[Listen on iTunes] This is the final episode of Reclaiming Male Role Models! I had the extraordinary privilege of being interviewed by David Hrostoski (featured in episode 21). In this episode we talk about: My journey visioning and creating Reclaiming Male Role Models Why I spent 3 years, countless hours, and lots of energy and money creating this project. How role models can be helpful in learning to do things differently, but how they can also box us in if we're not careful. Resources from this episode: robertschwenkler.com brotherhoodcommunity.com

Reclaiming Male Role Models

RMRM 030 | The Final Episode | Robert Schwenkler

[Listen on iTunes] Hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant” ROBERT KANDELL has spent the last sixteen years helping people re energize their lives and build better relationships through more honest and authentic connection. After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded OneTaste in 2004 with Nicole Daedone. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market, Robert built the company from scratch to a high seven-figure international corporation. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own Consulting firm helping small businesses become marketable and profitable. Robert is also an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer. He brings his enthusiasm and acumen to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love, on subjects around relationships, intimacy, communication and gender dynamics. In this episode we talk about: Rob’s story of going from an insecure, nerdy, fat Jewish kid to growing a multi 7 figure business and helping men all over the world become more confident, attractive, and fulfilled in their lives and relationships. The importance of authentic male friendship. The trifecta of male socialization that causes competition, frustration, and loneliness - and how to overcome them. Resources from this episode: TuffLove.live kandellconsulting.com

RMRM 029 | Sex, Confidence, and Fulfillment | Rob Kandell

[Listen on iTunes] ALEX VILLEGAS worked in Corporate America for around 10 years, for a couple of different fortune 500 companies. Because of his time in Corporate America, he knows from experience how demanding and stressful it can be. After that, Alex co-owned a Transformational Fitness company located in Coconut Grove, FL that specialized in life coaching, nutrition, and personal training. Alex is the Founder and President of Organic Work Environments. Organic Work Environments is about teaching professionals how to optimize their minds and busy work lives through Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Techniques. Our mission is to change the way we perceive and feel about work. In changing our attitudes about our present moments, we create more awareness and clarity in our day, which opens us up to being happy, connected, productive, and fueled by our purpose in life. In this episode we talk about: How Alex has transformed (or blown up, depending on how you look at it) his life multiple times over - all in service of following his life purpose. How the money, job, home, and beautiful don’t necessarily equal happiness. How authenticity and heart will get you anything you desire in life. Quotes from this episode: I’m here in this moment. I don’t want to know any other moment. The difference between a master and a beginner is that the master has tried more times than the beginner has ever tried. In suppressing your feelings you’re not allowing yourself to grow. Resources from this episode: synergizefit.com Organic Work Environments Instagram: @sandman615

RMRM 028 | Ditching the 6 Figure Job to Follow Your Life Purpose | Alex Villegas

[Listen on iTunes] TYLER TERVOOREN is the founder of Riskology, a blog where he writes for introverts about the science and strategies for becoming a great leader. Tyler loves finding new ideas for improving and testing them on himself, including running a marathon on every continent, running three businesses, and organizing three successful Guinness World Record attempts. Tyler figures that if the time is going to pass anyway, he might as well spend it doing fun things with interesting people. In this episode we talk about: Recreating his relationship with his dad. How self confidence allows us to love more fully in our intimate relationships. How Tyler gains self confidence by learning to do things himself before calling on an expert. Quotes from this episode: When you’re confident in yourself - in your life - and you can lead a happy life on your own, it allows you to really give all of yourself to someone else. The meaning or purpose of being a dad is figuring out how to be a dad. Resources from this episode: www.riskology.co/fix-it-yourself/

RMRM 027 | Do It Yourself | Tyler Tervooren

[Listen on iTunes] ROB SCOTT is a master level coach who helps people shift their identities and make dramatic breakthroughs on all platforms of their life. Over the past two decades he has helped people who were struggling and feeling unfulfilled to succeed in the various areas they were looking to improve. The Fundamental Shift, pioneered by Rob, teaches people how rewire their limiting beliefs, and ultimately leaves them completely transformed and understanding the distinctions of thought vs experience. Rob has pinpointed humanity’s core issue and identified and named this problem. It’s the problem of limiting of our current identity. The thoughts you create yield the results of what you think you deserve. Rob has made it his mission to shift this mindset and create habits and behaviors that yield positive outcomes. The result of this shift are people who are living to their full potential and achieving a level of success they thought was impossible to reach. Now, after a decade of helping believe reach this next level consciousness, Rob has reached hundreds of thousands people with his message and his practices. He has been fully awake for more than twenty years and is passionate about how to change to world. People who have worked with Rob have experienced breakthroughs in health, relationships, income, and an overall sense of happiness and fulfillment. Rob has helped business grow, relationships flourish, and has even helped craft congressional testimony that has lead to national policy reform, all by teaching others how to evolve their consciousness to shift their identity. In this episode we talk about: A peek into Robs story from being born into pain and abuse to evolving and having an impact on the consciousness of hundreds of thousands of people worldwide. What it truly takes to receive the love we say we want. The single most transformative tool for personal development. Quotes from this episode: At the base of addiction is a dissatisfaction with this moment. Without a doubt beginning to work with the mind - with the self awareness of detaching from your frames of reference and belief systems - is the most transformative tool that there is. We need to feel worthy and deserving of love. I had so much shame and difficulty going through what I went through as a younger guy that I didn’t really feel I deserved it for a long time. Resources from this episode: www.robscott.com www.identityshifting.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/realrobscott/ Twitter: @rob_scott Instagram: @realrobscott

