# Episode Notes Episode Thirty One: Taking Breaks, Summer Holidays & TTFN! In this episode, Jen and Sara talk about the vital importance of taking breaks. They discuss the many benefits of stepping away from things in order to gain perspective and take time to reassess, recharge and redirect. They chat about the value of taking breaks from all manner of things; work, booze, people, exercise, diets. (Just don’t expect Sara to take a break from smoked salmon ok. She appears to have a raging addiction to it and we should probably stage an intervention at some point.) This episode is a good one, which is handy because it’ll be the last one for a while as they’re taking a well earned podcasting break. Jen and Sara will be back after the summer, most likely, depending on if they can be arsed. So stand by! Normal programming will resume shortly, probs. In the meantime, have fun, stay safe and be wary of the dangers of smoked salmon addiction. It’s a gateway delicacy. Fair warning: some swears. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

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Episode 31: Taking Breaks, Summer Holidays & TTFN!

# Episode Notes Episode Thirty: Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex? Today Jen and Sara are asked: can you really be friends with an ex? It’s a tricky question, with many variables and they give their honest views and personal experiences, but only after Sara suddenly derails the convo with an anecdote about cat rape. Back on topic though - Sara has an ex who’s become one of her closest friends. Jen has an ex who doesn’t give her the time of day. It takes all sorts to make the world go round. If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you have access to the internet, maybe you can email: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk They will help you. Depending on how you define ‘help’. Catch you next week. Big cuddles. Warning: some swearing. (There will be some swearing in every episode, let’s be honest.) This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 30: Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex?

# Episode Notes Episode Twenty Nine: I Thought This Was Meant To Be Fun? Today, Jen and Sara have a little catch up. Jen is about to move flats from a tiny studio to a (comparatively) huge place, which will look super minimalist because - thanks to living in a tiny place for the past year - she has no furniture anymore. Sara is soon to take a trip to New Zealand, where she plans to ask Jacinda Ardern whether she fancies coming on the podcast. So, that’s as good as in the bag then. After that, we respond to a listener email. This one’s from a woman who’s just completed her first year at uni but doesn’t know if she wants to carry on. (With the course, that is. Not with life in general. It’s a pretty bad university experience that makes you feel that low.) Having both been to university, Jen and Sara offer up their respective experience and advice and reassure her that the first year of uni is generally the weirdest. If you have a problem, if no one else can help, and if you have access to the internet, maybe you can email: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk Catch you next week. Big love. Beware: Some swears. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 29: I Thought This Was Meant To Be Fun?

**# Episode Notes Episode Twenty Eight: This Is What I Want To Be! (I think.)** In this episode Jen and Sara answer another listener email. This one is from Brittany; a marathon running legend who wants to take a booze break but doesn’t know if she has what it takes to make that change. Jen thinks cognitive dissonance commonly precedes any big lifestyle adjustment. That it’s just par for the course and dwelling on uncertain outcomes only serves to keep us stuck, fearing failure. So just do it, Britt! You totally have what it takes but you won’t know that until you crack on. (As a very wise philosopher once said: ‘Do. Or do not. There is no try.’ Ok, that was Yoda from Star Wars but whatever.) Sara, puts her therapist hat on (feel free to imagine her in a nice bowler whenever she says that) and congratulates Brittany on her self-awareness. She rightly says that she’s already ahead of the curve for knowing herself so well and for laying the groundwork for such sensible, successful self care. Then she gets a porn pop up and loses her train of thought. It happens. If you have a problem. If no one else can help. And if you have access to the internet. Maybe you can email: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk Catch you next week. We love you. Some swearing, obvs. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 28: This Is What I Want To Be! (I think.)

**# Episode Notes Episode Twenty Seven: Snooping, Sneaking & Coming Clean** On the podcast this week Jen and Sara address a listener’s dilemma about whether he should confront his girlfriend about some troubling things he’s read about in her diary. The advice is that, firstly, he should stop bloody well reading his girlfriend’s diary! And secondly, he should tell his girlfriend that he’s been reading her diary and unreservedly apologise for being a gigantic boundary-overstepping nosey parker. Probably not the sympathetic advice he was hoping for, but what you gonna do? If you have a problem that you want us to either help you out with or make fun of, feel free to drop us a line: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk Catch you next time. Some swears. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 27: Snooping, Sneaking & Coming Clean

Episode Notes Episode Twenty Six: Childhood Trauma, Feeling your Feelings & Sitting with Discomfort In this week’s episode Jen and Sara help a listener who’s written in saying that she can’t stand her boyfriend’s children. Sara offers her perspective as a therapist and as someone who’s dated a single mother. Jen draws on her experiences of being a child of divorced parents. Essentially, Sara handled her situation by encouraging the child to make her toast. Jen dealt with things by developing attachment issues which later manifested in addiction problems - hurray! This one goes deep. Drop us a line: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk Catch you next time. Some swears. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 26: Childhood Trauma, Feeling your Feelings & Sitting with Discomfort

