Welcome to Episode #92 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. In today’s episode Patrick shares one of the most important factors for successful leaders: differentiation. Self-differentiation is a leadership code cracker. If you have wondered why you can’t seem to get the ‘wins’ you work so hard for, even after training with conferences, consultants, books, podcasts, and mentors, this episode is for you!   This episode takes us into the following:   * The underlying reason why leaders feel stressed, burned out, and ready to quit. * Dr. Murray Bowen’s Family Systems Theory. * Defining self-differentiation from Family Systems Theory and applying it to everyday scenarios. * How relational systems often drive us and pressure us to conform. * What leading experts say about the power of differentiation from marriage, parenting, medical, addiction recovery, and pastoral leadership perspectives. * Patrick’s story of suffering as a leader and what the clarifying insights have meant to his own leadership. * Questions that help us reflect and determine our maturity in self-differentiation. * How the more mature we are at self-differentiation the less anxiety we lead with. * How anxiety in relational/leadership systems leads to weakened trust and weakened team connections. * Biblical references around self-differentiation. * Contrasting enmeshment/fusion to self-differentiation. * Setting the stage for upcoming episodes dealing with maturing and developing skills for healthier, less anxious differentiation.   ▷   Visit our Red Ink Revival website: https://redinkrevival.com   https://www.redinkrevival.com/blog/categories/podcast   ▷   Connect with Patrick on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/redinkrevival FB: https://www.facebook.com/patricknorris IG: https://www.instagram.com/redinkrevival/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/norris.patrick/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-norris-4b733412/   ▷   Subscribe to the podcast, then rate, review, and share it! YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAFa7APH8IY1o-bO9eGPUVQ APPLE PODCAST:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/id1483717555 SPOTIFY:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5PYiyjQhfrTKTLxnHyEj7E AUDIBLE:  https://www.audible.com/pd/Red-Ink-Revival-Leadership-Podcast-Podcast/B08JJPN2W6 PANDORA:  https://www.pandora.com/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/PC:24055 LIBSYN: https://redinkrevival.libsyn.com/   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

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90. Patrick Norris – The Leader’s Kryptonite: Emotional Fusion Versus Differentiation

Welcome to Episode #91 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with pastor, corporate coach, and student development entrepreneur Tom Toney, as we talk through his revolutionary vision to impact children as next generation leaders.   Tom is a Lead Pastor and a Leadership/Organizational Development Trainer. He is the founder of Current Family, a non-profit dedicated to empowering students and families with resources for personal growth and development. He is the creator of KUEST Student Leadership Development Systems, which over the past 20+ years has been used by organizations, schools around the nation, and churches to empower young students in growing their character, self-expectation, and leadership. Tom is a coach to corporate, non-profit, and educational leaders helping them develop strategies for success through the CAB University Leadership and Team Development, a model he created. He is an author, speaker, and DISC certified leadership coach. Today one of his core passions is to train influencers, teachers, and parents to empower children in public schools, homeschools, and church kid ministries.   Our conversation takes us into the following:   * Tom’s story of faith. * Why he has a core passion to reach, mentor, and develop children into leaders. * How KUEST is a revolutionary organization that transforms children into leaders. * The five primary values that are key to developing children.   * How the KUEST program and principles have been invited into public schools and impacted children through the power of personal story. * What therapeutic processes are being offered to teachers for understanding a kid’s attachment injury. * Helping children in class to be multidimensional humans by understanding they are carrying relational injuries from home. * How academics are the number one priority for schools, but for children, survival is first, belonging is second, and academics are third. * How our present academic systems promote distress denial and hiding emotional pains behind intellect and knowledge. * What KUEST is doing to develop church Children’s Pastors to fill churches around the world through online training.   ▷   GUEST INFO: KUEST WEBSITE (Student Ministry Related):  https://www.kuest.org TOM TONEY WEBSITE (Corporate Related): https://www.tomtoney.com EMAIL: TomToney@TomToney.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/kuestleadership/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/KUESTLeadership/   YT: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCerYDXfutFSsF7nqhGrmqKg?view_as=subscriber   ▷   Visit our Red Ink Revival website: https://redinkrevival.com   https://www.redinkrevival.com/blog/categories/podcast   ▷   Connect with Patrick on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/redinkrevival FB: https://www.facebook.com/patricknorris IG: https://www.instagram.com/redinkrevival/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/norris.patrick/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-norris-4b733412/   ▷   Subscribe to the podcast, then rate, review, and share it! YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAFa7APH8IY1o-bO9eGPUVQ APPLE PODCAST:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/id1483717555 SPOTIFY:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5PYiyjQhfrTKTLxnHyEj7E AUDIBLE:  https://www.audible.com/pd/Red-Ink-Revival-Leadership-Podcast-Podcast/B08JJPN2W6 PANDORA:  https://www.pandora.com/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/PC:24055 LIBSYN: https://redinkrevival.libsyn.com/   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