RMRM026 | Mastering Self Love and Self Awareness | Rob Scott

[Listen on iTunes] KEN BLACKMAN is a sought-after lecturer and coach, teaching workshops worldwide and working one-on-one with select clients from SF, LA and NY to London, Paris, Sydney and Bali. His approach is brash, unorthodox and effective. He was one of the principal architects of a curriculum that is now shifting the world conversation around sex and human relating through OneTaste. His main focus these days is on custom-tailoring relationships to be resilient, passionate, intimate, connection-rich and deeply fulfilling. In this episode we talk about: Ken’s journey - from feeling unlikable and unattractive to now teaching men and women all over the world how to have resilient and deeply gratifying relationships. Why trying to be attractive to women is the thing that’s keeping you from being attractive to women. Quotes from this episode: The one thing that I want all guys to get is that the you that’s actually in there is 10x more attractive than the you that you’re trying to pretend to be. The divorce rate is really high. But also people who are together have got all the checkmarks marked off but they’re not happy. What happened? I had women who were willing to tell me the truth and start to train me in what they wanted and it was nothing like what I thought.  Resources from this episode: www.kenblackman.com

RMRM025 | You’re Really 10x More Attractive Than Who You’re Trying to Be | Ken Blackman

[Listen on iTunes] MIKE ZELLER discovered his passion for leadership in his early twenties. By the time He was 22, he had listened to well over 100 visionary talks from the top leadership experts in our culture. Before graduating college, He was a devoted sales professional and avid student of sales. After graduation, he enrolled himself under the mentorship, education, and influences of Tony Robbins, Peter Diamandis, and Tim Ferris. Mike has had the opportunity to join some of the highest masterminds, and spent 1000s of hours per year studying various facets of business while still growing his current ventures and starting new ones. In this episode we talk about: The impact that seeking out mentors has had on Mike’s life and career (Hint: It starts with an “H” and ends with a “uge”) How to cultivate mentor relationships where you actually add value to your mentor’s life. The belief that has allowed Mike’s level of success to grow radically. Quotes from this episode: You miss every shot you don’t take. How can I contribute to raising up men and women of character, passion, courage, purpose who are making this world better? When I do goals, right in the center is “key relationships to develop” and I list out the 8-10 people that over the next 12 months I want to intentionally spend more time with. Resources from this episode: www.mikezeller.com www.weartrim.com

RMRM024 | The Power of Mentorship | Mike Zeller

[Listen on iTunes] GREGORY KELLETT is a leader in the field of human potential. His obsession for merging the worlds of neuroscience, community and optimal performance has led him to help individuals and organizations build resilience. He describes himself as a recovering neuroscientist, & prior to coaching, conducted research in brain responsiveness, stress & the nervous system for over 10 years at both SFSU and UCSF. He is known for his unique ability to translate scientific research into simple, practical tools for real world success and satisfaction. Gregory lives with his extended family just north of San Francisco. In this episode we talk about: Letting go of the rational mind and trusting intuition. Breaking down the paradigm of marriage. Trusting women and the feminine - and how it’s made his life be better than he could have ever imagined. Quotes from this episode: I’m experimenting with really trusting women, and what I find it that it just keeps getting better than I could have ever have imagined. It’s easy to believe what you see but it’s sometimes not as easy to see what you believe. The universe is intelligent and benevolent and kind and incredibly responsive if we let it be. If we don’t believe it, if we don’t trust it, it won’t be. Resources from this episode: Gregory's Relaxation Engineering Coaching:  www.unwynd.com Gregory's Podcast: www.commongrounding.com

RMRM023 | Breaking Down Masculinity – Marriage, Intuition, and Hugging Your Father | Gregory Kellett

