Muñoz are now closer than ever before. They went from infidelity to intimacy—from crisis to closeness—and now they help others do the same at Restored 2 More.Learn more about Restored 2 More here:Restored2More.comRestored2More PodcastRestored2More InstagramJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

From Crisis To Closeness (with Clinton and Charity Muñoz)

The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you&apos;re weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can come from anywhere: parents, peers, or even pornography. In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why bullying creates the "inner critic" inside each of us, how bullying can be sexualized, what to do if you are currently being bullied, and how to heal from the effects of past bullying.Dr. Doug Carpenter is the founder of Insight Counseling Services in Michigan. This week, Doug is giving away a few copies of his book (this is a paid link): Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male inside the Husband Material Community here.Resources mentioned in this episode:Inside Out (Disney/Pixar Film)Internal Family SystemsSelf-Compassion.orgJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

Bullying And The Inner Critic (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your nervous system allows you to regulate, replacing the pacifier of porn.You can find a visual summary of this episode here.Resources mentioned (these are paid links):Polyvagal Theory in Therapy, by Deb DanaPolyvagal Exercises for Safety & Connection, by Deb DanaThe Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory, by Dr. Stephen PorgesJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

Master Your Nervous System (Live)

What is a mother wound? How do you know if you have one? And how can mother wounds be healed? In this episode, Dan Hitz tells the story of his mother wounds, how they impacted his sexuality, and what the Lord has done to alleviate his anger, remove his self-hatred, and allow him to feel safe with women. Dan Hitz is the Executive Director of Reconciliation Ministries (a member of Restored Hope Network). Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Michigan, a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional [CCTP], and has been trained in EMDR.You can email Dan at dhitz@recmin.org.Related resources by Dan Hitz:Overcoming the Mother Wound (article)When My Mother and Father Forsake Me (article)Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

Healing Mother Wounds (with Dan Hitz)

What is God&apos;s purpose for the penis? How does it reflect the image of God? And how can I reclaim the goodness of my penis? Join me and Jeremy Williamson for a candid conversation about God, men, and embodied brotherhood.Jeremy Williamson is a Pastoral Counselor at Restoration Counseling in Northern Colorado. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restorationcounselingnoco.com.Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson)

Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I&apos;ll help you prepare for emotionally difficult times and seasons so you can give yourself plenty of grace and space to process your emotions rather than turning to the pacifier of porn.Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.app

Emotional Times And Seasons

How does psychology relate to spirituality? How does therapy relate to theology? Dr. Ken McGill is a Christ-centered clinician who has been answering these questions for decades. In this episode, Dr. Ken offers a perspective on sex addiction that is both clinical and compatible with Christianity.Dr. Ken McGill is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. He is the author of Cultivating Love Book Series (this is a paid link): https://amzn.to/3hUNmlv Learn more about Dr. Ken at drkenmcgill.com.Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

Psychology And Spirituality (with Dr. Ken McGill)

Measuring freedom from porn usually produces self-contempt or self-righteousness. How can we avoid these two pitfalls? Is there a better way? Yes, there is! In this episode, I&apos;ll share the 4 levels of freedom from porn, how to evaluate your sexual and emotional maturity and my #1 most meaningful measurement.Register my upcoming free live class, "How To Outgrow Porn," at outgrowporn.com!Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

How To Measure Freedom From Porn (LIVE)

Why do we return to porn even though it harms us? What if we return to porn precisely because it harms us? The answer is often re-enactment. "Re-enactment (noun): the acting out of a past event." Therapist and licensed mental health counselor Wendell Moss tells the story how porn re-enacted sexual abuse from when he was a boy, and what happened when he was confronted by the fierce kindness of God.Wendell Moss teaches at The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology and The Allender Center. Although he is privileged and delighted to work with both men and women, Wendell loves to create contexts of healing for men, especially African American men. Contact Wendell here.Books and resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):To Be Told, by Dan AllenderHealing The Wounded Heart, by Dan AllenderThe Cure, by John Lynch, Bruce McNichol and Bill ThrallRedeemed Sexuality, by Drew BoaPure Desire, by Ted RobertsJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

Porn As Re-Enactment Of Sexual Abuse (with Wendell Moss)

Have you ever been hurt by a sibling or close friend? Sometimes porn is used as a pacifier for painful peer relationships... or in some cases, the lack of any relationships at all. Marcus Spaur knows what it&apos;s like to be scarred by a sibling, and also what it&apos;s like to heal more deeply than he ever imagined. He has over 6 years of freedom from porn... and a passion for helping other men become the best possible versions of themselves this side of heaven!Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. He is the newest Certified Husband Material Coach, joining Drew Boa and Stephen Thomas in working with individuals and leading small groups this summer. Contact Marcus for a free coaching session at marcus.spaur@gmail.com or (509) 870-7081.Apply to join an upcoming Husband Material Small Group with Marcus, Drew, or Stephen at husbandmaterial.com/groupJoin our private community app at husbandmaterial.app

Scarred By A Sibling (with Marcus Spaur)

Let&apos;s change the way we talk about sexual attractions and desires. No matter who or what you&apos;re sexually attracted to, this episode is for you. What can we do with unwanted sexual attraction? 1. Talk about it 2. Understand it 3. Appreciate it 4. Manage it Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app! Text Drew at 805-398-6170 . 

Unwanted Sexual Attraction

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau&apos;s story of PIED/ED, why he continued to struggle after years of freedom from porn, and how he finally overcame it. Shawn also shares practical steps to freedom from PIED/ED, including The Thought Model.Download Shawn&apos;s free 5-page PDF explaining The Thought Model here.Shawn Bonneteau is a professional mentor and the co-founder of Secret Habit, where he and his wife Helena equip & empower people to heal from the harmful effects of pornography. Contact Shawn at https://secrethabit.ca/contact/Join Shawn and Helena for a more intimate conversation about erectile dysfunction from a couple&apos;s perspective on May 4th inside our private community at husbandmaterial.appText Drew at 805-398-6170 .

The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction (with Shawn Bonneteau)

Porn is a pacifier for conflict...with God, with others, and even with ourselves. Learn to embrace conflict in a redemptive way with author and therapist Jay Stringer. I recommend Jay&apos;s book more than any other (this is a paid link): Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way To HealingMore Resources by Jay Stringer and Drew Boa:The Sexual Fantasy Framework (Free Mini-Course)The Unwanted Digital WorkbookJay will be joining us for an exclusive Q&A event and special announcement this week on Wednesday, April 21st, at 2:00 PM Pacific Time. This Zoom Meeting will be hosted inside our community app at husbandmaterial.app. Get the app and we&apos;ll see you there!Text Drew at 805-398-6170.

Embrace Conflict (with Jay Stringer)

If you want to be husband material (not just boyfriend material) then quitting pornography is a must. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode is designed to help you quit porn more quickly, easily, and permanently. Your faith, your family, and your future depend on it. If you want to be husband material (not just boyfriend material), you’ve come to the right place. Porn is a pacifier. Outgrow it! This podcast will show you how.

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