Episode Notes Episode Twenty Five: Dating, Failed Relationships & Being Disappointed with Dolly Sara’s all loved up at the moment (so is Jen but she doesn’t bang on about it half as much). So the topic of convo today is mostly about relationships; how to get into them, how to stay in them and how to spectacularly fail at them. Both Jen and Sara have extensive experience in that department and they’re not afraid to exploit it in the name of podcast fodder. They also chat about the phenomenon of being ghosted and having just read Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton, Jen can’t fathom how some people don’t see it coming a mile off when it happens to them. “What the f*ck did you expect, Dolly? What a stupid move!” All about the compassion, always. Topics also discussed: Kevin Costner’s mullet. Chesney Hawkes and his ground-breaking one hit wonder and memorable sanitary towel adverts from the 90’s. Drop us a line: theteam@offtherocks.co.uk Catch you next week. Some swears. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 25: Dating, Failed Relationships & Being Disappointed with Dolly

Episode Notes Episode Twenty Four: Ethical Dilemmas, Frog Collections & E.T. What do you do when someone gives you a gift (an ornamental frog, for instance) that you don’t like? What do you do when that person keeps giving you gifts (several ornamental frogs) that you don’t like? Do you lean into it, get a few display cabinets and become a reluctant collector or do you have a word with them? Jen and Sara discuss this tricky ethical dilemma and ultimately decide that it’s all about boundaries (and vaginas) again. This is a particularly good one. Until next week! Some swears. Obviously. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 24: Ethical Dilemmas, Frog Collections & E.T.

Episode Notes Episode Twenty Three: Good Loving, Bad Reviews & Subpar Post Offices In this episode Jen and Sara give advice to a listener who’s still single at 35 and worried about being left on the shelf forever. He wonders if his standards are too high and we agree that they probably are. ‘If you want to get into a relationship, all you have to do is lower your standards sufficiently.’ That’s the basic gist of our amazing advice and you can’t argue with that. Jen realises she’s had a negative review for her book and ponders what sort of person is driven to write negative reviews for most of the things they buy. The only circumstance she can think of in which she would take the time to write a bad review for something would involve the death of a child - which seems a bit extreme but that doesn’t make it any less true. Also, Sara relives some past post office trauma. Oh yes, this episode has it all. Until next week! Some swears. Obviously. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 23: Good Loving, Bad Reviews & Subpar Post Offices

Episode Notes In this episode Jen and Sara help another listener out with some great advice. (We use the word ‘help’ very loosely and ‘great advice’ is also a bit strong.) Concerned Of Yorkshire wants him and his hubs to open their relationship up to a wider audience, but wonders if that’s wise. So we discuss the pros and cons of polyamory, whether we’d do it ourselves and, if we did, what our boundaries might be. Sara chats about her experiences of coming out as gay and Jen ponders how strange that is. Not how strange being gay is. Of course not. Any half wit knows that sexuality is a spectrum and that same sex attraction has always been, and will always be, a normal variation for a percentage of the population, and it has nothing to do with choice or morality. No, gayness is not strange in the slightest. (And if you think otherwise, you likely have unresolved issues around your own sexuality and you should look into that, chum.) No, what is strange is that in our society, it often feels like we’re owed announcements and updates on a person’s sexual preferences. That’s what’s strange. Why should anyone feel any pressure to publicly declare their sexuality? It’s bonkers. Love is love is love. And then we congratulate Jen on her breasts. The end. Until next week! Some swears. Of course. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Episode 22: Polyamory, Gayness & Boobs

Off The Rocks was founded in 2015 by Jennie Nelson; writer, broadcaster and truth-telling trailblazer. It’s a friendly and informative snuggly space devoted to all things health related. No topic is off-limits, and all will be approached with love, compassion, and -more importantly- a healthy dose of self-deprecating humour. Jen's podcast co-host is Sara Lewis. They met in late 2018, and got along so famously they decided to record a podcast together within hours of meeting. Which is a totally run of the mill, normal thing to do. Sara is training to be a psychotherapist, so brings her psychological perspective to proceedings, as well as some bad jokes and much admired llama hair do. New episodes every Thursday. To listen to older episodes and find out more, visit www.offtherocks.co.uk Jen's first book, The Off The Rocks Journal: The Ultimate Interactive Health Book was published in 2018 and is available now through Amazon, or www.offtherocks.co.uk/book

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