90. Tom Toney – A Revolutionary Vision to Impact Children as Next Generation Leaders

Welcome to Episode #90 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with theologian, pastor, seminary president, Dr. Terry Wardle, as we talk through how leadership dysfunction is a symptom of emotional disruption.   Dr. Wardle has served as a Church Planter, Seminary President, Professor, Author, and International Speaker. Today he directs the Institute of Formational Counseling, Healing Care Ministries, and Healing Care Ministries International. During his own season of deep brokenness while leading a great Christian organization, Dr. Wardle met Christ as he never had before. Dr. Wardle leverages this transformational encounter to see similar transformations in thousands of leaders worldwide.   Our conversation takes us into the following:   Terry’s faith story from meteoric rise in ministry to sitting in an inpatient psychiatric institution. How his spiritual giftings hid all the pain of an unresolved past. Amazing successes to immediate deep depression and agoraphobia (irrational fear and panic of being in crowds). How professional competencies do not indicate a person’s health. At 5 years of age Terry watched his grandfather die less than three feet away from him. The next year he woke up next to his grandmother who had died in her sleep. Anger and achievement give the illusion it can still the storm of fear. Neurobiologically when we are wounded, we are wounded episodically; therefore we must be healed episodically. Why simply reading or memorizing Scripture often fails to change us. Sometimes we use “spiritual pain killers” in hopes of escaping the pain. How dysfunctional behavior is a symptom of emotional disruption. What is true is conceptual. What is real is episodic. How these differences give huge insights. Shame is the basic sense that I don’t measure up. An effective ministry demands we have an authentic life. Identity is not about competency but having a clear self-definition. Identity is not what makes you unique. Identity is the foundation on which uniqueness rests. Workaholism in ministry is not a matter of theology; it’s a matter of pathology. It’s not achievement that changes a life; it’s awakening that changes a life. Dysfunctional patterns come from loss, lies, and wounds. How to know you have grieved losses appropriately and sufficiently. The language of emotion is uncensored. The language of cognition is sterilized and guarded. The importance of lamenting and imprecatory Psalms for healing and transformation.   ▷   GUEST INFO: TERRY WARDLE WEBSITE: www.healingcare.org EMAIL:  Info@healingcare.org PODCAST - SLINGSTONES:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/slingstones-podcast/id1165272071 IG:  https://www.instagram.com/terrywardle_healingcare/ FB:  https://www.facebook.com/TerryWardleHCM   If you have any questions you would like us to address in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com .    ▷   Visit our Red Ink Revival website: https://redinkrevival.com   https://www.redinkrevival.com/blog/categories/podcast   ▷   Connect with Patrick on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/redinkrevival FB: https://www.facebook.com/patricknorris IG: https://www.instagram.com/redinkrevival/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/norris.patrick/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-norris-4b733412/   ▷   Subscribe to the podcast, then rate, review, and share it! YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAFa7APH8IY1o-bO9eGPUVQ APPLE PODCAST:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/id1483717555 SPOTIFY:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5PYiyjQhfrTKTLxnHyEj7E AUDIBLE:  https://www.audible.com/pd/Red-Ink-Revival-Leadership-Podcast-Podcast/B08JJPN2W6 PANDORA:  https://www.pandora.com/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/PC:24055 LIBSYN: https://redinkrevival.libsyn.com/   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