[Listen on iTunes] KYLE INGHAM is the founder and editor of The Distilled Man, a website that helps everyday guys become well-rounded gentlemen. In this episode we talk about: How Kyle’s interest in learning to grill better turned into full time business teaching man skills like making a martini, tying a bow tie, and grilling. How Kyle actually creates and builds relationships by talking about taboo topics and pushing peoples' comfort zones. How learning new skills (such as mixing a martini!) can increase a man's confidence. Quotes from this episode: I have a few role models that are comedians. Not because they’re funny, but because of their honesty. My father, he had high expectations of me being good at sports and I wasn’t that good at sports… I’ve always found that I’m way more happy when I have a sense of purpose. I’m the kind of person who needs to embody what I’m doing. Resources from this episode: The Distilled Man website: www.thedistilledman.com Free ebook, “48-Hour Gentleman: Your One-Weekend Plan to More Confidence, Poise and Manly Know-How” Online course series: www.gentlemenlookgoodlivewell.com

RMRM022 | Teaching Men to Grill Meat, Change Tires, and Tie Bowties | Kyle Ingham

[Listen on iTunes] Shortly after the death of his mother and fully exiting the religious cult he was born into, DAVID HROSTOSKI began his journey into deep personal introspection and entrepreneurship. After two cross-country road trips with his brother—one to spread his mothers ashes in 40 locations and document the journey, and the other to volunteer in 35+ cities over a 94 day span—he was inspired to spend the next three years as a coach, tackling various problems with his clients from around the world. Then, after a monumental spiritual opening, he decided to take the skills he learned during his time as a coach into consulting for purpose-centered businesses to amplify his global impact. He now works behind the scenes of some of the world's best coaches, helping to strategize and implement systems for sustainable growth. In this episode we talk about: David’s double life as a member of the Jehovah’s Witness church - and his journey in leaving to create the life he knew he was meant to live. What it looks like to intentionally create a community family that gets and supports you for who you truly are. How to live a fully authentic life. Quotes from this episode: I was living a double life. I would have sex with my girlfriend and then I would go home to the Jehovah’s Witness. At our core we don’t want to do harm to other people

RMRM 021 | Leaving the Jehovah’s Witness Church to Create a Fully Authentic Life | David Hrostoski

[Listen on iTunes] GREGG DEMAMMOS is a very happy husband and father of two great boys. In 2006 Gregg left a successful career in the music industry managing artists to become a life coach. Ten years later he has coached hundreds of people to transform their lives and relationships, have more business success, and create new, empowering relationship to themselves. Today Gregg is more of who he always wanted to be than he ever has been. From the moment he lost his father at age 9 Gregg became committed to helping his mom get through things as best he could. In his business he now concentrates on coaching women leaders who are ready to bring their dreams back into focus and become who they have always wanted to be - A niche that has been a lifetime in the making. In this episode we talk about: How Gregg respects his childrens’ temper tantrums and anger, and transforms them into life lessons and deep love. Gregg’s journey of learning to use his emotions in ways that worked FOR him. How, despite growing up with no father as a role model during some of the most formative years of his life, Gregg later chose to be an extraordinary father who raised extraordinary children. Quotes from this episode: My 9 year old son is incredibly wise. The things he gives me for my business and for myself are unparalleled. Your emotions are your reality until you understand that they’re an emotional reality and that you exist underneath them. Regardless of how righteous your mission is, of how great the possibility you’re holding is, when you’re injecting your own outrage [into a situation] you’re going to create more separation. Resources from this episode: Gregg’s coaching practice for professional women - www.empowerandemerge.com www.relationshipcircle.com

RMRM020 | How to Be an Extraordinary Parent Who Raises Extraordinary Children | Gregg DeMammos

[Listen on iTunes] CHRISTOPHER SUNYATA Sexual energy is the source of all life in this world. Vast physical pleasure, deep love, and even union with divine source can be experienced through sex. Christopher Sunyata teaches people how to embrace their sexual power and artfully conduct it through their body and intimate relationships, integrating this power into their whole life. Drawing upon decades of practice and study under masters of sexual yoga, Taoist exercises, and Buddhist meditation, he teaches ancient body-centered practices without dogma or esoteric language, leading others to discover the secret wisdom already present within their own body. By learning to trust this wisdom within their body, people can reclaim passion and life energy that is their birthright, and create intimate relationships that deepen in love and chemistry over the years. Prior to teaching he was a successful international project manager responsible for over a billion dollars in revenue, a medical device engineer with seven patents, and a ceramic artist.  He has raised four children, two of his own, including one who has significant disabilities. He lives in Molokai, Hawaii and Boulder, Colorado with his beloved wife Karlene. In this episode we talk about: What it’s like to be in his 50s and be having the best sex AND the most intimacy he’s ever had with his partner - and getting better every day. Chris’ touching story of how his grandfather taught him to truly love women. How awareness of our breath is the foundation of intimacy - and how to begin cultivating that awareness. Quotes from this episode: It was the first time I’d seen a married couple where they were flirting all the time. It shocked me how much joy they had in their relationship. Foreplay is happening 24/7 if you’re in a relationship. The man with the fullest breath in a room holds a gravitas and presence that other men feel and will respect and defer to that person. Resources from this episode: www.christophersunyata.com

