Love can be painful but can it also heal?  Alvean and Doug talk about the nurturing qualities that a strong relationship can generate and ways in which two people can consciously help each other to grow and heal.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL28-Can Love Heal?

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Can Love Heal?

It isn't just a song--sometimes we find ourselves unable to choose between two people for whom we have deep feelings.  Is it possible to sustain this awkward situation?  How can you make a choice when it is seemingly impossible and always painful?  For answers to these and other questions, listen to Alvean and Doug in this episode. For a full transcript, click here: LL27-Can you love two people equally?

Can you love two people?

We have all had someone in our lives who was narcissistic or put simply self absorbed.  In a relationship, that one-sided behavior can lead to both a lack of constructive reciprocity and hurt.  Alvean and Doug give some examples that help identify those who practice this destructive behavior and strategies to address it.  For a full transcript of the episode, click here: LL26-It is all about me

It is all about me

Loneliness is often thought of as something to be avoided, but in this episode Alvean and Doug talk about the virtues of being alone and even when we do not choose to be so, how to use such times to learn about and nurture ourselves.  For a full transcript, click here: LL25-Savoring Loneliness

Savoring Loneliness

In this episode Avean and Doug talk about the struggle for control--sometimes power--in a relationship. Are there ways to avoid this decidedly uncomfortable and potentially damaging behavior? For a complete transcript of the episode, click here: LL24-You're not the Boss of Me

You’re not the Boss of me

Many people say that opposites are the most attractive catch, while conventional wisdom is to find someone with whom you have a lot in common.  Alvean and Doug talk about the upsides and downsides of both in this episode.  For a full transcript, click here: LL23-Do Opposites Attract

Do Opposites Attract?

It wasn't the serpent, it was Jealousy.  That might not be the way the Bible tells it but more relationships have been ruined by jealousy than any other cause. It's not fun on either side, being the jealous one or the one who is suspected of a wandering eye. Alvean and Doug discuss the ways in which you can avoid the bitter pill of jealousy, build trust, and secure your relationship.  For more information and a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL22-Jealousy

Jealousy

It's oh so tempting and many try, but few succeed.  Getting back together with an ex can be the right thing to do but there is a right way to go about it to ensure you don't make the same mistakes that caused you to part in the first place.  Alvean and Doug talk about the pros and the pitfalls, offering some sound advice about when you should and when you should take a hard pass. For more about this episode, click here:LL21-Getting Back with Your Ex

Getting Back Together

Everyone has a story about the vindictive ex.  Maybe it happened to you or to a friend but it is one of the most difficult and unsettling experiences you are likely to go through in your romantic life.  Alvean and Doug talk about how best to navigate this difficult and toxic situation--and how to avoid it in the first place by ensuring that if you part ways with a former lover you do so with respect and kindness.  For a full transcript of the episode, click here: LL20-Vindictive Ex's

The Vindictive Ex

In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about the power of empathy in a relationship.  You must learn to love yourself first, and through that experience learn what it means to be a source of support, comfort, and counsel for those you love.  Empathy cannot be faked, it must be felt and it is the key to building a trusting and empowering dynamic between two people. For a full transcript of the episode, click here: LL19-Empathy is a Lost Virtue

Empathy is a lost virtue

Most of us have a protective instinct that we use to shield ourselves from being hurt.  But too often those protective measures get in the way of genuine intimacy and deep abiding relationship.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about the power that can be harnessed by permitting oneself to be vulnerable, to lay bare the true self.  As scary as they may feel it is often the best or only way to achieve what one desires.  For a full transcript, click here:LL18-Vulnerability

The Power of Vulnerability

It is an age old question, why am I here--what is my reason for being?  Humans have long sought the answers to life's most challenging question: what really matters?  Alvean and Doug tackle this thorny question with observations about the sources of happiness and contentment that mean and women have searched for their entire lives.  You can find a full transcript of this episode here: LL17

What really matters in life?

In this episode, Alvean and Doug continue on the theme of the past few weeks in their revelations about the wisdom that is often gained amidst very painful experiences.  It has been said that life is a poor teacher because it administers tests and only then, the lesson.  How we ensure that the lesson is learned, not repeated has a great deal to do with how willing we are to look for the answers when we are least comfortable doing so.  For a complete transcript of this episode, click here:LL16

Wisdom found in pain

Is it possible to lie to yourself?  The answer, surprisingly, is yes.  We do it all the time, hide what we know to be the truth because the truth is too painful, we are afraid of the consequences, or have repressed the feelings that led to our self deceit.  Regardless of the reasons, these lies hurt us and can, if left un-challenged result in emotional scars and long term psychological challenges. Alvean and Doug discuss some of the patterns that reveal our behavior and how we can go about probing our own minds to reveal the truth.  For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL15

Lies we tell ourselves

Ending any relationship is painful, regardless of whether it was your decision or your partner's. Time is often the only way to heal but there are ways to move forward and restore the self-love that is necessary to any successful relationship in the future.  Alvean and Doug talk from experience about how one begins that process.  For a complete transcript, click here:LL14

Getting Over Heartbreak

Living your life and loving it: navigating healthy relationships to find and keep that special someone in your life

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