90. Dr. Terry Wardle – Leadership Dysfunction as a Symptom of Emotional Disruption

Welcome to Episode #89 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s episode is a message by Patrick from a series called Activation.   Jesus and the first century leaders spoke often of the transformational power of Activation. What does that mean? When a person simply takes wholistic action upon God’s Word and promises with trust, emotion, and expectancy, a supernatural reaction takes place that leaves the person changed. For many Christians there is a wait and see relationship with God’s promises. But when we choose, rearrange our lives, surrender our hearts and souls, and act upon God’s Word, it will take us from a dead, theoretic religion into a vibrant, energized relationship. The Activation series will help you grasp the vast differences between just reading the Bible as an academic book versus implementing the nuances as a world-changing child of God.    This episode takes us into the following:   * The Bible was never intended to be an empty caricature of God. * The Word of God is filled with God’s nature, substance, wisdom, and power. * The Word of God is to change every sphere of life. * God intends that His Word will bring radical transformation in a human life. * God never speaks of humans becoming flawless but rather maturing in transformation. * Surrender refers to activations of faith in God’s Word. * Emotional regulation and satisfaction towards happiness has to do with the state of your heart. * Pride is lacking tenderness in surrender to God’s thoughts, ways, and standards. * When obedience costs you something it is experienced by God as worship. * The stages of surrender: watching, considering, repenting, reorganizing. * If you don’t like your life, check your surrender. * Patrick’s story of a lifetime of surrender experiences. * Inner newness of life doesn’t happen in memorizing a new Scripture; it happens in surrenders given in each stage of life. * Great faith to speak to mountains requires a growth-pattern of great surrender even in the smallest areas of life. * Identifying the fears that prevent you from surrendering to all of God’s ways.   ▷   Visit our Red Ink Revival website: https://redinkrevival.com   https://www.redinkrevival.com/blog/categories/podcast   ▷   Connect with Patrick on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/redinkrevival FB: https://www.facebook.com/patricknorris IG: https://www.instagram.com/redinkrevival/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/norris.patrick/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-norris-4b733412/   ▷   Subscribe to the podcast, then rate, review, and share it! YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAFa7APH8IY1o-bO9eGPUVQ APPLE PODCAST:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/id1483717555 SPOTIFY:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5PYiyjQhfrTKTLxnHyEj7E AUDIBLE:  https://www.audible.com/pd/Red-Ink-Revival-Leadership-Podcast-Podcast/B08JJPN2W6 PANDORA:  https://www.pandora.com/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/PC:24055 LIBSYN: https://redinkrevival.libsyn.com/   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

89. Patrick Norris – Activation, Surrender, and Transformation

Welcome to Episode #88 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with theologian, philosopher, and apologist Dr. Stan Wallace.   Dr. Wallace is the President and CEO of Global Scholars, an organization that equips Christian professors to serve Christ in secular universities worldwide. He has nearly 200 articles published in professional and ministry journals on engaging the mind and culture. He is co-host of the Thinking Christianly podcast with philosopher and theologian J.P. Moreland, a must listen for everyone desiring to have a “thinking” faith. He is also host of the College Faith podcast which explores the intersection of Christian conviction and higher education.   Our conversation takes us into the following:   * Stan’s story of faith in Christ from New Age to atheism to a meaningful faith in Christ. * Reflecting on spiritual mentorship and interactions with philosophers Dr. Dallas Willard and Dr. J.P. Moreland. * Stan’s passion and calling to scholars and professors in secular universities. * Navigating the secular culture and hot topics while holding faith and evangelism. * What Global Scholars is and how Stan leads the organization. * The special podcasts Stan hosts: College Faith and Thinking Christianly. * Stan’s amazing reflections of a famous open debate he hosted between Christian Dr. William Lane Craig and atheist Antony Flew. * Clarifying and defining the soul, heart, spirit, and mind, both theologically and philosophically. * How understanding the soul impacts the way we feel, connect, and experience life. * How to appropriately metabolize theological and philosophical ideas that Aristotle and Plato propagated. * The important differences between the mind and the brain. * How the different parts of the brain and their functions interact with the immaterial soul. * Where the new birth (salvation) takes place within the soul. * A definition and understanding of what it means to become like Christ in our soul’s capacities. * What the heart is, and how it is the energy source for healthy and unhealthy behavior. * How religious presuppositions can hinder transformation and the process of sanctification. * What therapy does in wholistic soulish alignment to help a person live out transformation.   ▷   GUEST INFO: STAN WALLACE WEBSITE: https://www.stanwallace.org GLOBAL SCHOLARS WEBSITE: https://www.global-scholars.org COLLEGE FAITH WEBSITE AND PODCAST: https://www.collegefaith.net THINKING CHRISTIANLY WEBSITE AND PODCAST:  https://www.thinkingchristianly.org   ▷   Visit our Red Ink Revival website: https://redinkrevival.com   https://www.redinkrevival.com/blog/categories/podcast   ▷   Connect with Patrick on social media: FB: https://www.facebook.com/redinkrevival FB: https://www.facebook.com/patricknorris IG: https://www.instagram.com/redinkrevival/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/norris.patrick/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-norris-4b733412/   ▷   Subscribe to the podcast, then rate, review, and share it! YOUTUBE:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAFa7APH8IY1o-bO9eGPUVQ APPLE PODCAST:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/id1483717555 SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/5PYiyjQhfrTKTLxnHyEj7E AUDIBLE:  https://www.audible.com/pd/Red-Ink-Revival-Leadership-Podcast-Podcast/B08JJPN2W6 PANDORA:  https://www.pandora.com/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/PC:24055 LIBSYN: https://redinkrevival.libsyn.com/   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

