In this episode, Libby talks about how to respond when someone you love gives you feedback from a hurtful, attacking or otherwise unhelpful place. -------------------------------- Find Libby on the web at https://libbysinback.com Join the Relational Nonmonogamy Circle at http://relationalnonmonogamy.com Sign up for a free coaching session at https://libbysinback.com/apply --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

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Responding to Shitty Feedback

In this episode, Libby discusses the 6 phases of relationships, and the one that she thinks is the most important, and most often overlooked. ------------------------ Find Libby on the web at https://libbysinback.com Join the Relational Nonmonogamy Circle at http://relationalnonmonogamy.com Sign up for a free coaching session at https://libbysinback.com/apply --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

The Most Important Phase of a Relationship

After an unexpectedly long hiatus, Making Polyamory Work returns. [To sign up for the Relational Nonmonogamy Circle, go to http://relationalnonmonogamy.com] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

I'm Baaaaaaack

Libby invites her best friend Mara on the podcast to answer a listener who recently discovered they were queer. Libby and Mara what it was like for them to realize you're queer later in life. ------------------------ MORE READING FOR YOU: Bisexual vs. Pansexual: https://www.minus18.org.au/articles/what's-the-difference-between-bisexual-and-pansexual Does Being Polyamorous Mean that You're Queer Belong: https://medium.com/polyamory-today/polyamory-and-the-lgbt-community-3a8a52debbc3 -------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com The Relational Nonmonogamy Circle: http://relationalnonmonogamy.com Learn more about coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Discovering Your Queerness

This episode welcomes a special guest, Mary Thuell, to answer a listener question about being asked to put her relationship on pause so her partner can work things out in their nested relationship. Mary and Libby share their thoughts and experiences with this situation. -------------------- SHOW LINKS She's a Polyamorous Sunday School Teacher: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/shes-a-polyamorous-sunday-school-teacher-one-of-those-things-bothered-her-date/2019/04/08/394a1096-4a64-11e9-b79a-961983b7e0cd_story.html Emily Dickenson's Letter to Mary Bowles: http://archive.emilydickinson.org/correspondence/mbowles/l262.html --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Being Asked to Step Back

Libby shares one way she likes to handle jealousy - say thank you to it? -------------------------- OTHER GREAT RESOURCES ON JEALOUSY The Jealousy Workbook: Insights and Techniques for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola The Jealousy Survival Guide by Kitty Chambliss Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott -------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Say Thank You to Your Jealousy

Libby invites Shannon Perez-Darby to answer a listener question about what to do when you're in a relationship with someone who is in what appears to be an abusive relationship. CN: abuse, domestic violence ---------------- SHOW NOTES National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/ (or call 1-800-799-SAFE) Shannon Perez-Darby: https://www.shannonperezdarby.com/ Resources for Accountability and Transformative Justice and Supporting Safer Communities: https://transformharm.org/ Friendship as Social Justice Activism: https://press.uchicago.edu/ucp/books/book/distributed/F/bo26275235.html ---------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

What if My Partner's Other Relationship is Abusive?

In this episode, Libby introduces an unusually effective tool for combatting overconfidence without ruining the fun when you're in the throes of new relationship energy. ----------------- SHOW LINKS Freakonomics Episode on Failure: https://freakonomics.com/podcast/failure-is-your-friend-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast/ ----------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Nobody Wants to Be a Wet Blanket

Finally an episode on polyamorous parenting. Libby shares her take. -------------------------------- SHOW LINKS How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/769016.How_to_Talk_So_Kids_Will_Listen_Listen_So_Kids_Will_Talk Untamed: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52129515-untamed On Disruption: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/When-Life-is-Turned-Upside-Down-ecpob2 Slow Down to Break Up: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/Slow-Down-to-Break-Up-edjjsa -------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Will the Kids Be Alright?

In this episode, Libby talks about the gift of time apart. ------------------ Esther Perel: Sex Needs Space - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sex-needs-space_b_136540 ----------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Did You Miss Me?

In this episode, Libby offers ways to create a culture of appreciation within your relationship, and why that is important, but also how it can sometimes be hard. ------------------------------- SHOW LINKS The Gottman Institute on a Culture of Appreciation: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/ I Appreciate... Exercise: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ofEdpMG8KqhPvS0vj6hWWucTfEZdxqHvvJkydmbVuJU/edit?usp=sharing ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

What's Wonderful

In this episode, Libby talks about issues that seem to have no clear good solution. Her suggestion? Understanding the problem is more important than solving it ----------------------------------- SHOW LINKS Dreams Within Conflict Worksheet No Advice, Please (how to hold space) ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Got a Problem? Don't Solve It

On this episode, Libby is joined by her partner Kyrr to talk about why it's important to acknowledge the truth about change. ---------------------- SHOW LINKS Giving Kickass Feedback (and When Not To): https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/Giving-Kickass-Feedback-and-When-Not-To-ego34v ---------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Libby Plus One: The Trap of Easy

Lots of tips in this episode! Libby talks about techniques to manage stress and why it's so important for you and your relationships. ----------------------- SHOW LINKS Emotional Mindfulness Exercise: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10WSyLRGERQLtlFJ8uU-3BQ8kIQUwQNYaRK7KAeA-J8Y/edit Box Breathing Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AOL3isokmY4 Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/592377/burnout-by-emily-nagoski-phd-and-amelia-nagoski-dma/ Taming your Whoosh: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/No-Advice--Please-eb1pbg No Advice, Please: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/No-Advice--Please-eb1pbg Moving from Complaint to Request: https://vickitidwellpalmer.com/turning-complaints-requests/ Stress Reducing Conversation: https://docs.google.com/document/d/11VWh8j1jGCFdxm13c-rYV8E8FexKuhnr6VYeemadhi4/edit?usp=sharing ---------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Stress in Relationships

This episode is for you if you're a hinge or the point in a "vee." There's a very common trap that many hinge partners fall into that you must avoid if you don't want to be a sucky hinge. Want to know more? Listen to Libby to learn the most essential hinging skill. ------------------------------------ Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for an intro coaching session at http://talktolibby.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/message

Hinges, Let's Talk

Grounded in reality and untamed honesty, Libby Sinback tackles the hard questions about how to create and maintain authentic, loving and healthy nonmonogamous relationships.

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