Jordana is back from vacation and Dr. Naomi tells her about an eye-opening form of therapy (called neurodynamic breathwork) that she was excited to try. They offer advice to a listener who is feeling confused now that the person she’s seeing suddenly became distant over text. Is it okay to demand a phone call from a guy to see where your relationship stands? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer who was invited to the wedding of a not-so-close friend. How obligated should you feel to attend a costly wedding, and when are you required to send a gift? The Intentions email of the week, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, comes from a recently engaged bride-to-be that has no desire to plan an actual wedding. Finally, they end the show by rating some Triggered scenarios about a height-based slight, and an unsolicited piece of advice from a therapist. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our series of guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Should Your Therapist Offer Unsolicited Advice?

We’re all tired… thankfully this week’s episode features sleep expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy Troxel, who shares some real-world tips for better sleep. Jordana and Dr. Naomi tell us about their own experience with lack-of-sleep, and how their quality of sleep is impacted by sharing a bed with a partner. Dr. Troxel explains why some couples are turning to the concept of ‘sleep divorce’ and what her research has taught her about how couples can improve their co-sleeping. They respond to an email from a listener who is experiencing anxiety at the thought of all the sleep she’ll lose out on after her boyfriend moves in. What’s the secret to not letting sleep frustrations affect your relationship? Then Jordana and Naomi tackle this week’s Intentions email, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, regarding an overbearing mother during the pre-wedding process. How do you keep the pressure of planning a wedding from ruining the experience altogether? They close things with some Triggered scenarios about splitting wedding gifts and a toilet mishap.  Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is It Okay To Sleep Separately From My Partner? Ft. Dr. Wendy Troxel

Jordana just moved into a new house and tells Dr. Naomi all about the lessons she learned from the experience – is decorating your home actually a skill? The Overshare email comes from a listener who is experiencing a quarter-life crisis and wants to know if she’s missing out on a fuller life by not moving to a big city. The Betchicist question is all about continuing to have your location tracked by your parents on your phone even when you’re living independently as an adult. What does it say about your boundaries with your parents if they’re still tracking you? They offer some intentions to a listener who constantly feels medical anxiety throughout the week. Is there a secret to letting go of health fears? They close things with some Triggered scenarios about a fizzle text that arrived two weeks after the date took place, and a pair of in-laws who stop by unannounced. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Do I Feel Like The Grass Is Always Greener?

Dr. Naomi is about to embark on a challenging new phase of life – the family is getting a second dog – so she tells Jordana about her plan to avoid taking care of a puppy all by herself. They offer advice to an emailer who says she is ready to settle down, but she can’t shake the feeling that her relationship could end in divorce. The Betchicist submission comes from a listener who moved in next door to her in-laws and now wants a bit more space. Next, they offer some intentions to a listener whose brother eloped and chose to invite his friends instead of his own family. Then Jordana and Naomi are joined by friend-of-the-pod Jared Freid to talk about his brand new Netflix comedy special 37 & Single (out now) and to help rate some Triggered submissions. Jared asks for some tips for staying grounded on what may be the biggest day of his life. He also shares a Triggered scenario from his recent red-eye flight, before weighing in a pair of submissions about obnoxious break room commentary, and an ex’s beach towel. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Silence Unwanted Commentary Ft. Jared Freid

Dr. Naomi is back from her recent outdoors-y vacation and tells Jordana all about the sense of awe she experienced. Then they respond to a voicemail from a listener who has a pattern of freezing up when someone yells at her. What are the best strategies to deal with a tense situation, and how can you learn to respond differently? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is caught in between her sister and a friend after they had a falling out over a guy. Are you obligated to hold a grudge on behalf of your sister even if you think she’s taking it too far? They give their honest take on an intentions email from a listener who often finds herself developing a crush on men who aren’t her husband. Is it okay to let yourself fantasize about others even if you’re in a committed relationship? They close things out with a pair of Triggered scenarios about annoying grief memes, and a suburban snob. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should I Always Take My Family’s Side?

We need a nap. Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about the misery of losing sleep when and how frustrating it can be when you can’t figure out why. They also talk about the new Golden Bachelor and share why they’re so excited to see this version of the show. Then a listener writes in to ask if she’ll ever be able to move forward with her partner after he admitted to having an affair (and told her on vacation, of all places). Dr. Naomi gives some insights into how couples can heal after cheating takes place, and why it can sometimes be a turning point in a lasting relationship. The “Betch-assist” question comes from a listener whose partner chooses to offer financial support for his sister. Is it okay to ask him to stop giving her money after the couple gets married and their finances merge? They respond to a request for intentions from an emailer who doesn’t like giving her boyfriend space when he’s in a bad mood. Finally, they rate some Triggered scenarios about stolen leftover pizza and a MIL’s unwanted home design comments. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can A Relationship Survive Infidelity?

Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the week with a conversation about the recent heat waves sweeping the country, and why learning to be uncomfortable can actually help you live longer. Plus, Jordana tells us which online distraction she’s giving up for the sake of her own mental health. Next, a listener writes in to ask how to get out of a sh*t-talking loop she fell into with her mother-in-law. How do you break a cycle of negativity when it’s the source of your strongest bond with someone? Then they answer a Betchicist question about rumors circulating regarding a close friend’s boyfriend and his drunk behavior. Are you obligated to address the situation, and is it considered disloyal to the friend if you don’t bring it to her attention immediately? The intentions for the week are all about resisting the urge to stalk your ex’s social media after a recent breakup. Been there. Finally, they rate a Triggered scenario about calling your brief relationship “a something” and weigh in on a voicemail from a listener whose therapist canceled at the last minute. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Can’t I Stop Stalking My Ex On Social Media?