88. Dr. Stan Wallace – Transformation: Making Sense of the Soul, Brain, Heart, and Spirit

Welcome to Episode #87 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with Pastor Chris Hodges of Church of the Highlands in Birmingham, Alabama. We talk through Chris’ two episodes of depression and how he came out of his caves.   Pastor Chris Hodges is the founding and senior pastor of Church of the Highlands. Since it began in 2001, it has grown to have 20 satellite campuses across the state of Alabama, with over 60,000 members. Pastor Chris has a deep passion for developing leaders and planting life-giving churches. He co-founded Association of Related Churches (ARC) in 2001, which has launched hundreds of churches across the United States. He also founded Grow, specializing in training and resourcing pastors and churches to help them break barriers and reach their growth potential. Pastor Chris is also the founder and Chancellor of Highlands College, a ministry training school that trains and launches students into full-time ministry careers.   Pastor Chris speaks at conferences worldwide and is a New York Times Bestselling Author, the latest being our topic today, Out of the Cave: Stepping into the Light When Depression Darkens What You See. He is married to Tammy, and together they have five children.   Our podcast conversation takes us into the following:   * Why Pastor Chris wrote Out of the Cave. * His battle with two significant episodes of depression. * Why pastors often struggle with anxiety and depression. * The necessity of regularly honoring the sabbath. * What the story of Elijah tells us about recovery. * The importance of resting and eating when emotions are extreme. * How a God encounter can change our perspective. * Addressing the stories we tell ourselves. * A life-giving vision is key to hotwire us out of emotional distress. * What Viktor Frankl learned in Lego therapy to help Holocaust victims. * The importance of a circle of friends to hold you in times of struggle.   ▷   GUEST INFO: WEBSITE:  https://www.churchofthehighlands.com/ FB CHURCH:  https://www.facebook.com/highlands IG:  @pastorchrishodges   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   ▷   Visit our Red Ink Revival website: https://redinkrevival.com   https://www.redinkrevival.com/blog/categories/podcast   ▷   Connect with Patrick on social media: FB:  https://www.facebook.com/redinkrevival FB: https://www.facebook.com/patricknorris IG: https://www.instagram.com/redinkrevival/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/norris.patrick/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-norris-4b733412   ▷   Subscribe to the podcast, then rate, review, and share it! Youtube:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAFa7APH8IY1o-bO9eGPUVQ Apple Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/id1483717555 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/5PYiyjQhfrTKTLxnHyEj7E Audible:  https://www.audible.com/pd/Red-Ink-Revival-Leadership-Podcast-Podcast/B08JJPN2W6 Pandora:  https://www.pandora.com/podcast/red-ink-revival-leadership-podcast/PC:24055 Libsyn:  https://redinkrevival.libsyn.com/   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