RMRM 019 | How to Open Your Partner up to Love in Every Moment | Christopher Sunyata

[Listen on iTunes] MORRIS KUNZ has been a leader in the real estate finance industry for over 20 years. He has the ability to bring people together and negotiate transactions at a high level due to his understanding and skillset around the dynamics of relationship. He has successfully negotiated 100’s of millions of dollars’ worth of real estate transactions. Morris has also worked with many couples and individuals to unlock their authentic communication, express their truth without fear of judgement, and ultimately move to higher levels of relationship. In this episode we talk about: Morris’ journey in showing up as the role model he wished he’d been for his children. How to navigate the process of conscious uncoupling within marriage. How to maintain passion and excitement in your relationship through the concepts of polarity. The distinction between tolerating and celebrating your relationships. Quotes from this episode: I was absent for my boys more than I would have liked to have been, and I see them struggle because of that now I think that’s where the true connection comes in, when we can get past the storms of our partner and still be there strong, loving, vulnerable. Both people have to be 100% on board at looking in the mirror on “How can I make this relationship be one that I’m celebrating?” Resources from this episode: Way of the Superior Man by David Deida The Ultimate Relationship Program by Tony Robbins

RMRM018 | How to Use Polarity to Spark Passion in Your Relationship | Morris Kunz

[Listen on iTunes] TED RYCE is a health & fitness expert, professional speaker and host of the Legendary Life podcast. He's been a fitness professional for over 17 years in the Miami Beach area. He's worked with celebrities like Richard Branson, Robert Downey Jr as well as CEOs of multimillion dollar companies. He believes that health and fitness form the foundation of success in our life. After overcoming several tragedies, he started combining health with personal development to provide an all-encompassing approach to success and living a life of purpose. In this episode we talk about: The single art form that Ted practiced to excel in every area of life, including his relationships with women and his friendships. The importance of developing a healthy relationship with our masculine energy. His rocky and painful journey from family tragedy to healing and reconnecting with his father. Why crying is one of the most manly things men can do. Quotes from this episode: There is a shadow to masculine energy and that’s why it’s important to be in touch with it. It’s not inherently a bad thing. How you express it is key. Martial arts helped me with that. It’s about mastering your emotions, mastering yourself, and knowing that you DON’T have to get into a fight. My little brother was kidnapped when I was 19, he was 9. My dad and mom, they changed 2 laws in this country to make my brother’s legacy mean something. There’s a big misconception about women are emotional and men are logical, it’s all bullshit. Resources from this episode: www.legendarylifepodcast.com

RMRM017 | How to Overcome Tragedy and Live an Extraordinary Life | Ted Ryce

[Listen on iTunes] FREDDY ZENTAL WEAVER co-lead creative self-discovery seminars at the Institute for Creative Living in Los Angeles, San Diego, San Francisco and Hawaii. He employs the approach of “Creative Self-Discovery” as developed by psychiatrist and author, Fred Weaver, III, M.D. During his tenure in software sales with companies including Eality, Ceridian Employer Services, Paychex and WebPerfect Solutions, Inc. he consistently achieved outstanding sales and income objectives. Freddy Zental’s career spans from serving as a teacher and district wide human relationship counselor in the Los Angeles Unified School District in his early career to being a performing artist with a one-man show called “Sexual Enlightenment” currently touring the United States. He is an accomplished performing artist, percussionist, stand-up comedian and story teller using humor, music and movement in his presentations and trainings. He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in political science and is a certified Thai Body Worker. FRED WEAVER III, M.D. earned his bachelors degree from North Carolina Central University, obtain his medical degree from Meharry medical college and completed a psychiatric residency at UCLA with a vast background of teaching consulting in private practice experience. His special interests include writing poetry, painting, creating multimedia collages, and writing about the creative process. Has been retired for the last 20 years. A native of Gainesville Florida Dr. Weaver currently lives in Marina Delray California. He is the father of four children Wanda, Freddy, Woody, and Milton. Dr. Weaver has published many poems and books. In this episode we talk about: How to raise your child to grow into the genius that they truly are What it was like for Freddy Jr. to grow up immersed in his father’s phsychiatric work (including sitting in on 24 hour nude group therapy sessions!) The special connection between a father and son who have BOTH committed their lives to personal growth Quotes from this episode: “[My father] has always been committed to allowing me to be, uncover, and discover“ “I think there should be a program in school for children to learn how to consciously self love.” “As your father I‘m going to attempt to be the best father I can be, make you the best person you can be, but a lot of times I’ll be wrong. A lot of times another person will be able to meet some of your needs that I can’t meet. And I hope that I can guide you in such a way that you can know who they are.” Resources from this episode: www.tantranova.com

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