We're talking about the magic of being truly present in the present moment in this episode. We talk about some of the blocks to this (or why we don't like being present) as well as some of the reasons why it's so lovely and important to be present! We also run through a few ways that you can practice being present while having compassion with how challenging that might be. Check us out on Instagram @queerwives or head over to our website if you'd like to read more about us. Hope you're all having a great week!! Music by Scott Holmes. Support the show (http://www.theelephantandtheowl.com/queerwivespodcast)

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Living in the Present Moment

For the first round of us interviewing each other head to Season 1 Episode 2 Titled "Hi, It's Us!"Today we're interviewing each other with some fun new questions. Get to know us a bit better, and find out what some of our thoughts and routines have been lately. (It's possible that Linds reveals her deep love for the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Steph reveals her love for the Jonas brothers....)**As a note, something went a bit screwy with our mic on this one and you may be able to hear a bit of static throughout. We're so sorry about that!!! We decided to post anyway because this is a hard one to recreate. :) Love to you all! Music track by Scott Holmes. Support the show (http://www.theelephantandtheowl.com/queerwivespodcast)

Interviewing Each Other Round 2

In this episode, Linds talks about her realization that she was putting on her judgment pants in the midst of this pandemic and starting to succumb to an us vs. them mentality (mask wearers vs. everyone else).She dives into why we are so addicted to judgments, especially in a time of such turmoil, and what we can do to step away from the divisiveness and embrace collective healing.  To learn more about us, visit @QueerWives on Instagram or our website at www.theelephantandtheowl.com. Support the show (http://www.theelephantandtheowl.com/queerwivespodcast)

Coronavirus Judgments, Conspiracy Theories, and Why You are Better Than "Those" People

In this episode we dive into the concept of waiting and the difference between forced seasons of rest and truly honoring seasons of dormancy as vital to new growth. Email us at info@theelephantandtheowl.com. We'd love to hear from you. We're also having a virtual new moon circle this coming Sunday at 2pm EDT for those who identify as women. Visit our website www.theelephantandtheowl.com/mooncircles for more info on how to join us. Support the show (http://www.theelephantandtheowl.com/queerwivespodcast)

The Secret of Waiting

In today's episode we're talking about what this shelter-in-place situation has been like for us and how we're trying to intentionally walk through it together. We've got some beautiful (but simple) resources for you to help navigate this strange and difficult season with intentionality and self-love. The app that Linds references in the podcast is called Insight Timer and has some great meditations to use as a resource during this or any other time! To join our meditation group on April 7, send us a DM on Instagram (@queerwives) or head over to our website for more info/to register. Support the show (http://www.theelephantandtheowl.com/queerwivespodcast)

Sheltering in Place

In this episode (since we're all coping with social distancing and a world with a lot more boundaries than we usual have on a daily basis), we're talking about boundaries. How do we define boundaries? What's the base belief behind this whole subject of boundaries? We're unpacking boundaries from a different perspective, addressing misconceptions and looking at personal responsibility. We are sending you all love in this difficult time! Thank you so much for listening. **In the podcast we reference Episode 6 (It's All About Me) and Episode 9 (It's a Family Affair). Support the show (http://www.theelephantandtheowl.com/queerwivespodcast)

It's a Good Time to Talk About Boundaries

Linds and Steph talk about what they've been up to since Season 1 finished, some stuff they each learned along the way, changes coming to the podcast this season, and their new little puppy, Bea (pronounced Bee, like the tiny little Bumblebee she is!). Support the show (http://www.theelephantandtheowl.com/queerwivespodcast)

We're Back!

In a world full of faux connection we find ourselves more disconnected than ever, so in this episode we talk about how to remove the static and stay truly connected. We're talking about the major blocks to meaningful connection and how we can intentionally create the connected lives we want. Support the show

Can You Hear Me Now? Broken Connection and How to Fix it

In this episode we discuss the importance of addressing your own issues/difficulties/attitudes/challenges/healing/growth, even in partnership. Despite the fact that we all often try, we cannot heal ourselves through our partners. In this episode we talk about what it looks like when we try to make our partners responsible for what is our responsibility (i.e. our own feelings and our own healing) and how we can start taking responsibility for our own feelings, our own issues, and our own healing. Support the show

It's All About Me

This is the story of how Steph and Linds came out and got together. It's dynamic, it's weird, it's funny; it's a great story! Support the show

Lets Get Together - How We Went From Friends To Lovers

This week we're talking about personality tools and how they can be fun, informational, and transformational to all our relationships. (It's so helpful to KNOW THYSELF!) Because the Enneagram is our favorite personality/personal drives tool to use, we spend some time in this episode going into the different Enneagram types, talk a bit about the "wings" in the Enneagram system, and even talk a bit about our own individual types. Let us know if you'd like a deeper dive into the Enneagram in an upcoming episode! Resources we mention in this week's show: 1) Book: Please Understand Me II By David Keirsey2) Online resource: The Enneagram Institute--https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions3) Book: The Positive Enneagram By Susan RhodesSupport the show

Who Are You - The Enneagram and Other Personality Tools

In this episode we're talking about the impact of family-of-origin programming and experiences on our partnerships.We'll be talking about differentiation (what's that?), keeping or leaving family-of-origin behaviors, survival brain (and why we sometimes do what we don't want to do), and ways to address all of these things in our partnerships with our significant others. We're also going to touch on the reality that a lot of queer couples face: when one or both partners are shunned by their families of origin for being gay. This is our experience with the majority of Steph's family and has a huge affect on our relationships whether we ever acknowledge it or not! Altogether, this episode is a diving into the subject of how our families of origin affect the new families we're creating in partnership together and how we can build trust and further that thriving relationship we all want.Support the show

It's a Family Affair

In this episode we're sharing the story of how we met. It involves a small southern town, a bible study, and two very unique (but actually rather similar) sides of the story. Support the show

How We Met

Masculine and feminine energies have nothing to do with gender, but gender roles often become a thing even in queer relationships when we don't truly understand the part masculine and feminine energies play within each of us and within our relationships. In this episode we dive into the definition of masculine energy and feminine energy. We look at how these energies show up in relationship and how stereotypes can sometimes leave us feeling boxed into gender roles we really don't want to live out. Support the show

Masculine and Feminine: It's Not Male and Female

Today on Queer Wives we're talking about shame, queer shame to be more specific, and how shame affects our relationships. We have some pretty distinct shame to deal with in the queer community, and today we're digging into what that means, how it manifests in our relationships, and how we can cope with it and truly thrive no matter the shame people have tried to heap on us as individuals or as a community. Support the show

Let's Talk About Shame

Married couple and Certified Professional Life Coaches, Steph and Linds talk about spirituality, relationships, and life. Queer Wives is a podcast about life; about working through our shit and the absolute reality of practice, practice, practice in order to create a life that really, truly feels good. It's a podcast that started out as an ode to relationships and blossomed into a space where we discuss spirituality, body image, community, family programming, and thriving in relationships. Come say hi on Instagram and Facebook @queerwives. (For more info on your hosts: find us on Instagram @s.j.laney & @l.e.laney)

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