87. Chris Hodges – Out of the Cave of Depression

Welcome to Episode #86 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with leadership and organizational development coach Philip Engle, as we talk through how to develop your organization and those you lead.   Philip is a senior coach for FOCUS 412, an organization that partners with churches to help them grow both numerically and in health. He has been actively leading in the church for the last 13 years, including being as a campus pastor at Elevation Church in Charlotte, North Carolina, and roles at Passion City Church in Atlanta, Georgia. In Philip’s time at Elevation, he met and led with Phil Klein, a Harvard Business School graduate and C-Suite Executive at Time Warner and AT&T. When Phil launched FOCUS 412, Philip was immediately made a senior coach.   Our podcast conversation takes us into the following:   * Philip’s story of faith and career moves that led him to FOCUS 412. * What he learned from leading at Elevation and Passion City. * The power of creating team and organizational culture. * Holding teammates “accountable for” is about loving them well in their pursuit of growth. * Emotional anxieties that prevent leaders from speaking accountability into teammates. * The differences between being goal oriented and relationship oriented. * How leading with an open hand generates loyalty. * The difference between content leaders and relational leaders. * How great leaders must grow in both competency and emotional wholeness. * How culture must have specific organizational “sounds”. * How leadership principles are the same for both organizations and families. * How clarity brings organizational and team security, and a lack of clarity brings anxiety. * The importance of fighting for organizational simplicity, as we are always tempted towards complexity. * Why church leadership structures and systems are Biblical Christianity, rather than secular corporate ideologies. * How corporate principles go off rails when the organization’s relationships are not led with healthy, emotional intelligence. * How leadership pipelines work and why they are so important for future growth.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

86. Philip Engle – Leadership and Organizational Development

Welcome to Episode #85 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with psychologist Dr. Todd Bowman and therapist Rick Presley as we talk through how to deal with difficult people.   Dr. Bowman is the Associate Professor of Counseling at Indiana Wesleyan University, an Adjunct Professor for Human Sexuality at Nazarene Theological Seminary, an Adjunct Professor of the Intro to Psychology at Nazarene Bible College, and an evaluating psychologist for assessing seminary applicants for seminaries.   Rick Presley is a licensed marriage and family therapist. His expertise and certifications include being a sexual addiction professional, EMDR provider, and partner betrayal clinician. He is an experienced treatment provider in grief, loss, and trauma recovery.   Our conversation takes us into the following:   * The “difficult people characteristics” that therapists and pastors experience. * How our bodies signal us of other people’s personality disorders. * How to handle people taking advantage of our empathy. * The difference between a person that presents as a “jerk” and one with a personality disorder. * The importance of not weaponizing against others by transposing disorder-labels on them. * The power of self-awareness and self-reflection. * What narcissistic personality disorder is and how it is different from narcissistic tendencies. * How to work with someone who is on the narcissistic continuum. * How borderline personality disorders show up and ways to handle them. * When we question whether we also present personality fractures or disorders. * The reality of living in a modern culture that is bifurcated in extremes. * The necessity of differentiation and boundaries. * The complexity of multiple relationships, such as being someone’s pastor, boss, and counselor.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

85. Dr. Todd Bowman and Rick Presley – How to Deal with Difficult People: The Narcissist

Welcome to Episode #84 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with Dr. Juli Slattery.   Dr. Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy. She earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, and an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology. Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family Broadcast. She left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God’s design for sexuality. Dr. Slattery launched SexualDiscipleship.com, a platform designed to help Christian leaders navigate sexual issues and questions with gospel-centered truth. She is the author of ten books and host of the weekly podcast “Java with Juli.” Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.   Our conversation takes us to…   * How Juli came to faith in Christ. * Why she became a clinical psychologist. * Her heart to redeem God’s design for sexuality. * Managing conversations around gender, sexuality, pronouns, orientations, and identities. * What the purpose of sex actually is. * How when we get the purpose of sex wrong, we get so many other things wrong as well. * How sex and sexuality reveal deeper things within our hearts and souls. * The importance of remaining sex positive while pursuing sexual integrity. * What sin is and the broader understanding of sin in the context of sexuality. * Whether LGBTQ+ a “sin” matter, and how to best approach the topic in relationships. * How to navigate marriages with sexual incongruence. * Where to find help if there is sexual conflict in marriage.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