We get it, you want to start meditating. But everything you’ve tried is too serious, too boring, and totally unrelatable. If lavender candles, an Enya playlist, and endless sun salutations simply aren’t doing the trick, this podcast from Betches Media might finally be the thing to help you breathe. (Literally.) In a series of guided meditations, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein will support you through many of life's biggest challenges with some much-needed serenity — and, of course, a bit of laughter. Calm TF Down is the same Oversharing podcast you love listening to every week, but with an added dose of zen to help you get through life’s challenges. Become a subscriber to receive ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only guided meditations every month. To sign up and calm TF down today, subscribe in the Apple Podcast app or head to: subscribe.betches.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introducing: Calm TF Down from Oversharing

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are excited to tell us all about the brand new premium version of the podcast: Calm TF Down is available now wherever you’re listening. Naomi tells us how she uses guided meditations in her own practice, and they give us a peek behind the scenes of recording Calm TF Down together. Then a listener writes in to ask what she should do now that her traditional Indian parents announced that they disapprove of her moving in with her white boyfriend. The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is struggling with insecurity about her boyfriend viewing her cousin’s IG stories, even after she went on his phone and muted her account. Was it an honest mistake or a betrayal of trust? And more importantly, do you have the right to monitor what your partner looks at on the internet? The intentions for this week are all about finding new ways to feel good about your body after an injury prevents you from working out. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions about an unexpected birthday trip cancellation, and a hairdresser heavily editing a client’s facial features for an Instagram post. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do You Have The Right To Monitor Who Your Partner Follows?

Jordana starts the show with an account of the unconventional massage therapist she visited, and Dr. Naomi helps her break down what her response really means. Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a voicemail about how to deal with guys who don’t text back. The Betchicist submission comes from an emailer who knows her coworker had an affair and doesn’t know how to broach the subject. Should you come clean or keep the secret to yourself and pretend you don’t know? The intention-setting exercise is for someone whose life is going well for a change, but she can’t seem to let herself enjoy it. Finally, they weigh in on a pair of Triggered submissions about a pricey bridesmaid’s dress, and a combative grandfather. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Do I Feel A Sense Of Doom Even When Things Are Good?

On this Fourth Of July holiday, Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about how holidays help us reflect on our career choices. Plus, Naomi joined a gym and shares the valuable lessons she learned about the nature of jealousy. Then a listener calls in with a voicemail about growing up without a close relationship to your father, and how we come to terms with this in adulthood. The Betchicist question comes from a listener whose mom started dating a younger man and is making her uncomfortable. Is it okay to ask your mom not to have her new guy sleep over even though you’re living in her house? The intentions for this week are all about fertility struggles and changing your mindset about the all-too-relatable “fertility window” stress. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions about a reclaimed gift, and a snide comment about someone’s religion. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Reconcile Childhood Issues With Your Parents In Adulthood

Why are our most ambivalent relationships often the ones that cause us the most agitation? Jordana and Dr. Naomi analyze a recent article on the topic of frenemies and why they take up so much more headspace than our real adversaries. Then a listener (and fellow therapist) writes in to ask whether or not she should feel bad for making an offhand remark about her supervisor. Why do we spend so much time focusing on the smallest of comments? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer who feels like a bad feminist for wanting to get botox and other injectables to fight the signs of aging. This week’s intention setting exercise is all about finding a way to bounce back after getting a series of disappointing replies to your destination-wedding invites. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions involving a forgotten name and a surprise marriage announcement. Link to the Op-Ed discussed on today’s episode: Your Most Ambivalent Relationships Are the Most Toxic Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does Getting Botox Make Me A Bad Feminist?

What makes for a good apology? Jordana shares a story about offering an insincere apology, leading to some practical tips from Dr. Naomi for how to craft an apology that counts. An emailer writes in to ask if she should confront a coworker after feeling humiliated by his thoughtless gift-exchange present. Hot off the heels of the Vanderpump Rules three-part reunion, they answer a Betchicist question about the level of vitriol directed at the perpetrators of the Scandoval affair. Why do we react so passionately after someone cheats? And to what degree can you speak up on behalf of a friend who was cheated on? A listener asks for help with setting intentions to deal with a neighbor who is constantly playing music. Finally, they rate a pair of Triggered submissions involving an annoying texter, and a group chat gone-rogue. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Deliver a Genuine Apology

Dr. Naomi had second thoughts about last week’s Triggered scenario, so she and Jordana revisit their positions on “the moaning yogi.” A listener writes in with an Overshare email about how she feels after her husband stopped engaging in sex during her recent pregnancy. Should you be offended if your partner’s attraction ebbs and flows? Next, the Betchicist question comes from a listener who is planning to meet up with her ex’s new girlfriend. Is it ethical to compare notes about an ex, and how much can you disclose about what it was like to date them? They respond to a request for intentions from an emailer who often finds herself looking to “jump ship” even when things are going well. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios include a technical-difficulties dig, and a copycat MIL. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Much Should I Share About My Ex?

Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days… Jordana is back from visiting Dr. Naomi, and while she may not have overstayed her welcome, her trip brought up some questions about hosting others. Then a listener writes in with an update on her previous email, explaining why she never got closure after her breakup – and that’s okay. Another listener writes in with an Overshare email regarding her overwhelming desire to complain about workplace stuff with the most negative person in the office. Why does it feel so good to vent negativity even when you know you shouldn’t? Next, a listener calls in with a Betchicist voicemail about maintaining contact with her ex’s mom, and whether or not it’s better to go cold turkey. They offer some intentions to an emailer who is struggling on their fertility journey. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios include a non-existent invite to a funeral, and a sex-noise-filled yoga class. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Does It Feel So Good To Be Negative?

Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.

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