84. Dr. Juli Slattery – God’s Great Design for Sexuality

Welcome to Episode #83 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with John Grunewald.   John and his wife Michelle are the founders of Grunewald Ministries, a global missions organization that establishes Bible colleges (280 campuses), trains church planters, grows next generation leaders, and translates Bible teaching books (34 language zones). John has served as church planter, senior pastor, Bible college founder, and pastor to pastors.   Today we talk about how John went from atheist/agnostic to faith in Christ to a global missionary and leader of leaders. Our conversation takes us to:   * How John came to faith in Christ. * What simple conversations from people sharing their faith can do. * His struggle with public speaking having an introverted personality. * John’s first pastoral assignment. * The difference between a calling and an assignment. * His story of moving to Germany to start a Bible college. * The power of relationships in building towards an assignment. * The importance of emotional health in leading ministries and in all spheres of life. * Why delegation is so important. * How leadership is more than dispensing content, it is relational investments towards development. * Renaming an “organizational chart” to a “discipleship chart.”   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

83. John Grunewald – Becoming a Global Missionary and Leader to Leaders

Welcome to Episode #82 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. In today’s episode I will be going solo, sharing a personal point of celebration, the vision of Red Ink Revival, and most of all, how you can engage the value proposition we offer.   Today I share the following:   * How Red Ink Revival exists to create a leadership revival through the heart, soul, and brain of Christian leaders. * What Red, Ink, and Revival means to us. * How Red Ink Revival is targeting pastors, church staff, marketplace leaders, and church attenders. * The transition of my role from senior pastor to full time Red Ink Revival therapeutic coach and CEO. * The background of Red Ink Revival and why it is my passion. * Statistics of Pastors in depression, workaholism, addictions, and more. * The Red Ink Revival Story Model. * Attachment injury and development. * Core beliefs and unconscious identity markers. * Body and emotion management, or affect regulation. * The Red Ink Platform of pastor roundtables, monthly zooms, weekly process groups, and one-on-one coaching. * The development of Red Ink University. * Prophetic words related to Red Ink Revival’s future. * Opportunities for free 30-minute consultations for pastors and paid church staff.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

82. Red Ink Revival: Our Exciting Vision and Future

Welcome to Episode #81 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with Drew Boa. Drew is the Founder & Head Coach of Husband Material, a therapeutic ministry helping Christian men achieve freedom from porn and heal all kinds of sexual brokenness. Drew has a Master's in Christian Formation from Wheaton College, is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (through the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals), and is author of the book Redeemed Sexuality.    Today we talk about Husband Material: Becoming Sexually Healthy and Happy. Our conversation takes us into the following:   * Drew’s faith story and how he became a recovery coach. * The most common sexual struggles he witnesses in his clients. * The typical mapping of why people struggle with sexual drivers. * Why the “purity culture” gets it wrong. * How sexual health begins with addressing our attachment wounds. * The differences between behavior management and healing the root causes. * How our “fetishes” and preferences reveal our deeper longings for connection. * The commonalities in working with pre-teens and teens in unwanted sexual drivers. * What parents can do to parent pre-teens and teens through this cultural flooding. * How “spiritual bypass” creates more difficulties. * The better way of measuring freedom from pornography and other unwanted behaviors. * What pastors and church leaders can do to help men address their sexual issues.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

81. Drew Boa – Husband Material: Becoming Sexually Healthy and Happy

Welcome to Episode #80 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with Scott Cone, the founder of Sexcessful Men, a recovery coaching practice that helps Christian men who struggle with pornography, childhood sexual abuse, unwanted same-sex attraction, and other compulsive sexual behaviors.   Today we talk about unwanted sexual drivers. Our conversation takes us into the following:   * Scott’s faith story and how he became a recovery coach. * Attachment styles as a foundation for sexual, financial, and “vision” forces. * What trauma is and how it impacts us emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. * How the arousal template is a battery of energy that drives our sexual preferences. * The commonalities between our sexual forces and our ambitions, money management habits, and more. * The Scriptural basis for these sexual energy pockets that originated in broken-heartedness. * How moments of distress in our present ignite unmanageable arousal from our traumatic past. * The similarities between our past traumas and our present searches for meeting our sexual needs (fetishes, scenarios, etc.). * How every “trigger tells a story” is worthy of being explored, rather than just repressed. * The power of fantasy exploration and understanding what fantasy is attempting to serve. * How pastors & leaders can lead themselves, their families, and their congregations better by exploring their own stories of sexual brokenness.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.   Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

80. Scott Cone – Unwanted Sexual Drivers

Welcome to Episode #79 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast.    Today’s conversation is with Adam Young. Adam is a licensed Clinical Social Worker with Master’s Degrees in both Social Work and Divinity. He is a certified colleague of The Allender Center, co-founded by renowned psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and our previous Red Ink Revival guest therapist Cathy Loerzel. Dr. Allender and his trained clinicians–including Adam Young–are the foremost thinkers on Story Work. Adam is a certified EMDR clinician, which addresses trauma and brain function. He has also served as a pastor in a local church. Adam’s podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves, is a favorite. Adam’s practice is in Fort Collins, Colorado.   Today Adam and I talk about attachments, and how they organize all of our relationships including our leadership connections.   Our conversation includes the following:   * Adam’s faith story and how he became a therapist. * Why historical story work is so important for people–especially pastors and leaders–to explore. * What an attachment style is, the four kinds of attachments, and how our brains evolved with our own style. * How pastors and leaders are better leaders when they know the truth behind their own stories and attachment style. * What Scripture has to offer us to compel us to dig into attachments. * How to “earn” a secure attachment style. * How early childhood development of the brain and attachment has informed our instincts in relating with romantic partners, friends, and even God. * How spiritual disciplines and exercises are experienced differently based on individual attachment styles. * How repentance looks different for those with different attachment styles. * How pastoral preaching is styled after the pastor’s own attachment style. * How attachment predisposes us to emotional flooding and dysregulation. * How knowing the truth of our stories in the context of our family of origin is critical to repentance and healing.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com.    Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

79. Adam Young – Attachments: How Science Informs Our Relationships and Leadership

Welcome to Episode #78 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with Cathy Loerzel.   Cathy is an amazing therapist and a premier trainer of leaders in utilizing therapies that foster redemption and healing by helping people explore their historical stories. Her professional career includes both a political and a business background. She has served in the Federal Government on Capitol Hill, worked with Price Waterhouse Cooper and IBM in process and change management, and served at The Seattle School in a variety of positions including organizational development, event planning, and donor relations. Cathy is the co-founder of The Allender Center, and is growing its mission. The Allender Center is a training and transformation hub for pastors, therapists, lay counselors, and community leaders.   Today we talk about Story Work from her upcoming book release with renowned psychologist Dr. Dan Allender called Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling. In my opinion, Cathy and Dr. Allender–along with The Allender Center colleagues–are the foremost thinkers regarding how your storied history ends up revealing the mysteries of undesirable emotional experiencing and behavior in the present.   Our conversation takes us into the following:   * Cathy’s faith story and how she became a therapist. * Why historical story work is so important for people to explore. * Why pastors and leaders must give themselves to understanding the nuances in their stories. * How leadership is based in relationships, and healthy relationships can only be experienced through healing the heart. * What Scripture has to offer to compel us to dig into the narratives in our story. * What trauma has done to our ability to relate healthfully. * How even the best family of origin experiences still leave us with wounds and the need for repair. * How healing actually happens. * The part of our story that requires acknowledgement of intentionality on the part of those who hurt us. * The power of self-compassion and community. * Upcoming story work opportunities with Cathy and Dr. Allender.   If you have questions you would like addressed in a future episode, topics you would enjoy hearing, or just want to give us feedback, we would love to hear from you. Email us at redinkrevival@gmail.com .    Visit our website: redinkrevival.com.   Please rate, review, share, and subscribe!   Edited and produced by Evan (Emac) McAlister.

78. Cathy Loerzel – How Story Work Can Heal the Heart

Red Ink Revival is an ecosystem of resources to help leaders lead whole-heartedly. Through neuroscience, psychology and theology we move past the leader’s hard skills to explore the engines that are driving them. Odds are, if you are at this site, you’re already a high-achiever and visionary trying to figure out this internal thing that energizes your passions; or maybe even disrupts and sabotages you. Each month Patrick Norris interviews therapists, neuroscientists and top leaders in the marketplace to find insights and tools for why we do what we do. We curate resources inspiring emotional intelligence, spiritual vitality and neuro-integration for every role a leader must tend to, personally and professionally. From Pastors to leaders in the marketplace, Red Ink Revival will bring a revolution to your leadership circuitry.

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